| | Question about being over 30 and never married, not with kids?Page 4 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | | I've never been married...skipped the divorce. I don't see how saying "I'm divorced and turned my kids lives upside down" is a badge of honor? Any girl who says she would rather be with a divorced guy with kids probably is diviorced with kids herself. Notice how many second marriages fail? Same bad decision making that ruined the first one. | |
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| Question about being over 30 and never married, not with kids?
Posted: 6/23/2012 11:26:01 PM | Just for the record i am a straight 36yrs old male never been married,To tell you the truth never had a relationship before,cannot help bad luck i guess ,So obviously no kids.
Women do find that strange not so much the kids thing but the other.
Little i can do about that ,or yourself.
Its something the ladies have to accept. | |
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| Question about being over 30 and never married, not with kids?
Posted: 6/23/2012 11:39:52 PM | | Being unmarried/divorced with no children in this day and age should not be a red flag. To me that is an attractive feature as it means they may have the same morals/values as me. BUT, I know the stigma attached to not fitting the status quo. What it all boils down to is how well people and their wants/morals/goals match up. Those that are negative for your "social status" without finding out the reasons why are the ones you need to avoid. IMHO. Every pair of shoes fits different, until they try on or look at yours how do they know the fit? | |
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| Question about being over 30 and never married, not with kids?
Posted: 6/24/2012 12:09:06 AM | | I never married because a wise man learns from their mistakes. A wiser man learns from the mistakes of others. As far as not having kids, yeah it is a hindrance. Where I live, women are so fertile that they are born pregnant. I'm my mom's only child, and she wants grandchildren. No matter how successful I become in other aspects of my life, I will always feel that I've failed. I won't want to be a single parent either, because I hated my own childhood. Perhaps this is another thing preventing me from having meaningful relationships. Meeting someone I can actually fall in love with and stay with in order to reproduce just seems to be too much to ask. I'm often told to lower my standards, life isn't fair, and whatever other cop-out people like to use. My options are to be childless and lonely, not lonely and childless, or lonely, but a single parent. I don't like any of those. I guess I am SOL. | |
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| Question about being over 30 and never married, not with kids?
Posted: 6/24/2012 10:27:26 AM |
Don't be to hard on yourself i am roughly in the same boat just try and enjoy what you have.Think of it this way "The grass isn't always greener on the other side".Can't loose what you never had..
Well said, but I am getting no younger. | |
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| Question about being over 30 and never married, not with kids?
Posted: 6/25/2012 12:16:25 AM | Neither are any of us.
Sometimes i think its a shame Society has made us feel shut out of the world due to the fact that people like us have been single all our lives.
It can be Depreesing sometimes i will agree.
If you can find some other loves in your life e. g Hobbies -for me its music playing guitar that has helped me through a lot and giving me a diffeent kind of confidence that truthfully i could not and has not been built up by women in my life.
Unfortunately not all the ladies are music fans.
But hey what can you do?? | |
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| Question about being over 30 and never married, not with kids?
Posted: 6/25/2012 7:57:16 PM | I can appreciate what you are saying. A lot of women want me to take them shooting. More women are into guns than many people seem to realize. A lot are into sports too, more so than I am, which is cool.
I suppose there were times when I could have prolonged some of my relationships, but I didn't see the point. I wasn't out to force something to work that was not working. The women that I really fell for often didn't feel the same way about me, and I didn't care to stay friends with them as my feelings never changed.
For the most part, I am succeeding in life more than I ever have before, and perhaps that intimidates some of the women in my immediate surroundings, as a lot of them seem to be more accepting of mediocrity. Nonetheless, I am in no position to move in any direction but forward. | |
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| Question about being over 30 and never married, not with kids?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:07:16 PM | | No my friend you are a rare bird. It is very difficult to find a guy at ANY age that is a "baby's daddy" That makes you much more attractive in that Travel is possible, more attention is a given, and no co-parenting drama is a huge plus! It's the same if you can find a woman with no children. Just keeps things simple :) Keep on trucking baby! | |
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