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| | Big ego or Self-esteem?Page 4 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | I heard a story about a lathe operator who got fired for doing what he was told with no arguments.
He was having static with a supervisor. Personality conflicts as they are usually called. Well one day he was sitting next to his lathe, making a cut on a very expensive item. The kind of thing where he sets it up then sits next to it reading the paper while monitoring the cut since it's going to take 60-90 minutes to complete.
The supervisor walks by, says "it that the deepest cut you can make with this machine?"
My friend says"nope"
Supervisor said "well then back it up and make a deeper cut and stop wasting company time with small cuts"
My friend did exactly that, but failed to mention to the supervisor that it was ths finishing cut and it was supposed to be a light cut for the proper finish. After the deeper cut was done, he went to the supervisor and said "ok, I did what you told me to do, now what do I do with this ruined merchandise?"
Management fired him for not informing the supervisor of what he was doing and not "thinking for himself".
2 weeks later, they fired the supervisor and called him back in to work.
Mistakes happen, people say stuff they shouldnt have in the heat of the moment. Myself, I would have shown up and done my job on Monday. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2012 11:24:57 PM | Yes, I agree to your point, it was wrong and poor management skills to humiliate you in front of others. Still, if it was the first time, and I were in your shoes, I would have gone back and talked it out *in private* with him said "I'll take responsibility for my own attitude, if you'll own up to yours - but humiliating me in public like that was wrong of you - if things *ever* escalate like that you need to immediately pull things private and if it escalates from there so be it". You might've helped him become a better boss.
In fact, as Moonbeamlover said - if you didn't want to be humiliated in public, *you* should have, as soon as the argument started escalating (you humiliating your boss in public, in a way, assaulting his authority in front of others) , said "lets argue this in private". Your ego is *directly* responsible for your being humiliated in front of others. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2012 6:13:49 AM | | since i consult in human resources and also have a self-described "tyrant" for a managing director, i can tell you there are at least 6 different ways of handling that situation without being completely self-defeating about it, but i guess your interest in not being humiliated is what concerned you the most. good luck with that in your future endeavors. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2012 10:26:47 AM |
Ok, my boss and I got into a stupid argument …. Usually, I would just shut up … I felt a little cranky so I acted like an ass.... I left the job really angry because he humiliated me in front of everbody….
Maybe, he could have managed this problem a little better. But, you don’t seem to realize that your insubordination was humiliating him in front of everybody. I would have no respect for him, myself, if he allowed that to take place without consequence.
He was a mensch, following you and telling you privately he values your contributions to the job. To quit in your snitty little state of mind, or not, is your call. You should, at least, damn-well recognize the value and the generosity of his gesture. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2012 5:47:24 PM | Get your job back if you want it and your boss will know that you will not take any crap as you have shown. It could be looked at as a win.
I've been self employed for years but when I did work for others they knew that if they mistreated me I would always stand up to them, so they went and picked on someone else. | |
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Posted: 5/28/2012 10:13:52 PM | he is the answer;
if you really need that job and cannot find a job like that in a reasonable time frame,then you might have tried keeping cool and not reacting that sharp ,eventually coming to terms with that jackass..but under normal conditions you did the right thing ,and if you had returned he wouldve always had the upper hand against you because he broke you..so congats.now start looking for a job ..like me,because i walked out of my job the other day for a similar reason..good luck buddy | |
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| Big ego or Self-esteem?
Posted: 5/28/2012 11:15:35 PM | ..like me,because i walked out of my job the other day for a similar reason..good luck buddy
Did you get into a stupid argument, too, and act like an ass?
Read Eric’s OP again! He admits to that in the very first sentence he wrote. He did not claim to be abused. | |
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