| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 11/15/2005 12:39:50 PM | | Any man that wouldn't date a woman because she has kids isn't worth a thought. Most of the women I've dated Do have kids. And yes, I find them to be more appealing partially due to the fact, I have kids of my own... tho they almost grown themselves. So dating someone with kids is now.... alot of single women have kids and yes, They have been through more of life's little bumps.... altho I wouldn't want to produce any more children... not that I don't like them, just that I've had mine... they're teens(mid-to-upper teens) I just dig single Moms' I suppose | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 11/16/2005 2:41:36 PM | | I've an interesting situation. I have two things in my case. I have two children that live with me, both early teens. AND I am 53 years old. I am beginning to think I am out of the range of dating and I have the two kids also. I think most ladies my age (+or-) are done raising children and don't want to start again. So, I have to think of all of these facts. I understand your question, but I would have no problem dating a woman with children. Even IF I didn't have any of my own. My case is rather interesting to here output on sometime though. | |
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| I finally found the last golden ticket
Posted: 11/23/2005 9:24:29 PM | I disagree yet again! They first of all the guy that i finally choose to meet my kids needs to understand i am the parent in any dating situation i am the parent !@! he may be able to pal around at the most but as for my kids listening to his rules he would only be dictating mine just as if i left them with a sitter if it even got to that close of a relationship first off, I really don't care if its hard on them cause they never fathered my children then ya know what deal with a single person and not with a mother and kids. I prefere a man not a boy wanting to play house for a bit untill he tires of it. So no man i date unless i marry them would fill any father figure role in my kids life, they may be someone else to look up to to maybe talk to ect bit otherwise no thanks i'll deal with raising them... The man i am presently dating finds no issues with my kids and BECAUSE i have made it clear they are MINE! And no contact physically will ever take place in front of my kids as we are only dating. But i truly beleive the person i am dating now was well worth the wait to find him and well worth the crap i went to to find him. JUst never settle ladies and dont use your kids as guys use puppies and try and attract people to you by posting your pics of your kids . Would you show a complete stranger on the street your kids picture? Well on here your not showing just one your showing thousands pretty sad when you need to try and get a date using your beautiful kids as bait. Ever hear of pediphiles? so thats my little rant on woman psting their children pics on a very widely used web site. I personally think your attracting the wrong attention. If you cant get a date without posting your kids pics then you truly need to try a new venu like speed dating? glow in the dark dating? who knows just dont take out the wallet and show them your kids! Thanks for listening bye  | |
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| I am thinking it is never going to happen
Posted: 11/23/2005 9:55:14 PM | OK here is my take.
I have 3 kids, I am divorced ( amicably )
My problem is I do not involve my children in my dating life at all. I do not even let a guy I am dating into my house until I know they are going to be around awhile.
I am confident that I am a sexy, vibrant, intelligient woman.
I have kids but actually very little baggage. I have a decent career that I love. They kids have a Father they adore and that takes great care of them.
My experience is that men see a woman 31 years old divorced with 3 kids and "THINKS" oh she wants a daddy for them. She must be easy she has 3 kids. She will never have time for me because she has the kids. All of that is untue. I make time for dating. I do not want or need a man to provide for me or my children.
I am just looking for a nice guy that will take me out to dinner and have a glass of wine and some great conversation. Bring me home kiss me on the cheek and go home.
Sex is for later. When I know that we are going to be together for an extended amount of time I will introduce you to my kids.
I don't know I am losing hope that there are any truly just nice gentleman left on the planet.
That want to start so and see where it goes.
Oh well if you are out there drop me a note.
Have a Great Thanksgiving everyone
Steph | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 11/24/2005 10:14:45 AM |
christianmom said:
Would men actually date someone with that much baggage?
While there are men out there who, for various reasons, would be reluctant to date and/or enter into a long-term partnership with a woman with children, be assured that there are also plenty out there who see that as no impediment at all and would make wonderful role models for your children.
It's like anything else, though. You have to work at it. Get around. Talk to people (guys). Correspond. Understand and learn their values. Share who you are. Sooner or later the chemistry will bubble and you'll find the right guy. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 11/25/2005 2:18:30 PM | | To the OP: I wouldn't date a woman with 3 kids! Yikes - I have my child, and she can have her child - but 3! I am WAY to irresponsible for that level of involvement. I love kids - they are great. But I am not Mike Brady. | |
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| heres a mans point of view
Posted: 11/26/2005 5:42:31 PM |
If he is not a good parent, I'm not going to "fix" it for him or take on the responsibility for another person's children.
...Exactly! ... Although often enough, as with non-parents, the relationship between the two adults does not work out and someone wants to believe it was because of the children and not themselves. Where as there have been times where I liked the kids more than I did the parent.
...Nevertheless, any new relationship that includes however many children is comprised of more than just the two adults; everyone has to be compatible. Thinking anything less, is not living in the real world and doomed for failure after the initial endorphin rush of new.
...On other occasions, people have children that have grown without any supervision or direction and already in deep troubles. What was ignored as cute or negative at the age of five, is only magnified exponentially at fifteen. To think that a potential will want to magically reverse years of poor parenting is not only ludicrous, but a bit presumptuous.
...With the above, either party has the right to discern the total picture and decide the compatibility and ramifications for not only themselves, but also for their own children. | |
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| heres a mans point of view
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:16:26 AM | There are men out there who do date women with kids.. I did date a man..who did date me and I have wonderful three kids ...  | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/2/2006 9:09:39 AM | | I have been dating a man that I met here on POF for a couple of months now. Like you, I was skeptic that I could find someone that not only loved me, but also loved my children. There are still some great men out there. Do not settle!! I went out on many dates before I found him. Together we have 9 children (my 4 and his 5). I did however find that trying to date men within a few years of my age was not working, as most 27-32 year old men are not interested in an "instant family" or they want children of their own, and I"M DONE HAVING KIDS!! lol So maybe try dating someone a little older! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/2/2006 12:48:41 PM | KIDS ARE NOT BAGGAGE! I have three children and ditched the baggage when I got a divorce Any man who truly respects a women knows that her children come first and to make a good impression on the woman he must make a good impression on the kids as well. Ditch the fear, have a happy year!!!!! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/2/2006 1:24:39 PM | | Christian Mom, here is your wake up call, do not refer to your kids as baggage. If I heard a Mom referring to her kids this way I would not date her. I have dated women with 2 and 3 kids before and would do it again. If she had 3 and wanted 3 more then I might feel differntly but I have no problem dating a woman with kids. Now if you were pregnant with one then I might feel a little funny, but otherwise not a problem | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/2/2006 3:00:56 PM | | yes i would say they would...but you have to bow down to their evey needs and they hate kids. i am single mom of 4 kids...and i am 43..just had a brithday on dec 27th and i spent it in bed cause..i was so stupid to think another could like me and my kids..the younger ones are 14 and 9 and 7...and the ja well he is more interested in his porn then us..and he is a trapper and a hunter...and well they get all the off days and vacation times not us..not even one day or an hour....we had been togher for a year and i have found out i have to have major surgery and the ja won,t help with the kids....and i have talked to many men in this site and they do not want to have the responsibilty of kids...better off on my own.. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/28/2006 6:45:11 PM | | I have 5, and I get asked out all the time...and yes, they know about my kids...on the other ahnd there are lots of men who won't, for instance, out at the bar with the girls, and some guy hits on me and I'm not interested...Just saying I have 5 kids usually makes them tuck their tails between their legs and run, obviously they are not worth my time | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/28/2006 8:02:46 PM | | Well i guess i will wade in on this subject. I have found that women run just as fast as men when kids are involved. I have a larger than normal amount of kids. And yes some of us men do like women with kids. My ex wife had 4 when we got married and now that we are divorced two of the step kids have chosen to live with me full time. All of my kids come to my house every weekend. I am actually guilty of looking for a woman with children because they seem to better understand whats involved. If and when I find someone and they have children I will accept them as my own and it will be no different than before. Just for the record I have 2 boys and 6 girls ranged from 5 to 18.. you dont have to tell me about seeing people run.... Just my thoughts | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/28/2006 11:01:05 PM | | Well not only will they date 'em, they'll marry 'em. Least one did with my kids mom and my former wife. I have to say she isn't all that bad. After all she had me for a while didn't she? Plus I am proud of my children. He's actualy lucky is what it is. So yes without hesitation would be my answer to OP. I know kids are great. Best if they come with a mom. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 2/1/2006 12:14:45 AM | Lyndee,
You guys have no idea how often i've asked myself this exact question recently. :) It was only today that I told my co-workers, "Yes I'm still young, but I have 3 kids, what man in his right mind wouldn't run scared?" LOL! It's refreshing to hear that there are men out there who would be willing to embrace the fact I have children rather than see it as a detriment.
I don't have issues datin a gal with three kids.....I'll just have to bring along my pump action water gun | |
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