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| | Advice on getting responses from good looking womenPage 6 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | Seriously though, this is an internet forum, the fact that more than half of them aren't bashing their heads on the keyboards to type unintelligible racist hate speech means this is a pretty tame community.
I agree. This place is lightweight compared to many other forums I frequent. I just can't help but laugh at the multiple personalities some of these women possess. It varies with each thread. One thread, you'll see them preaching a sermon on being "nice", yet rip someone apart on another. I don't give a shit either way, really, but wearing two different faces is rather lame.
But anyway, don't listen to any of it. Achieving what you truly want never happens without having to spit in the eyes of a few naysayers along the way. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 12:49:01 AM | @ Truth...
A chantard after my own heart... surprised this wasn't posted sooner ;-)
@ThePig
" I don't give a shit either way, really, but wearing two different faces is rather lame."
Emotionally unbalanced women on a dating site? You've got to be kidding me!?!?!
Not a swipe at all women of course, but I don't think anyone is denying that some people (men and women) are here for very easily identifiable emotional reasons...
Saying one thing and doing the opposite isn't exactly conducive to a healthy relationship.
"Achieving what you truly want never happens without having to spit in the eyes of a few naysayers along the way."
Heard that loud and clear. Haters gonna hate. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 5:04:28 AM |
I still have yet to get through, no matter how many times that I've said, that I'm not trying to date Ms. America... *head desk* just someone that I consider good looking. Please stop making these accusations before I become the first carpel tunnel fatality trying to explain this for the zillionth time.
Then please cite examples of women in the media that you think are attractive so we can get a better idea of what you mean by "good-looking women".
For the record, I'm not at all prone to anger, but that doesn't mean I don't ever get annoyed when people are being frustrating...
And you will continue to be frustrated as long as you continue to have this overly-inflated opinion of yourself and what you have to offer the women in which you feel entitled to---in terms of looks, personality, temperament (you sound stubborn and very high-maintenance), educational level, literacy, and the ability to convey your points effectively. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 6:39:37 AM |
Uh... first how can I be serious about someone based on 3 paragraphs of generic spew (if I'm lucky)...
"I'm a fun loving girl, I like to travel, family means so much to me and I want a guy that is kind and loving...."
Yeah, that's what I get to work with 99% of the time. You have to reach out to them and try to find common interest or ground.
And no, I don't copy and paste my messages, each is hand crafted to the individual, so... bleh... You're not helping.
I'm not being contrary here but am just curious because I've always wondered about guys who say this sort of thing. If a girl says nothing but generic garbage on her profile, how does one "hand-craft" a different message to each woman? I know that when I come across a guy whose profile looks like generic garbage, there's not a darn thing I could say to the guy that I couldn't say to 100 other "generic" guys.
I still have yet to get through, no matter how many times that I've said, that I'm not trying to date Ms. America... *head desk* just someone that I consider good looking.
Hey, I hear you. But the women you're messaging are thinking the exact same thing. They want someone they consider good-looking, and it seems thus far, most of them haven't considered you to be so. If a woman you don't consider good-looking wouldn't interest you, I'm not sure what advice you'd like in order to make women interested in you who don't consider you good-looking. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 6:50:41 AM |
Then please cite examples of women in the media that you think are attractive so we can get a better idea of what you mean by "good-looking women".
Why in the world should he have to do this? Guys ask this question every day around here and yet for some reason he's got to define what's attractive by rattling off a list of celebrities?
His question, again, is how to increase his response rate and gain more replies from women he finds good-looking. That's it. Same question we get around here every day. I can bet the others who ask this same thing are also trying to get responses from women they find good-looking. I doubt they'd be too concerned if women they weren't attracted to at all ignored their messages.
So why the interest in what A-K-K's exact standards are? I'm afraid to ask what's next. Maybe having him provide a list of usernames and profile links he's targeting to help put him down some more.
Okay, we get it, he's not smoking hot to you and you find him self-centered. Great. Can we move past that now and focus on providing him with some more helpful, positive suggestions to his original question? Please? | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 7:37:42 AM | | OP, I suggest that instead of going after the women you find attractive (and does that include other areas of compatibility, as best you can determine???), try attracting women via your profile so that they contact you. This site may not be the best for that, though, but on the site I used when dating, I got many contacts (and almost never initiated any). Sure, most were not worth pursuing thereafter, but a reasonable percentage were. Some were very beautiful, and some of those were also very compatible. My wife eventually found me on match, and she is extremely compatible - I also think she's one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 8:43:50 AM |
So why the interest in what A-K-K's exact standards are? I'm afraid to ask what's next. Maybe having him provide a list of usernames and profile links he's targeting to help put him down some more.
Okay, we get it, he's not smoking hot to you and you find him self-centered. Great. Can we move past that now and focus on providing him with some more helpful, positive suggestions to his original question? Please?
Yeah, really. I can't help but wonder why a woman who finds him so terribly unappealing gives a shit about his opinions, preferences, or communicating any further with him.
Rather peculiar. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 1:14:49 PM |
Then please cite examples of women in the media that you think are attractive so we can get a better idea of what you mean by "good-looking women". Why in the world should he have to do this? Guys ask this question every day around here and yet for some reason he's got to define what's attractive by rattling off a list of celebrities? His question, again, is how to increase his response rate and gain more replies from women he finds good-looking. That's it. Same question we get around here every day. I can bet the others who ask this same thing are also trying to get responses from women they find good-looking. I doubt they'd be too concerned if women they weren't attracted to at all ignored their messages.
I think the OP needs to define these women further, because he didn't start a thread asking how to increase his response rate from women he found attractive---instead, he asked specifically how to attract "good-looking women".
The OP lamented that he was not getting any responses from any good-looking women he contacted, despite his not being a bad-looking guy. When it was suggested to him by several posters that he was only average-looking and needed to be more realistic, he insisted to these posters that he was indeed handsome and had successfully dated good-looking women in the past.
He later amended his position to state the women didn't have to be "Miss America" and only had to be attractive to him personally---which is very vague. If these women's looks are roughly on a par with his own (give or take a point), then I think the advice given to the OP would be different.
Someone said earlier in the thread that if these "good-looking women" are consistently rejecting the OP because they don't find him physically attractive, there is nothing he can do to change that fact---and he would be best served to seek out women who are not quite as attractive. I happen to agree with this sentiment.
If on the other hand, he is getting rejected by ALL women he contacts---including those he deems as slightly above average, or average in appearance---then he is likely getting rejected for reasons other than his looks, e.g. women could be having issues with his profile or the content of his messages. It's for this reason that I think it would be helpful to get a rough idea of the attractiveness level of the women he is contacting. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 1:27:55 PM |
Someone said earlier in the thread that if these "good-looking women" are consistently rejecting the OP because they don't find him physically attractive, there is nothing he can do to change that fact---and he would be best served to seek out women who are not quite as attractive. I happen to agree with this sentiment.
Attractive according to the masses...nevermind.I don't think I can explain this again, lol. Extollere seems to be the only other one on the same level.
OP, it is clear according to the majority, you clearly are looking to date a supermodel because that is the only version of attraction that anybody seems to grasp. You have to settle with an "ugly" woman. Life will be easier for you if you just accept this :P | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 1:50:16 PM | Adam:
Obviously you don't get much play from women. If you do, then they are using you for your money if you have much of it. I am not try to be mean, you meant well by trying to give the guy advice. However, that mentality is pathetic!!! I'm willing to bet he doubles the amount of attention you get.. and it's got nothing to do with lamborghini's in the background of photos. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 2:06:36 PM | | Adulthood is the big leagues. So even average guys can date the super hot women. Apparently many women in this thread are in disbelief on how that is even possible...heh...the little green monsters are coming out. :P | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 2:11:55 PM |
The OP lamented that he was not getting any responses from any good-looking women he contacted, despite his not being a bad-looking guy. When it was suggested to him by several posters that he was only average-looking and needed to be more realistic, he insisted to these posters that he was indeed handsome and had successfully dated good-looking women in the past.
^^^^ Didn't take time to read each & every post in this thread but if this is the case (bolded) .. I wonder why OP just doesn't simply use the same method of whatever he did in the past to attract & date good-looking women? ...
Ohh .. so you mean online dating is different? .... YEAP. ... 
*News flash OP: Thousands of men, every single day on POF, have the same exact problem you do too OP.
I'd also like to think may if not most of us (male or female) want to find a partner who is good-looking IN OUR EYES too. Nothing new there.
Not sure of you have watched this or not ... its on your edit page -
POF.com Advice Series for men - How-to improve your profile:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=veLxi9O5u9c
Adulthood is the big leagues. So even average guys can date the super hot women. Apparently many women in this thread are in disbelief on how that is even possible...heh...the little green monsters are coming out. :P
Perhaps you can offer OP some advice different from what the masses has already offered then. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 2:28:12 PM | The only advice I would offer is that he should continue to be himself. Being called average is actually a compliment because that is the holy grail of the dating world for men and women. I wish women would call me average. *cries*
The OP also has the ideal height for what most women seek, has a stable occupation, and is single. His approach is good given it is all about trial and error (most women don't understand this point of view).
I will say to land an "attractive" woman it is all about sincerity, so ensure you set up a meet up with a woman as soon as possible to generate a real life connection and chemistry. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 3:29:03 PM |
I think the OP needs to define these women further...
I really don't think he "needs" to do anything. In fact, I'm hoping he won't respond at all and instead let this thread fade quietly into obscurity.
When it was suggested to him by several posters that he was only average-looking and needed to be more realistic, he insisted to these posters that he was indeed handsome and had successfully dated good-looking women in the past.
Oh well if several say it's so I guess there's no need for further opinion. Let's just scribble "average" on his forehead. Or, maybe we could remember that everyone's got different taste. It doesn't matter what we here think. It only matters what the women he's messaging think. But since we're throwing our own personal opinions of the OP out here, I'll add mine to the mix. I do not think he's anywhere near below-average. I could easily see "good-looking women" going for him for a variety of reasons and it looks as though he can wear the hell out of a nice suit. But since I don't have "several posters" agreeing with me, my opinion might not count for much. And good on him for insisting he's handsome. I'd hate to think what the hostility against him would do to his self-esteem were he not the least bit confident in himself.
If on the other hand, he is getting rejected by ALL women he contacts---including those he deems as slightly above average, or average in appearance---then he is likely getting rejected for reasons other than his looks, e.g. women could be having issues with his profile or the content of his messages. It's for this reason that I think it would be helpful to get a rough idea of the attractiveness level of the women he is contacting.
While I do understand your point right here, I don't find having a rough idea of who in the media he's jonesing after to be necessary in order to give him advice. I managed to offer him a few ideas as well as a couple of places offline he can try and I surely don't know who his favorite celebrities are. I can't recall seeing that ever asked of anyone in the similar threads on this topic that I've read. It just doesn't sound very productive. Judging from the behavior I've seen in here, I think the OP is better off keeping his mouth shut on this one. It would only open him up to further negativity and I think he's been given enough of that as it is.
Despite the recap (thank you), I'm just not seeing what was so offensive about anything he said. I surely don't see enough to warrant 6 pages (give or take) of posts putting down his appearance. The shock and awe surrounding the idea that this "below-average guy" could dare find himself "attractive" is really disturbing. If anything is truly unattractive in here, it's the way the OP has been treated. Terrible.
The only advice I would offer is that he should continue to be himself.
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Posted: 6/12/2012 5:44:23 PM | I've never been the one to judge a person completely on looks alone. I certainly don't think the number of email messages one gets online should be a measure of one's attractiveness, but if it is then for some reason I must be an attractive woman because the few times I was online I had at least 30 or more messages. It's really difficult to keep up. So, chances are a portion of these good looking women you are looking for have their profiles blocked most of the time. I liked Sunday night. But, as far as reading your profile, I couldn't get past. . .
I'm looking around to date an attractive and balanced woman and and eventually see about forming a serious relationship.
Sorry, I'm guessing that a lot of the women you emailed thought YOU were too shallow to respond.
Instead, you might want to look for a woman that you can connect on all levels not just on the physical appearance level --- a woman who is not "perfect" but in your eyes she is absolutely gorgeous because she is beautiful inside and out - but mostly beautiful on the inside with a kind and loving heart. I would respond to that. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 7:18:20 PM | @ Raina
"I'm not being contrary here but am just curious because I've always wondered about guys who say this sort of thing. If a girl says nothing but generic garbage on her profile, how does one "hand-craft" a different message to each woman? I know that when I come across a guy whose profile looks like generic garbage, there's not a darn thing I could say to the guy that I couldn't say to 100 other "generic" guys."
I don't just use this site, other sites have questions and other things... this site also has chemistry tests and things like that... to be fair, if a girl has absolutely nothing listed on her file and no insight as to who she is, then the message simply explains I thought she was pretty and want to get to know more about her, more or less... if there is more information, I use that to my advantage.
@ SunshineBridge...
"Sorry, I'm guessing that a lot of the women you emailed thought YOU were too shallow to respond.
Instead, you might want to look for a woman that you can connect on all levels not just on the physical appearance level --- a woman who is not "perfect" but in your eyes she is absolutely gorgeous because she is beautiful inside and out - but mostly beautiful on the inside with a kind and loving heart. I would respond to that."
A very good point others have mentioned, but no one has a solution to. I'm not sure how to remedy it yet, but it's kicking around in my noodle to rewrite that one line....
I do have to tell you though, I can't find a woman "absolutely gorgeous because she is beautiful inside and out - but mostly beautiful on the inside with a kind and loving heart." based on just a profile. There's too little to go on... that's the kind of thing you discover in person over time. Quite frankly I'm suspect of anyone who has never met me and starts by telling me "I'm in love with you because of the three paragraphs you wrote a few pictures I saw"... OK crazy lady, thanks for never talking to me again please...
@ Random Fish
"I wonder why OP just doesn't simply use the same method of whatever he did in the past to attract & date good-looking women? ..."
Because of lifstyle changes. I don't go out and party anymore, and drink till past dawn. I don't have the time as a business professional to just go "hang out" places in hopes to meet a woman. Online dating is the most efficient option at this point.
Granted, none of my LTR's were ever from Parties, they were all weird and unique circumstances. My last LTR was a model at a photoshoot I was hosting for a business I was building the website for and we just hit it off for no good reason. I don't host photoshoots really much at all, so that's not really a thing, plus she wasn't really a model, just a very pretty girl that was asked to come and model... but yeah, my LTR's were always just freak accidents that worked out well, until they didn't of course...
Frankly I don't even know what I did to attract such women other than just being me and them seeming to like whatever they perceived that as.
@ ForRum
Good advice, but not very specific. I've been through the profile reviews and received a bunch of tips and such, but still not having anything pan out yet though. Couple of nibbles here and there.
@ Halcyon
"Then please cite examples of women in the media that you think are attractive so we can get a better idea of what you mean by "good-looking women"." Besides, I don't really know celebrities, and also, I mean, I can even pick at looks for super models
Nope. As Extollere pointed out, it's just an excuse to give you further ammunition to pick me apart, and like she said, if I had instead come with lower opinions of myself you'd be bashing me for not being confident enough.
Besides, it's not like I couldn't sit back and pick on super models...
http://knowyourmeme.com/photos/238423-210-would-not-bang
I think it's clear from what Awork said that you simply don't get this...
"OP, it is clear according to the majority, you clearly are looking to date a supermodel because that is the only version of attraction that anybody seems to grasp. You have to settle with an "ugly" woman. Life will be easier for you if you just accept this :P"
There's no pleasing some people, like you, and that's fine.
"And you will continue to be frustrated as long as you continue to have this overly-inflated opinion of yourself "
You are wrong. I'm not frustrated with you anymore, this is kind of funny at this point watching you pick at me and tell me what a useless piece of crap I am and how no good looking women should be attracted to me. I can't give you the benefit of the doubt anymore and even try to take this seriously until you show that you're looking to do more than just fling poo.
"If on the other hand, he is getting rejected by ALL women he contacts---including those he deems as slightly above average, or average in appearance---then he is likely getting rejected for reasons other than his looks, e.g. women could be having issues with his profile or the content of his messages. "
Then suggest things, like I asked in the beginning, that might amend the problem. Do you see something on my profile, that maybe doesn't strike you as well, but if you were the target audience, would it bother you? How would you improve it? Maybe a guy sent you an awesome message that got you interested... what about that message made you interested? These are the things I have asked about... not what kind of woman I am looking for, because there isn't an exact answer. Lets say just for instance, this super model came on to me and wanted a relationship but she was a raving psycho bitch 24/7... do you honestly think I'd stick around for that? Lets say a girl is only mildly attractive physically, but has a winning personality and her life together and is really into me... don't you think that might affect my judgement too?
Attraction isn't just looks, DERP! Saying "ATTRACTIVE WOMEN" does not equal must be Ms. Universe... I don't know how many times I have to type that. It's all relative chica. If a chick is a little hotter but maybe she sucks at cooking? OK, so we eat out or I cook... You gotta remember it's all give and take and must resemble some balance, and yes, it must be MY standard of balance because I'm the one who's choosing to be there. I can't give you a chart to explain what I find attractive because it's going to be skewed and it's going to leave more room for you to tell me about how I'm awful for wanting what I want. It's not cool man...
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Posted: 6/12/2012 8:13:52 PM | | Attraction is based mainly on confidence that is exuded as well physical apperance. Women that are high in self confidence tend to describe themselves as attractive. These women have climbed the hurdle of social conditioning where they are barraged that they are average and women on magazine covers are attractive. Why don't men have this problem? Because they are not conditioned and shaped by media to think this way. This is why even average guys think they are hot stuff. I think I am hot stuff lol take that jaded ladies posting in this thread. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 9:01:49 PM | LMFAO,
Maybe thats my problem,I'm just an average lookin guy chasing after the most attractive women?!
Man,whats a guy to do,guess I'll just keep chasing them,because I have no intentions on settling for someone I dont want ,LOL! | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 7:56:32 AM |
Then suggest things, like I asked in the beginning, that might amend the problem. Do you see something on my profile, that maybe doesn't strike you as well, but if you were the target audience, would it bother you? How would you improve it?
As others suggested, you need new photos; and it wouldn't hurt to update your look. For starters, you could have your hair professionally cut and styled, and get more current eye wear. I wouldn't mention in your profile that you want an attractive woman. It's fine to say that you want a woman who is in shape---as long as YOU are in shape.
Your first date suggestion of sushi and coffee doesn't sound very appetizing---those two foods don't belong in the same sentence. Plus, what if the woman isn't a coffee drinker or doesn't eat raw fish? Suggest meeting for a drink, or perhaps lunch, but don't mention specific foods for the first date.
Maybe a guy sent you an awesome message that got you interested... what about that message made you interested?
Personally, I preferred to receive messages that focused on my hobbies and interests. My partner talked about our mutual interest in aviation in his opening message. Don't describe yourself---that's what your profile is for. I had a 50-character minimum to discourage two or three-word messages referencing physical appearance.
These are the things I have asked about... not what kind of woman I am looking for, because there isn't an exact answer. Lets say just for instance, this super model came on to me and wanted a relationship but she was a raving psycho **** 24/7... do you honestly think I'd stick around for that? Lets say a girl is only mildly attractive physically, but has a winning personality and her life together and is really into me... don't you think that might affect my judgement too?
Of course, however, you were asking about getting girls to respond to your messages in the first place---not assessing their personality once contact had already been established.
Attraction isn't just looks, DERP! Saying "ATTRACTIVE WOMEN" does not equal must be Ms. Universe... I don't know how many times I have to type that.
She might not have to be Ms. Universe, but if you're contacting girls that most guys would rate as an 8 or 9 on the attractiveness scale, that's most likely going to be where your main difficulty lies. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 12:58:23 PM | Also, you might want to check out what your competition is saying in its first two sentences. That's really your hook line - honestly people don't like to read a long boring profile. And, of course people look at the pictures. Not that my profile is award winning; however, my first two lines are:
Hello! Aren't dating sites so much fun. You get to meet new people whom you'd probably never get the chance to meet out in real life. Make new friends and start new adventures.
I chose that because it is a positive thing to say and it hits the nail on the head as to the reason why people join a dating website in the first place. WELL????? You want to go out on dates and meet new people. Don't you? So, let's go out and do something! I had very few requirements for the men to contact me beyond that they be curious, brave and strong. It's the very last thing I say - not the first. And, what kind of man is going to exclude themselves from this description? If you are looking to date, absolutely nothing in your profile should read negative. Why put up hurdles for people who haven't even met you yet? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 4:44:54 PM | @sunshine
That starting line is brilliant. Comes on too strong for a man to put in his file, but for a woman that would deff grab my attention.
@ Halcyon
"As others suggested, you need new photos; and it wouldn't hurt to update your look. For starters, you could have your hair professionally cut and styled, and get more current eye wear. I wouldn't mention in your profile that you want an attractive woman. It's fine to say that you want a woman who is in shape---as long as YOU are in shape.
Your first date suggestion of sushi and coffee doesn't sound very appetizing---those two foods don't belong in the same sentence. Plus, what if the woman isn't a coffee drinker or doesn't eat raw fish? Suggest meeting for a drink, or perhaps lunch, but don't mention specific foods for the first date."
Getting a better hair cut is certainly a good idea but I have to let it grow back some first. In shape is much better way to put that I think, and really that's what I'm after now that you mention it, it's more body type and having a face I don't mind waking up next to for years. In shape indicates a lack of the things I don't like (cellulite, pear shape, etc), so that's a really good rewrite, thanks for that. For the record I am in shape. I work out 3x a week at the gym and have a taught muscular figure with almost no body fat to speak of... I was told specifically not to mention that in the POF video though, so I don't, because really it does sound like bragging.
I guess you kind of make a point on the sushi/coffee thing, but Iunno, I'd eat both together because that's me. Some women don't like sushi, that's true, but most all of the women I message (IE in my target demographic) all list sushi in their foods section, it's just a healthy and flavorful food so it goes hand in hand with people that work out.
Not everyone drinks coffee though... I wouldn't want to say a drink though, because it implies alcoholic beverages, and I don't like to drink if I'm meeting a woman for the first time. I'd rather appreciate the experience sober. I really am not much of a drinker unless theirs a social reason to (wedding, new years eve with friends, etc). I used to party a lot when I was younger, I completely grew out of having a desire to except on rare special occasions. I've had the same case of guinness in my fridge since I moved in back in March. It's about 1/2 gone.
"Personally, I preferred to receive messages that focused on my hobbies and interests. My partner talked about our mutual interest in aviation in his opening message. Don't describe yourself---that's what your profile is for. I had a 50-character minimum to discourage two or three-word messages referencing physical appearance. "
Already got that down, with exception to when women don't list interests "I like to do fun things" is more common than you'd think, which means either they want to talk to you about it, or they are kind of ditzy, but there's no way to know until you interact with them.
"Of course, however, you were asking about getting girls to respond to your messages in the first place---not assessing their personality once contact had already been established."
Sort of... I only really need one girl to respond to me and work out well, but the reality is you're gonna land on the jackpot on one returned message, so yeah... I want to appeal to a broader audience, but only with the intention of meeting someone that is right for me... It's kind of a catch 22...
"She might not have to be Ms. Universe, but if you're contacting girls that most guys would rate as an 8 or 9 on the attractiveness scale, that's most likely going to be where your main difficulty lies."
I'd say, generally speaking, most women 7+ (at least what I would call a 7, everyone is different) is what I am typically messaging. There are exceptions, some attractive women I won't message (mentioning drug use, obvious huge amounts of baggage, has kids, etc) and occasionally a woman that is a 6 (and once or twice even a 5) will appeal to me for other reasons, though that's more rare and not common at all. For fairness, all of my exes except one where I "tried dating a woman I wasn't attracted to" where around the 8-9 range IMO anyway. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 7:24:22 AM | | I disagree with the poster above me. I've tried messeging women who i find attractive and end up with no luck. I been told im average looking and came to terms of accepting that. No attractive woman would go for an average guy, its solid proof for being on here. So, IRL, i will only approach a woman who is average and i just may have a remote chance | |
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| Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/14/2012 8:59:34 AM | I disagree with the poster above me. I've tried messeging women who i find attractive and end up with no luck. I been told im average looking and came to terms of accepting that. No attractive woman would go for an average guy, its solid proof for being on here. So, IRL, i will only approach a woman who is average and i just may have a remote chance.
Just so you know, girls here on POF are more picky when it comes to appearance that they are IRL. IRL you can use your charm, wit, and intelligence to make up for what you lack in appearance. So IRL go ahead and approach an "attractive" woman. If you actually have something to offer, they will usually give you the time of day. Here on POF I have been shot down by some pretty "attractive" women. However I don't let this bother me, because I have had more "attractive" women IRL show positive interest in me than a lot of the girls that don't give me the time of day here. | |
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| Advice on getting responses from good looking women
Posted: 6/14/2012 9:38:11 AM |
Just so you know, girls here on POF are more picky when it comes to appearance that they are IRL. IRL you can use your charm, wit, and intelligence to make up for what you lack in appearance. So IRL go ahead and approach an "attractive" woman. If you actually have something to offer, they will usually give you the time of day. Here on POF I have been shot down by some pretty "attractive" women. However I don't let this bother me, because I have had more "attractive" women IRL show positive interest in me than a lot of the girls that don't give me the time of day here.
Well you probably make alot of $ too. Besides i dont know how to use charm | |
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