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Not much, FillyPhilly. Not much. ;-)
Only need one doesnt have to be alot--I think that is the mistake alot of people online and especially in the forum make--ie there a kid in the relationship forums starting a new thread every day about someting and people are feeding her negative need for attention.
Same with angry profiles--they just are seeking attention and for some the wrong attention is better than none --I prefer no attention except from those I would be interested in--
gosh remember when the number of favorites showed at the bottom of a person's profile lol
It is all part of the same social need to feel important. | |
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Dmaj7
| | Joined: 5/13/2012
Msg: 27 | |
| angry profiles..would you date them?
Posted: 6/8/2012 7:50:43 PM | I won't contact anyone with any negativity in their profile. And sometimes it's frustrating. You're reading a wonderful profile then in the last paragraph....
"If you're just here for sex move on or games or drama...... blah, blah"
These negative profiles probably don't deter the type of people they are trying to weed out, but they do deter, I suspect, most people. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2012 9:08:34 PM | | The fact that they would alter their profile to reflect any need to respond to obvious negative mail or shall we say bad experiance with the online dating simply reflects back on them. The same things happen when you meet people in real or online , some people are morons, if you get a bad mail or date move on why would you reflect that back on yourself? That being said no I move past negitive lol | |
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Dmaj7
| | Joined: 5/13/2012
Msg: 29 | |
| angry profiles..would you date them?
Posted: 6/10/2012 9:07:00 AM | Did you ever see negative profiles that state they are angry at negative and angry profiles???
Sort of like:
"If you have the word head games or anything negative on your profile, just move on and don't bother contacting me."
Soooo you're angry but don't want to deal with angry people. Some days this place just makes my head hurt. Oh gawd I'm being sucked into the anger vortex by posting this negative post. HELP I've created a paradox I can't escape !!!.
Have a nice day. There problem solved :) | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 9:13:13 AM |
Did you ever see negative profiles that state they are angry at negative and angry profiles???
Sort of like:
"If you have the word head games or anything negative on your profile, just move on and don't bother contacting me."
Soooo you're angry but don't want to deal with angry people. Some days this place just makes my head hurt. Oh gawd I'm being sucked into the anger vortex by posting this negative post. HELP I've created a paradox I can't escape !!!.
but the peoplewatching is so incredibly interesting, isn't it?
the trainwrecks, the "romantic ranters" and the screamers... when they email you and you are afraid to say a single solitary word because they had three PAGES of what they hate... breathing might set them off... | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 10:21:11 AM | | Angry profiles would you date them? This reminded me of a cartoon the kids used to watch called "Angry Beavers". In one episode they talk about a Beaver Survival Kit I guess you would need one of those. Generally if I don't like the tone in a profile I will skip to the next one no matter how beautiful her photos appear. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 11:22:07 AM | No
Recently I noticed a profile saying something like
"i hate lairs too"
well this chic was pretty good looking, however an opening line like that indicates trouble.
Anyone talking like this (about things they hate or bad things people have done to them) don't realize they are attracting this kind of thing to them because of the way they thing, what they are focusing one.
It's the law of attraction. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 11:32:03 AM | | I've always been grateful for angry profiles , as they help me to know up front, that they are NOT the kind of people I'd want to get involved with. Next best thing to a warning label ! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 3:35:27 PM | Ok I just got on here to see if anyone wrote on about my post...wow! i was really surprised.
I hopefully did NOT sound angry, writing a forum question on what to think of angry profiles?
I do see a few people see the same thing. I feel if you are writing angry, u are feeling, thinking
and worst of all maybe living angry!
Lastly, I am really sorry that some one has that anger in them. I do hope that they find a release for it. And so be
it if that release is here on POF forums. i did not mean any negativity to any one's profile. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 7:41:44 PM | I think most of us will agree,
it's better to put what you are looking for in your profile,
Not what you don't want.
I mean really, who really wants a cheater, lair, deadbeat, etc.
Nobody.
I have yet to see a profile that says...
"if you're a women beater, thief, deadbeat, please, please contact me" | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 9:31:53 PM |
Dear HarlyDavis,
U r an inspiration 2 many of us 45+ ladies Not me. Nothing would inspire me to put a false age at the top of my profile and then say "oh well" at the bottom. As for negative profiles.. back (previous incarnation) when I was looking and meeting people from here, I stayed away from them and stayed away from those I saw outright lying, too.
I presume you are not a fisherman. The fish always get bigger with each tale.
Hating isn't very becoming. I hope you are not one of the angry profiles. There can be someone here for anyone. Spreading vile may not support one whom you are attempting to find, even in the forums. I like her bowling trophy! LOL
Re: the subject question, I attempt to stay away from the angry profiles like the plague. However, what sometimes seems to be angry, may be an Internet defense mechanism to keep the crazies of the opposite sex, at bay. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 1:41:58 PM |
so my question? does anyone still try or is willing to connect with men or women that they have some interest in but that persons profile has some serious negativity in it? and how has it worked?
I read one a few days ago. First line: "NO DRAMA. If you're life is f*cked-up, don't bother contacting me." Been there, done that." I didn't get any further than that. And I didn't open the email he'd sent me. If just went **poof** The delete button is our friend sometimes. If a man at my age and feels negative towards women, he's not going to magically wake up feeling all sorts of positive about them in the future. I'm not going to be the next woman he trash-talks. JMO  | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 12:49:02 AM | | well i know why some are angry when they log on and see thier matches thier all big fat and ugly. i mean ya gotta admit aint very many do able women on here and the ones that are just looking or someone with money to spend on them nuff said | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 12:59:02 AM | | well i for oneknow why i am angry ive been on here 3 years and noy one date sure they stop look and leave and its mainly cause thier lookin for men with MONEY | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 9:32:29 AM |
well i know why some are angry when they log on and see thier matches thier all big fat and ugly. i mean ya gotta admit aint very many do able women on here and the ones that are just looking or someone with money to spend on them nuff said
I think they maybe are looking for slightly more than someone to do them, maybe? | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 10:24:42 AM | | Nope, wouldn't date someone who is angry...how do I know I wouldn't date them? I've been there and was made to feel I was bothering him no matter what I did...and if he spent money on me I never heard the end of it...stories of how the last g/f took him for his money, blah, blah, blah...I'd rather spend my time with someone who is positive and upbeat...and who actually likes women. | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 10:29:19 AM | | If I were looking, NO! They are still working thru HURT & need friends, family & a therapist. Not my job. Hurt people hurt people :0( | |
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Posted: 6/16/2012 10:33:27 AM | "If you're just here for sex move on or games or drama...... blah, blah"
These negative profiles probably don't deter the type of people they are trying to weed out, but they do deter, I suspect, most people.
It would seem these "jerk and game player warnings" have two effects:
1. An average man open for a LTR will read them and think "she's been used, is bitter and her protective walls are a mile high. Do I really want to go through this?" He moves on.
2. The bad boy reads this and thinks "she's been had before so if I play my cards (and her emotions) right I may get my chance".
Posting anti-jerk comments is a challenge to bad boys. They'll say all of the right things and push all the right emotional buttons to get around her protective walls.
These warnings not only don't work but can backfire. The only men chased away are men open to a LTR.
Confident women run into "bad boys" I'm sure. However, they seldom, if ever, give dishonorable advertising in their profiles. They kick them to the curb and move on. This displays a confident woman and is very attractive.
I guess for women to feel protected they need to post these types of warnings. However, these warnings are a turn-off. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 5:13:16 AM | | I am a serious person, so I take the seriousness of others very seriously. I also have a very keen sense of humor, but not at the expense of others' dismay. When I am confronted with such a profile, I take into account past grievances the person may have experienced and I accept their boundaries with much respect. What frustrates me is when I receive an e-mail from somebody whose profiles are filled with negativity, such as sexual inuendo, disrespect for the command of basic language, selfishness, doesn't date women with kids yet they contact me, et al. At that point, it becomes so silly that i have to laugh - not at them, but at the irony of it. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 6:02:56 AM | Dave of Indiana,
2. The bad boy reads this and thinks "she's been had before so if I play my cards (and her emotions) right I may get my chance".
Exactly, my thought also.
A person who has such a profile is ringing a bell to manipulators, sex fiends, psychopaths, etc. ....'Come and get me!'. In a few months she'll be crying to her friends ..'He seemed such a nice guy....how could he have ...blah..blah'. Dramas queens and serial victims. | |
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largo2
| | Joined: 12/13/2011
Msg: 48 | |
| angry profiles..would you date them?
Posted: 6/17/2012 6:22:26 AM | One thing I have learned is to stay away from men who state 'no drama please.' Inevitable, people who say this are the type of person who creates drama in a relationship, usually through inconsistencies in their own behaviour, mixed signals, push-pull behaviour, etc.
(Please note, I am not saying that women don't do this; my experience is only with dating men, so that is all I can speak to.) | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 8:01:40 AM | Its weird how we want honesty, but if it doesn't fit our parameters we say its bad. Yes people get jerked around here, and yes it can be frustrating, but how do you ask for it not to happen without seeming angry.
We are supposed to put ourselves on display on the profiles, always looking like that great catch. No flaws, no faults, and then we say no lies. Leaving rather large things out is lieing as well.
I don't care much for temper tantrums, and wanting folks to be "real" shouldn't even have to be asked for, but it is. Now of course I steer clear of the angry folks too... but I was just kind of thinking out loud . | |
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Posted: 6/17/2012 9:25:52 AM | | What i can,t understand is woman say no liar,s or cheat,s. Now no man is gonna say on here i,m a liar and a cheat are they. | |
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