| | Do men over 50 really want the same?Page 2 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | RE: Msg 26
Hey Op..so u have had great dates from the website? Why didnt any of those pan out? You've only been on here less than a week. Give us a photo op on your profile with you dressed to the nines. A sundress and flipflops doesnt cut it. Show us what u got, when u go out at night on the town. My suspicion is that you are too casual most if not all the time. This from a man in shorts, a t-shirt, sandals and a visor???? Really??? Really???
OP, you're a lovely looking woman who seems to have and want an active life. Give it some time. It took me almost 3 1/2 yrs to meet my Prince Charming here. BTW, he's 7 yrs younger than I am. I don't know if Florida is the exception to the rule or what, but the vast majority of men that I met on this site were looking for women close to their age and were interested in a long term, committed relationship. I did get a lot of emails from younger men when I was single and I wasn't interested in that. I want a man with whom I can communicate and share mutual past experiences.
Good luck! | |
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| Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 4/30/2012 1:08:54 PM | | Women my age or older scare me. A good number of them look like a man or are all wrinkled up. Yes younger is better for me. | |
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| Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 4/30/2012 1:26:14 PM | | Not all men over 50 are the same. This site is free so it's more or less like a giant clearance sale. Have to look around a lot to find the bargains. By the way, I don't know what profile gourmetchef was looking at. It certainly wasn't yours. Your look great don't change a thing. Maybe some more pictures, but that's for another forum. Too bad you don't live closer to me, if that is any consolation. | |
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| Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 4/30/2012 1:56:30 PM |
I'm new to dating sites and am starting to question whether men over 50 really want a women over 50 or do they have unrealistic expectations of finding a 30 - 40 year old?
I'm not sure that this is unrealistic at all. Most of my friends who are my age typically date women in their early to late 30's. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 2:40:57 PM | The dates that I have had so far are great, no complaints from the men I have met, it's just getting past the website that I think is frustrating.
I'm not following you here OP. What I'm reading is that the men you have dated in this relatively short period of time have been great. No complaints either from the men. I have no idea what you mean by getting past the website if you are meeting men IRL for these dates.
What is it that bothering you dear? You look fantastic. You should count your blessings on that. You are attracting men that you like. What's the problem?
To answer your question about men over 50 wanting the same. Since all men haven't given me their proxy, I can only speak for myself. But I would say I have shifted more towards women closer to my own age since reaching 50. I so dislike discrimination based on anything, but if I had to rate the likelihood of me with any age group I'd say:
20's I'd be more likely to win the 650 million dollar powerball lottery. It's not happening. That would almost be as bad as dating my sister.
30's Less than a one percent chance
40' The closer to 49 the greater the odds
50's Best chance
60's The closest to 60 the greater the odds
70's Less than a one percent chance | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 2:56:45 PM | The lack of connection is very likely totally normal. It is not easy to find a person you really "connect" with. It's a lot harder than one would initially think (at least for those who are looking for a lasting relationship, maybe - hopefully - the last one.)
Obviously, there is a noticeable number of guys who want to date a much younger woman. I question their wisdom unless they are not expecting it to last. For those who frowned at that statement, yes, sometimes it works.
Personally, I will not even entertain the thought of having a romantic relationship with a woman that is more than 6 years younger than me. I highly prefer a woman that is at most 5 years younger. I say all this only to show you that there are guys out there that, honestly and genuinely, prefer a woman that is around their age.
Moreover, I won't date a woman in the age range I am looking into if I realize she would date a guy younger than 6 years than she is. I think it is just as unwise for a woman to attempt a lasting relationship with someone much younger as it is for a guy. One thing I want in my partner is wisdom and the corresponding good judgement that goes along with it.
Be patient. Finding the right person is an exercise in patience. Among the things we learn as we age is to be patient. :-) | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 3:08:36 PM | | msg 26, there is a time when some things are just better left unsaid. Further insult to the op is not necessary or nice. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 5:18:54 PM | | I put my parameters for 4 years younger, to 9 years older. I don't eliminate anyone who contacts me simply on their age. But even then, the field seems small here. Maybe it is just a small state and surrounding area. I don't know. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 5:44:37 PM |
It seems that on her 50th birthday, a woman's recessive genetics kick in the "poor me" response. She becomes whiney and starts blaming those around her for her dissatisfaction with the behaviors of others. There is no known cure. It is a terminal condition. Men over 50 try to avoid this phenomenon, because, while not strictly contagious, the side effects can endanger the physical well-being of anyone in close proximity to the afflicted
marry me
Crap,,,did I say THAT out loud!!!!!!
Everyone is different OP. What I want, well, I want a lot of things,but, in the same breath, I'm pretty sure I ain't getting any of it. But I can still want it. I personally don't "connect" with a lot of people,regardless of age. It's the tude that drives me away,along with the "expectations", the "beliefs", the "actions", the "closed mindness" of those around my age. Age is a funny thing. We gain certain prejuidices,beliefs, and requirements with age, and when people show me this, I usually gotta go.I also don't like being told "how to act" or what I should be/or shouldn't be doing because of my age. "Some" women my age, have pretty good habit of doing so, though, the same will tell you that's because I'm not very mature. I actually agree. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 5:47:23 PM | My girlfriend is just a couple years younger than I am. What's important is that she is first of all my 'girlfriend' and not a mom, grandmother, mature woman, responsible woman or 'whatever'. She can be all those things in other aspects of her life but vis-a-vis me she is my girlfriend.... a sexy hot babe.
It's not about age. I don't know guys who want to date younger women. I know guys who want to date a woman who still has that spark in life...who gets a kick out of making out in the movie theatre. A lot of buzz words in womens'profiles (mature, responsible, etc.) are a turn off. Guys are searching for a mate and not a mother.
I agree with gourmetchef in a posting above...dress like a babe and not my mom. Let your hair grow. Re-kindle the spirit of the vivacious gal you were at 18. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 6:12:26 PM | A 40 year old women dating a 50 year old man that sounds pretty much normal to me. at that age most their is normally a 5-10 year age gap atleast.
It just the way it is in ''general'' women seem to want older men, men seem to want younger women (their are exceptions)
I seem to attract like Ten 18 year olds for every girl the same age as me I attract. So seems to go both ways. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:05:02 PM |
Everyone is different OP. What I want, well, I want a lot of things,but, in the same breath, I'm pretty sure I ain't getting any of it. But I can still want it. I personally don't "connect" with a lot of people,regardless of age. It's the tude that drives me away,along with the "expectations", the "beliefs", the "actions", the "closed mindness" of those around my age. Age is a funny thing. We gain certain prejudices,beliefs, and requirements with age, and when people show me this, I usually gotta go.I also don't like being told "how to act" or what I should be/or shouldn't be doing because of my age. "Some" women my age, have pretty good habit of doing so, though, the same will tell you that's because I'm not very mature. I actually agree.
I guess I'm not very mature either.
Notice how I didn't copy what you said before that? Yeah you said that out loud lol And now the NSA has it logged on to their data base. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:20:09 PM | I cannot speak for "men over 50" but I can speak for me. You see my age on my profile and I am will not contact a woman less than 60. As for younger, I don't need another daughter or a nurse or a support worker. What I need and want doesn't seem to be here - a partner. Patient, caring, trustworthy and honest, first with at least herself.
I am young thinking and looking - not my opinion, I have been told that many times - because I made that decision, not because I can date someone half my age. I probably wouldn't know how to begin.
Are there others "over 50" with the same attitude? More than probably. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:20:19 PM | First off it's in no way an unrealistic expectation. My last two wives were each approx 15 years my junior, the others my age.
I get a coffee date about every week or two weeks on but that includes this site, two others and, real life approaches.
Most are 50ish but some are 40 or even younger. (youngest 22 but she only wanted sex)
It's not like all young women are better looking or more appealing than 50's women either.
If I wanted to date only women 30 or under so what it's my preference and not you, but some here say "men like that" as if there is something wrong with that.
Are men in general attracted to younger women and women to older men, of course! There is an evolutionary, explanation for that. It might not be logical but it's in us for millions of years.
Some ask as to what one has in common with a much younger woman. Well if I am into things contemporary more so than many my age then I would find more common ground with a younger woman in most cases. I know that people in their 30's can be a zillion times smarter than me so why not. I don't want to talk about the good old days anyway.
That being said You're a good looking woman in good shape and I would date you as quickly as I would younger one. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:23:53 PM | "Hey Op..so u have had great dates from the website? Why didnt any of those pan out? You've only been on here less than a week. Give us a photo op on your profile with you dressed to the nines. A sundress and flipflops doesnt cut it. Show us what u got, when u go out at night on the town. My suspicion is that you are too casual most if not all the time."
Nice to know you're into appearance and problematic substance. Come to thin of it, that about sums up the majority of my female contacts on here. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2012 7:59:15 PM | | Just about all who have emailed me are younger. Real young I know for sex but over 40 are.serious. I don't really get along with 5o yr olds. They are too set in their ways and not much fun. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2012 1:20:10 AM | | Dating after 50 is tough for anyone. Most of the women my own age have been so beat up by the men in their lives it's hard to get by the apathy. Everyone says how upbeat they are, how much they enjoy life, then when you actually meet them, it's hardly the case. One thing I've noticed is when you get past about 50, you have to really want a relationship, be willing to work at it. Not many of us are that willing to disrupt our lives like that when it comes down to it. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2012 6:08:12 AM | I agree with nonchalantgal...everyone has their preferences. I prefer a man who is open to dating all ages...not bottling himself to the 30 - 45 age group when he's 52 or 53. Same for women! I have friends who will only date men under 45 when they are in their 50's!
People age different, people have different attitudes. It really upsets me to see the rude things that many men say about women over 50! Especially men over 50! Hey...not all of us are wrinkled prunes .. not all of us have lousy attitudes ... on the same token, not all men over 50 are jerks!
Ok..that's my 2 cents..again..guess I've given 4 or 6 cents to this one. | |
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| Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 5/1/2012 6:13:09 AM | So lets stop trying to categorize men over 50. Perhaps youve simply not met the right one. Men over 50 have the same struggle in dating as women over 50.
Consider this. Women in their 30-40's often present with less emotional baggage as women over 50. That isnt an absolute statement, but fuel for thought. Women often think the attraction to younger women is about youth, sometimes it is, often its just about less tension. | |
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| Do men over 50 really want the same?
Posted: 5/1/2012 6:18:30 AM | Most men in their 50 or over are pigs, on their way to being old men, who are sick and tired of their wives (or of being single, in those cases) and want to bang the ones they never had. (You should meet my happily married, 30+ year relationship Father, who seems to talk about anything but my mom, his wife....You should hear his friends, and their friends, and some of their friends, and..........)
Please note before the hatemail starts, I said MOST. MOST. That means there are exception, and statistically speaking those exceptions would be on a dating site, so don't take offense when its not due.
There is however a significant lot of those types. Personnal observation have shown me as much of this behavior, IMO... :thumbs down: | |
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