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| | attractiveness differencePage 11 of 28 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28) | I get noticed all the time. yet I haven't had a date in years. I have been told that I scare women cause of my looks. i do look like the hulk, so that intimidates women. There was a day when women loved big muscular guys and Im sure alot still do, but cause of all the negative things in the media regarding steroids, many women think a big muscular man will somehow lose control and kill them.
Its ashame many women feel that way. I feel women should want the king of the jungle, but they seem to like the justin beibers of the world now. Maybe they want a man thats not threatening to them. A man that they themselves could probably beat up. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 8:56:45 AM | | Men that like overweight women, while there are some out there, are few and far between. Its very much an exception, rather than a rule. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 10:52:12 AM |
Confidence comes with success.
‘Success’ by whose definition? When is money or career enough to feel confident in oneself? A confident person defines success for him/herself.
‘Well….I’m not making enough money, so I can’t be confident.’
‘I’m not where I want to be in my career, so I can’t be confident.’
A confident person is confident within his/herself. Confidence is not dependent on outside influences, other people or arbitrary circumstances.
People who blame their looks and the opposite sex for their lack of dating success are left with few options…plastic surgery, various masks or useless griping on a dating site forum. Throw up your hands and give up, then. It’s much easier than working on self improvement and cultivating a healthy self esteem.
Is it worth it to torture yourselves to get in shape to look younger, to look better? What kind of person are you going to attract?
Are you saying Cap will get the hot babe if he follows your advice?
So on the one hand, physical self improvement leads to attracting someone undesirably shallow…. however, the real goal here is to ‘get the hot babe’ to fall into your lap.
You want to be shallow; but you don’t want to have shallow.
I suggest investing in porn.
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It’s shallow when you expect the hot babe to be served to you on a silver platter.
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Posted: 7/2/2012 10:55:46 AM | | There is nothing shallow about wanting someone you are physically attracted to. How can you have any kind of relationship without there being an attraction. If you just want to be friends, thats cool, but if you want more, physical attraction is 100% necessary. Sometimes people give up and just go for anyone that gives them the time of day. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 12:18:05 PM | | Yeah, I'm definitely odd man out here. I don't care about societal standards of beauty. Maybe I'm jaded from all the pretty covers and ugly interiors around my hometown. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 2:07:35 PM | People who blame their looks and the opposite sex for their lack of dating success
Then what am i supposed to do? I cant afford plastic surgery. I dunno why i keep getting attacked for having low self worth. I'm blond with a baby face. Women arent attracted to a guy with those looks. We all cant be "ryan rynolds, channing tatum. etc. I just think women should be more understanding. And yes, same goes for men. Not alot of angelina jolies out there or Meghan fox's out there. This site is purley physical attraction and im starting to belive its no different IRL. I never see any average or below average guy with a stunning woman. Usually its good looking men with average or below women | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 2:50:47 PM | | Grow a goatee. You'd be surprised what a simple thing like that can do for looks. You can go from a cute looking boy to a rugged looking guy. NO Joke. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 2:56:28 PM |
Well, you know one now. I'm about as average looking as average gets. I lived 6 years with a woman who was in playboy pictorial and I had another longterm relationship with a woman who was runner up for Miss SW Texas. She was even taller than I am. They didn't date for my money.
How do you meet these women? On here, either in profiles or forum postings I see so many "Physical attraction is very important etc" Lol i saw this one that said "Don't contact me if your not good looking" Ok i confess, i suffer from anxiety, for sure social part. I just get really nervous around large crowds and stunning women. Even above average ones. I didnt ask to be born with this condition, on meds now but i still have anxious feelings | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 3:00:50 PM |
Yeah, I'm definitely odd man out here. I don't care about societal standards of beauty. Maybe I'm jaded from all the pretty covers and ugly interiors around my hometown.
Maybe you choose to think for yourself, which is a very appealing quality.
Then what am i supposed to do?
Man up. Women like men with balls.
I woud at least expect strawberries and whipped cream be included.
That seems like a perfectly reasonable request.  | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 9:56:06 PM | How do you meet these women? On here, either in profiles or forum postings I see so many "Physical attraction is very important etc" Lol i saw this one that said "Don't contact me if your not good looking" Ok i confess, i suffer from anxiety, for sure social part. I just get really nervous around large crowds and stunning women. Even above average ones. I didnt ask to be born with this condition, on meds now but i still have anxious feelings
In addition to having self-confidence and a sense of humor, literacy is also important in making a good first impression on many women. Get a profile review. A few women might be turned off by your numerous punctuation and spelling errors:
Once i ran into this girl who asked me to rate her looks. Best answer is always between 1-10. Seriously, someone needs counsling! Always rate yourself, never rely on others.
What am i doing here really? I'm not sure most of the time,however i do hope to meet a nice gal with a variety of interests.Personality,personality and personality is a MUST! Must be good too. An awesome gal smiles alot,its contagious!
So, are you up to the challenge? Willing to explore the mysterorys behond this profile? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 5:57:58 AM | Get hobbies that take effort and training to accomplish. Draw confidence from succeeding in those areas. Make job/financial strides, get more successes there. Draw confidence from that. Take some classes, get a new degree (and improve your spelling/grammar while you're at it :) ). Get confidence from that.
You get confidence from the things you CAN control, which will give you confidence elsewhere, and make you more attractive in general. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 7:44:43 AM | Man up. Women like men with balls
Good point. However, men are required to have good looks, women do judge
Get a profile review. A few women might be turned off by your numerous punctuation and spelling errors:
Very good point, thats horrible spelling on my end. Whoops! lol. I think after getting a lazer work for my thinning hair, a 6 pack, then i may just have a shot with women. Come on, the whole "Just have self confidence" isn't enough. Many women on this site admit that they have to be physicaly attracted to a guy. And as you see, i don't look attractive. Why can't you all agree that both men and women only care about those who look attractive? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 8:02:32 AM |
Are you saying Cap will get the hot babe if he follows your advice?
Hey, I already get the hot babes, but thanks for the advice 
Good point. However, men are required to have good looks, women do judge
You got it wrong; men are required to have balls, women to judge THAT. Your lack of some will have her end up going lesbos on your azz. There's a reason it was some MAN who invented the vibrator, it was so his girl would deal with his....lack of luck
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Posted: 7/3/2012 8:10:36 AM | LOL Cap'n.
Men are required to have balls, women are to be attractive.
OP there is nothing wrong with your looks. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 9:56:30 AM |
Confidence comes with success. ‘Success’ by whose definition? When is money or career enough to feel confident in oneself? A confident person defines success for him/herself.
Success in completing any kind of task leads to confidence in performing that task again.
If you successfully approach a Woman and it leads to a date, you gain some confidence that you can duplicate the result.
If you have successful dates with favorable outcomes (good experiences, friendships, relationships, etc), you become more confident that you can successfully date in the future.
If you have a successful relationship, it helps you gain confidence that you can have another one.
If you are successful at any endeavor, whether it's personal fulfillment, athletics, academics or career goals, it can also breed confidence in yourself. Success breeds self-confidence in general. When you have a track record of successes, regardless of the endeavor, it breeds confidence that you can achieve the goals you set and that you can overcome adversity.
So really, the statement that Confidence comes with Success isn't completely inaccurate. Nor is it universally accurate. That does not detract from its value. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 10:06:40 AM |
Men are required to have balls, women are to be attractive
Why can`t it be the other way around for a change?
Confidence comes with success.
No.
It doesnt.
Because it doesn`t explain all those lowlife people that have never had a job in their life walking everywhere thinking they own the places they go to.
Confidence is your ego. It`s something you have or you don`t, that you can build or add on, or you don`t. It has everything to do with your personnality. I call it the natural resistance factor to social pressure. It`s how much I can take of life`s crap without thinking I`m worth as much as a beer can. Some people just have a natural resistance, others have a weakness to it. It`s as simple as that.
I personnally think that confidence comes when your at peace with yourself, when you realise how good you are, either on a moral level or a physical level (there are many venues of self-worth possible in life) and start having a good opinion of yourself. It`s not that hard.
And EVEN then, it doesnt cover everyone. I`ll let you guys on a lil secret; I have a HORRIBLE opinion of myself. No, REALLY. You guys wouldnt believe. But we`d be chatting having drinks, you'd never know. I have natural confidence. I can fight off an armed robber, talk to a crowd, get over a really high cliff and look down, all those things without being nervous or fearfull, or wondering what others will think. I`m confident of my own decision making. Yet, I think I`m the stupidest and most wortless guy on the planet.
I STILL get hot babes LOL.
They just never find out. No one ever has. It just took the forums for me to come clean | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 10:21:39 AM |
Why can`t it be the other way around for a change? [/quote}
Why not? Let me know when you find a guy willing to look at things the other way around ;) | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 11:29:17 AM |
I think I`m the stupidest and most wortless guy on the planet.
I STILL get hot babes LOL
What kind of magic do you use? And i think im owned an apology by a certain poster for accusing me of saying judgmental things when i was stateing facts | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 11:33:26 AM | That is mainly because the older a single man gets the less has to lose. By the time a single man has reached the age of 30, they most likely have been rejected hundreds of times. At a young, rejection hurts a man because the coolness is all they got in life. But as the years go by, their live starts to become more solid and stable. At 3o the awakening happens...Life is better good for them. They have their own money, cars, house...they can cook, clean and care for themselves.
They move away from needing someone in their to wanting someone in their live. And if they ask someone to enjoy their life with them and that person say no...they simply move on to the next person.
Here is a question for you. Why don't you pick the averaging looking male? Maybe you should, because if they made it this far in life on their own, I am willing to bet they are living a pretty good, stable, life. That is something you really wanna be apart of. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 12:44:54 PM |
Success in completing any kind of task leads to confidence in performing that task again.
Before a man can complete something he first has to have the balls to begin it. No man should allow his lack of dating success hold his self esteem hostage.
Also, what Capn America said, especially:
I personnally think that confidence comes when your at peace with yourself, when you realise how good you are, either on a moral level or a physical level (there are many venues of self-worth possible in life) and start having a good opinion of yourself. It`s not that hard.
And I like abmccray’s post 312, too. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 8:22:24 PM | | One day i'll find confidence and return to the light side of the force.. The dark side has me kepted me hostage for 31 years.. (sigh) | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 9:59:01 PM | metalvixen
If the guys were really good looking they would not be a on dating site to begin with. I think they are just joking half the time. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 10:57:27 PM | | This is all personal perspectives. The last long term girl I dated was a year younger then me, and she was smokin hot, one of the hottest girls I've dated, and I've dated a lot of beautiful women ;) gotta admit, I've never had luck with dating online, I usually end up dating someone I meet through friends, or at the store, bar. ect... I don't care if the girl I become interested in is perfect, so long as shes confident, and can take a complement,.... as to the delusion statement the OP made, I'm 32 i have alopecia that randomly occurs in different spots, and then grows back, I don't have a six pack, and I love braggin about my football and Army days, sometimes my self esteem takes a dip, but then I look in the mirror and remember,... I'm a f'n rawk star! and I love myself ... you should do the same ;) | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 11:10:15 PM | ^^^^^ Post 327. OMG…..did I just read a positive post on here?????? I think I’m gonna faint.
Being told you are whiney and have no balls is not a confidence booster either.
I suggest you read this entire thread before you go around condemning people on here.
Just how many times are we expected to offer encouragement, suggestions, hand holding before a person stands up and does something for himself? Personally I am sick of the ‘Boo hoo, woe is me’ mantra for the 88 millionth time. I’m sorry….was I supposed to be doing something more?
But go right ahead and tell everybody to give up, and blame women while you’re at it. That will make all those icky self feelings go away. Hating what you crave is a sure way to end up in a very bad place.
Confidence comes from knowing you are attractive and that usually comes from getting a lot of attention and success.
Wrong. That comes from knowing you are attractive.
You seem to think attractiveness is entirely physical. Wrong again.
Self confidence is a belief in yourself. However you might be just deluding yourself. It doesn’t mean you will be successful.
I don’t understand this. A person who believes in him/herself might be deluding himself? What the heck does that entail? ‘I think I’m a winner but I know I’m really a loser?’ NO. That makes no sense. That is some heavy duty self defeatist stuff right there.
Then you’re just in love with yourself. It doesn’t mean you will be successful.
Yep, I do love myself. It’s a heck of a lot easier for me to be successful and know that I am successful than if I didn’t love myself. People who don’t love themselves should NOT be trying to date or trying to find their value through the eyes (or genitals) of another person(s).
I suggest anyone who thinks other people are to blame for their crappy lives and exist only for their personal gratification when they feel like using them quit trying to date.
No. I’m not against exercise. But at some point you have to ask yourself why? Who are you doing it for? I’m not looking for a neurotic babe no matter how hot she is.
How sad. Who would be ‘against exercise’? You do know that exercise is essential to a healthy lifestyle…not just something to do with the goal of getting laid.
Exercising is a sign of a neurotic. Jeezus.
I recommend you try it. Seems you could use the endorphins.
All the self love around here is really ugly.
There ya go…there’s your own personal happily ever after. Enjoy.
erik5401:
I'm a f'n rawk star! and I love myself ... you should do the same ;)
I’m so glad you posted. :) | |
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