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The nastiness can be a part of the manic phase, not just the depression. The manic phase isn't always being charming and confident and happy. It's a state of increased energy, so that energy can be what you described (confidence, etc.) or it can be extreme anger or irritability.
Many times the nastiness starts in the Manic mode, not the depression mode. When they hit the depression mode instead of being nasty or pick fights with others, they tend to isolate and not communicate. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 2:48:49 PM | Gracey,
If you went through what I went through you would understand. Do the research. 88-90% chance of divorce? Heck it didn't work out with the first two. Read some of the stories. And I just read 50% don't take their medication as they should. I guess you never experienced abuse. I guess you don't know know what it's like on the receiving end. You admitted yourself bipolars are "pains in the arses". I think maybe you know what I'm talking about but don't want to admit to some things. I get it. If only you could see what I went through. TWICE. I am done with toxic people. Done. Maybe you are the "exception", the one who takes all her meds and therapy and meds are actually working and you have a mild case. But this doesn't appear to be the majority. Just do a google search "bipolar boyfriend" to see what many of us have gone through. Have some understanding as to why i wouldn't get involved with someone like this again.
Maybe you are the "exception," there are PLENTY of bipolars out there who are out of control and hurting the ones they love. I just don't want to take that chance again. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 3:02:20 PM |
bhawk, I hate to say it, and I could be wrong on this, but you also have a condition and I'm wondering how that affects things. You have a mental condition yourself so maybe thats why you mesh well with someone with a mental condition, but I could be wrong on this because I don't know your ex wife. I am not saying this is, and I could very well be wrong, but I just found that interesting. Not saying its true, but it just stuck out to me.
Firstly, we were never married. You never know though maybe my illness would make me more tolerant, but i know what a healthy relationship is, even by normal standards believe it or not! The relationship was perfectly healthy and to be honest her physical health problems were of more concern to me than her mental illness.
Again I just don't want to take chances with someone with this condition again. Say what you want. I don't mesh well with people with bipolar.
Lets keep this as factual statements....you haven't meshed well with the bipolar people you have previously met....see the difference?
I mean, if what you saying is true, that the great majority of bipolars are nice and positive people or whatever, then my 2nd ex (statistically) should have been different. What are the odds then of 2 being like this?
Statistically 2 people from 2% of the population is nothing, its such a statistically possible occurence that it shouldnt be seen as proof for the behaviour of anyone other than those two individuals
Bipolar is only 2% of the population? And yet every one I date is the same, the great majority of stories are the same, and the people I know who know someone with bipolar are the same.
This could also be due to the fact that those with bipolar who are managed and controlled have never told people about their condition nor wish to disclose it with anyone other than the select few, meaning only those not in control of their condition tend to get spoken about, as has been said several times before, anecdotes on the internet are not totally relevant as not many people post a thread "im with a bipolar and its great" because there is no need nor is it a talking point or up for discussion.
And if I had a mental illness? I cannot fathom mistreating someone. I wouldn't date if I were like that and I would be apologetic and seek treatment. And if the great majority of people with my illness are unpleasant then I can't exactly blame others of being cautious about me.
aaaah the beauty of mental illness, you keep claiming we do not know what we are doing, that we are in some lala land and unable to think with rational thought, therefore by your own definition if you were mentally unwell you wouldnt even realise it, you mistreating people could seem like you were treating them perfectly fine.... YOU honestly dont know whether you are mentally stable then do you?
alright... i proved my point now I'm not gonna spend anymore time on this..
There has been no point to prove, the reason this topic has been debated so much is due to the true crux of the matter being the ignorance surrounding mental health and the stigma attached to such conditions.
I have met more than 2 white criminals who lied, stole and beat people for no reason, does this make all white people the same?
Also what if the men you were with were just pr*cks who happened to have mental health problems too, cant discount this possibility | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 3:53:04 PM | | The best answer on this Forum...just for you.and free(and you will get a LOT of use out of it). It is called the "Take Your Time" Method...especially if you are a woman.He might turn out to be nuts;he might not...I KNOW what its like to have been gossiped about a LOT,and not at all deserve the reputation...So ...I say give him another chance,in a discreetly safe place (i.e. don't go packpacking into the Wilderness on the 2nd date,for example!)Some people have been so wounded,and are so desperate and lonely for love (and never learned how to give it 'properly')that they impulsively say absurd sounding,almost irrational things,that they do not mean...Sometimes these wounded people,if nurtured,can be revealed as incredibly bright, sensitive, loving, and loyal... I know;I AM one...But...there are no easy solutions...If you want cute little cookie cutter Iphone 'Friends'...you will find no shortage.Seek depth,of love and spirit,among the sufferers...they often have the most to give...Or they might chop you up with a Meat Cleaver! Dang 'Ol Life! That's what keeps her interesting! | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 4:05:14 PM | No blue eyes i'm not the expection, i'm the norm when it comes to mental illness, the people you have dated (although you did mention there might be something else) are the exception.
And i don't care what you read online, i believe next to nothing i read online. As i said 9 out of 10 people will talk about something negative and only 2 out of 10 will talk about a good experience with the outside world. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 5:48:55 PM | ahhh wow...
we all still at it?? umm ok who has my popcorn and soda dang it!! :-(
Blueeyes... hun I told you already on your stats...
Do the research. 88-90% chance of divorce?
didnt you say earlier.. it was only 88% not 88 - 90%?? Can it really be going up as fast as normal marriages these days??
Omg what is the world going to do now??
heck why even bother to marry?? we can all go find meds, pop em, make love or war and then go to bed. :)
No one is forcing you to pick another bipolar person.. I hope all the bipolar men on this site read this thread here and avoid you... I mean it. With the amount of what we are all feeling from you.. please..
I should start a thread on how bipolars get so screwed up with the "normies" it would make your and everyone el;se's heads spin on how much I could wine on the cheating lying stealing drugging and.... get my point???
what we are saying is first..
do not jump into a relationship with anyone (less you feel froggy and wana)
do not have sex (again, if your inner frog tells you too) on the first text, never mind phone calls..
do not expect people to ever be normal.. cuz honey again there is no such a thing as normal..
it is only a figment of everyone's mind..
show me normal.. I triple dog dare anyone..
but show me how to live life and enjoy myself in the company of decent honest and trusting friendship to mature into a beautiful relationship, and you shall have my heart mind and soul..
Cheers ya'll and yeps hope everyone is having a good evening tonight. :)
*this post is on purposed, spaced, so it is easily read by everyone. *brought to you by bipolar is us.. made only in the USA | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 5:06:22 AM | wow blueeye having a great time changing this thread into your pity party? are you sure you didnt nag the poor guys to death. I feel you could be a stalker too. Some people get off on dramas and living in the past, sound like you? i cant believe someone like you could possibly put yourself in the class of normal! i myself have been in physically and mentally abusive relationships but the guys were so called normal and i wouldnt expect pity for it or hog a thread.
I have read all the posts and have great respect for the brave honest people who know what its like to be judged by idiots. I have seen the guy again and he was honest enough to answer all my questions. He was diagnosed at 47yo after a breakdown because of childhood rape came to surface again. He has had 5 manic episodes and each time due to lack of sleep trying to get over an emotional upset. He has a problem of being to financially generous with people who then turn nasty when denied more money. He has never hurt anyone ever for any reason and has no tollerence for judgmental or false people. He really seems like a lot of fun and is not pushy at all. He is happy to be friends with me just as i would in any sort of relationship friends first. He dances in supermarkets if he hears a good song and talks to children on their level, all i have seen so far is honesty and fun. The mood swings sound like most people i know actually remember the song ... i love you hate you love you hate you but i want you till the world stops turning | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 7:03:46 AM | To all who just responded,
I am not asking for pity... I am just trying to get people to see the reality of dating someone with an uncontrolled mental illness. i was positive too... but 3 bad experiences turned me off. Stalker? Far from it. I actually tried my best to respect their need for so much space. the one guy would want to go 5 days not talking to me and only want to see me once a week. OK, so he got his way. How is that being a stalker? My bipolar men were the best men in the beginning, I'm just letting you know if it is not managed then it could blind-side you and all change overnight. My ex was crazy in love with me and that all changed overnight. And if you are not a strong person this can break you.
If you want to take a chance, then go ahead. Just be aware. I am sooooooo happy to have those men out of my life. I am free, I am happy, and I have been going on wonderful dates with men without this illness. I have broke free and enjoying life again. I just thought I would share my experience, that's all.
No one will change my mind, I did the right thing, and I am protecting myself from going through this type of illness again :) Sure I could meet jerks, but this was just on a whole other level.
I look forward to the day when I find someone mentally healthy. In fact, I am already talking to a great guy right now who I have a lot in common with :) | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 7:12:57 AM | Not stupid,
I also hope all bipolar men don't like me and stay away from me lol. I'm sorry if that sounds mean but I just can't take that chance again.
Some resources say it's 88% divorce rate, but a lot just say it's 90% estimated. I would not want to walk down the aisle knowing there's a 9/10 chance we will get divorced.
Again, it's my choice. If you dated 2 alcoholics and they were a disaster, would you date a 3rd?
If you dated a person with anti-social personality disorder, and they put a knife to your throat, and then you dated another person with anti-social personality disorder, and they rape you, would a date a third person with this illness?
Sure that's more extreme but you get my point. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 8:25:25 AM | again, my final thoughts, because i am no longer going to post on this thread:
I have 2 experiences with bipolar men and a third with other mental illnesses. Through my experience and research it is not something I would go through again. This is my preference. We are entitled to date who want to date. Just like some people don't want to date smokers or overweight people or introverted people, well I don't want to date someone with mental illness and given my prior experience I think this is reasonable for me. If the next bipolar I come across and he is an amazing guy and I reject him, thats ok. It's my choice. I don't want to take that high risk again.
Say what you want, think what you want. it's won't change my mind. To the original poster, I wish you luck. Please be careful, that is all im asking. I shared my experience and you also read on here others who actually agree with me and also had bead experience. Just be careful and educate yourself. If someone had a dysfunctional childhood, mental illness, and no friends this would be red flags for me. but hey, it's your life not mine. Just please be careful and don't ever let anyone mistreat you.
I am sorry if I offended any, and the only reason why I kept posting was because everyone kept asking me things or responding. But this is my last post because I want to move forward, and not be so hung up on the past. I simply felt the need to share my experiences, being that I have been there multiple times.
I wish you well... | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 8:33:11 AM | Sorry but a lot of the traits of the men that you speak off don't sound like bi polar Atall. I have met people that have been hospitalised and in homes due to their bi polar and it's 9 times out of 10 because they are more risks to themselves than others. And you live in America, the country with the most depressed people In the world, I think you need hell If I'm honest, you clearly aren't over it. Maybe post traumatic stress? Oh wait nvm that's classed as a mental illness, you can't possibly ever be that way inclined.
And I'm not anti social, Infact I'm highly social. I think your attitude is going to effect you in a negative manner throughout your life. I hope to god you don't work with people.
It's within your rights to not date someone with bi polar, thats perfectly up to you and I don't think that's the problem, I think the problem is the view of bi polar people your putting out there and the statics about them from unreliable sources, and telling people to read online about these "horror stories", how silly.. You could read hundreds of thousands of online stories about women who have been beaten abused by non mentally Ill men, but you you'll find maybe less than half the stories about happy lovey stories and good expierences.
For example, you go to a hotel for a night bad experience? Tell everyone warn everyone make it known. Okay, average expierence.. Meh don't really tell anyone anything. Great expierence ? Maybe tell a few people, might write a good review if I can be bothered.
That's how it works. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 9:50:41 AM | gracey,
I thought like you too. I thought these can't be bipolar traits. I thought they were just jerks. But anger is part of bipolar, and that anger can cause the person to lash out at you. I thought it wasn't part of bipolar until after the relationships when I did some research and read hundreds of stories. all the stories were the same. These people went through what I went through. I even showed them to my friends and they were shocked "OMG that's you! Thats your story!" The similarities were unbelievable, its like everyone else's stories were mine. And my point is, there are bipolar people out there who will be like my ex's. Sure NOT ALL are like that, but they DO exist in large numbers.
If you think I'm "crazy angry and have PTSD", this is exactly the effect I am talking about. This is what they did to me. I wasn;t like this before. Everyone knows me as the sweetest and most forgiving person. I come across this way as angry or whatever only when I think about my ex's. This is the product and outcome of dating someone with an uncontrolled mental illness, it can negatively affect YOU. I lost myself when dating them, and I am finally getting myself back. This is why, for my own sanity, I need to keep my distance with someone with mental illness. I'm not trying to be mean, I am just trying to protect myself so I can heal. I hope you understand. And I just want people to aware of not will happen, but what CAN happen when dating someone with mental illness. And I was shocked because these guys started out as the nicest guys ever. Like with the original poster, yelling at me saying this guy is the greatest. Hey, my bipolar ex's were the greatest too in the beginning! I just want people to know what can happen and to be educated and aware. That's all. The original poster wanted opinions, and having been through it multiple times I shared my experience. that's all. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:02:49 AM | | See, at this point, I do feel offended by your comments because from every post I've read from you it doesn't seem like bi-polar people at all should date much less have a life because we're uncontrollable. Despite the trauma you've had from these ex's, I think this is more of a you problem than it is a problem with those with bi-polar disorder. You can drop as many statistics as you want, but we are people who want the same things as everyone else: life, love, and happiness. You continue to make posts to "inform" people the dangers of dating people with mental illnesses (particularly bi-polar people), but the way you go one is now just you preaching about how we're going to damage people for life and ostricize us for our condition. After a way, its just offensive and it baffles me to why you continue to bring this up using statistics to backup your claims that we're not worth loving. So yes, I do have a problem with what your saying and covering it with politeness doesn't change this. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:06:37 AM | woah there Blueeyes..
Thought you weren't going to post and just move ahead in your agenda to seek out "normal" men.?
Honestly, you are starting to show a bit of bipolar now, and yes I think before you "move on" you need to let the bags down very easy, so it won't spring up at you again. Anger is not a bipolar trait.. Sounds like a good case of missing anger management classes hun.
If I told of my "bad experiences with normal men" and "swear them off" like you repeatedly do here, lmao..
Same dang thing hun.
yeah I'd agree with Gracey here, I still stick to adhd, Gracey saw the PTSD, and you definately like to "keep coming back"
perhaps some coda classes as well.
What you fail to relize Blueeyes..
there is no such thing as normal (only a good version we all carry)
there is no such thing as a mentally perfect human being
and once you accept that (or not) and once you can admit, even to yourself.. that it took 2 to tango..
I am not upset with you, but I really am starting to lean with every single person on this thread Blueeyes.
I do wish you a way to find or make your your happiness thru your next healthy relationship..
and please ya'll, remember, we all have issues with one thing or another.. least I know I try hard to be the person I am just for today.. tomorrow is not a given, but what we do say think and react with, will follow us all where ever we go. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:09:14 AM |
I thought like you too. I thought these can't be bipolar traits. I thought they were just jerks. But anger is part of bipolar, and that anger can cause the person to lash out at you. I thought it wasn't part of bipolar until after the relationships when I did some research and read hundreds of stories. all the stories were the same. These people went through what I went through. I even showed them to my friends and they were shocked "OMG that's you! Thats your story!" The similarities were unbelievable, its like everyone else's stories were mine. And my point is, there are bipolar people out there who will be like my ex's. Sure NOT ALL are like that, but they DO exist in large numbers.
Nonbipolar people can be just as angry and abusive too. Not everyone's got the same issues, and not everyone does it for the same reason; so don't put us all in the same box.
If you think I'm "crazy angry and have PTSD", this is exactly the effect I am talking about. This is what they did to me. I wasn;t like this before. Everyone knows me as the sweetest and most forgiving person. I come across this way as angry or whatever only when I think about my ex's. This is the product and outcome of dating someone with an uncontrolled mental illness, it can negatively affect YOU. I lost myself when dating them, and I am finally getting myself back. This is why, for my own sanity, I need to keep my distance with someone with mental illness. I'm not trying to be mean, I am just trying to protect myself so I can heal. I hope you understand. And I just want people to aware of not will happen, but what CAN happen when dating someone with mental illness. And I was shocked because these guys started out as the nicest guys ever. Like with the original poster, yelling at me saying this guy is the greatest. Hey, my bipolar ex's were the greatest too in the beginning! I just want people to know what can happen and to be educated and aware. That's all. The original poster wanted opinions, and having been through it multiple times I shared my experience. that's all.
You can protect yourself from whoever you want, but it still feels like your advertising reasons to not date (or avoid altogether) anyone with a mental illness. It was one thing when you posted your opinion for the poster, but now it just feels like a propaganda against them. It's alright to be educated about the condition, but the line between fact and biased opinion is getting blurred. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:16:01 AM | | Hi, Okay I do not know if you understand what Bi polar is. It means run. run fast. Yes you had a nice time but that's because he's on the up swing. The down swing. You will wish you never got into the relastionship. People can can hide crazy pretty well for a while. No friemd's . He has some issues you do not need to be a part of. I am had three girlfriends with bipolar disorder. All three had huge tempers over nothing . Run run run. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:26:22 AM | Anger is not a trait of bi polar, unless that person is naturally an angry person.
Blueeyes, you sound like a pity party, i'm sorry but so many women could say that same about none bi polar men or men that don't have any sort of mental illness. Not me though, i have had perfectly functional relationships although i'm crazy.
Or maybe i thought they were functional, but really ... i kept them locked up and had my way with them. DunDunDunnnn. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:37:49 AM | blackjacket,
how many times must i repeat not some but not all are like this? No where did I ever say "all bipolar people are evil". I am sorry if it came across like that...
But let's be real. It's mental illness. It's an illness because there are problems. I'm not saying you are not worthy of love, but what I'm trying to say is you need to treat people good yourself in order for people to be attracted and like you. If you abuse (in some cases) every single person you date, then you shouldn't be dating. My ex's are not capable of being in relationships with anyone. I'm not exactly saying that they don't deserve it, because everyone should be loved, but in order to receive love you should give love. ***Some bipolar people can be in relationships if it's completely managed, but I keep referring to those who it's UNcontrolled. But it's just going to me more challenging than a "normal" relationship.
I never said people with bipolar shouldn't date, I think people with UNCONTROLLED bipolar who are in danger to themselves or other shouldn't date and those who date someone with bipolar, controlled or not, need to be educated and AWARE. That makes sense. There is no cure for this, let's be real. No matter how controlled, one can relapse, meds can stop working, or whatever. And whoever they are invloved with just needs to know about the illness and decide if it's something that he/she can handle.
You can't have a healthy relationship with someone mentally unhealthy. If you have bad experiences with a certain type of illness over and over and over again (or with anything) then common sense says that it's not working for you and to try something else. I lived, I learned. And if there is a great bipolar person out there I still don't want to date that person because I just don't want to take the risk of them possibly relapsing or forgetting a pill. I can't. I just can't. This is my choice. If I date another person with mental illness and get abused yet again it would just destroy me. I refuse to take that chance. But my point is... this chance of getting abused is higher in someone with mental illness than someone with not.... for me it's like playing with fire. 3 ex's of mine have mental illnesses. Is it really that wrong of me to want to date someone free of mental illness for once? You cant say I didn't try... I tried it 3 times. I think that's enough for me.
Obviously you all see how affected I was... why on earth would I subject myself to that again? Even if it's controlled, I just don't care. this conversation is just making me more grounded in my beliefs. It's my life and I will date who i want to date. I never ever in any of my posts said ALL are like that, I kept referring to MY experiences as well as REAL statistics.
The reality is it's tough and many struggle. That's reality. Not all, but a good portion. I get the people offended are the ones with mental illnesses themselves... i get that.... no one is perfect.... but if you are going to treat people like crap... and I am referring to those where it is uncontrolled.... then you have no business hurting someone else like that. If yours is controlled then I am not talking about you....
But if yours is controlled I just think the other person should be educated about the illness. It makes sense.
And don;t lash out on me... there are plenty of people on here who also bashed people with bipolar. It's just a pattern... not all are like that but look at all these people on here with their bad experiences.... it happens. Not always, but it does happen... | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:40:43 AM |
Hi, Okay I do not know if you understand what Bi polar is. It means run. run fast. Yes you had a nice time but that's because he's on the up swing. The down swing. You will wish you never got into the relastionship. People can can hide crazy pretty well for a while. No friemd's . He has some issues you do not need to be a part of. I am had three girlfriends with bipolar disorder. All three had huge tempers over nothing . Run run run.
LOL here's another story....
LOL you guys are just funny, I think im not gonna waste my time arguing anymore.
YOU SEE. K im done arguing, this made my day :)
Peace | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:45:50 AM | and you posted again.. wow..
Blueeyes.. go back up and read my post. How many healthy relationships have you been in? Seriously.
How would you even know what a healthy relationship is, if you only have dated those 3 men?
No one is saying "do it again" to you. No one.
Thing is Blueeyes, we are at least willing to seek out help for our problems. How about you?
Again, since I have had 2 relationships with so called "normal guys" and those did not work out due to they couldnt keep their peewee in their pants, and liked to steal cheat and drug.. should I keep posting on this and swear off normal men? Or should I swear off men with those traits, even tho I havent met them yet? Sounds like you have a plan Blueeyes, but I would ask for a family tree on illness before you even meet and great them all. Never know what could be lurking out there.
It is a big world full of us "sickos that are a threat" to you. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:47:53 AM | NOBODY IS SAYING YOU HAVE TO GO AND DATE ANYBODY WITH A MENTAL ILLNESS, PEOPLE ARE JUST IRRITATED ABOUT YOUR IGNORANCE AND PITY PARTYING, AND YOU KEEP COMING BACK WITH MORE CRAP.
ALSO ALOT OF PEOPLE OUT THERE HAVE BI POLAR AND HAVE NO IDEA THEY HAVE ANYTHING ATALL WRONG WITH THEM.
PEOPLE ARE LASHING OUT ON YOU BECAUSE YOU KEEP COMING BACK WITH THE SAME CRAP, I'VE ALSO JUST REALISED THIS IS ALL IN CAPITALS BUT I CAN'T BE BOTHERED TO RE-TYPE IT ALL. TO ME, THE WAY YOU TALK YOU DON'T SOUND MENTALLY STABLE, AND I DON'T THINK ITS RIGHT TO BLAME BI POLAR DISORDER, YOU DECIDED TO DATE SOMEONE WITH A MENTAL ILLNESS, TWICE. YOU DECIDED NOT TO LEAVE STRAIGHT AWAY, TWICE.
AS THE SAYING GOES, FOOL ME ONCE SHAME ON YOU, FOOL ME TWICE, SHAME ON ME.
AS MANY HAVE SAID, ANYONE IS PRONE TO BI POLAR, ANYTHING TO SET IT OFF, ANYTHING CAN SET OFF ANY MENTAL ILLNESS, A BAD EVENT OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT.. ITS NOT ALL GENETIC, NOBODY IN MY FAMILY TO MY KNOWLEDGE HAS HAD ANY FORM OF MENTAL ILLNESS.
LOOK AT ALL THE PEOPLE WITH GOOD EXPERIENCES AS WELL, BUT PEOPLE CHOOSE TO IGNORE THEM, ESPECIALLY WHEN ITS NOT SOMETHING YOU WANT TO HEAR NOR READ. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 10:48:10 AM | I have been in 3 "normal" relationships, all were great guys with no issues. And I want that back.. so I do know what it's like to be in a relationship with a "normal" man its just been a while.
K last post I PROMISE LOL | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 11:09:46 AM |
It's within your rights to not date someone with bi polar, thats perfectly up to you and I don't think that's the problem, I think the problem is the view of bi polar people your putting out there and the statics about them from unreliable sources, and telling people to read online about these "horror stories", how silly.
There's plenty of information that is not only reliable, but it's considered text book of what bipolar is. My ex spend a week in an institution when she was diagnosed. In there they had chats every day with the significant others and family.
So just because you have been able to live as a bipolar, that is fantastic, but not all bipolars are like that.
Bipolars when they are going through their Manic modes can be very sexual, happy, work until they accomplish incredible deeds, or lash at someone else. When they are going through the depressive move, they can go into such depression that they can sleep for days, have suicidal thoughts, even attempt them.
A lot of the negative behaviors of many bipolar people are the result of the family of origin baggage that they have. In many cases there's a trauma, that was so intense that pushed them over the edge. There are some that have only one or two episodes a year. My ex was rapid cycling moods. That means that she could go from one to the other at first twice a month, and before going to the center, every other day.
A lot of bipolars have the tendency of making the others feel as if they were the sick ones and shift the blame to them. Consequently this people feel like they are walking on egg shells all the time and become codependent of the bipolar moods.
Not all bipolars have these issues. Many are doctors, surgeons, musicians and with their meds, and a clear understanding of what they are dealing, can function perfectly in society and are great partners. | |
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