| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:18:22 PM |
Why would a man want a woman with another guy's three kids? The same reason a woman just might be ok with dating a man with 3 kids, genius. 
Just because you and I don't want 'em doesn't mean nobody else does. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/22/2008 4:23:21 PM | My take....
I have 3 kids aged 10, 8 and 6. I met a man here on POF about a year ago whom I thought was really interested in me, I was definately into him. We dated for about 3 months. He had 3 kids of his own and for all intents and purposes it went really well. Scary well. But in the end I believe that he just wasn't as attracted to me because I was at that time a few pounds overweight.
I think if you're going to date and you have 3 kids, you'd better be better than most of the women on here without kids. Skinny, sexy, rocket scientist, a woman who knows how to fix her own house, funny, easy-going, independent and self-supporting. And it wouldn't hurt if you were the next "post-it" note inventor. Or Sports Illustrated swim suit model.
I have enough money to support a partner who doesn't work... yet... I have lots of trouble getting a man to commit. I think it's the fact that I have 3 kids and I'm not a swim-suit model. I can guarantee that if Christie Brinkley walked on the scene here, she'd have no trouble finding a boyfriend... sorry men... but you really are more interested in a really smokin' body than anything else.
I've dated more than my share of guys willing to sleep with me... sure they'll sleep with me... but more than that? Not really. It's funny really, it's almost like they reserve it as a trump card once you have slept with them... "gee now that I think about it... 3 kids is an awful lot" While I agree with most posters here, children are a big responsibility, I also think it's unfair for a man who isn't sure... to get too involved with a woman who has kids. Sure he may not know until he is there, but he already knows... On a first date I point blank asked a guy if he was worried about dating a woman with 3 kids... he said "he'd worry about that later." I never went out with him again.
I've only introduced two men to my kids... the first one was a lesson, the second is a friend.
That being said, yes there are men out there who will take on the challenge but I have found that they are well over 15 years my senior. Frankly, I'm not looking for that. So I'm not giving up entirely... but I'm not holding out any hope either... just watch out guys... when I turn 50... I'll be the one to catch. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/22/2008 9:54:38 PM | | well of course a man would. I have seven total, try gettin a date with that number, LOL. But two live with me. But yes most men have cildren of their own, they may not live with them, but they do have children and wil date a woman that has children. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/23/2008 12:23:37 AM | no i wouldnt date a woman with 3kids already i would pass ity by dont need the hassles and the dramas and i prefer my woman with out kids the realtionship wouldnot survive course of diffrences and a lot of woman on here dont plan on having more kids and alot of guys out there want a family of there own down track and if the woman does not want to have kids and if the bloke hasnt got kids of his own and want to plan on having a family of his own i would say no the realtionship would not survive maybe single mothers and single fathers should date has they have the same common sorry no offence  | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/23/2008 12:28:31 AM | | no i wouldnt date a woman with 3kids already i would pass ity by dont need the hassles and the dramas and i prefer my woman with out kids the realtionship wouldnot survive course of diffrences and a lot of woman on here dont plan on having more kids and alot of guys out there want a family of there own down track and if the woman does not want to have kids and if the bloke hasnt got kids of his own and want to plan on having a family of his own i would say no the realtionship would not survive maybe single mothers and single fathers should date has they have the same common sorry no offence woman say on here they arent looking for daddy for there kids at least 90 percent woman on here would expect to father there children ive date a single mother before and will never again in my life and never im happy cause you arent tied down and you can freely do what ever you want | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/23/2008 2:21:22 AM |
sorry men... but you really are more interested in a really smokin' body than anything else.
I wonder why do you think it's a bad thing. And anyway, if you "know that men are more interested in a really smokin' body", why aren't you working in becoming one? After all, you only can change one person: yourself.
That being said, yes there are men out there who will take on the challenge but I have found that they are well over 15 years my senior. Frankly, I'm not looking for that.
So, why is not wrong for you to have preferences? And yes, there are younger men who will take on the challenge. But to do it, the reward must be worthy enough. And it's men who decide the worth. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/23/2008 2:27:48 AM | I have 3 kids aged 10, 8 and 6. I met a man here on POF about a year ago whom I thought was really interested in me, I was definately into him. We dated for about 3 months. He had 3 kids of his own and for all intents and purposes it went really well. Scary well. But in the end I believe that he just wasn't as attracted to me because I was at that time a few pounds overweight.
I think if you're going to date and you have 3 kids, you'd better be better than most of the women on here without kids. Skinny, sexy, rocket scientist, a woman who knows how to fix her own house, funny, easy-going, independent and self-supporting. And it wouldn't hurt if you were the next "post-it" note inventor. Or Sports Illustrated swim suit model.
I have enough money to support a partner who doesn't work... yet... I have lots of trouble getting a man to commit. I think it's the fact that I have 3 kids and I'm not a swim-suit model. I can guarantee that if Christie Brinkley walked on the scene here, she'd have no trouble finding a boyfriend... sorry men... but you really are more interested in a really smokin' body than anything else.
I've dated more than my share of guys willing to sleep with me... sure they'll sleep with me... but more than that? Not really. It's funny really, it's almost like they reserve it as a trump card once you have slept with them... "gee now that I think about it... 3 kids is an awful lot" While I agree with most posters here, children are a big responsibility, I also think it's unfair for a man who isn't sure... to get too involved with a woman who has kids. Sure he may not know until he is there, but he already knows... On a first date I point blank asked a guy if he was worried about dating a woman with 3 kids... he said "he'd worry about that later." I never went out with him again.
I've only introduced two men to my kids... the first one was a lesson, the second is a friend.
That being said, yes there are men out there who will take on the challenge but I have found that they are well over 15 years my senior. Frankly, I'm not looking for that. So I'm not giving up entirely... but I'm not holding out any hope either... just watch out guys... when I turn 50... I'll be the one to catch.
Fem, what an outstanding post. If anyone near your age with three children can find a good man to marry, you can do it. Sure it might help a little if you would lose three pounds and possibly as many as five pounds. However, you are not overweight. Further, you have intelligence, pretty hair, a lovely smile that should attract most guys, and a symmetrical face which is a requirement for good looks and a strong indicator of good health and good genes.
I do want to point out that our tendency is to date the most desirable men can date and, since men date down for sex but don't marry down, they are not the ones that will marry us. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/25/2008 4:13:14 PM | | Sorry to hear you that you had a bad ending to a 15 year relationship and can only hope things getting better for you christianmom. But I am here to tell you that yes there are real good men who would date a woman with three kids and I know because I have dated someone who had four kids. So don't worry you will find someone but remember evrything takes time so just have some patience and before you know it you will be dating. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/26/2008 11:27:27 AM | You know i have wondered that many times myself..... If you find someone that will I will most certianly like to mark it down. I have been single for five years and have found many that would like to use me, but when it comes down to it that is really all they want. My advice is to quit looking that is when they come out of the woodwork...... Good luck and remember you dont need a man for anything count on yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/27/2008 7:30:36 AM | yes why not? ihave 3 daughters the i love very much and cant seem to get a date myself
if i connected with the person then that means i care and if i care then its the whole deal only a selfish jerk would ask diffrent dont lose faith theres good people out there!! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/27/2008 7:33:48 AM | | Hmmm...The old double standard. I am a single dad with two children. One lives with me and has for most of her life. I am so proud to havge raised her I have found that women too have a hard time (some women) dating a man with kids. I Have no problem with it and actually would prefer to find a woman with kids so that our common areas are close. I have been seeing a women for the past couple of weeks with three children and she is a wonderful woman. I Have not met her kids yet nor has she met mine. It is safer to make sure that you are both interested in each other first before you bring the kids slowly into it. I would welcome a quality woman with kids into my life.....because alot of the women or men without kids don't know how much your kids mean to you.Best of luck . | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 12/30/2008 12:51:51 PM | ok christianmom, firstly im single with no children the later not by choice.
the answer to your question for me is YES i would date a women with 3 plus kids and in time if relations went further treat the children as part of my family | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/5/2009 11:53:09 AM | Well, I have to say that I'm very pleased and relieved to another side to the tale.
I also have 3 kids and totally agree that if a man falls in love with a woman, the amount of children she has shouldn't make a difference. He has to be at a place within himself to want and accept that it is a package deal and be willing to give it 1oo%.
but it's also a 2-way street, both parties have to be willing to make changes and compromise, and have patience with each other and the children. These changes will also effect the children a great deal and they are somewhat left out of the loop.
But all in all, if either party feels that the situation isn't right, then by all means let those feeling be known and take it from there. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/5/2009 1:54:46 PM | It's ironic since in here it sounds like many people say a guy won't be interested in a single mother with kids (I'm another one; have three teenagers that are with me full time but am just starting to date so don't know firsthand yet if it's too scary or not). And in another there was a bunch of guys saying women haven't been interested in a single father with kids.
How is it so hard for those of us single moms with kids and single dads with kids that are expressing the same frustrations about experiences with the opposite gender to somehow run into each other? | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/5/2009 8:17:50 PM |  I know I would... thier are some men out thier that are looking for a stable relationship. Its all a package deal. And if the person does't want or take it. Then you never dated a real man. NOW THATS THE TRUTH. your friend larry. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/6/2009 6:14:28 AM | Haha... GO LARRY!
I have never really had issues with men not wanting to date a woman with three kiddos... I have twins and a three year old.
If someone is having issues finding a relationship because they have children, maybe they need to take a step back and think about the type of person they are going after. I think it's really sexy when a guy loves kids. They do exist! | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/6/2009 7:54:25 AM | | Yes we have and do. I know a few friends that can't have kids, so a woman with children already is a blessing for them. Take your time when God is ready he will give you what you need. Not what you wsant and when you want it. Wait on him. | |
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| heres a mans point of view
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:19:48 PM | | honestly one of the big things i look for on a profile is kids i have three of my own 2 of which live w/ me full time if she has kids it's better for me b/c at least she knows where i am coming from w/ differnt things | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/6/2009 4:17:43 PM | heck try being my age(51) with young children (10+12)and one is a special needs child
i be happy just to come home and see a email
but i do belive when the time is right there will be someone out there
i just try to do the best i can do for today
i try to rember this plaque i have hanging on my wall
YESTERDAY...TODAY...AND TOMOROW
THERE ARE TWO DAYS IN EVERY WEEK ABOUT WHICH WE SHOULD
NOT WORRY ,TWO DAYS WHICH SHOULD BE KEPOT FREE FROM
FEAR AND APPREHENSION
ONE OF THESE DAYS IS YESTERDAY WITH ITS MISTAKES AND CARES,
ITS FAULTS AND BLUNDERS, ITS ACHES AND PAINS. YESTERDAY
HAS PASSED FOREVER BEYOUND OUR CONTROL
ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD CANNOT BRING BACK YESTERDAY.
WE CANNOT UNDO A SINGLE ACT WE PERFORMED; WE CANNOT ERASE A SINGLE WORD WE SAID .YESTERDAY IS GONE
THE OTHER DAYWE SHOULD NOT WOORY IS TOMORROW WITH ITS POSSIBLE ADVERSITIES,ITS BURDENS, ITS LARGE PROMISE AND POOR PERFORMANCE. TOMORROW IS BEYOND OUR IMMEDIATE CONTROL.
TOMORROW"S SUN WILL RISE,EITHER IN SPLRENDOR OR BEHIND A MASK OF CLOUDS BUT IT WILL RISE.UNTIL IT DOES, WE HAVE NO STAKE IN TOMORROW FOR IT IS YET UNBORN .
THIS LEAVES ONLY ONE DAY TODAY. ANY MAN CAN FIGHT THE BATTLES OF JUST ONE DAY ;IT IS ONLY WHEN YOU OR I ADD THE BURDENS OF THOSE TWO AWFUL ETERNITIES YESTERDAY AND TOMORROW THAT WE BREAK DOWN.
IT IS NOT THE EXPERIENCE OF TODAY THAT DRIVES MEN MAD ITS IS REMORSE OR BITTERNESS FOR SOMETHING WHICH HAPPENED YESTERDAY AND THE DREAD OF WHAT TOMORROW MAY BRING .
LETS US THEREFORE,LIVE BUT ONE DAY AT A TIME
ANONYMOUS
dan | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/6/2009 4:38:22 PM | | Yes Some of us would. I came from a relationship that she no longer wanted. When we me she had 3 kids and I had 1 we became close and we had twins. We were together for 6 1/2 years and she kicked me out. I love my kids and I will not put them in the middle of our problems. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/6/2009 11:38:20 PM |
YESTERDAY...TODAY...AND TOMOROW
THERE ARE TWO DAYS IN EVERY WEEK ABOUT WHICH WE SHOULD
NOT WORRY ,TWO DAYS WHICH SHOULD BE KEPOT FREE FROM
FEAR AND APPREHENSION
ONE OF THESE DAYS IS YESTERDAY WITH ITS MISTAKES AND CARES,
ITS FAULTS AND BLUNDERS, ITS ACHES AND PAINS. YESTERDAY
HAS PASSED FOREVER BEYOUND OUR CONTROL
ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD CANNOT BRING BACK YESTERDAY.
WE CANNOT UNDO A SINGLE ACT WE PERFORMED; WE CANNOT ERASE A SINGLE WORD WE SAID .YESTERDAY IS GONE
THE OTHER DAYWE SHOULD NOT WOORY IS TOMORROW WITH ITS POSSIBLE ADVERSITIES,ITS BURDENS, ITS LARGE PROMISE AND POOR PERFORMANCE. TOMORROW IS BEYOND OUR IMMEDIATE CONTROL.
TOMORROW"S SUN WILL RISE,EITHER IN SPLRENDOR OR BEHIND A MASK OF CLOUDS BUT IT WILL RISE.UNTIL IT DOES, WE HAVE NO STAKE IN TOMORROW FOR IT IS YET UNBORN .
THIS LEAVES ONLY ONE DAY TODAY. ANY MAN CAN FIGHT THE BATTLES OF JUST ONE DAY ;IT IS ONLY WHEN YOU OR I ADD THE BURDENS OF THOSE TWO AWFUL ETERNITIES YESTERDAY AND TOMORROW THAT WE BREAK DOWN.
IT IS NOT THE EXPERIENCE OF TODAY THAT DRIVES MEN MAD ITS IS REMORSE OR BITTERNESS FOR SOMETHING WHICH HAPPENED YESTERDAY AND THE DREAD OF WHAT TOMORROW MAY BRING .
LETS US THEREFORE,LIVE BUT ONE DAY AT A TIME
ANONYMOUS
I absolutely positively love this...
thank you for posting it. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/7/2009 3:04:04 PM | Kids are not baggage but a blessing!!. Any man who would not consider dating a woman with 3 kids is not the kind of man that woman would want to be with anyway!!
Peoples lives move in all sorts of directions..you need to find one that moves in a similar direction to your own.
I have not found that my 3 children have been much of a deterrent for men wanting to date me or considering a long term relationship. So stand tall, confident and proud of yourself and your kids and the right man will find his way to you. | |
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| Would a man seriously date a woman with three kids
Posted: 1/7/2009 5:08:11 PM | I have seen this argument on here a lot. Why don't men/women date others with 1, 2, 3+ kids? Well, it is pretty simple. Some people are going to date others with a child/children. Some aren't ready/don't desire that. Here are my thoughts:
1) Just because a man won't date a woman with children doesn't make him a loser. Maybe he knows he is not ready for this type of responsibility. Maybe he really wants to have a first child with a woman. Maybe he wants to be able to go out-of-town at a moment's notice for weekend trips and knows single moms often can't do this. Maybe he wants to see a woman several nights a week, and he knows single moms often can't do this. Heck, maybe he really doesn't like kids that much. That doesn't make him a loser!
2) People have the right to date/not date anyone they want to! If a man wants a supermodel and can find one, then by all means, he can go for one. If a man only wants to date a college-educated woman, then that is okay. No one has the RIGHT to tell someone else who he/she should date.
3) Some men may have already raised children and not want to help raise more. For this reason, they may decide to not get involved with women with kids. They have the RIGHT to not get involved with a woman with kids.
4) I constantly hear that "any man who would not consider dating a woman with X kids is not the kind of man I would want to be with anyway." What, because the guy is an instant loser or bad man for not going out with you? People have different goals in life, and that is okay.
5) Some men will date women with children. Go for those types. Stop wasting energy on those who would rather not.
All I have said here goes for women who won't date men with kids. Some people with children just can't understand other people not wanting the same. Not everyone wants children. It doesn't make them bad, need to grow up, losers or anything like that! | |
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