| | New Feature? Sending a Flirt.Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | | i was wondering about that because it dont' see any flirt option anywhere and i'm a gold member so it must be for women only to send flirts.Well that's good then cause guys will spam the hell out of women with that feature. | |
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| New Feature? Sending a Flirt.
Posted: 5/14/2012 10:57:31 AM | | I think it's a lazy feature. Now there will be a ton of questions about why doesn't she answer my "flirt". | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 12:17:52 PM | | My prediction is that most women won't use it. And the fact that their mailboxes won't be full of Flirts from men won't make any difference. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 7:03:32 PM | Got one of these today and, in part because the sender is in super double secret lockdown stealth mode (and because, once I accessed her profile from my inbox, her profile text looked to me like boilerplate and her pic looked like a stock modeling shot) just assumed that it was sent by a spambot.
I also thought it was spam because of the boilerplate PoF message text --and the fact that I didn't know this was a new feature in the first place. Glad I came here and found this thread --I was about to hit the snitch switch on what I thought was a spam account.
For what it's worth, I think it's pretty much a solution in search of a problem --those who get tongue-tied in the presence of hawt always could add someone as a Favorite and wait for feedback (and, if none were forthcoming, unfave).
Now I'm in the position of having to ignore a passive-assertive "flirt" non-message from what may be a real chick who's keen or, in the alternative, responding to what could be spam (she is kinda fit; I'd be up for it).
Anyway if they're looking for a way to get the gals to summon the gumption around here, then why not have a Sadie Hawkins week or month --and if they do, then announce it in advance so that guys aren't caught unawares on the receiving end ::brightbulb:: | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 5:28:50 AM | The message I sent in response to one of the first flirts I received was instantly stopped with a none-too-friendly 'this member won't accept messages this short'. Obviously the member had a set up a character limit in her mail settings. My message was a couple sentences long, basically asking her if she'd like to know anything more about me.
Anyway, I found it laughable and ironic that someone who just clicked a button to send the flirt, which is about the laziest form of dating communication, had blocked any form of message back if it wasn't more than at least fifty characters. It was a turn off; and I didn't message her again. | |
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| New Feature? Sending a Flirt.
Posted: 6/16/2012 3:21:14 PM |
I see its for women only.
It seems that many women don't want to give up the types of traditional privileges in their favor such like expecting the man to make the approach and come up with something witty and unique or generally expecting the man to come running to them while they sit back on their pedestals and wait for it to happen while they do little.
This just gives women another reason to feel that they don't need to do any work. Men are expected to do most or all the ground work to make something happen.
From my experience, some women have added me to their favorites list. I seem to think that some do this because they expect me to make the first approach of contact and come up with something witty and unique instead of them doing this work. Now this flirt thing gives them another option to play the same type of game.
I just received a flirt before. What's stopping her from emailing me? Oh that's right, the male is expected to do the work in making the first contact in email. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 3:42:09 PM | | ^^^ Of course, when you answer her flirt with an invitation to meet she'll expect you to pick the place, date, time, and pay for everything, too. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 4:31:38 AM |
I see this feature in both male and female profiles.
Guess it's not just for women??
It's just for women but we can ''flirt'' with both men and women.
Smexi | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 1:25:07 AM | ^^^^ I always thought that was what the 'favorites' thing was about, that and 'bookmarking' for future messaging - no wonder I don't get mail! 
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Posted: 9/4/2012 9:36:57 PM | The flirt option has been working oddly... or making a lot of liars out of people.
I have received numerous "flirts" and every one I asked about it insist they clicked on nothing and or did not send this.
so either something odd is going on or there are a lot of liars out there | |
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Posted: 11/1/2012 3:09:26 PM | | So much truth in this statement. Don't give the guys anymore weapons in their arsenal of harassment. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2012 6:58:27 AM | For crying out loud guys! All I read are complaints about how women never respond to e-mail and never show any interest in this site, and when POF gives them a feature that allows them to do just that, now you're complaining that women are being lazy.
To be honest, I haven't seen any difference in the responses I get from sending a flirt or an e-mail. I get ignored no matter what form of contact I use, so why wouldn't I take the path of least resistance and just click a flirt button? At least I'm reading profiles and communicating with men who I think I have something in common with instead of just messaging guys based on their photos. Most of the men on this site are practically illiterate based on their profile content, if they have any content to begin with. Photos with sunglasses, baseball caps and other women hanging all over them seem to be the norm here, and the number of men who post shirtless bathroom mirror pics gives Grindr.com a run for their money.
My advice to anyone here who thinks they are too good to respond to a flirt from a "lazy" women would be to get very well acquainted with your hand. It's going to be a looong winter... | |
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| New Feature? Sending a Flirt.
Posted: 3/11/2013 3:27:11 AM | I don't like the fact I know nothing about them till it appeared in my messages. I have no idea if the person sending it has actually read my profile or just a picture. A bit more information would be nice explaining what it actually is.
My first reply was to this generic message was that I have no idea what the flirt option is and have you actually read my profile? | |
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