| are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 1/4/2005 5:04:14 PM | | I've been going out for almost 3 yrs now and I've only encountered 1 women that's had a problem so, I stopped seeing her. There is no me without my kids. The other women I went out with were single, had kids, wanted kids or didn't care. What ever you do don't introduce your kids to every women you date or go out with. I learned that the hard way. My son started to like a women a dated for about 3 months. That's where I messed up. I do have friends that have kids but, I only take my kids along if they have their kids and it has to be a kids friendly enviroment. Even if I like this person I DO NOT show any positive feeling or gestures toward her. That can be done later or a different day when I don't have my kids. | |
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| are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 1/6/2005 5:11:09 PM | | I'm 41, have four kids ages 16, 8, 6, 4. I have found women my age don't want to date me partially because they don't want to "raise" my kids, even though I've been doing it basically by myself the past four years and am not looking for a second mom. Women my age are counting the days until they are free. Women younger than I have kids of similar age, which they see an unmanageable for similar reasons. And the ones without kids don;t want to get involved for similar reasons. I did meet someone who was incapable of having children. But a mutual friend told me she gets along great with guys' kids for a while, then after she gets serious, she starts to become jealous of the kids and it gets ugly. I ran away form her like a sissy boy! | |
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| are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 1/6/2005 6:53:34 PM | | I totally agree with your post racinnraising. Some men dont understand why they are not invited to my home right away. I tell them its becasue of my kids and there is no need to meet them unless I feel i want to continue dating them. I dont want my kids to get attached to anyone when I know it can break off shortly after. | |
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| are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 1/11/2005 4:54:18 PM | | after the first time I messed up I never brought anyone around my kids unless it was kid friendly. For instance, A movie with a friend and her daughter. I just don't want my kids to think I'm a hoe because I'm not. For a while I dated alot. Don't really anymore. kind of got tired of meeting all the wrong ones. I still hang out with some women and my kids know that their only friends. I don't kiss them or hold their hands. I do hug but they know that it's a friendly gesture and not anything else. Now I only do things with my kids and friends that are fun. I don't invite them to the house or anything that is closely family related. My day with my kids are exactly that, days with my kids. I have joint custody of my kids. I get 3 to 4 days a week with them. Alot of times I get more days with my son because my ex can't handle him. I just wish I could get more days with my daughter. I really wish I had full custody of both of them. If I were to date someone they would have to understand that my days with my kids are my days with my kids. She would have to understand that it's not that I don't want to spend time with her it's just that I don't want my kids getting attached. If we were to pursue a relationship after a good amount of time I would then allow her to get know my kids. | |
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| are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 1/12/2005 4:34:45 PM | | My daughter is 20 mo right, the last two women ive been "with" HATED the fack taht she comes first no matter what.. its funny cuz when i meet someone i think is nice or whatever, i tell them i have a baby girl. their response : Oh thats soo great!@!!... a week or two later its not the case.. i hate liars. grrr | |
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| Are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 1/13/2005 6:54:28 AM | As a woman, in my opinion I wouldn't have a problem dating a guy with kids. Because its not the kids that we have the problem with. Its the mother of the child(ren). Most of them haven't giving up hope that they may get back into a relationship with the father. And sometimes the men don't know how to control the mother of there kids. And it make it very difficult to be in a relationship with a man when you constantly have that outside drama going on!!!
The next most important thing though is to find someone who likes kids. Never hide that type of information from someone. If they can't accept the fact that you're a single parent, you don't want them in your life or your childs life.
I'll say about 70% of the women on this sight or single parents themselves. | |
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| are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 1/13/2005 1:06:07 PM | Well I say never ever close the door on yourself that way....Open all doors and leave them open...you are outthere looking some girls you are 21 will most likely not want to get involved with a guy with kids nor maybe at 50 yr old woman but be proud of yourself and your life and be positive that boy is part of you and he will feel how insecure you are...Stand strong and you will attract all kinds of women....have no regrets in life...as you learn as you go along and when you are done learning - it will be all over.
BE CONFIDENT and bring other woman in your son life it will be good for him but do not sleep around and be sleazy but have a few girl as friends is the best way to go. and just say Dad is dating and respecting these ladies for the moment until the right one comes along.
It is like death. when you lose a partner after they have gone....do you end your life with them no - you will morn and get right back into the game....then have funnnnnnnnnnnnnn with it.... | |
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| are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 1/18/2005 10:55:45 AM | Nah , to be honest I'm not interesting in dating men with kids. I dont think there is a standard answer for this question. Some women dont mind. I do.
I have kids of my own and don't really want to put up with anyone else's ( or their ex's) so I just don't date men with kids :)
No offense to them! | |
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Posted: 2/13/2005 9:26:59 PM | | im ok dating men with kids i love kids but i cant have any of my own wich is sad i have troubles having babies of my own . but ya a guy with kids is awsome so nott all women are afraid to date a man with his own children so if you want email me and talk to me i dont mind | |
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Posted: 2/15/2005 11:46:07 PM | | KEEPING STEP I disagree I am a single father of a five year old son, I am the custodial parent and Joseph does mean everything to me but there is plenty of room and love for an aditional member of our family, as i am sure there would be in any single fathers life. Just because a mans child is number one to him does not mean that a woman could not also be number one, its just two different types of number one is all one is parental the other is spousal etc. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2005 11:50:31 PM | | ZOOMY i think you should make it very clear that your a father maybe it will weed out the losers and the ones who stick around will be for real potential candidates for a future with you and your child. Hell Shout it from the roof tops maybe it will solve some heart ache later.lol | |
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Posted: 2/16/2005 12:23:23 AM | In my opinion, from experience, I have found that women say that they are ok with the kid thing but they dont really mean it!! I dont believe the whole, well there is an ex that thinks that there might be a chance to get back. Not in my case. My ex wife is happy with her boyfriend of about 3 years and there is talk that they are going to get married soon.
As for hiding the fact that you have kids, that is just insane!! Whats more important to you, getting laid or your kids?? That shouldnt even be a question! What are you going to do hide it from them until things are going great and then spring it on them? Whatever, she will probably leave you just because you lied to her!!
When I meet someone that I am interested in or I think is interested in me, the first words out of my mouth are that I have 2 kids!! Then (9 times out of 10) I watch them walk away! I am cool with that though because I cant change the fact that I have kids and I shouldnt have to!! If someone doesnt want to be with you because you have kids, then it is their loss, not yours. Life is too short to pretend, and play games, If you cant meet someone who is ok with you having children, WHO CARES!!, I have been single now for a while and if I dont meet someone, ever, then so be it, atleast I have my children and my beliefs intact!!!
Children are more important then anything in this world, once you realize that, nothing else matters..... Rob | |
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Posted: 2/16/2005 12:46:01 AM | quoting princess313
And sometimes the men don't know how to control the mother of there kids.
That's a good thing! Who wants to be controlled... especially by their ex???? | |
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Posted: 2/19/2005 1:49:22 PM | i wouldn't mind being with a single dad that has 1 or 2 kids , i,m a single mom myself with 2 wonderful tots that means more than life too me, a single father should be much more considerant than a single guy w/o kids .. cause you know a single father w/ kids are much more settled and careing than that of a single guy w/o kids .. but also u gotta worry about the single father type that uses's kids to get thier way and end up being a big CHAOS . but i prefer single fathers over singles w/o kids any time ...both are great as long as they understand kids are first ,lovers times are second ..always that way with me .. hit me up if any of ya wanna chat and whatever...  | |
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Posted: 2/22/2005 5:48:54 AM | | What's better than a man with children ladies? Obviously he's devoted, and commited...two things essential to any relationship...the real question is this...is he willing to share them with me? Nothing worse than a man who isolates his children, and seperates the two relationships. If he's interested in me, he should trust that I am also good enough for his children, of course, only after a period of time....as I understand the whole concept of "feeling a person out first". I myself, am a single mom of 2 teen girls, and I would NOT date any man who didn't also want to participate in their lives as well...as we are a family already...just a thought. | |
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Posted: 2/22/2005 7:21:28 AM | | Being a single mom to 1 child, and having had my tubes tied last year, I welcome a man with child/children. I think that it would enhance my life, and I have alot to give in a relationship, more than enough love to go around. However, as in previous posts, I would hesitate to get involved witha man who is ready to thrust his kids into our relationship right away. I know myself, I am protective when it comes to my own son, I would hope that any singel dad out there be the same. I actually had a relationship go down the toilet because of my hesitation to involve my son, he felt that I wasn't allowing him the opportunity to show what kind of role model he could become for my child. I said that I didn't because I won't introduce my son unless I see a glimmer for the future? Maybe I was wrong but I did what was right and he (the man) is no longer a part of my life..child always comes first, for Moms and Dads... | |
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Posted: 2/22/2005 7:16:14 PM | | Hi Zoomy! I dont mind dateing a guy with kids, what kind of dad he is and how well he takes care of them, and how hard he tires to be peaceful wtih their mom tells me a lot about him. You should feel comfortable enough with a girl to mention your son and how much he means to you. What woman wouldnt respect that, and find that something she could love about you? If this scares her away, its probably for the best. Im sure there are girls out there who dont want to date guys with kids, and thats a respectful decision. You should let her know about your son and how you feel about him upfront. Why waste your time with a girl that isnt interested in a guy with kids? | |
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| are women ok with dating men with kids
Posted: 2/24/2005 5:23:08 PM | | OK OK I see lot of women in here saying they would like to be with a single dad but where are you none of you have contacted me and on the other hand I have see lots of single mothers come up with the same opinion that they wouldn't date a single dad becouse of the ex. what is that all about you expect a guy to except you and your child(ren) but you can't except his that is just wrong!!!!!! Im a single dad of 3 wonderful kids and with my three I wouldn't have to think about it if I found someone with children and I connected with her I wouldn't be going anywheres. I beleive you can't have one set of standreds for the one you want to date and another for yourself!!!! I also beleive that when a relationship get to a serious point you have to except the children but just because a person has children doesn't mean that there is something wrong it just means that they have more love to share!!! so in closing all you women out there that don't mind that men are single parents PLEASE contact us we need the push and the ones that say they wont date us well all I can say is that your the oone loosing out not only on a great guy but so much more!! oh by the way you can see all the profiles of single dads by clicking on there name on the left just thought I would remind you of that! | |
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Posted: 3/8/2005 10:20:52 PM | | Cant really group all women in one group.... some dont mind , some do. Im sure each has their reasons for feeling the way they do. Probably the same way if the roles were reversed. I just try and be upfront as possible and all thought my ex lives cross country my kids have a mom and dont really need another, But they are always looking for really cool people who im sure will have almost as big as an impact on their life. If she struggles with that than that her choice.. kids r their cant pretend they arent ( although on the right days !!) | |
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Posted: 3/11/2005 10:26:31 PM | | i would date a man with children more kid`s for my girl`s to taunt ...lol j/k i love kid`s so yes i would date a man with children go to the park a movie ect ...kimber | |
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