| | Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?Page 2 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | I've had relationships where I saw someone everyday or had daily commiunication, but I have discovered that to some people this is a foreign concept, but I also must say that I really gotta like someone to have a relationship like that....it is very hard to find people capable of that level of communication.....and as the lady mentioned above this don't happen over night and start out that way.....
ps....i don't think it means your "needy " to see someone often...just means you enjoy one anothers company...and may even mean your "easy going" | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 2:29:12 AM | There's nothing wrong with seeing the person you care about every day. You just need to find someone who is the same way. Asking about it sounds odd. Sharing your prespective on it sounds better.
All couples talk about personal habbits eventually. So, when the time feels right, just share that you enjoy seeing the guy your into often. There's no point being in a relationship if you can't be yourself. Cuz, if your not being yourself, your acting like somebody else. | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 4:42:17 AM | I'm the same way! And I am needy/clingy and i'll admit it! It is what it is, and I am what I am.
Trust me though... Theres someone out there for you that will suit you!
If I'm not that into a guy, I could care less about spending most of my spare time with them... However if I am into the guy, then yes! Every day! :)
Thank goodness there have been only less than a handful of guys I've felt that way about.... Guy one, who I was with for ~5 years, but unfortunately was in the military and that was far from possible.... Then shortly after him, I dated a guy for a few months that I tried to force a serious relationship on to....I practically moved myself in with him.... But he turned out to be a serial dater, and I ended up getting my heart crushed... I then kept my walls up and my distance and it became men who wanted to spend all their free time with me. I couldn't and wasn't having it though.....
Until I met my current bf. The feeling was mutual from day one, and we've been inseparable since. I remember I'll be at his place for the night, and when I'm supposed to go home.... Somehow... We both just decided... 'well....just one more day....' it was like that every day! Now? We live together. So problem solved! | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 5:02:54 AM | Relationship = connection..or so says Webster.... that is the problem...i have met women here who think its ok to have relationships when married..living with someone..or dating somone... physical and emotional...
it all boils down to what kind of relationship you are in..and if it is what both of you want.... i would think in a traditional marriage one would at the very least be sleeping with their spouce on a daly basis..otherwise what is the point...??? 75 % of marriages do not work beyond 3 years... a lot of it seems to do with the expectations..and the fact that they are not clear to each other... if i met someone i wanted to have a long term relationship with...physical and emotional i would want to see them daily..that does not mean you are tied at the hip... but why be in one if that is not what you want... if all you want is someone to have sex with ..or entertain you when your bored..or buy you things...well then ... different kind of relationship... there is nothing wrong to want to be with someone on a daily basis...and if they feel the same way ...then your a lucky person... | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 5:32:22 AM | Everybody is different, so it solely depends on the two of you. I personally could not handle that every day thing, beside work, friends, interests an hobbies, I need alone time to recharge my batteries.
So, best thing is to talk about it, and that does not have to start off with a direct question. If you ask them about their life, like work, hobbies, family (obligations) you can usually figure out if they even had time for seeing you every day. Many people do have busy lives and even if they wanted to be with you every day, it simply might not be possible. And that does not mean they don't like you, they simply have a life (from before they've met you).
Feel out his situation, if necessary ask about their dating habit, but I have a feeling you will have to compromise, at least some.
Good luck! | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 6:00:30 AM | If I really like someone I could see them everyday. Usually I prefer couple times a week, which has caused problems with men I've dated.
Angeleyes, I would force myself to back off, let them be the one to ask to see you. Once you're in an established relationship this shouldn't be a problem anymore. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 6:53:30 AM | The guy I am currently seeing I could handle seeing everyday. He is easy going and we are happy just being in the same room together. No one needs to entertain each other or etc.
BUT that isn't going to happen because
A) He works 6pm-6am with rotating weekends off. On the weeks he is working the weekend he is off Wednesday and Thursday. I work mainly afternoons and evening with weekends off. For example I work til sometime after 7 tonight. Due to my line of work you never know when you will get home. I got to see him for a few hours yesterday morning before I had to be in at 3. I may not get to see him again til next weekend. Depends on what we can work out.
B) He lives 30 minutes from me and and hour from my work. So we have to figure in travel time...
C) I have 3 kids I have to spend quality time with.
I could go on and on.. Sometimes seeing someone everyday isn't possible. | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 7:32:55 AM | | It's too much for a woman & or man your age. We're not kids anymore & or have the flexibility to build our lives around someone since we already have established lives. Everyday is one of many cute adolescent qualities we enjoyed while in High School but it feels intrusive in our 40's. No need to quiz guys upfront. It'll come about naturally over time after establishing a relationship. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2012 7:36:57 AM | | i used to be clingy and needy but the girls i dated didnt like it. im the type of guy that once i find a girl i like alot, i want to spend as much time as i can with her but you need to have the other person miss you from time to time. it makes the relationship more interesting to hear i miss you once in awhile. | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 7:50:56 AM |
My question I guess is this.....is it best to ask a guy what he likes in a relationship? Or just wait and let him be the one to ask to see me?
I don't think it's unusual for a person, in a long term committed relationship, to want contact with their partner on a daily basis.
Thought given your description of the issue over time ( three years) and across multiple partners, that the common denominator is unfortunately you.
Often I find people who struggle with things like codependency issues and "crowding" others generally have a poor sense of emotionally healthy "boundaries" Often, no offense to people, people learn their boundaries from their parents, and if their parents had poor or non existent boundaries, then often the children grow up to be adults who struggle with the issue.
My suggestion would be to visit your local library or bookstore and find some well rated books on the topic and give them a read and take some time and see if there are strategies and thoughts that apply to you. I think the prospect of change for many is a bit terrifying, to be honest, but consider that investing in your emotional health now will open up potential opportunities for you down the road. And if not, that's ok too. Just try to help yourself be the very best person you can be, not the best person to date so men don't react in a way you don't want. Men will come and go in your life, but you will always have to deal with you.
You are asking how to be a better girlfriend, I'm saying take the time to be the best version of you that you can be, irregardless of the dating issue, and I think you'll find many of your other concerns will naturally find closure for you.
Good luck. | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 7:59:34 AM |
Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
HELL no. If I don't get at least ONE day of "me" time every week, I'll probably resort to murder, plunder, rape, suicide or some other nasty thing...LOL!
I couldnt see a girl every day, no matter how much I love her. Tried it in the past, and I tend to become a lil bit on edge. And trying to suggest to her "to go do some of her own stuff tonight" which tends into the "you dont love me anymore?" subject, or the "your cheating on me" subject, neither of which are true. | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 10:09:56 AM | Hun,
Communication is the #1 key to ANY relationship. Therefore, if I may suggest, let your significant other know how you feel and go from there. He will either love the idea of having your company or let you know of his personal "boundaries". | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 6/7/2012 10:32:29 AM | | I guess ultimately that's the difference between people that seek "relationships" versus "dating"......People that seek a relationship do want to see someone often.....I was in a relationship a year ago that I had a terrible time adjusting to someone that wanted to spend a lot of time together, but I had a talk with him and told him I did often need my time alone, but that didn't mean I didn't like him....but we did manage to balance things out eventually | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 8/14/2012 12:21:09 PM | | If I am really into the guy (i.e. in a relationship), then I would like to see him everyday but I know that it's easier to get complacent that way. If we're just dating, then no, I could care less about seeing the person everyday. Most people that I was just dating in the past I wasn't into that much anyway, but my actual boyfriend, yes, I would like to see him everyday :) | |
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Posted: 8/14/2012 12:29:55 PM | I'm good with once or twice a week to actually see someone, because I like to go out and do stuff when I'm with that person, and you just can't go out to dinner, or to a bar, or even just hang out, every single day. How would you get your shopping done? Do your laundry?
Do you really want to exercise with a hang-over? :-)
You also run the risk of the relationship becoming dull and run-of-the mill. I would rather have slightly too little in-person contact and maintain that sense of energetic anticipation, than too much.
That said, I'm perfectly happy to be in daily contact, by text/phone/email, looking forward to the next time we can be together. | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 8/14/2012 12:44:20 PM |
My question I guess is this.....is it best to ask a guy what he likes in a relationship? Or just wait and let him be the one to ask to see me?
To OP,
We think alike! I would like to see my date everyday too.
Speaking from experience, it's best to not appear "clingy" at the beginning of a relationship; save the texting/calls/meet up everyday AFTER a relationship has developed.
But definitely let your date know about your expectations. :) | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 8/14/2012 12:46:02 PM | | I guess different strokes for different folks nothing wrong with that but it may be wrong with the wrong person. For me personally I need my space I dont want to see someone everyday I would be annoyed by that time someone in my face everyday? ugh! when I am dating I believe 3 times a week is fine who know maybe I havent met the right person yet but hell no everyday is way too much | |
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| Is there anything with wanting to see someone everyday?
Posted: 8/14/2012 1:12:50 PM | | It's all about timing. If I start a relationship with what seems to be a great lady but right off the bat she wants to see me everyday, and be at my place, or wants me to be at her place all the time, I don't think it's going to work. Most of those relationships tend to crash and burn very quickly. I prefer to take the time to grow the relationship, grow the feelings, to so if at some point you move together or see each other more than three times a week, it feels natural and part of that progression. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2012 1:39:16 PM | If I like someone enough, I will want to see them daily, however it takes me time to 'get there'. While Im contemplating things I do like some alone time, so I can keep my head on straight and not get soooo caught up that I find myself blind to issues....but once I have decided I like you, I will want daily contact, either in person or by other means.
There really is no wrong or right in these matters, all that counts is that the 2 involved, agree.
My issue in past relationships...was I was too slow to grow into wanting daily contact and they got fed up. At the time I was worried I would never find myself in synch with anyone again...but that was not the case. Im seeing someone currently who 'gets me' and what I need right now. You will too. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2012 1:49:32 PM | Seeing someone every day? Well, does it have to be the same person, or can it be someone different some days?
Once I'm IN a relationship for the long-term, I usually want to see THAT person every day - heck, I probably want to LIVE with them.
However, in the first few months of dating - at least, and probably for considerably longer - some time apart each week is good for perspective, to think things over, and to see how much you actually miss them not being around. It can help you appreciate each other more when you are together, or let you see their good points and inevitable flaws compared to your own wants and needs. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2012 2:45:49 PM | OP, It's always best to ask questions in my opinion,,and I agree with you spending time with someone you like is not a bad thing,, as well as be absent to do your own thing,, yet I am of the belief, I'd rather spend time with the woman i love than spend it else where,,my girl feels the same way,,there are some who might call that too needy,, in some cases I would agree,, but who am I to judge that as I don't know them..
Men and Women are so different, as well as each sex is so different from each other,,but I do understand your point,, and I think it might me this,, alone time is nice, yes,, but,, If on Friday i choose to stop in a bar and see a few friends,, the first thing I am going to do is call my girl and say,, hey babe,, do you wanna hang with my friends and me tonight,, because I would rather be with you,, as my friends are a bonus, my girl I love..and if she says no.. I'd say,, ok,, 2 -4 beers and i''ll see ya in a hour or so,,( assuming or asking if she made plans for us that I wasn't aware of yet, as she knows i'm up for anything when i get home)
You just have to find the guy that works for you,, never think about changing anyone,, it's never a win win..
Good Luck,, | |
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