| | Ex tries to keep contact with mePage 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | He wants you back it's obvious. Almost all guys do this I swear. If I had a dime for every time an ex or even just someone I was dating casually tried to contact me and get me back weeks, months, or even years later, I'd be a rich **** with my own private island by now. LOL! | |
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| Ex tries to keep contact with me
Posted: 6/4/2012 8:57:03 PM | | hes trying to play games and bother you, clearly hes succeeding. If hes not knocking at your door crawling back to you and begging for your forgiveness and to give him another chance there really is no good reason to contact you now. My advice would be to just ignore him before you get sucked back into his drama and BS | |
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Posted: 6/4/2012 9:15:46 PM | Old lovers do not belong in new relationships. If you have moved on and I hope you have, then leave him in the past to figure out what floats his boat.
His deal is all about him. If he is texting you and you didn't answer his text he would eventually get it. You're not interested in hearing him or keeping in contact. But the fact that you answer his text, keep up a conversation, listen to his life long story....you lead him to believe you want to hear him out.
Stop and think of how much happier you would be WITHOUT HIM | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 4:45:27 AM | | Tell him your happy for him, but stop contacting you cos your new boyfriends getting mad. That'll shut him up. He's trying to weasel back into your life, plus trying to make you jelous on top of it. He's still clearly an idiot. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 7:41:37 AM | | Yeah what some are saying could be true he does want you back. I have no idea why people do that. My motto is once they are an ex they are an ex for a reason and its not worth revisiting. I have had exes try contacting me and I just ignore them. I am even in a bowling league with an ex and I don't say one word to her. I have even been asked by the officers of the league if i would like them to kick her out well because no one there really liked her to begin with and especially after what she did but I told them no because I am not going to be an ass like that. It is a public place I just don't go near her. But I would do as I suggested before and just have is number blocked. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 9:27:47 AM | I knew guys like that with my female friends, the are scary and unpredictable, drama people, erase him from your phone, you do not need the worries and the inconvinience, sorry for that you have to go through things withan abusive person.
Some of my female friends actually had friendships with the exes such as yours and it was all stress and drama forget him erase him.
You may be a caring thinking person , he is not, you do not need cantacts with ex relationships like that much less a friend of such a low caliber.
I had to erase a few, too much drama. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 10:01:59 AM | | When a person really wants someone out of their life, they block them, change their number if need be, in other words they simply have zero contact with them in any way. Those who go on about wanting the person gone but gosh they won't leave them alone...they are enjoying the attention, no matter how much they protest. If you really didn't care, it wouldn't enter your mind to wonder what he's up to, you'd be done and he would not be contacting you. You need to decide what you really want, then act according. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 10:15:11 AM | He's bored. He's lonely. He wants a shot at getting back together with you. He wants to rub your nose in his current situation.
I think you do care on some level. Maybe you're still looking for "closure" subconsciously. Otherwise, this shouldn't have occupied enough space in your head to make you want to post this.
If you really want nothing to do with him, tell him in no uncertain terms you do not want anything to do with him, and then block his number. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 12:02:44 PM |
Well some just want to be friends which never made any sense to me. How do you downgrade from passionate sex to friends?
Have a few friends I had relationships with at one time. We weren't suited as partners but they are nice, funny, etc. and why should I hate them? We've remained in touch, downgrading isn't an issue when you don't find it necessary to make someone the bad guy when things don't work out romantically. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 12:31:57 PM | Have a few friends I had relationships with at one time. We weren't suited as partners but they are nice, funny, etc. and why should I hate them? We've remained in touch, downgrading isn't an issue when you don't find it necessary to make someone the bad guy when things don't work out romantically.
Who the heck said I hate them? Geez, what's with the spin? I love them dearly, but that's the past and I let it go as to not interfere with the present and future. Not many appreciate a partners "friendship" with the ex. You like to live on the edge, help yourself. I prefer to do my best to insure my partner is comfortable. Maintaining emotional intimacy which is what a friendship is, with an ex, IMO is pushing it, and not fully loving or honoring my current partner. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 12:37:44 PM | Cut, cut... delete his phone from your book and from you mind.
He broke up with you and you still in touch with him?
Sometime you women make me wonder... perhaps you seek to be used and abused.
Forget him, I am sure there is a decent man for you. Look for him. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 12:42:19 PM | Soooo obvious: He doesn't really dig the new chick and likes her kid (ugh) even less ....duh!
He is using the old "jealousy ploy" to bug you kiddo. Don't fall for it. Lose this "loser" FAST!
Let's all give him a gold star for being the "CREEP OF THE DAY"....and lose the zero and get yourself a hero!
Every now and then an "ex-creep" has the nerve to bug me...I do the only sane thing: IGNORE THEM!!!! Once a creep, always a creep.
He dumped YOU and then has the nerve to try to "bug you".....I'm gonna go find daddy's antique double barrel shot gun - I got a job to do today (now if only I can find the shot gun shells we'd all be better off)!!! | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 2:37:23 PM | Like what oneway has said..
I don't want to sound cruel here OP. But does it matter what his deal is?
OP..block his number, move on.
Why even consider "why"..he has moved on, you need to as well. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 3:02:34 PM | Yep.....the no response is the way to go.
Exs trying to get your attention can be sort of like children.........they'll even take negative attention.......anything to engage you. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2012 4:20:35 PM | | I can vouch for what daynadaze says. I once moved 2,000 miles away, changed my phone number, and deleted my facebook account to get rid of an ex. If you were really ready to be done, you would be. | |
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| Ex tries to keep contact with me
Posted: 6/5/2012 5:43:51 PM | OP:
Actually he's not happy and sounds like he has regrets and that's his awkward way of feeling you out for getting back together. Maybe his new life was different and interesting at first, but not any more. The grass is always greener on the other side till you get there.
Just my opinion.
The real question is how are you going to handle it? | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 1:26:03 PM | | His making it light and day for you. His telling you his life is better without you but he still has feelings for you. I think if his going to be actting that way their only one thing to do. Thier a thing called blocking him so he wont text you and when he calls you it goes to voice mail. | |
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| Ex tries to keep contact with me
Posted: 6/10/2012 2:03:44 PM | You ask the question, what's his deal?
The real questions is what's YOUR deal????
Why are you entertaining any correspondence from him at all? Ever hear of blocking his number???? or any other types of correspondence???????
Delete him and move on. - it's really not too hard. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 2:04:03 PM |
So, he didn't text me for a couple of months, which is fine by me. But as of lately, I'd say the past 2 months or so, he texts me at least twice a week, trying to spark up a conversation. He asks how I am and what I've been up to. But then he proceeds to tell me all about his life, without me even asking him. Because I really don't care. He tells me how he's living on his own now and he's dating an 'adult entertainer' and she has a kid and his life is So different.
Why are you even responding to his texts? The one good thing about text messages and voice mail - the 'delete' function. You don't reply, you don't get sucked into his drama, you just 'delete' and forget you ever got it.
Like he expects me to care.
Is he trying to make me jealous or make his life seem like he's fine and better without me?
But at the same time, if he was truly happy, why would he be texting me in the first place? He obviously doesn't need me.
What's his deal?
You shouldn't care, and you should move on and start ignoring/deleting his texts. What is his deal? My question is even simpler, why do you care? He's with someone else, his "deal" is whatever he makes it to be - your "deal" should be whatever you want it to be, and if you *really* don't want him to be a part of your "deal" then you need to stop replying to his texts, delete them if he sends one (and he'll eventually get tired of getting no replies and stop, hopefully), and move on with your life and your "deal". | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 2:35:27 PM | It did not work the first time, it will not work the second time.
Some problems, if they keep on coming up, will not be solved.
The guy did not like you the first time, will not like you now. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 2:38:25 PM | Boy this has happened to me as well. I was insulted and such because I was BLIND!( as he said) Oh the rants now that I look back. I did finally get over him. I simply said I have to value your opinion first to be insulted.( Many texts and phone calls) I knew he wasn't for me long term and at the end this guy got all crass and bleeped the 'C' word, and other crap.
My experience, my error in judgement, and lessons learned. I can tell you to stop responding, but you are going to need to have strength it sounds. Its not as if you are 'friends', it will create drama and unnecessary headaches. Good luck, call a friend instead, plan a shopping trip!! :) This too shall pass may help if you have the urge to respond. | |
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