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Agree to disagree. If she is going to act like a prostitute, I might as well pimp her like one. If she is loyal and acts like a lady, that is how she'll be treated.
Not getting prenups? Do you not wear a seat belt when you drive? Do you skydive without a parachute?
i kinda see now where you're going with this. and i understand. i still won't do the pre-nup thing though. if i was about to get married, and ask for a pre-nup, to me it's like telling the woman "hey, i love you and everything, but just in case this marriage doesn't work out, i want you to sign this contract with a list of things...cuz i don't REALLY trust you 100 %, just at a very high 95%"
i can see how pre-nups work for some people. but for me, i don't think it would work. i dunno, i've never been married. plus i wipe the slate clean with each new potential date. and now, because of the bullsh!t that happened with me and my ex, i am able to see the obvious signs of what not to look for. she was a habitual cheater, so i will NOT date someone who's cheated on past relationship more than once, on 2 different boyfriends. i was the third she cheated on. she also showed other signs.
the person i end up marrying will not exhibit these red flags or warning signs of cheating. they are actually easy to spot, but sometimes you ignore them because you don't want to believe. it's about making the tough, RIGHT decisions even though those decisions are extremely hard to make. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 6/1/2012 11:19:31 AM | | I think its a sh1tty thing to do man, so your skanky girlfriend cheated on you with a married dude, and you told his wife so what will that do ? except drive her closer to him, or the wife might forgive him and you end up with nothing and no one, if anything you should picked up one of her friends and banged her that would be revenge. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 6/1/2012 11:56:12 AM | joelsprofile, I read your first long post, but without reading everything that follows after, it sounds like a typical bangkok bargirl story. I loved a hooker and she played with my heart kind of song.
Good luck with your next pick. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 6/1/2012 12:25:05 PM |
I think its a sh1tty thing to do man, so your skanky girlfriend cheated on you with a married dude, and you told his wife so what will that do ? except drive her closer to him, or the wife might forgive him and you end up with nothing and no one, if anything you should picked up one of her friends and banged her that would be revenge.
at lynyrd_hatchet
you're implying that me ending up with "nothing" and "no one" means that i want my ex-GF back. it's actually a win/win for me if you think about it. sure, i could have driven my ex-GF closer to the married guy, but that relationship WILL FAIL due to the fact it was based on a foundation of lies, and deceit. or the married douche gets "forgiven" by his wife and works on his marriage somehow, leaving my ex-GF alone. and SHE ends up with no one.
ok, everybody is entitled to their own opinion. that's the lovely part of this open discussion thingy here in the forums. of course, i'm going to defend my actions and do them anyway regardless of what others think.
but to all the naysayers on this thread, let me ask you this. regardless of what my motives are, whether they were out of spite or to actually help you:
if i came to you and said "look, your husband/wife cheated on you with my girlfriend/boyfriend on this date and time..." you would think me as some a$$hole that did you wrong? how so? please explain that to me. i just want to know what you're thought process would be on that, if YOU were the one whose spouse was cheating on you behind your back and meeting up with people. would you REALLY want to live in ignorant bliss??
oh, and please answer honestly these MOST RECENT posted questions on these here most recent post that you're reading, and don't run off on a tangent. makes for good arguments. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2012 12:28:59 PM | i had a ex girlfriend cheat on me and I banged two of her friends after and I told her she was pissed, I knew the guy she fooled around and I knew where his girlfriend worked I could of told her but chose not to, but I banged her two friends and the look on her face when I told her was priceless that was revenge and from what I hear she isnt friends with one of them.
Now If I could of banged his girlfriend I would of and that would of been revenge.
I dont think youre A hole but telling her but I dont see the purpose, it just look like youre still in love with the B1tch and she is still on your mind | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 6/1/2012 12:36:39 PM |
I dont think youre A hole but telling her but I dont see the purpose, it just look like youre still in love with the B1tch and she is still on your mind
you are right Lynrd_hatchet, she is still on my mind. but i do disagree with the purpose thing. i haven't spoken to my ex since the sh!t hit the fan, but she could very well be alone without the married douchebag, or they could actually be dating right now. either way, it's a win/win for me. they deserve each other. i really do think if they end up together, the relationship will fail. relationships based on lies/deceit very seldom succeed.
i probably do still love my ex-GF. but i am a realist. i will not take her back if she asked. even though the decision would be tempting to make. to forgive and forget. but that's the whole point. why bother f!cking someone over and expect them to forgive and forget? | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 6/1/2012 12:38:14 PM |
i kinda see now where you're going with this. and i understand. i still won't do the pre-nup thing though. if i was about to get married, and ask for a pre-nup, to me it's like telling the woman "hey, i love you and everything, but just in case this marriage doesn't work out, i want you to sign this contract with a list of things...cuz i don't REALLY trust you 100 %, just at a very high 95%"
i can see how pre-nups work for some people. but for me, i don't think it would work. i dunno, i've never been married. plus i wipe the slate clean with each new potential date. and now, because of the bullsh!t that happened with me and my ex, i am able to see the obvious signs of what not to look for. she was a habitual cheater, so i will NOT date someone who's cheated on past relationship more than once, on 2 different boyfriends. i was the third she cheated on. she also showed other signs.
the person i end up marrying will not exhibit these red flags or warning signs of cheating. they are actually easy to spot, but sometimes you ignore them because you don't want to believe. it's about making the tough, RIGHT decisions even though those decisions are extremely hard to make.
I'd rather deal with heartache than deal with heartache and failure. I'll be damned if I loose half of everything I have worked for in a divorce. I understand where you are coming from, but you really cannot trust anyone nowadays. I don't need to touch the stove to know it could burn me, I already know it is hot. In other words, a wise man learns from his mistakes. A wiser man learns from the mistakes of others. Chances are, I'll never have to worry about pre-nups because I'll never find someone to marry. In the event that I do, I have a good plan in place. If she is offended by the thought of pre-nups, then she wasn't the one for me to marry in the first place. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/8/2012 8:44:38 AM | This thread is very messed up.
Nitemonger,
I felt sympathy for you as I read this thread, until I saw in another thread that you said you cheated on another ex.
And this woman who knew you for years obviously knew what you were doing. So she knows you are a cheater.
If you hadn't been a cheater yourself, I would fully support you in any attempt to seek revenge. Cheaters are the scum of the earth.
But now, I think you just got what was coming to you. Accept it like a man and remember how much this hurts. You should thank her for cheating on you so that you could feel the pain, and so that you would learn how much it hurts so that you would never do it again to someone else.
Hopefully this heleped you learn a lesson. I'm sorry it had to be so painful, but in a way, it's good that it was. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/9/2012 3:52:21 AM | | Short of capturing her, handcuffing her to a tree in your backyard, tossing her your dinner scraps every once in a while and screaming,"It puts the lotion on or it gets the hose" every hour, what you did will do. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/9/2012 8:37:06 PM |
But now, I think you just got what was coming to you. Accept it like a man and remember how much this hurts. You should thank her for cheating on you so that you could feel the pain, and so that you would learn how much it hurts so that you would never do it again to someone else.
MisterMediocre i fully accept your critique and agree. the woman i cheated on, DID NOT deserve that sh!t. so now i know the really deep pain that it could cause to someone else. funny thing is.... growing up, i always said to myself that cheating would not be a thing i would ever do. how wrong was i....
the problem with my ex-GF is, she's a habitual cheater. so she'll go on continuing her cheating ways to the next sap that dates her. which is very unfortunate. i already paid my price with "karma" and so will she, eventually. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/10/2012 9:48:05 AM | | How do I retaliate when cheated on. Well my ex fiance' cheated on me with a married woman. I was pissed but whatever, we split. Then soon after I got with an older much more attractive man and my ex was extremely pissed. He then came to ask me if him and I could get back together and I laughed hysterically in his face. My retaliation was to do better than my ex, and I succeeded. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/10/2012 1:12:29 PM | I wouldn't retaliate - I'm not a petty baby.
I was cheated on, knowingly, once in the past, and I let her explain her reasons, understood them, and let it go completely (but weighed that against furthering the relationship). Simple, and problem - free. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/10/2012 2:14:00 PM | | You walk away. I was cheated by my ex on a New Years Eve, in my home with about 50 people milling about. I walked in and BAM! My first thought was to...aww forget my first thought I liked my second thought better. I divorced her ass and walked away. So you walk away and put it behind you. Party over my friend. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 10:32:06 PM | ""i fully accept your critique and agree. the woman i cheated on, DID NOT deserve that sh!t. so now i know the really deep pain that it could cause to someone else. funny thing is.... growing up, i always said to myself that cheating would not be a thing i would ever do. how wrong was i.... ""
I never read the other thread where you admitted to cheating, but just out of curiosity, nitemonger, who did you cheat with? This woman who has now cheated on you?
Well... if so, nice little lesson to be learned here... | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/13/2012 10:48:14 PM | Now If I could of banged his girlfriend I would of and that would of been revenge
I got even with a girl who had dumped me...
She and I had split up and she was dating this other guy...
So, I'd stayed in contact with her.... (being the "friend" - which I don't do anymore...)
So anyway, she and I talked pretty regular on the phone...
So one night, I phoned her up when I knew she would be with her b/f... We chatted and I kept it deliberately light and fluffy... got her totally relaxed... I could hear him in the background... so I knew he could hear her...
At the end of the call, without any lead up, I said "Good night, Love you..."
She replied by reflex, "Love you too..."
I'd have loved to have been a fly on the wall at the other end.... LOL | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:12:02 AM |
I got even with a girl who had dumped me...
She and I had split up and she was dating this other guy...
So, I'd stayed in contact with her.... (being the "friend" - which I don't do anymore...)
So anyway, she and I talked pretty regular on the phone...
So one night, I phoned her up when I knew she would be with her b/f... We chatted and I kept it deliberately light and fluffy... got her totally relaxed... I could hear him in the background... so I knew he could hear her...
At the end of the call, without any lead up, I said "Good night, Love you..."
She replied by reflex, "Love you too..."
I'd have loved to have been a fly on the wall at the other end.... LOL
M_church, this is your world. We just live in it. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 9:08:14 AM | Nitemonger,
I think somehow you learned your lesson and that you'll be a better person.
Another lesson to learn here is to avoid cheaters, EVEN IF they are your friends for years, because they will likely do it to you too. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/16/2012 7:22:26 PM | | This is a very tough question and I really don't know if telling the wife is the right thing or not. I know women in that position that will want to know and others that don't. I personally have no idea how I would respond in such a situation but I would likely just cut that person out of my life and leave it at that. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/16/2012 8:39:47 PM | | You didnt have to do that. You sound vendictive and don't care abt who you hurt when someone has hurt you. So you feel better about possibly getting back at ur ex when you also hurt a innocent person in the process. Not condoning your ex's actions because she was wrong for what she did but so are you for what you done and if you don't think that karma won't come back and kick u in the ass then your fooling yourself. I don't have to get back at someone who had done me wrong. People get what they deserve in the end. I would have walked away, dusted myself off and moved on. After someone has cheated on me they aren't worth my time or energy even thinking about them any more. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/17/2012 2:34:11 PM |
I got even with a girl who had dumped me...
She and I had split up and she was dating this other guy...
So, I'd stayed in contact with her.... (being the "friend" - which I don't do anymore...)
So anyway, she and I talked pretty regular on the phone...
So one night, I phoned her up when I knew she would be with her b/f... We chatted and I kept it deliberately light and fluffy... got her totally relaxed... I could hear him in the background... so I knew he could hear her...
At the end of the call, without any lead up, I said "Good night, Love you..."
She replied by reflex, "Love you too..."
I'd have loved to have been a fly on the wall at the other end.... LOL
Her BF: "Who was that?"
Her: "My mom."
Him: "okay."
*They have sex throughout the rest of the night.* | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 5:48:20 AM | Nothing wrong with telling the wife. I always suspect that they probably know on some level and choose to ignore the signals... but that's just my opinion.
I've never lived this scenario, but if I knew my SO was interested in someone else, sleeping around or otherwise dishonest I would just distance myself.
Any kind of retaliation would not make me feel better, but putting my own life back on track would. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/18/2012 9:14:12 PM |
You were just having sex,she was not your girl ,she was also having sex with someone else.No need to tell the wife
dwight. we were not "just having sex." we were in a supposedly committed relationship. made it official. where she even put on her facebook that she was my girlfriend. maybe you should read before you post. ;)
side note. my ex-GF recently put her profile on POF and starts off with "I am a loyal, honest, person. Looking for the same...." WTF!!! i am over her, but this sh!t infuriates me. it is a bold faced lie. her profile makes it sound like she's ALWAYS been screwed over by men. huh.... oh well. | |
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| How would you retaliate when cheated on?
Posted: 7/18/2012 10:46:50 PM |
"I am a loyal, honest, person. Looking for the same...."
This shouldn't be upsetting you. She wasn't loyal and honest to you. Perhaps she wants to start off her next one the right way.
You see, habitual cheaters don't often go into new relationships with the intent to cheat. They often go in with the best intentions. It's just that they start cheating as soon as they get bored. So she isn't necessarily lying. It's just that she thinks she can be a better person this time around.
Let her try. She'll probably fail, which is a shame for the next man she meets. But let her try. Hopefully she straightens her life out. But who cares really. You are lucky to be rid of her. Go on to someone faithful. Remember, you are on here to find your "happily ever after". Don't waste your time dwelling on the one that definitely isn't that....or else you might miss the one that is! | |
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