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| | Young single pops in a tough placePage 3 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | Just so you know...and dont feel so bad about things...Im well educated, good job-all that lot-and find single dads that are standing on their own two feet very attractive-it shows caring, consideration and maturity-Im sure there are plenty of women-a little younger than me who feel the same-so stay positive! Best of luck,x | |
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| Young single pops in a tough place
Posted: 7/11/2012 6:17:22 AM | As a single parent doing full time study (although slightly older) I understand where you are coming from. I think it's tough for any single parent, and you're right the hardest part is not having someone special to share moments with. Give yourself time to com to terms with your situation, it sounds like you're only relatively new to the full time dad/full time student role. Don't be in a rush to find miss right, take the time to find your own feet in your role, enjoy the journey of creating your life for you and your son.
Slightly off topic, but just do you know you're not alone, at this age i find it harder to develop sustaining relationships, most men i meet have come out of long term relationships and have been unfortunate to be left with nothing, unstable jobs and often crashing at a mates or a parents spare room. while i don't usually hold that against them, it is hard when, while i don't have much, everything i do have is mine, i have a "home" again not fancy, not much , but mine, my free space etc..
Life is chaotic enough without throwing in the added mayhem of a relationship, enjoy the ride of finding your own feet and developing a life for you and your son. I recently realised just how much I love my life as a single parent, although becoming one wasn't my choice. i love my children, they are my world, when they are in my care i have no desire to "play". When they are away on visitation, i then have total freedom it's the perfect balance, and i lost that with my last relationship, my cousin would ring and say "want to come out fishing?" I'd have to consider someone else, now i can say "yep sure I'll be ready in 10, pick me up on the way".
Of course i wish i had someone to create a life with, but at this point, until that happens I will enjoy life, enjoy my children. You should too :) | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 6:17:40 PM | | truthfully i have found myself sitting in a boat with a beer in one hand and fishing rod in the other thinking that same thought. there are a lot of restrictions when dating another person and depending on the specific type you or anyone else goes for it can definitely complicate things or even make them less enjoyable because lack of interest of the other or w.e it may be. I enjoy every minute of the week that i have my son and i do tend to unwind a bit on the weekends while hes with his mum. My life is pretty crazy but im grateful for the stable but sometimes crazy life that i have created for both my son and I. There's moments of loneliness but also moments of happiness for my complete freedom and lack of need to report/go home/ be anywhere at any time other than sundays to get my little man. lol. im enjoying my life and hope that someday ill have a cute lady friend around to share the good n bad times of life. | |
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| Young single pops in a tough place
Posted: 7/11/2012 9:35:52 PM | | Maybe your having to high of standards why dose the woman have to have a good job?? maybe you should just try dating someone and seeing how it goes and letting these standards go a bit... just saying... | |
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| Young single pops in a tough place
Posted: 7/12/2012 10:10:49 AM | | In order for a relationship to work in my own experience/opinion both people should have financial and personal stability in there life. A low paying job can make life and bills very difficult. In order for a couple to be able to grow together in a good way i feel as though finances should be the last of worries. In the past bills and debt caused great turmoil in the home (baby momma) that would later push us apart. If bills werent a factor things may have gone much differently, whether it meant more time to spend together, less tense conversation, etc. You may think of it as "high standards" but i don't feel that to be unrealistic. Of course there are many other factors considered and what not but realistically i don't think its too much to ask. | |
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