| | First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?Page 3 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | OP, of COURSE you should have good manners and personal hygiene on a date. When I go out on a date, I make sure to be nice and clean and smell nice. You want the other person to realize that you put some effort into into grooming and being presentable for them. Manners are just as important! It shows that you value the people around you AND yourself.You want them to be proud to be out with you not embarrassed, lol!!
I went on a date recently and the guy made a point of pulling the manager at the restaurant aside and introducing me to him (they knew each other) which made me feel good because that let me know that he was proud to be out with me. If I'd shown up to the date with dirty, unwashed hair, ripped clothes, and swore like a sailor and smelled like yesterdays trash, then he likely wouldn't have been eager for me to meet his acquaintances, lol! | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 6/10/2012 5:14:07 AM | Ya know how they say...."Just BE YOURSELF" on the first date? Well...there ya go. I would have told him after 5 minutes..."hey I'm so glad you took the time to clean up to meet me tonite, but my appetite just went out the window" so I'm gonna go home. You didn't owe him one more minute of your time after he showed up looking like that...WTF...he sure wasn't out to impress you.
You cannot put pearls on a swine. Or perfume on a pig. | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 6/10/2012 5:46:15 AM | If you'd gone out with Walt, you'd prolly have spent your grocery money bailing him outta jail!
Actually, if it went well, you'd be sitting right beside me in that cell. That's how it usually works,most of the time. | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 6/10/2012 7:41:18 AM | | Whats that old saying about a real friend will bail you out of jail, but a great friend will go to jail with you and say "Wow, that was a blast and totally worth it!" | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 6/10/2012 1:59:24 PM |
LOL true story.... and because i left him at the table, he has blocked me on PoF and his cell carrier. I tried to apologize for leaving ( because im actually a nice person) i was unable to express my displeasure at the entire disaster of a date.
lol this isn't being nice, it's being a doormat. Keeping your opinion to yourself despite being immensely disrespected does neither of you any favors. | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 6/10/2012 2:59:12 PM | | Iconoclast, the version of that saying I know is "a friend will bail you out of jail; a best-friend will help you bury the body" LOL | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 6/10/2012 3:14:37 PM |
Iconoclast, the version of that saying I know is "a friend will bail you out of jail; a best-friend will help you bury the body" LOL
I like to bury the bodies myself to avoid blackmail. Don't need anyone dragging the lake!
Works almost as well as the "Don't worry I put the antidote in your wine"
You're a cheeky monkey! We Yanks seldom use poison. We don't have the right wine goblets. | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 3:24:07 PM |
I like to bury the bodies myself to avoid blackmail. Don't need anyone dragging the lake!
Oh yes the old "we should dig two holes to throw them off the scent" trick... Works almost as well as the "Don't worry I put the antidote in your wine" | |
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Posted: 6/10/2012 4:11:12 PM |
Maybe you should check the threads posted by guys who are complaining about not being able to get a date.
Maybe the women of pof have run into too many dirt bags like the OP's date. Hence, they are afraid to date any man again. Jeeze, and the guys around here complain women are too busy being picky. If this was all I could attract I wouldn't date again either. | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 6/10/2012 7:33:39 PM | | I once left a date that kept talking/texting on her phone the entire time we were at dinner. Since we both drove separate cars, I excused myself (not like she noticed much) and paid for my half of the meal and left. She called me twice later but I never answered and deleted the vms. Lesson learned, if someone is too into themselves to pay much attention to you they aren't worth your time. So...OP, obviously you don't apologize. | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 6/10/2012 8:03:50 PM | | He must have obstructive sleep apnea, don't go in his car if he's driving. i would of threw a glass of water in his face. | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 7/9/2012 8:35:10 PM | | I laughed like crazy when I read this but I'm sure it wouldn't of been nearly as funny had I experienced anything like this. All I can say is what the flip is wrong with some people. | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 7/9/2012 9:06:44 PM | | This story is either ridiculously fake, or we've found the person with the most broken parsing of "who to go out with" ever. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 3:52:05 AM | OP I am sorry. I had just worked a 12 hour day at the quickee lube and was hot and sweaty.
I gobbled the chips and salsa 'cuz I hads no lunch. When the roach coach came by I hadz no cash. I givded it all to my baby mamma the preevious day. I wuz real hungrie.
I did cleen my hands before din din. I wipded them on my pantz. Gots most of the goop off. What more do yooz want?
Guess I thought i was at home with my two wives 16 kidz. Somebody is always burpin or fartin at the table.
A nap after yer eat is healthie..no?
So do ya wanna try again? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 4:05:01 AM | OMG, I know this guy!!!
Had something simialr happen to me a number of years ago.
Too funny. Its like watching a train wreck. You don't want to stay, and yet you can't tear yourself away from sheer amazement. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 7:34:46 AM | This....
He arrives in his work clothes, pit stained, dirty, greasy and smelly. We sit down for dinner, and he starts fondling all the free chips with his disgustingly dirty fingers. Double-dips into the salsa
And this...
He gets halfway through his meal before he belches loudly, shoves the plate aside, and leans back. He farts
But this is the part you have a problem with?
If you're so tired you cannot complete a meal.. DO NOT GO OUT ON A DATE
Wow. I would think him dozing off would have been a blessing.
I am totally out of the new Dating Standards loop.
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 7/11/2012 8:20:01 AM |
Posted By: AddHomonym on 6/9/2012 5  46 PM Subject: First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime? Message: ^^^Guess how much pity decent guys who can't even get past your filters have for you?
I checked her profile after your post and expected to find she had things like, "must be between 6'1" and 6' 1.5" inches; must have blue eyes, brown hair, a college education, and earn over 90K/year." Instead, she has filters to reflect her interest in a non-smoking partner who is also interested in something long term. What is wrong with that?
Back to OP--yep, do not ever continue a date when you have noticed something that is completely unpalatable to you. Just stand up (or don't sit down in the first place) and say you are leaving. If he seems surprised--which I doubt, given how he didn't seem to care at all---and asks why, just say you only date people who have the decency to wash their hands before sitting down to a meal, or who appear to have made *some* effort in exchange for the pleasure of your company. You don't have to answer either; you can just leave.
Have a higher standard for yourself and NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR HAVING THOSE STANDARDS!! | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 7/11/2012 9:17:16 AM | I have a chuckle reading this thread. I see the OP is just like most of any other OPs. Someone needs to vent, express his/her opinions, ask questions or tell people about the funniest/weirdest first meet/date.
When men post something regarding women’s behaviour, bashing them or criticizing them, women are upset and fight (verbally) back. And vice-versa.
I believe this story is true. But why would the Op want to apologize to that man? The scenario of this date was weird. You don’t owe him anything. Just forget about it and move on. Don’t let it bother you. | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 7/11/2012 11:20:57 AM | | I likely would have excused myself before the nap even began. In the years of meeting people from online I have toughened up a bit and am less worried about being like by everyone and thier dog. He certainly wasnt worried what you would think! | |
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| First date... Dinner.. and.. naptime?
Posted: 7/11/2012 1:43:37 PM | You see this is a perfect example of why you should always talk on the phone after a few emails instead of waiting weeks with tons of email interaction. By the time you do talk on the phone, you are biased by expectations you have created and want to give the guy the benefit of the doubt in person. For me, I want to have a woman on the phone after a few emails. You get to judge the person's conversational skills and you aren't influenced by any expectations you have created. If someone can't hold a ten minute conversation on the phone, no need to go on the date. Secondly, it is a perfect example of how words on a screen mean absolutely nothing in regards to real life interaction. Some women want to have a romance novel style relationship with tons of emails and written word interaction before even meeting for the first time. However, you aren't going to be spending time with an email. You are going to be spending time with the person.
Personally, I NEVER take a woman to dinner on a first date. Why would I want to shell out that much money on a woman I have never even met or if I know I will even see again? For the first month it is low key fun activities like bowling, pool,mini golf, bocci ball, etc and free dates like hikes, picnics, etc.. Let's face it, you can get to know somebody just as well doing a low key activity as you can going to a dinner. If a woman shows me that her intentions are good after 6-7 dates and she has helped pay at least once, then I take her to dinner on me. But most of all, dinners are like interviews in the beginning. I say just have fun, keep things light, and get to know each other. | |
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