| | Are men really willing to wait for sex?Page 14 of 17 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17) | Venom2u has it correctly,
Yes relationships are not just based on Sex.. That is a given, We all know that any engagement just based on Sex is doomed from the start, because it gets Stale. On the other side of it, Sex is a very big part of a relationship " Chemistry ".
You can have the greatest platonic relationship and then you are opposite in the sex dept, that relationship is doom to fail. Yes there are always exceptions but it isn't the Norm. | |
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| Are men really willing to wait for sex?
Posted: 7/15/2012 1:23:37 PM | I agree, it is hilarious in some places.
Even males don't agree with everything he said. If a woman did, I'd think she's playing games. ;-)
Overall, I think that if a woman is confused or clueless about how to deal with men, she could get a good return on her investment, plus a few laughs. :-)
I think the book is primarily geared towards younger, Christian-oriented women who are trying to attract a husband. If a woman is older, isn't religious, or isn't seeking marriage, much of Steve Harvey's advice isn't going to apply.
I think following the advice of any book that advocates game-playing, rules, or strategies to manipulate men and women to make a commitment, or to get sex, will ultimately backfire. | |
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| Are men really willing to wait for sex?
Posted: 7/15/2012 2:40:41 PM |
OP...I think if you like the guy but made him wait so long, then you probably don't like him at all...
There are some of us who don't want to just LIKE someone before sex... but LOVE the person. That takes time. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 4:04:05 PM | Op - yes, some guys are willing to wait for sex. Some believe you must be married first. Some would prefer it on the 1st date (to help determine if there's to be a 2nd). Some will wait YEARS if the women's not very sexual.
In general, if there's chemistry, and the guy has normal sex drive, it'll be tough to get the guy to 'wait' and still keep him around / interested..... | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 6:56:37 AM | | A friend never demands a friend to do something she is uncomfortable with doing. If a man insists upon having sex with you, and you are not ready, you need to move on. He'll never be a good friend to you. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 7:16:45 AM | I would say after two - three dates, if she doesn't want to have sex, there isn't a connection
sex is the real bond in a relationship, if it's not there in the beginning it's not gonna be there, don't waste ur time, I don't! | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 7:38:22 AM |
A friend never demands a friend to do something she is uncomfortable with doing. If a man insists upon having sex with you
'demands'...'insists'...?
That attitude is part of the issue. The guys here aren't insisting a woman 'have to' do anything. They aren't 'demanding' she jump in bed with them on the second date. She'll 'want' to have a sexual relationship. She enjoys sex. She is thoughtful of 'his' needs. She is mature and has social skills. Sex isn't dirty and it isn't some tool to keep a guy dangling on a hook. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 8:01:29 AM | | Sciencetreker got it right in both his posts on this page. My experiences have borne this out, and I have sought sensual women of the calibre he describes. | |
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| Are men really willing to wait for sex?
Posted: 7/16/2012 10:47:04 AM | | I think everyone male or female should always wait till you both know eachother and make the decision together if he cant wait he is not worth it at all. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 12:20:16 PM | Guys will wait to have sex with you... but not wait for you to have sex with someone else first.
If a guy is comfortable with your relationship and you both know there is some exclusivity going on, it doesn't really matter how much time lapses in-between doing i; but if you are still withholding information; not completely open about your past and your feelings, the guy is going to smell a rat whether there really is one or not.
That unknown/distrust factor is what forces the sex issue to an uncomfortable level. If you can trust the guy enough to be completely open and honest, and he's willing to do the same - sex can (and will) wait. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 2:22:02 PM | The original poster asked,
So for the guys, would you really be willing to wait a few months before having sex with a woman you are dating?
To which I responded something like, "If a guy insists upon having sex with you when you wish not to have sex, he is not your friend."
So, yes, if I wanted to develop a relationship with you, I would wait, and if I did not want to develop a relationship with you, I certainly wouldn't try to have sex with you before hitting the road. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 5:26:23 AM | | So for the more sexually astute. What do you do while you wait? Masturbate? Play "bored" games? No one "insists". It just happens. Soon. If not, something is not right. Move on. What is the difference between courting and playing games? With so much sexual exploration for normal couples to do ; seriously, if your sex drive is anywhere near normal, what the hell are you waiting for? If your libido is a little stunted , there seems to be more than a few folks out there willing to wait for months. So, every pot has a lid. The sooner we find our correct "lid" the better. Seems not enough characters were used in my post. Hmmmmmmmmmm. There, that last sentence got it. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 8:26:18 AM | If both people have had sex regularly prior to that relationship then 'waiting' is going to be a pointless exercise (or lack thereof, to be precise).
To me, you're essentially just saying:
'You like sex and I've done it alot, but now , unlike with all my ex's, you're not going to get it for some prolonged period of time no matter what...'
I wouldn't stick around for that. Its not like you're a virgin, everyone else got it, so why do I have to wait(?)..
Its not like you have to jump into bed after 1-2-3 dates, but deciding that (for example) you're not going to have sex with your partner for 5 months isn't going to end well.
To be a little blunt/crude/mannish etc etc, you've been unwrapped and been played with for years, you can't really pass yourself off as a mint-condition collectors item, where the idea may have had merit.
I know that sounds terrible and crude (ha ha), but thats how this idea looks from this angle. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 12:01:26 PM |
To be a little blunt/crude/mannish etc etc, you've been unwrapped and been played with for years, you can't really pass yourself off as a mint-condition collectors item, where the idea may have had merit.
I might call that the ‘sex as a commodity’ or maybe ‘vagina as a commodity’ school of thought, where the item goes for a discount since it’s already been used by a previous consumer.
Another view would hold that the vagina and the sexuality it enjoys belonged and still belong to the original owner, the woman in this case. And she would decide when and how to use it, and with whom. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 12:38:07 PM |
Another view would hold that the vagina and the sexuality it enjoys belonged and still belong to the original owner, the woman in this case. And she would decide when and how to use it, and with whom.
So...you're still viewing it as a commodity, then.
The "sex is fun, let's have fun as long as it's safe" viewpoint is really the only one that doesn't prop it up as a commodity that must be obtained. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 4:19:29 PM | To be a little blunt/crude/mannish etc etc, you've been unwrapped and been played with for years, you can't really pass yourself off as a mint-condition collectors item, where the idea may have had merit.
I know that sounds terrible and crude (ha ha), but thats how this idea looks from this angle.
The truth hurts. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 4:20:04 PM |
a long time ago I was smitten for a fair young lady .. and even though I knew she was not a virgin and neither was I ..she declared she wanted to wait ... being so smitten I persevered and endured many a cold shower .. I spent what was to me a fortune dating this young girl and many evenings were concluded with her making out with me to the point of physical pain on my part ..and I presumed she also was experiencing the same pain and want I was ... she even wore my engagement ring for a time ...till she gave it back to with the explanation she could not marry me because she was pregnant with the child of my best friend
That's like a kick in the BALLS.
Hope you learned a "real world" lesson.
And to never trust your friends around your women or money, same go for the women (you know you can't completely trust your friends either). | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 10:36:58 PM |
Not waiting and insisting are two entirely different things. I'd never even ask a woman to have sex..
Interesting you say that because I'm the same. I've never asked. A woman will certainly know I want to ravage her but I don't put her in some awkward position to say 'yes or no'. If i try to cup her breast after we've being out a couple of times, she might teasingly wiggle away but she'll have that little giggle in her voice or sparkle in her eye. It's a woman's way of expressing that she's not 'easy' but she's glad you want her. She's usually then going to have sex with you the next time but more on her initiative. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 12:38:27 AM | | Men do it all the time if they can get sex until after getting married. Why do you just ****ing on the Honnie Moon is so Emphasized everywhere you see it. It's because every guy out there is like "YES. IT'S ABOUT ****ING TIME!!!" | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 2:58:56 AM | Thanks for the honesty lol thats what I thought!
Although I met someone and we decided to hold off but he went strange when I just put my hand on his leg.
I discussed it with him- not affectionate at all.
I wasnt going to jump him immediately and I definitely need an affectionate man-no cold fish!
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Posted: 7/18/2012 3:04:56 AM | Thats so outdated (the thinking).
Decent people respect the right to say yes or no.
Its by negotiation...
You know your own value- and you dont look to someone else to say you have value or not.
Repulsive... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 8:01:24 AM | | a real man will capture the ladys heart and mind and really get in them both. then sex comes later as a gift shared bye two who care about each other. men do not understand, a woman is just as horny as the man. but a true woman wants to make sure its not just a thing and it trully meens some thing to both parties. take time to get in her mind and heart and she well not be in her pants hardly ever. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 11:57:19 AM | **** no
and no man who is worth your time would be. the only men who wait out for sex are the guys who are not getting it regularly, aka beta males
a long term relationship with a weaker man will lead to divorce and you feeling no butterflies on your wedding day. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 10:07:06 PM | | sigh good old stereotypical comments. just as many sex crazed women as men. tired of men this...women that. when it comes down to it people are people. i don't care what internet article a person may have read. | |
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