| | Anyone else only come here for the forums?Page 5 of 12 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12) | | I started off on here looking for someone, having had a few dates I became a bit disillusioned and found the forums by accident, have been here ever since and barely go to the dating section anymore :) | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 5/14/2012 9:44:10 AM | | I have been on and off of here for awhile. I started out looking to date but found that it had a lot to be desired. Then I found the forums. If I had not found them, I would have been long gone. I went into hiding for awhile, and am even considering dating if someone great comes along. If not, I like the forums. | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 8:36:33 AM | | One day I clicked on forums out of curiosity and now I spend most of my time here. Not looking to date at this time, as I realize I'm still in recovery from my last relationship that ended a little over a year ago. | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 11:37:00 AM | | If someone from here showed up who seemed like an apropos candidate,and I was interested, I would date them. This doesn't usually happen though. Not bc I'm too picky as the underachievers are always sayin, but bc I know they can achieve at least as much as me if not more-nothing was ever handed to me in life, I worked for it all, and I have overcome many an obstacle in life and prevailed. The forums are a great way to take a break from whatever else is 'up on the screen' for me in regular life. I don't fret over dates or not from here. IRL has always been my first choice, and for good reason :) | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 11:39:34 AM | I prefer to meet people in the real world. That way what you see is what you get.
Absolutely.
No one ever lies about their age or job or marital status in the real world. (rolls eyes) | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 12:15:49 PM |
No one ever lies about their age or job or marital status in the real world. (rolls eyes)
Come on dude.
Hard to say your 30 when in fact your 50. Unless you look particularly youthfull, people will notice.
Marital status is another story however  | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 12:17:09 PM | domo31: the men are picky? Trust me it isn't just men.
Opie: I am here for both. The dating side to reinforce the necessity to use other methods with less pitfalls and the forums well, so I can chuckle at the "expert" opinions. | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 12:17:56 PM | I'm curious to know how many people spend the majority of their time looking for dates on this site as opposed to checking the forums.
I'm here strictly for forum participation, and have my profile hidden from searches. I've already met my match on another dating site. I'm open to having a few "chat buddies" from the forums, however. | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 12:34:49 PM | Forums only since I met somebody
Never fails to amaze me how whatever the stage I'm at be it euphoria in new love or slog of working through the odd issue there's always a pertinent thread - dead useful lol
I enjoy putting my opinion out there & I'm nosy - loving the forums | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 1:05:19 PM | I usually come for the dating side but stay with forums even after hiding my profile, whether dating someone actively or just clearing my head from meeting dating overload.
Sometimes the attitude in the forums can get to me; when you have some people who seem to want to deliberately pick fights and twist words so that they can throw them back in people's faces or those who seem to want to attack people when they're down...
but there have been some amazing inspirational people, stories, some incredibly funny (and twisted) humor and a lot of people who do truly want to help; so I get sometimes inspired in here as much as I get depressed by some others.
So right now I am only here for the forums. The people watching is amazing... (sometimes in a train wreck kind of way, mind you; but still... amazing) :) | |
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| Anyone else only come here for the forums?
Posted: 6/19/2012 1:25:54 PM | I have to be seriously wanting for something to do to end up in the forums. I was on the site for 2.5 years before I ever made a single forum post, despite knowing they existed since I first joined the dating side. Having been a hardened veteran of numerous other website forums (most unrelated to dating) since the mid-90s, I knew what a vast time suck they were (there's nothing like being up at 3AM trying to compose the perfect retort when you have work in 4 hours) and figured it was best I just stay clear of POF's.
But after 2.5 years of dating side futility, I finally ventured into the forums to see if anyone could help me figure out what I was doing wrong.
Nearly 3 years later I realize, nobody knows what anybody's doing wrong.
Actually, the ultimate foolishness is asking dating-side advice from users who have completely abandoned the dating-side. Which, as evidenced by this thread, is probably over 90% of forum regulars.
Yes, exceptions to those who abandoned the dating side because they found somebody there. But if I were in their shoes, you'd never see me again on the forums-side. Because I'd no longer be "wanting for something to do" and would also no longer feel the need to vent my POF frustration in these hallowed halls, since I wouldn't have any. Indeed, during periods when my business life has gotten completely out of control, I've gone months without logging into the forums. But I have logged onto the dating side almost every day since I first joined (though when things are "completely out of control" I log-in just to check views and messages and don't have time to attempt to make first contact with anyone).
I'm actually not sure I consider the forums to be entertainment. The Help area is definitely informative. The rest is, well, war. More in the opening scene of "Saving Private Ryan"-sense rather than the actual D-Day invasion of Normandy-sense. Maybe a little sport to it, too. If I make a post, I hunker down immediately and wait for the fall-out. I'm actually pretty disappointed in myself if at least 5 people don't try to rip me to shreds afterwards. I suppose it's entertainment if you consider masochism to be entertainment.
But because I have no kids, no gf/wife, not close to family, friends are growing apart because of their own growing families, I suppose I come to these forums on occasion just because any non-work-related human interaction is good human interaction, even if largely negative and over the internet.
So, thank-you, sir; may I have another? | |
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