| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/8/2009 4:13:47 PM | heck try being my age(51) with young children (10+12)and one is a special needs child
i be happy just to come home and see a email
but i do belive when the time is right there will be someone out there
i just try to do the best i can do for today
Heh, Dan, I feel ya! I'm 50 and have three boys. 15, 13 and 11. The 13 y/o is severely autistic.
I have resigned myself to the fact that I will not have a serious relationship until they are gone.
Like someone said earlier, there are plenty of guys that wanna get into my britches, but stick around? HAHAHAHAHA
Yeah, slightly cynical here!
I liked the poem, it really is all about the 'now'. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/8/2009 7:19:51 PM | hi justchery
i did some back and forth emailing with one lady who did not mine i had young children but when i told her one of my children was a special needs child i did not hear back from her . i did not get mad or send her a mean email ,i just said a little pray i learned in my early years in A.A.
GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY
TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE
COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THING I CAN
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
AS LONG AS MY CHILDREN ARE HAPPY AND IN GOOD HELTH
I AM A HAPPY MAN | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/16/2009 9:57:45 AM | this womans point is very valid ,what women should really think about is how many men actually lose their family when a relationship fails and are thrilled at the chance of a new beginning and from personal experience do things differently and learn from past mistakes  | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/16/2009 11:35:16 AM | 1) Just because a man won't date a woman with children doesn't make him a loser.
Katietxgirl of course it doesn't. Calling a guy a loser when he will not date a women with children is just sour grapes. That is, the false denial of desire for someone sought for but which one could not attain.
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But who is presuming that single mothers are all pining away for these said men?
SweetnessInTheKeys no one presumes that. However, there is a huge difference between not wanting someone and calling him a loser or or some other name if he will not date you. In the first case, the guy is not acceptable; in the second case, it is sour grapes. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/16/2009 11:40:29 AM | No i doesnt make him a loser.
But who is presuming that single mothers are all pining away for these said men?
Speaking only for myself, this mom has had NO problem attaining anything i have desired. I dont think in terms of "omg will this guy date me cuz im a single mom and if no hes a loser", i think geeeee, with my busy life as a single mom, will i accept HIM ? | |
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Posted: 1/16/2009 6:11:58 PM | hellbender, you shouldn't generalize. I originally went online to meet another single parent. I want someone with my values and I felt I could only find it with another single parent. I am now more open to dating men without children, but I don't want to have anymore of my own. My experience with dating men without kids is that eventually they decide they want one of their own and bring up the idea of me getting my toobs untied.
As for your comment about the kids being brats. If you approach her that way, or atleast if someone was to approach me in that way, I'd probably give you an aditude adjustment. As for your comment about disipline, what one person feels apropriate might differ from another's opinion. It should be something that you and your partner discuss.
This post was also uplifting for me. Sometimes I feel it is difficult dating with three kids. Outside of the internet a lot of times when I meet someone and they seem to be really into me intellectually and physically, I see his whole aditude change when I mention I have three kids. He goes from "wow, this is a woman I can really see myself with" to oh, "Well, maybe I can just get into her pants". It really sucks. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/16/2009 6:56:32 PM | | yes, only because my best friend lorena has 4 boy and she is married to a great guy who loves her boys .they dont have kids of their own and he dont have any but he truely loves hers .he is a better father then their own.she wait 4 years before she meet him maybe thats what all us single moms should do .iam a single mom of 4 gilrls and have been for 2 years still wanting for someone 2 | |
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| heres a mans point of view
Posted: 1/16/2009 7:20:52 PM | | No way. Im sorry but this is probably the most honest opinion you will get. I went out with a beautiful girl and she had a kid and it was a stumbling block. 3 kids can only multiply the problem, I reckon. Sorry. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2009 3:51:54 AM | | I got three kids so someone hook me up with a woman that has three we could be the Brady bunch except I am not gay own a station wagon or an Architect. LOL or live in the sixties still. Marsha Marsha Marsha | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/17/2009 5:59:38 AM | | Having gone thru the experience my self........................... being a single mom for 15 yrs..... I can honestly say I dated 2 guys in 15 yrs.... and the last 8 yrs I have been alone..... I have dated but nothing has come out of it.. I always put my kids first.. never let my kids around unless I knew it was gonna go some where and wasnt looking for a provider but a companion I have found most men think you want them for support....WRONG! there is nothing a man can do for me that GOD has done for me.... or myself.... so hold on and dont settle.. and sit back and watch your heavenly FATHER show you the truth the way and the LIFE....(light) He will provide all our needs!!!! GOD bless you single moms out there........ | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/17/2009 6:01:35 AM | | Having gone thru the experience my self........................... being a single mom for 15 yrs..... I can honestly say I dated 2 guys in 15 yrs.... and the last 8 yrs I have been alone..... I have dated but nothing has come out of it.. I always put my kids first.. never let my kids around unless I knew it was gonna go some where and wasnt looking for a provider but a companion I have found most men think you want them for support....WRONG! there is nothing a man can do for me that GOD has done for me.... or myself.... so hold on and dont settle.. and sit back and watch your heavenly FATHER show you the truth the way and the LIFE....(light) He will provide all our needs!!!! GOD bless you single moms and dads out there........ | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/17/2009 1:30:32 PM | Of course there are men out there who will accept the fact that you have three children! I have three myself, and in my dating experience since the separation/divorce in the past four years has proved that there were no problems finding men who were interested in me and knowing that the kids were a part of my life. Children are never baggage; they are a part of YOU, and don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. As in any relationship, you find time to spend alone together and with the children, finding that happy balance.
Be strong, be happy, be a wonderful mother . . . all endearing qualities that will attract others to you.
(I am getting married in a few months . . .so there is hope for the single mother of three. . . . love, life and happiness) - please stop me before I get any more sappy LOL
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/17/2009 5:27:49 PM | | I'm a single parent male raising 3 kids on my own. It's not the kids you date but the parent. If a woman has or has not kids is a non-issue. It's really about the person you are dating. However, if they do have kids and you wish to commit to that woman, then it's the whole package you need to commit to! So to answer the original question, of course as a male, I would date a woman with three kids! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/17/2009 9:12:46 PM | | i worry about the same thing except i am 27 with three kids. i was with their father for over 8 years and have been apart for a little over a year now. it seems like as soon as a guy finds out that i have kids, i get stood up or avoided. i am finally at that stage where i am ready to start dating again but i can't seem to find someone that i connect with that also welcomes my children. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/18/2009 12:10:53 AM | Ladies, thanks for your words of wisdom. I will hold out for that right guy and in the mean time continue to be the best Mom I can be. For me, getting married again sounds like a fairy tale. Good luck and God bless you and your new man.
You ladies are also right about a man not giving me any more than what God has and will give me. The one thing I have learned through all of this is that I am a strong women and I am makeing it to my surprise without my cheating Husband, but with Gods help. Have a great day everyone! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/18/2009 4:55:11 AM | Finding a woman without kids - whether it's 1 child or 10 - become less avoidable as men age.
A man in his 20's - lots of women without kids - plenty of choice. Woman has kids and don't like it? "Next!"
A man in his 30's - less childless women out there, but still plenty of choice. Either he lucks out with someone the same age with no kids (who may well be looking to have a child soon - tick, tick, tick) or he hunts for a childless woman in their 20's.
A man in his 40's - There are not going to be all that many women his age without kids. Or they are going to want one pretty damn soon. If he himself is childless and wants a 'fresh' child of his own he's going to have to snap up a woman in her 30's and get jiggy real quick, or cruise the 20 year olds and take his time choosing. Mind you, if he waits too long he'll be a 50 year old daddy with a 20 something partner. Better hope the old ticker is in good condition. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/18/2009 3:32:27 PM | Yes they would. Case in point? My stepdad.
He had 2 sons from his first marriage (that he never sees :( and my mother had 3 sons (Including me, durr.)
Now they have their own son together and are happy. | |
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