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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/14/2006 10:18:20 PM | | Don Williams I started a thread just for you! it's called how children changed your life for the better. Give it a day and you will soon see how wrong you are and misinformed...but thats okay hun, your just a child. We understand where the attitude comes from. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/14/2006 10:42:29 PM |
Don Williams I started a thread just for you! it's called how children changed your life for the better. Give it a day and you will soon see how wrong you are and misinformed...but thats okay hun, your just a child. We understand where the attitude comes from.
I cannot agree about being misinformed. However, that is the most clever, unique, and enjoyable put down I have received since I joined POF. | |
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zabon
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/14/2006 11:13:31 PM | Hi ,Although I too have 3 boys im a single dad.The best relationship I ever had was with a woman with 3 children as well.And we would still be together if she did not pass away.I loved that woman with all my heart. its been 4 yrs ago now. But i have learned a good life lesson.
Love True Love dont count your children as baggage. but extentions of you that they can love as well.Never take love for granted because in a blink of an eye it can be taken from you.
And the only way you will ever find true love again.Is that you put away the fear of being hurt again.take down the walls.Its scarry but the walls you build will leave you alone.and your pain will be worst in the long run.take the walls down. and let love magnify.in all this
Love always with a pure heart and Never take it for granted.I hope this helps.And have a great day...
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/22/2006 10:45:24 AM | Zabon that is about as straight forward as one can put it. I totally agree. If we all just appreciated what we have at current, we'd look past all of the things we assume is baggage. Is there truly "the one"? I think I'll start that thread somewhere.
BIG UPS to Zabon!
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/22/2006 11:45:01 AM | | i knew I could find something here to relate to my situation. I am 38, have been divorced two years, and have 3 children. Dating for the past two years has shown me that men are petrified of me as the mother of three children. So, no, nobody has taken me seriously. I just had another one leave. This one told me the three kids had a lot to do with it. The others didn't tell me. They just ran, and fast. But I knew. I feel doomed, and it sucks because the marriage was sh** anyway, and though the children are wonderful, I only have half children, sometimes it seems... | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/22/2006 12:30:04 PM | First of all let me state I am a single dad with a child how has a disablility, I don't consider her bagage.
Any man who thinks of your children as bagage is a fool. Kids are a blessing in life, if the man you are interested in does not see it then he is not worth your time.
My daughter is so dear to me that I would not trade her happiness for anything. Yes I do want to be part of a couple again and I do want the other half of that couple to see my kid the way I do.
When it comes to your kids........bagage is a 4 letter word.
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/22/2006 12:44:57 PM | In a heartbeat, darlin!!! I was with a woman for 5 years that 3 kids..raised them as my own. That just means there is more love in the home...hang in there..I would date ya so you know there are some better ones than me out there! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/22/2006 1:05:34 PM | Well, donwilliams..you are certainly entitled to your opinion. But, for the record, having a child does make someone wiser and smarter and change their life forever. Example...before I got my daughter, I was a cop turned biker...ran with some pretty rough groups and I tended to be the toughest or the craziest..neither was very good. So, before my daughter, your attitude and comments would have caused me and my brothers to track you dow and put you in a friggin hurtlocker.
See, Im not doing that...although a few of my old friends are here right now, and they dont feel the same as me. But, no worries, they will behave because I will "explain" to them in actions they understand that you ARE entitled to your own opinions and we may not agree, but thats just fine. So, they will get it.
See..Im a better,wiser man already! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 3/22/2006 1:58:24 PM | | yes there is a few of us who would date women with children. i dated a woman with 3 boys and i had no problems with doing it. but she left me and went back to london where she was from. when you date or go out with a woman you just dont take her you take her children as well. xxxx | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 4/2/2006 8:26:34 AM | I have posted earlier on this one but have not returned in a while. Zabon you are so correct. I would never count my children as baggage. I would not be near the person I am today without them. They are an extension of who you are and what you want out of life. I am so sorry to hear about what happened to you Zabon. But agian you are on the money. You have to put the fear behind. You have to love yourself and your situation. The time will come and everything will work out and come together. Life is a journey you have to embrace the moments and learn along the way. Have fun with it!!
Have fun and hope you all find your true loves!!!
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 7/25/2006 5:54:33 PM | I understand(** wraithofangels**) You/but not the other. I married a woman @ the ripe old age of 24, she had/has three boys from 2 differant men & in our split up aquired another. I loved those boys then as well as now (15yrs. ago). We had a son togather (god rest his soul) whom past @ the age of 9 due to an skeptical House fire. To this day I forgive her,And in the bottom of my heart care for her as a human being as she (the last I heard ) is destroying her life due to the feelings of our loss of our child. I went through hell and bck w/ this woman(long story) I beleave a family comes in all types of ways, & it depends on the character of adults to power through the times of hardships, & curve balls. I think the the children should always be thought of 1st and foremost. I applaud your efforts,I think you are a good man and some women will be lucky to have a friendship/relationship w/you. Im glad you posted and to whom it may concern dont let it bother you some people just show their true colors when you least xspect it, carrie on w/ your heart and go and find a match of (Heart) you deserve it , dont bottom out,or give anyone any power what so ever. AMC ..good luck & god speed to you. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 7/25/2006 8:52:53 PM | | i came out of a relationship 4 yrs ago too- actually a marriage -[ i think thats was what it was called]- and have kids from it too. I am only 36 and in the beginning i thought it would be impossible that any man would want anything to do with me and my "baggage" [i dont like that word].Its not true though - there are men out there that are not scared off by a package deal .Some even welcome it. I was lucky enough to meet someone a few months ago [who hasnt run out of my laneway at top speed yet , screaming "let me out"] - and i have several friends who are dating / living together despite having kids from a former relationship.If a man is happy with the way things are going , then the children should not be an issue - an adjustment - yes - an issue ? no. Your life is not over christianmom - the best years are still yet to come........ | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 11:32:58 AM | | y not if they realy like you for you it should not mater they are a part of you iwould in a hart beet i hane my son and if he is not ok with some one i do not want the and look on some one well come along for me and it well be the right one and i do not hold it agenst them if they have kids i do to he is 11 and alot of fun and the more the better time we can have camping fishing and doing famly outings kids to me is famly and famly is life and at some ponte they grow up and have ther owen and some one has to show them how to be a famly | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/31/2008 8:22:56 AM | | Not only would a man date her, but he'd leave his wife and marry her too...I know this firsthand, because it happened to me (my ex wanted kids and left me for someone with three of them). | |
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| i have been there !!!
Posted: 8/31/2008 10:31:49 AM | belive me if you have a connection with some one children make no diffrence .. i became a single mum to two children when i was 24 , not by choice .. i really belived that noone would even be intrested in me because i had to children .. so i just didnt even try i was single for 3 yrs and by now i was 27 . i randomly meet a man and we had a connection .. to keep it short .. he was 9 yrs younger than me and became a amazing step dad to my children age 12 and 11 now who belive me made his life a nightmare. but he stuck at it which is something i never asked of him it was his choice .. we had a amazing three yrs but sadly he was killed 4 mths before our wedding .. so i know that when you meet the right person children do not matter at all...
so hang in there it will happen one day .. and will be worth the wait .. good luck ..xx | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/31/2008 3:32:16 PM | | I too have just come out of a harsh relationship after 18 years and also have 3 children.I don't consider my children baggage..yes it is hard being a single mom and trying to remember that i still am a women with needs and desires..but i firmly believe that someday I (and you also) will find a man who is not terrified of dating a single mom.Believe in yourself and don't look upon your kids as baggage! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/31/2008 6:34:53 PM | | Listen carefully...I just lost a guy that I dated for almost three years and I have three kids too. He has older kids and they want nothing to do with him so he figures that he's not going to go through the "trouble" of having these kids ditch him too. Do not cry over him...that's crap...let him be on his merry way...he lost more than you and some day he'll wake up and realize it! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/31/2008 6:35:21 PM | I have 2 kids of my own, what kind of jerk would I have to be to not want to date a woman because she has three of her own?? There are very few women in my age group who don't have kids and ignoring one because she has children would eliminate 90% of the women out there....
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 8/31/2008 8:03:07 PM | | I dont think i would, maybe its my age, but the idea of being in a relationship and then instantly having a decent sized family is a little intimidating. I dont know why, but 1 or 2 children does not present nearly as much of a "threat"or intimidation factor as 3 or more chldren does. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 9/1/2008 9:53:10 AM | I understand what you are going through. I was married for 14 years, have been divorced for two...I have four children, 15, 13, 10 and 8. What bothers me is when a man expects me to accept his children, but has a hard time accepting mine. I am not looking for a father figure for them; their dad is very involved in their lives! On the other hand, if this man is going to be in my life, he will be in theirs as well! GRRRR! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 9/1/2008 7:21:35 PM | I think it depends on the circumstances, not the number of kids.
i mean if a woman has 3 kids with 3 different fathers, then yes most guys might be a bit cautious about it.
But iof the girl has kids and was married or in a longterm relationship with someone or whatever, that is different. I personally wouldn't have a problem with it whatsoever.
Many men are not honest with women and just try to get some, thus ruining things for genuine decent men like myself. So guys such as me get looked at like were just "showing a front" or something like that when that isn't the case at all. There are actually a few decent genuine men out there ladies!
good luck to all of you, and I respect all you single mothers who work hard to provide for your children! | |
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