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| | Polyandry or Polyamory - Would you be in it ?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | most species nearly all are not mono, dna tech has proven that. species long thought mono have been proven to b poly. its genetic common sense in survival of ones dna, humans r no diff, ive told u v truth, if u dont beleive do ur own research n thinking, im not gona spoon feed ya
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Posted: 6/9/2012 9:22:01 PM |
A woman needs multiple men for different purposes.
In my case
1 - for sailing
2 - for home handyman
3 - for dancing
4 - house cleaning and cooking
5 - for cooking
6 - for conversation
7 - for sex and romance
So I would need a minimum of 7. Any takers?
So I would be number 8? | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 2:17:10 AM |
Also there would have been no respite from being confronted with multiple wives who had their PMS one after the other
You wouldn't have this problem. In time, their periods would synchronize to the cycle of the dominant female. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 12:25:29 PM | I was in a reltionship with a guy for 5 years. he introduced me to swinging as he told me that he was a swinger. I decided to try it out with him , freaked out a few times but gradually got used to it.
Once i was comfortable with the swinging ( we always stayed together in the same room during swinging btw ) but once i was comfortable with the swinging things seemed to change ,
He started to loose interest in it.
I wasn't sure why but put it down to "growing up".
Occasionally he'd mentioned this Polyogamy thing and told me that he'd been to a meeting of people in the local area who were Poly.
Maybe he was trying to tell me something then but didn't know how to.
He started saying that he wanted Fri nights to himself to either pick up or spend some time alone.
I agreed as that's what he wanted.
Anyway, 2 days before christmas just gone i found out that he'd been seeing another woman who lived only minutes from his house.
I then realised why he'd lost interest in the swinging.
I also realized why he wanted Fri nights to himself.
because apparently she knew about me and thought it unfair that he wasn't having her over at his house but he'd have me over.
Anyway,
Totally blown away and devistated as you can imagine, i had a massive breakdown.
Funny enough, she wanted to meet me.
He told me that he'd told her that she'd really like me and that i was alot like her.
So i met her and she said that she was shocked when she saw me as that he told her that i resembled an OOmpa Lumpa . I'm not really sure what all that was about.
I can only guess that he was referring to me being short and chubby, but OOmpa Lumpas are midgets that resemble people with Downs syndrome.
I asked him why he never told me about her as i was used to him having the odd fling, picking up women online with a single profile of a man looking for a long term relationship.
We had a fantastic friendship. We were best of friends and our sex life was out of this world.
We told one another everything and helped eachother with as much as we could.
There were even a few times that i looked after his kids while he picked up.
What i questioned was , if she was just a fling like the others, why was he so afraid to tell me bout her?
When we first talked about her, he told me that she was just a root.
He said that she kept asking him around quite often and him being as highly sexed as he is wouldn't say no to a root. Pardon the pun.
He tried to convince me that i was the one who he is in love with and only 3 weeks ago in a text message he says he's still in love with me.
And that he only likes her,
He said he still sees her and sleeps with her but tries to put the pain of loosing me out of his mind.
I asked him how he was feeling, he said very sad.
I asked why and he said " because you're gone"
The unfortunate part about all this is , is that his dishonesty did so uch damage. Over the time he was having the affair , she told me that he asked her to lie and tell me that they had only met once and slepped together once. He has admitted to saying that BTW.
As i was saying, the unfortunate part to his dishonesty and asking her to lie to me for him has destroyed not just a relationship, but a friendship. And really, do you think she cares that he hurts over that? I don't think she gives a hoot as she was terribly jealous of our relationship. Of th time we'd spent together , the things we shared and how i was involved with his children and family. But what did she expect? We'd been together for 5 years and shared everything. But mostly, we were the best of friends.
Did she really think it fair or expect to be treated equally to the woman that he'd spent the last 5 years of his life with?
I trusted him with my life, my kids, my secrets ( which he shared some of them with her which i later found out)
I now don't know what he guy is all about anymore,
I don't know if i ever really knew him.
In his last lot of texs where he said he is still in love with me, he said that he doesn't trust ANY women.
You see, i was introduced to this Poly idea through Dishonesty,
She knew about me before i knew about her , but he said that he wasn't really worried about her reaction to knowing about me because he wasn't worried about loosing her, but loosing me on the other hand, he said terrified him.
I think in a way he kind of wanted out of the "thing" with her as she was getting rather demanding about him coming to see her and also, i think he was struggling because he was living a big lie.
A lie that if it came out would turn him into an even lonlier man than ever before.
Because as he explained to me, he'd never been in love with his best friend before.
He'd been married, had a few gfs, but had never been in love with his best friend>
And neither had i ! I loved it and thought how lucky we were to have that.
It's not something that you come across everyday.
He said that when he's alone at night and not with her, that he has trouble sleeping and that he's now on anti depressant drugs to help him get through the day.
But, sometimes i wonder, and i wish i didn't feel this way but naturally i do. I wonder if he is just telling me what he thinks i want to hear. And maybe now that i'm out of the picture, is he telling her what he thinks she wants to hear?
He doesn't have any male friends.The "one" that he does have doesn't seem to have time for him anymore these days.
I think that if he were to get to know other guys and do guy things with them on the occasion tht he'd be a much happier man and he'd be able to understand himself more and he'd know what it is that he truly wants.
He says to me that he wants both, me and her , but why is he so devistated about loosing me, but he wouldn't be if he lost her? Does he feel that she might be holding something over him that could cause him to have neither of us. I know that he has criticized me about a few things to her. he told me that it was the mood he was in at the time and that he needed to vent, but i think that he was saying things about me to her so that she felt that he wanted her and not me.
This is the piece that is very hard to talk about and my eyes are filling with tears and my bottom lip is gripping onto my top lip with pain.
I've had to leave the guy that i love, because i love him.
I feel that with me not around , that he doesn't have to make up any lies anymore.
And that he doesn't have to stress as much anymore.
I did it for him, not for me.
I had to.
I was up against a woman who put on an innocent face and an innocent personality for him. And she probably still does. I knew when i met her that there was something creepy and weird about her. i could feel it. You know when you just get those feelings about people? She was and still is insanely jealous of what he and i had ( and in spirit still do have) there's nothing she can do to make him not love me anymore. She can try as many different positions and kinky fetishes as she likes. she can bake as many cakes and dinners as she likes, but she can never change anything. And i know him , and the more she tries to impress him, the more annoyed he will get. he doesn't like YES people. I'm not a yes person. I am who i am and he said that's who he misses.
I have to have surgery in a month ( girly parts) and he said , no matter what i wake up with or without, i'll still be the same old ange and that he'd have me back anytime i wanted.
But is this so that he doesn't feel rejection ( because i walked away)
He doesn't like rejection. But you see, when it was just us, he was happy. Even while he was cheating and i didn't know, he was still happy to a point. But now he's miserable. he barely showers or shaves. He sleeps in his clothing. Where s he used to be so particular about his looks and self cleanliness. If he loved her he'd be happy , but he's not. And they say that time heals all wounds ( well that's what she is telling him to remind himself of) she says to him that in time it will become easier and he'll forget about me, but i know he wont. I'm not putting tickets on me, i'm discribing the closeness we had. It was inside us. When we kissed , we nibbled one another lips with affection . What we had was the most beautiful thing. She made out to him that she accepted me being around in his life because i am such a big part of it, but he and i both know deep down that she didn't and doesn't want me there. I'm smart, quick witted, my passions for the things i love in my life are strong true and real, and even though he doesn't like pets, he still appreciated my knowledge about animals and my passion to get into veterinary. Where i am now actually. My gfs, kids and my course are the only things that are keeping me sane. I need to love , and i love caring and i love what i love and it will never go. And i know that his love for me will never go. he told me only a few weeks ago. I've changed my number and i use a different email now as this whole thing is just so painful , for both of us. he waits everyday for a te, or an email. he told me that he does. he said that when he hears one come thru, his heart jumps out of his chest and he is to scared to look , because he might get to excited or he might also be disappointed if it's not me. This is all out of my hands. And it's all in his. I've had to walk away because the pain in both of us is just to great. I know that if he saw me across waves in the ocean, that he'd swim his heart out to get to me ( if she wasn't there watching him) i can't stop this thing that she has over him, only he can. It's not my buisness, it's his.
I guess in this whole great big massive sad story of love and loss, what i am trying to say is, Poly only works if it's not about love. if it's just about sex and friends, then maybe it might. But when you're in love with someone Poly wont work. Which just shows that love is stronger than Poly. Thankyou for reading my post. I appoligise if it got a bit full on. man, i'm sobbing . I'm trying to stop my tears buy they are these big fat drops that are just faling out of the crrners of my eyes and rolling down my face all over my PJ top. When poly is introduced into the lives of a couple who are in love, it just devastates . It hurts and makes hapy people so bloody heart broken.
Thanks again fro reading my post, and for those of you who are in love and i mean, totally in love, poly aint gonna work. It will cut you both into pieces and leave you curled up in a corner of our bedroom wondering what the hell are we going to do to fix this.
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Posted: 7/28/2012 3:16:07 PM | | ame profile to pick up single women and i've asked him if he is going to tell them that he is poly and that he has a gf ( the other woman) and he said if he meets someone and they get along well that he will tell her when he feels the time is right. I don't think this is very fair on a girl who gets feelings for him , to discover that he is poly ( unless of corse she is too ) I said he really should make up an honest , true profile of what he is looking for . AS i'm sure there would be some girls out there that are into poly, maybe not many but surely there would be. His gf he has now told me a few times that she isn't really into it but she'll try it. She didn't have to try very hard because she knew i'd leave because of how much it hurt me. Is there any rules here about advertizing falsely ? I don't think it's very fair, that's all. If a person is looking for a poly partner, that's what hey should put on the profile and if they are concerned about their privacy, then they should tell the person that they meet what they are and what they are looking for, Not get into a relationship with somebody and then when the other person has feelings for them, drop the bombshell on them them. I believe that this kind of dishonesty could cause violence, breakdowns, and even suicide. Surely an intelligent person would have thought these things through. It's not really very thoughtful or kind to a person is it. I sat back after writing what i wrote before and went over things in my head again. For a person ( male or female) to hook up on a dating site while that have a partner, spend time with this new person, the person begins to gather feelings for them and then he eventually tells her the truth when he thinks the time is right? To tell you the truth, i don't think he has any intention of telling them at ll. Just like he wasn't gonna tell me ( and i'd been with him for 5 years) I found out myself in my own way and neither of them had any way of denying it. Otherwise they would've. I've rethought about his love for me which he tells me of and after thinking about what i have just said here, i think his love for me was all bullshit. He just wants as many sexual partners as he can get ( as he did when he was with me ) as he says he does need variety. He doesn't seem to have any empathy for women . I remember him telling me that he didn't want to introduce his now gf to his friend( the one who doesn't see him anymore) but he was worried that the friend and his partner may think she's a bit slow, because he thinks she's a bit slow. He hung crap o her kids because they are overweight. And that her daughter had to get the biggest skirt that was in size for her school uniform and she's only in yr 7. He told me that the reason why he doesn't respond about her talking about her Grandaughter because he's really not interested in her Grandaughter. He has a history of upsetting others in the past. Even before he met me. And he hrew a hissy when his ex wife started seeing a guy and he found out, but mind you, he'd been seeing women behind his wives back for years. Including putting his hand in the baby sitters bra and knickers at family day care when he'd go to pick his kids when they were only babies. Maybe i've just learned all this as time has gone along, and the other woman being a tad slow and Naive hasn't caught on. he has made it so that her and i don't ever speak again, i wonder why? because he doesn't want her to work out what he does and all. I take back almost everything i said before. why? because he kept an awful affair going and never even flinched and then asked his gf if she'd lie to me and tell me that they'd only just met and had sex just once. That's not respecting somebody is it? And meeting single women online and not telling them that you are in a relationship and you're poly isn't respectfull either. If he keeps hurting girls, Karma will catch up. As you can see, this guy has confused the shit out of me, and from what he has told me about his gf, they're relationship isn't a bed of roses either. If he keeps this immature, and dishonest way of life up , he will end up being a very lonely old man. And he's almost an old mn now as he is in his 40s. I think he's disturbed , but who a i to say. My gfs that know about what happened say that they to them, it just looks to them like he is greedy and thenks he can just use women for whatever he need them for. Sex and a free childcarer and housekeeper. I think he believes that the world owes him a living, like he is some kind of King or something. And i' so glad i found out, because if i didn't, it's possible that i still may not know.... If i didn't have my proof, it's possible that his gf would've lied to me for him. He is messing with womens heads and hearts. Probably to keep up with his own messed up head . And as for my feelings for her from when i met her, i think she has issues as well. Just not like his. I think they're both mental and that's why a bloody normal aussie chick like me has been so messed up by all this. Because it's so crazy that normal person could comprehend it when they're involved in it, but a psychologist or Dr could work it out in less than seconds. Because they're not emotionally involved. How can a person live like this and have no conscience ? Not feel any empathy for the person and actually play them along until they feel ready that the time is right to tell the truth. I don't think that day would ever come. well look how long he played me along for and he didn't flinch an eye lid. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 3:25:41 PM |
Because it's so crazy that normal person could comprehend it when they're involved in it, but a psychologist or Dr could work it out in less than seconds. Because they're not emotionally involved.
I think that is your answer...
Find a Dr that will give you a referral to speak to a professional -- they will be able to give you the guidance to be able to end it with the man, and coping strategies to stop you from going back or keeping contact with him.
(and please use paragraphs - I am Dyslexic, and that is really hard to read in big blocks of text) | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 4:26:54 PM | to in the second post. I have a Dyslexic son and he has the same issues as well.
My Doc knows all about this and he has said that he is a very selfish man and that unless i am happy being a part of this arrangement i have to get out, asap
I also see a psychologist who says the same thing and she has taught me some coping strategies for this. I have been getting better , ( with coping with this craziness of the man ) just sometimes i get confused again, because there were just so many lies surrounding everything and because i was with him for so long, i find it very difficult to comprehend how a person like that works. Or should i say "How his head works and how it's effected mine "
Do you think it's right to say that he should be honest about it upfront to a person?
I worry about other girls and their heads being messed with as well because i know what it's like.
I've changed my number, and i use a new email now so that in itself was a big step.
When i first started seeing this man , i had an undiagnosed medical issue which involves chronic pain and i wasn't on pain killers. Only off the shelf stuff.
I've now been diagnosed and have had 2 operations and am on proper pain meds,
Theres a part ou can tick when you set up what you're looking for isn't there.
I mean , other relationship, etc.
I have talked to a guy on here who admits in his profile that he is married but is looking for other women to see.
I told him that i will talk to him but i wont meet or skype with him.
He asked why and i told him because i know what it's like to have things going on behind your back and the damage it can do to a person. It's just horrible and very very cruel.
I think the man i was seeing was taking advantage of my medical condition and pretty much had me fooled about how he felt about me,
And what a rude awakening it was when i found out what he was doing.
People like this should be o poly sites looking for somebody or on sex sites.
Not sites where people are genuinely looking for something honest .
People who fool people like he does are just preditors.
And i believe that it should be treated like any other crime.
But they are such good liars because that's what they've always done all their lives.
He is still on here to his day, stating that he is single and looking for a relationship.
And i can pretty much guarantee you that he has hurt other women and messed with their heads.
I don't think it's right that these preditators get away with this. It's just as bad, if not worse than physical abuse. As with physical abuse , the bruises go away and the hair that's been pulled out grows back.
but with this kind of abuse, it's always there and it's gotta be fully proven in a court which would mean that the man or woman would have to admit to what they've been doing.
seriously, i don't know how they can live with themselves, but, i guess it's because they've been born without empathy.
Where as normal people like ourselves have empathy. Most people do
It's the odd balls that don't.
I rememer one night i had run in with his gf and she went to push me so i grabbed her top to protect myself, and when i defended myself, she fakely half fell and let out this fake moan m like she was hurt. I'll never forget the sound she made. it was so fake. I think she wanted me in trouble with the law.
But it didn't work because i didn't hurt her.
I must say though, the fake moan was hilarious. I'll never forget it.
She's a big sook lol
The police told me to keep away from them both as their set up is quite weird and i'm worth more than that.
So i've took their advice and stayed away.
And now i can stand tall and laugh at the man who doesn't like being rejected.
He likes to regect others.
He told me the last time i saw him that hes going to miss my DD cup boobs and he tried to touch them s he said it and i stepped back and said uh uh, sorry. They're not for you to touch anymore.
I also told him that he's not the best looking man in town, that he's getting on now and i've seen men his age and older that are more attractive than he is , and his jaw almost hit the floor,
I don't think he has ever heard a woman say that before in his life.
he thinks he is so good looking and that women want hi, but they don't and he's not anything wonderful to look at and the lying personality makes him look even worse,
God help him if he cheats on this woman he's with now because she will flip. And if he spends time taking a girl out she will loose her marbles .
She might even hurt herself because she's very unstable and her self confidence is not the best, But they're the women he goes for.
The one's who don't believe in themselves and don't believe that have much worth or can get any better | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 5:03:36 PM |
My Doc knows all about this and he has said that he is a very selfish man and that unless i am happy being a part of this arrangement i have to get out, asap
I also see a psychologist who says the same thing
The police told me to keep away from them both as their set up is quite weird and i'm worth more than that.
Three respected members of the community have told you the same thing...
But, until you realise that people treat us the way we allow them to, not a lot is going to change for you.
You don't have to be a victim.
Ignore his messages, or the temptation to tell him how little you care --
Let him and his girlfriend play dysfunctional relationship games amongst themselves --- it is their choice.
It is not your job to protect her, or any other woman from this man. You need to look after yourself and your children and think of him a hard life lesson that you had. Focus on your study, and enjoy your time with your children, and learn to choose a different type of man to form a relationship with.
I have talked to a guy on here who admits in his profile that he is married but is looking for other women to see.
I told him that i will talk to him but i wont meet or skype with him.
That is a good start, as you don't want to meet or skype with him, but personally I think it wasting your time chatting to a man that potentially can't offer you what you are looking for...
Though, I think it may still be a tad too soon for you to be looking for a replacement for the man you are trying to rid. It would be a lot for any new person to take on board... | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 7:54:04 PM | | Im not understanding.You agreed to be a swinger.Does that mean you were bonking other men while he watched?.You did say you both stayed in the same room.You played with fire and are now paying the price.I say grow up and move on.Oh and I would like to hear his side of the story. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 9:18:14 PM | From my (limited) understanding, the thing about swinging is that it is done 'in the open' it is not a secret affair -- all the variety and spice that (a couple?) desire without the underhanded nature of having an affair.
The fact that he was cheating with the other woman is what she finds upsetting,
I don't think it helps anyone to tell them that they are now "paying the price".
She is already hurting --
and seeking therapy,
a little compassion would be kinder. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 9:38:40 PM | | Oh i'm sorry.Profile says she is a Catholic which FYI information is a denomination of Christianity.I have no sympathy for people who do not practice what they claim they are.Or have Christians recently included Polyandry and Polyamory in their commandments. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 3:42:37 AM | And yours says Christian Other ---
how 'wishy-washy' is that...
Are you a Pastafarian? or perhaps a New Age guy?
Either way, what gives you the puritanical right to cast the first stone? | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 4:41:52 AM | Well I don't think Hurts' religion has much to do with it, except perhaps through degrading her self esteem enough to get caught up with a guy like that.
If you ask me, anyone with a dark side of the moon album on their profile is a legend  | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 6:27:24 AM | Yep if you are Non-Religious I suppose that gives you the right to throw permissive stones.
how 'wishy-washy' is that...
That even gives you the right to decribe another person's Religion as wishy-washy. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 9:15:41 PM | Our personal relationships are one of the things we do get a choice about in this life...and if anyone has to be persuaded towards a particular type of relationship then I think emotional pain becomes not just a risk, but an inevitability.
Man oh man...reading this forum sometimes makes me feel even more lucky to have the life I have.
That even gives you the right to decribe another person's Religion as wishy-washy.
Everyone has the right to do that. Thoughts and beliefs are always open to being challenged and debated. Denigrating a belief system is not the same as denigrating a person, even if they take it personally. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 12:37:56 AM | | Oh good because now I can describe Non-Religious people who get married in a church as Charlatans or Bigots.After all they are happy to stand there and get joined in Holy Matrimony in a place of worship before a God they don't even believe in. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 12:49:22 AM | ^^^^ I think the word you are looking for is hypocrite.
They could be a Charlatan or a Bigot as well (we would need more information on them),
but those terms do not describe Non-Religious people who get married in a church. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 1:40:57 AM | I'm still not getting the christian references you're making robertaus, unless you're referring to the brethren and fundamentalist morman cults that still practice polygamy.
Are you saying that means all wishy-washy 'christan-other' and hypocritical 'non-religious' people should stop fighting and start loving? Thats nice. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 3:33:21 AM |
Or have Christians recently included Polyandry and Polyamory in their commandments.
its not in the commandments but I think your allowed to get drunk and make out with your daughters- its polyamory with booze and family members.. Lot was a righteous man who did exactly that... sex in cave is kinky too !!
its a cracker of a read that genesis..
I'm still not getting the christian references you're making robertaus
i think he was attacking "hurt" for having Christianity as her religion on her profile and also doing naughty things, she wasn't practising what she preached, except she wasn't preaching. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 3:53:23 PM | Oh good because now I can describe Non-Religious people who get married in a church as Charlatans or Bigots.
Errm, do you feel particularly strongly about wanting to call such people something? Effervescent is right in saying that ‘hypocrite’ would be a more appropriate choice but you could be a little less personally aggressive about it and describe the actions of such a person as hypocritical, rather than calling the person a hypocrite. If you did that, I’d agree with you. Although I am a little lost as to what this actually relates to. Do churches even agree to marry atheists/non-religious people? Do you consider atheists/non-religious people as somehow more likely to want to marry multiple people? Did someone mention being a non-religious person who got married in a church to one or more spouse(s)? All the married atheists I know chose civil ceremonies that make no mention whatsoever of a god or religion..and to just the one spouse at a time… so this is quite intriguing news.
i think he was attacking "hurt" for having Christianity as her religion on her profile
Attacking someone on the basis of what is in their profile? Surprising, given his very vocal and staunch views on the posting rules…which include this one… “DO NOT Create any threads as to why members do this or that in their profiles, generalize or the such - it's their business what they do with their profiles.” Naturally that applies to taking liberties with referencing someone’s profile content within a thread too. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 5:46:35 PM | And yours says Christian Other ---
how 'wishy-washy' is that...
Are you a Pastafarian? or perhaps a New Age guy?
Either way, what gives you the puritanical right to cast the first stone
Naturally that applies to taking liberties with referencing someone’s profile content within a thread too.
This was referenced from my profile and I note you have not mentioned that.You even stated that it is Ok to describe someone's religion as wishy washy.Never mind that if someone is very religious that they might actually be offended.Seems to me you do the attacking when someone points out some facts that you don't agree on.FYI Charlatan and Bigot are synonyms of Hypocrite.
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Posted: 7/30/2012 6:27:22 PM | This was referenced from my profile
Not by me. And not by a poster who likes to endlessly remind others of the rules. And not by someone who was the first poster to reference someone else's profile...that'd be you. :)
You even stated that it is Ok to describe someone's religion as wishy washy.
It is. My statement is an abstract statement. All thoughts and beliefs can be challenged and debated. I said nothing about it being ok to reference someone's profile, and I haven't. You did though.
Seems to me you do the attacking when someone points out some facts that you don't agree on.
Nope. I've attacked nobody. Just commenting on the content of what is being posted by others...which is allowed. Attacking opinions is ok. Characterising and making personal assessments of people and using their profile against them isn't. You did those things in your posts, and have done before.
Edit: I even tried to point out to you that criticising an action rather than a person would be a less personally aggressive way to go. Just tryna' help ... :) | |
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| Polyandry or Polyamory - Would you be in it ?
Posted: 7/30/2012 6:59:29 PM |
And yours says Christian Other ---
how 'wishy-washy' is that...
Are you a Pastafarian? or perhaps a New Age guy?
Either way, what gives you the puritanical right to cast the first stone
I have highlighted the bits I would like you to take note of from that post (to assist you in understanding my point)
I take issue with the term Other when used in the context of Christianity -- it is a wishy washy word...
You are either Christian, or not in my opinion.
(and for clarification - I am not saying that you are not a Christian)
It is like saying you are a little pregnant,
you are either pregnant or not -- it is a definitive statement.
If you were to state you are Pastafarian, I would respect that as much as someone who says they are Presbyterian.
I really don't have an issue with religion of any form --
it is the use of the word "Other" in the context of Christianity that I challenge.
Frankly, I don't care what religion you are -- or if you see yourself as "other".
But, I do take issue with your semantics on "Hypocrite"
FYI Charlatan and Bigot are synonyms of Hypocrite.
Nope, they are not. | |
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| Polyandry or Polyamory - Would you be in it ?
Posted: 7/30/2012 8:02:24 PM | | The POF religion section does not include every denomination of Christianity.Therefore some Christians have no option but to denote their religion as Christian-Other.So i don't understand an issue or challenge to that. | |
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| Polyandry or Polyamory - Would you be in it ?
Posted: 7/30/2012 8:35:14 PM | I was unaware of that (at the time that I made my post)...
I think they should have Christian as an option.
You could make a suggestion that they give an option (without the Other) in the Plentyoffish Site/Suggestions/Help section. | |
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