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I have only been using the forums almost 2 weeks. I don’t find it clickey. We are not at school playground after all and don’t need our hands to be held :-)
I feel I have been welcomed by other UK forum users. I am very independent person and can hold my own. However I did promise myself that I wasn’t going to use the forum as one of my fo22book status and have to follow the rules on the forums.
If you see a thread you like just comment on it and that’s just how it works and if you wish to start new thread then just do it. It’s all about having a bit of banters and standing up for your views but put it in a respectful way. The forum doesn't belong to anyone or click haha
Theoneana Welcome,
Few threads gets deleted everyday and what I have realised is that the people who comment on the threads is not the ones who vote to delete. Check out how many people view the thread compare to how many people comments on it. Don’t take it personally, some people just don’t like to see others having laugh. I have lost count how of time I looked at threads on my phone and said to myself oh I will comment on later on the evening when get home and only to find out they deleted.
Just be yourself and enjoy, PS you will see one or two who's always think they are right and annoying but thats just life. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2012 2:23:48 PM | Hi Nem *waves* ... good to see you posting.
And hi Theoneana.
Just keep posting on here and you'll soon feel more comfortable. Like everyone says we were all new once and some of us are still propping up the bar cos we got lost on the way to the toilets. Some of us have met each other in real life so have a natter but a lot of us just throw banter at each other for the hell of it. You'll get used to who jokes about and who doesn't, and you'll find your place the more you post. Enjoy! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2012 2:31:34 PM | Hi Nem *waves*
And hi Theoneana
hi Theoneana..*waves with one hand..wanks with the other* | |
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Posted: 5/12/2012 2:38:52 PM | I don't think there are any cliques here
So, hello OP and Theoneana (as well as everyone else of course) | |
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Posted: 5/12/2012 2:50:25 PM | Hello to the newbies and welcome to POF
we're all very nice here so please don't run off,
it's super to meet you and to hear all your views
so break out the Hobnobs and kick off your shoes.
Things sometimes get heated but at the end of the day
just chip in whenever what ever you say,
we've all got opinions and we say what we think
and just like our bum holes, our opinions all STINK...........
 Hi to everyone I've not said hi too already, (mwah, mwah) | |
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Posted: 5/12/2012 5:13:27 PM | Ive been posting on here almost a year now and have never noticed a "clique" there are a group of us that post regular but I wouldnt call it being clique.
Newbies are always welcomed thats for sure and included and yes at times it gets a bit heated, bit silly and a bit rude in here but nothing to insinuate a clique thats for sure.
A forum is what you make of it you jump in and join in or you sit on fence...................take your pick!! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2012 8:31:30 PM | *waves to everyone*
Thank you everyone who said hi :) | |
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Posted: 5/13/2012 9:44:15 AM | Hi 'Newbies', and welcome.
There is no click, but on your mouse,
The forums here are 'open house'.
But I thought the same, when I first started,
My posts drew flack, as if I'd farted.
But write something good, and you'll get praised,
Write something new, & there'll be eyebrows raised. 
The forums here, reflect 'real life',
All sorts of problems, all sorts of strife.
Some people come here seeking "help",
They get a 'kicking', that makes them whelp.
The prim, the proper, the religious nutter,
The grim bed-hoppers, and the humour of the gutter. 
Express your views, or spew your bile,
It passes the time, for just a short while.
Don't be afraid, to just jump in.
Avoid topics on height, or topics on "thin".
Be wary of "race", and also religion.
But I won't preach.......it's your decision.... 
A last thing to add, before I conclude,
If Posters offend you, try not to be rude.
"Attack the post, notthe poster", the rules clearly state.
(But it's not easy to do, in a heated 'debate')
Follow one simple rule, and your posts will be grand.
Resorting to insults might well get you banned.... 
I've logged-in again, and wouldn't you know it.
Yet another great poem, from Graffiti Poet. 
On my hands, I had time, so I thought "This is easy".
Just find words that will rhyme, & write a poem, that's cheesey.
Posting is pointless, a complete waste of time.
Yet you'll get "extra points", If you answer in rhyme...? 
WTF..
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Posted: 5/13/2012 10:23:12 AM | Add my name to those who don't think there is a clique as such. It's true that some posters know each other outwith the Forums and therefore are more likely to 'get' their humour but I don't belive newbies are deliberately shut out.
Past couple of months, I have become a regular poster. Many people will recognise my name, or even my style of posting, just as there are a number of people on here that as soon as I see their name, I have a pretty good idea if (in my opinion) they will have posted something of use, with good arguments or if it will be a less useful post (thats me being polite).
Maybe it just takes time for newbies to integrate, just the same as it does in real life situations. One day you think, gawd, nobody pays attention to what I say (oh yes they will do), then you think - yeeha, people agree with me (yeah right, only for one comment/thread).
Be yourself, give your own opinions instead of following the crowd, admit if your feelings on a subject change due to others arguments.
I've also changed my contact restrictions because sometimes Forumites want to discuss things in more detail outwith the Forums where you are not allowed to 'chat'. That's not without it's problems though - I have just had to turn down the offer to meet up with a fantastic looking 27 year old man (boy), body to die for and also very polite. I nearly wept as I typed 'no thanks' but hey, I am a realist lol. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 10:57:28 AM | I like what GeminiLady said ^^^^^^
But I must disagree, somewhat...
There is a clique.... No-one admits to it of course, just like no-one wanted to admit to being a deleter....lol
The trick is to not worry about it.... Do you...
I too, was initially discouraged when everything i posted was rather rudely deleted with unnecessarily ****y comments... That's just par for the course here...
If you are nice, and don't rock the boat, and say "I agree with so and so" (mention them by name) eventually you will find your very own clique...
Or, you can just say whatever it is you actually want to say, whenever you want...
Some will like it, some won't.. Just don't be rude or abusive and you won't get put on the naughty chair like me for five days... By which time you can re-discover FB or your life...
Most people are quite nice here....
Welcome Anna, and Nemesis | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 11:06:31 AM | | How can it be cliquey when there's only about 2 people that actually get along with each other | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 11:12:18 AM | Thank you Charity :)
To be honest I was probably feeling a bit too sensitive when I posted on this thread. No one has been openly rude or nasty and quite a few people have been nice.
Glad someone else agrees there is a clique, which feels obvious. In response I have decided to start my own. So far it's me and.. oh yes, me ;)
I won't join the phantom thread deleter group, not my style | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 11:12:36 AM |
Past couple of months, I have become a regular poster. Many people will recognise my name, or even my style of posting
rockstar?
I have a pretty good idea if (in my opinion) they will have posted something of use, with good arguments or if it will be a less useful post (thats me being polite).
you're really modest aren't you luv | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 11:14:14 AM |
But I must disagree, somewhat...
There is a clique.... No-one admits to it of course, just like no-one wanted to admit to being a deleter....lol
The trick is to not worry about it.... Do you...
I too, was initially discouraged when everything i posted was rather rudely deleted with unnecessarily ****y comments... That's just par for the course here...
hear hear! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 11:25:41 AM | Instead of being accusative and complaining of a clique, couldn't it just possibly be you are feeling like the new girl and there is nothing much else to it than that?
Some posters have been on and off of these boards for some years now, naturally over the course of time people get to know each other and make acquaintances. I think to then call other forumites a clique because of that is a tad unfair.
We were all new here once when we first dipped our toe in the water.
The only newcomers that would irritate me are the whiners and trolls who come in all guns blazing which in turn could upset other regular users. Doesn't mean there's a clique, most forum posters here have their own mind and are free thinkers and dont need to be, or wish to be, in a clique.
EDIT VVVVV Read back yourself and see how many people dont think there is a clique, maybe it's down to individual perception?
Although my post was directed to the OP | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 11:31:50 AM |
Instead of being accusative and complaining of a clique, couldn't it just possibly be you are feeling like the new girl and there is nothing much else to it than that?
Read back, I just said that in my last post. That doesn't change the fact that I'm not the only person who feels that there is a clique
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Posted: 5/14/2012 11:37:56 AM |
Some posters have been on and off of these boards for some years now, naturally over the course of time people get to know each other and make acquaintances
Hiya Lynn,
did you have a good holiday darling? x | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 12:20:46 PM | During my time on various forums, I've seen that it's pretty commonplace that the calls about the cliques will rear their heads.
Sometimes there is - although quite often, it's just a bunch of people who get on really well away from that forum (and it's hard to disguise that, nor should anyone try to)
Quite often the people who gripe about cliques, are in one themselves... but they don't want to or can't see it.
More often than not, it's someone just feeling left out because they think they're being ignored or picked on... and sometimes their posts get "picked on" or reported, or pulled apart, because they've said something offensive or really fvcking stupid - but they don't (want to) see that and instead it must be that the cliques don't like the look of their face, or some similar pile of fvcking w@nk!
Whether it exists or not is totally irrelevant.
If you've got something to say then say it.
If you care more about it being acknowledged or replied to, then maybe you should just sit back and relax with a cookie and a nice big cup of shut the fvck up.
*in case anyone has caught a dose of stupid, that was all you general rather than you specific*
Vvvvv
If you want to think I'm a member of some clique, then go for it.
I think people who get on with each other, are just that.... people who get on with each other.
I dunno how that's a clique, but maybe it's just a matter of perception... or maybe people see what they want to see.
Who knows? I still think people should just post because they want to post - any other reason is fvcking retarded!
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Posted: 5/14/2012 12:36:23 PM | Um, okay dad... Thus spake one of the "lead" posters of of said clique...LOL
Sometimes there is - although quite often, it's just a bunch of people who get on really well away from that forum (and it's hard to disguise that, nor should anyone try to)
In other words, a clique? Lol...
Don't be intimidated... By the sweary, rudeness, just get in there girl...
BTW, Don't mention the clique... | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 12:47:46 PM | Quite often the people who gripe about cliques, are in one themselves... but they don't want to or can't see it.
Similarly Lusipher, people that are part of cliques don't want to or can't see it...or perhaps more to the point can't see it as such because they only have a view from inside the glass house.
And no..i'm not accusing you of being part of any perceived clique...just making an observation about human behaviour in the same way you were
Whether it exists or not is totally irrelevant.
To you maybe. Surely you'd accept there is another point of view, even if you obviously don't agree with it? | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 12:58:08 PM | I apologise for the clicking (as I have done before) and it will be much better when the hip replacement happens, so please be patient.
As far as 'cliques' go, that is an accusation that has been levelled at this forum since the year dot, or so I was told as I wasn't around when Dot was a lad. As previous esteemed posters have mentioned, it is not unheard of for posters to meet in social circumstances, however that doesn't mean that they have to agree with every utterance that the people they have met make.
As per POF rules and regulations the forums are a place for debate NOT social chit-chat, call it a stepping stone for interaction with others if you will and message them privately if you wish to engage in 'banter'. The mods allow a little leeway but if they see a thread in danger of derailment by chat they will delete it .................. that's their job, folks, and they didn't make the rules either.
I personally feel that many new posters misunderstand how thread or post deletions happen. A new thread can be deleted by the community when in it's infancy if 7 out of 10 posters choose to delete it, or saved if the same number vote not to delete it. After this time threads can only be deleted by moderators. Posts can only be deleted by moderators. I'm not sure if threads can be voted for deletion by 'road-trippers' (i.e posters from other nations than the UK) and personally am not really bothered. I hold my hands up and say I have voted threads for deletion, I have also voted to save them, but at all times I acted on my own volition and not as a member of any forum gang or clique. I feel that's the way the majority of posters are in the UK.
Just remember everyone was a newbie once .................... (even some of the really old ones ;)
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Posted: 5/14/2012 12:58:36 PM | @msg 47
Like I just edited, maybe it's a matter or perception.
I don't think I am. Some people might think otherwise. It makes no difference to how I'm going to post though. Since I joined, how I've posted hasn't changed - sometimes I'll argue with someone I get on with. There are occasions when I'll agree with people who I think are bellends... But most importantly, I've just said what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it.
I'd leave if I thought I was posting for any reason other than that... and because of that, I wouldn't care about the existence or non-existence of some cliques.
Oh, I accept there are other views on it... I would have to be blind to not see that some people obviously don't share my opinion. Like you said, I just don't agree with them, because I don't get why people would be bothered by cliques (especially on an internet forum) | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 1:03:51 PM | I don't feel ignored on here, I've spoke to a few people on here by private message and for the most part the majority of people here are pretty friendly.
Not bothered about being in a clique, it's only a forum, just a bit of fun to pass the time when the weather is crap. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 1:06:15 PM | The OP has left the building?
VVV.... Do we know one another? Got the name wrong I'm afraid...
OT I dont see Lusipher as the patriarch of any clique, haha, bet he's gutted as he tries so hard to be individual and off the wall....Hi Lus :-) | |
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Posted: 5/14/2012 1:10:27 PM | | Hi Lin how was Benidorm?.ok lynn, doh | |
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