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I'm curious to know probably 8 out of 10 men on Pof mentions you are looking for a relationship or actively seeking a relationship, but when push comes to shove when a girl acts like she likes you, you run for the hills. I find it funny! Then most of you guys search for a relationship, want to date or whatever, but are you actually looking for a relationship or you purely looking for physical?
I'm curious to know how a person 1000's of Kms away from me can make that kind of judgement about me, without having ever met me.
Drop the prejudiced attitude and you'll have a much better chance at finding a decent man. | |
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| So how come most of you men say you want a relationship?
Posted: 6/1/2012 11:36:26 PM |
I dont know what more to do to improve myself other than lose more weight and try to be happy. Its really sad that noone seems to find me the least bit attractive. :( Ok I am kind of negative...
Yeah, negativity is a huge turn-off. I'm sure you wouldn't want a man who spends all his efforts ****ing about past dating experiences and negative views of women... | |
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| So how come most of you men say you want a relationship?
Posted: 6/1/2012 11:49:49 PM |
I'm curious to know probably 8 out of 10 men on Pof mentions you are looking for a relationship or actively seeking a relationship, but when push comes to shove when a girl acts like she likes you, you run for the hills.
*A girl* are the keywords here. Just because "a girl" shows interest doesn't mean "you men" are obligated to act on it.
Do you attempt to attach yourself to every male who appears in your inbox acting like they like you? | |
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| So how come most of you men say you want a relationship?
Posted: 6/2/2012 12:53:45 AM | | Men aren't afraid to commit. Most of my male friends are married of in long term relationships. The men on here aren't afraid to commit either. For example, my last relationship was three years long. Was I afraid to commit then? When push comes to shove, they back away because they are responsible enough not to commit to someone they're not into. Usually it's because the person is either crazy, not attractive to them, or does something that is a deal breaker (e.g. smokes like a chimney). | |
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| So how come most of you men say you want a relationship?
Posted: 6/2/2012 1:17:27 AM | | Sometimes men aren’t attractive to certain things, they can only see those things when they actually meet you in person..BTW it goes both ways... And yeah Negativity is really a turn off and reflect lack of confidence...Let's not put everyone in the same sack because we all have unique personalities...So if someone doesn’t like you for some particular reason then move on...they are plenty o guys that will find you interesting and so so.....Take care! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 1:23:22 AM | | That pic with the other girl, I would get rid of. NOt classy. Also for a first meet dont expect a guy to buy you drinks or anything else. It should be dutch and for half an hour. Men do want a relationship, a lot of them but the right girl has to come along and they are feeling it. If not, they may be happy for casual sex if it is offered, meantime. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 3:22:03 AM | | Personally I am, But only with the right woman. If one gets too interested and I don't feel the same then I break it off. Which is only fair imo. Some girls may see this as running for the hills. But really what it means is that you aren't the one for them. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 4:23:33 AM | How many of us would define relationship the same as another ? Yes I want a relationship ..Now if a woman is interested and contacts me I will go into detail .
Op :
" Then most of you guys search for a relationship, want to date or whatever, but are you actually looking for a relationship or you purely looking for physical?"
Isnt dating a relationship as well as sexual contact ? Isnt a friend a relationship ? One has to start somewhere as to forming a relationship don't they ? Then this yes FUNNY !
Op :
"but when push comes to shove when a girl acts like she likes you, you run for the hills. I find it funny! "
Really ? Try me ! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 4:47:01 AM |
I dont know what more to do to improve myself other than lose more weight and try to be happy. Its really sad that noone seems to find me the least bit attractive.
You are attractive and sorry I called you stupid it was a stupid thing to say on my part. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 6:46:54 AM | I think many men are looking for a relationship, if they are only interested in having sex with you, it is because you are not their LTR material, but they are still interested in you physically.
Committing to a LTR is a process and many types of chemistry, values,etc. are involved. Don't expect a relationship out of every person you date or have sex with. Save your emotions and the best of yourself for the best. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 7:49:55 AM | I'm not saying cause of me. It's a known fact. You men will be single til your about 50 cause you R too afraid to committ.
Opinion based purely on emotions aren't facts at all & just because you feel it to be true doesn't make it so.
The commonality of a man & woman looking for a relationship isn't enough to make it one. Even a child knows there's much more to it than that. If that's your sole indicator it's no wonder your bummed & feel jaded. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 8:07:26 AM | I'm 'actively' looking for a relationship. Probably much to my detriment, I'm looking for my final relationship.
I suppose everyone's life experience is different, OP. I did not get to 44 without being married because I chose to or because I was afraid of commitment, I got here because the women I proposed to got 'cold feet.' In retrospect, though, better to save the emotional and financial expense and risk a divorce, down the road.
My experience, in my area, is many of the women in my area are nothing more than scared little girls, so I don't think it's a gender thing. It's merely one's experience with those who are trying to pursue.
"......but are you actually looking for a relationship or you purely looking for physical?"
Well, call me silly, but I actually much prefer not to have a physical relationship without an emotional one. I suppose if I really put my mind to it, I could sleep with anything with a pulse just to say I got laid, but it's just not my thing. Sex, for me, is founded in emotional, spiritual and physical congruence.
If I wanted empty sex, I was born with hands. The great thing is I'm ambidextrous. So, if my right hand has a 'headache', the left is ready and willing. If they both have other plans, then I guess I'm SOL.....LMAO!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 8:13:50 AM |
If I wanted empty sex, I was born with hands. The great thing is I'm ambidextrous. So, if my right hand has a 'headache', the left is ready and willing.
You playah, you! You're going to hell for multi-dating. LOL | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 9:06:00 AM | ^^^^^^^
C'mon, now, I'm not a player!!! I'm just adventurous!!! If I use both hands, that constitutes as a threesome, right?
Ruh roh, now I'm really going to hell!!!!.........or blind or I'll just end up with really hairy palms.......LOL | |
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Posted: 6/2/2012 9:11:22 PM |
Hey VienneSeule, I'm gonna give away some insider information...want to keep a man?
I actually have 2 I cant get rid of...Can you help???
Yes, ViennaSeule. We read your other thread. The one where you reveal yourself to be the “Drama Queen of All Drama Queens”.
And Domo, please, please stop being such a Debbie Downer. Every time I read one of your posts I need another Zoloft. The drug companies must love you. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 8:28:19 AM |
Not all women make stupid statements like this, only stupid ones.
Including the OP, that's the second stupid statement then. Any wagers on how many more will follow?
What would be REALLY fun is if POF could figure out which category the member really fits, and post it automatically.
Oh yes, let's have POF make that decision about what we're looking for... for us. Lord knows us POF users are all too stupid or dishonest to pick our categories ourselves. /sarcasm
And while we're at it lets have POF take on the chore of filtering out the guys willing to lie to get laid because it's too hard or too much like work for some dumb women to weed out those guys. That's right, asking questions and paying close attention to behavior is just too damned hard... /sarcasm
Wouldn't it all be so much easier if everything were figured out for you? /sarcasm
Never mind this demeaning B.S.
Theres a lot of bitter men on this site taking out their anger about the fact that theyre still alone depressed and have low self esteem on innocent thread starters.
Speaking of B.S.
Why do outwardly smart (seeming) people just come to a dating site and ASSUME they will have the pick of the litter? How exactly is it "demeaning" when simple logic is explained to you?
FACT: NOT every one you are interested in will return your interest. PERIOD.
Fancy Joe Blow has in his profile that he wants a relationship, sure, but he's not going to have one of those with just anyone, obviously. He may want to have a whole list of things in common with the girl. He may only like women a year or 5 younger or older than him. He may not want to get involved with a single mom. Or someone who isn't even divorced yet.
Not fitting someone's criteria is a fact of life on a dating site... it's not a put down or demeaning. Not every guy you like will like you back.
It's kind of like real life in that way.. doesn't always work out right. And someone who is reminding you of that very REAL fact is not demeaning you in ANY way.
Honestly, I sometimes think that some of the people on these forums just like to take offense at random things in general.. particularly facts. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 9:58:45 AM | | I can only speak for myself. I would be hesitant to commit if I see characteristics in a woman which may become intolerable in the future. Like continuous complaining, nagging, ect.. And to be honest, we are basically saying, "you are okay to go out with, but, judging from our experiences together, I'm afraid to self inflict and reside permanently with those characteristics. I just went through it. Therefore, I speak for myself when I say I want a relationship, but with someone who can carry themselves well and problem solve without the added extra drama. Hope I shed a little more light on the subject matter. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 10:08:30 AM | | I definitely agree. And it is really a turn-on when a woman can rationalize and weigh out things instead of just going crazy when things don't go their way. I'll have to agree that women are definitely not scared, but extremely cautious. And that's a good thing because it gives a man an opportunity to think past his P#@n*s to actually see if he really likes her. This definitely takes some time and effort to build something significant. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 10:57:23 AM |
C'mon, now, I'm not a player!!! I'm just adventurous!!! If I use both hands, that constitutes as a threesome, right?
Depends how you look at it. Some guys see their hands as a harem. There is the Palmer twins and their 10 smaller sisters. | |
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| So how come most of you men say you want a relationship?
Posted: 6/3/2012 11:14:36 AM | totally agree with both of you girls. And the funny thing is that these guys who think they can get a girl like Megan Fox are totally self deluded.
Any man who has anything at all going for him can get sex pretty easily. I'm not sure why girls out there do that.
Girls, you are ruining it for the rest of us.
Men won't be gentlemen and won't treat women right unless they are forced to. Sad but true.
Hey, this is just my opinion so I don't need a backlash of hate mail. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 11:35:27 AM |
Men won't be gentlemen and won't treat women right unless they are forced to. Sad but true.
Well it looks like one more bimbo climbed into the boat. There are many gentlemen and many wonderful ladies.
I doubt us nasty men need to be trained by you.
Why do you expect hate mail? Is there a part of you that can actually see how ridiculous you're being? You have hope then. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2012 11:47:39 AM |
totally agree with both of you girls. And the funny thing is that these guys who think they can get a girl like Megan Fox are totally self deluded.
The bottom line is that guys will commit to a woman they're attracted to and when they aren't attracted, you get the problems expressed in this thread. Are you saying men should apologize for wanting to date someone they're into? No one knows who you agree with because you're not quoting anyone.
Any man who has anything at all going for him can get sex pretty easily. I'm not sure why girls out there do that.
Girls, you are ruining it for the rest of us.
Maybe the women wanted sex too. Despite what you may think, sometimes women do sleep with men and don't want any strings attached.
Men won't be gentlemen and won't treat women right unless they are forced to. Sad but true.
How exactly do you force a man to be a gentleman? This statement has no basis in reality.
Hey, this is just my opinion so I don't need a backlash of hate mail.
Why would you post your opinion on a public forum if you didn't want to be part of the discussion? | |
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