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Eric. You said, 'as long as she is confident'. What do you mean by that?
wiki and Websters are great sources for a description of that particular word (confident)
everything from 92guy...
The i'm a sad nice guy thing has its own pity party tread
Posted: 7/7/2012 5:46:15 AM
wiki and Websters are great sources for a description of that particular word (confident)
I know I am going to regret getting sucked back in to this thread.
But she asked what YOU mean by confident, not for a definition. Confident is a word which is subjective, relative.
*smacks self on head, wtf do you dive back in to these threads?
Posted: 7/7/2012 6:50:42 AM
|I think that any person that wines about how unattractive they are has a self esteem problem and captain AD you do whine on how women over look you because of your looks, but I bet ya do the same thing I bet you over look women because they may be on the heavy side or not attractive in your eyes.|
Posted: 7/7/2012 9:21:27 AM
|Mark,finally someone agrees with me on the subject. The advice of "Just have self confidence" to guys who struggle to meet women really is false. If i approached Cathetrine-zeta jones or Denise Ritchards with "Self confidence" , would i for sure get a #? Channing tatum has a better shot with those women than I do. And no im not whinning, im telling as is. Women only talk to attractive men period. Same goes for men, they talk to attractive women. Us average peeps are gonna have to rely on luck and meet others who are average. I just think the self confidence thing provids false hope and its empty advice. Do women like self confidence? Sure who dosent? But it dosent make an average person attractive, im sorry, agree or disagree but its the honest truth.|
Posted: 7/7/2012 9:52:57 AM
But it dosent make an average person attractive, im sorry, agree or disagree but its the honest truth.
True, they don't transform PHYSICALLY into a more attractive person BUT...
... have you never become more attracted to someone you normally wouldn't simply because their personality dazzled you ?
I have - in fact I developed a huge crush on someone that way. The feeling wasn't mutual and I went through some emotional crap as a result.
Here's the thing though :
Knowing that having an attractive PERSONALITY may not have the effect of turning a light bulb on where someone like yourself is going to turn himself into Mr. Charisma oozing sexuality that women can't resist overnight.
... getting started toward working more on your social skills will never work against you so what have you got to lose ?
The journey of 1000 miles begins with one step.
Trust me :
A happier , more relaxed ( as in , not reeking of desperation, for example ), version of you will be more attractive to women DESPITE your physical looks remaing the same.
Give it a shot kiddo.
Posted: 7/7/2012 10:55:31 AM
have you never become more attracted to someone you normally wouldn't simply because their personality dazzled you ?
Only once a strange thing happend to me. One of the female massage therapists i work with, i do find her very attractive but i hold a belif of never date in the work place, so i never had feelings for her. However, she did give me a massage one time and 2 days later i started developing feelings for her. Weirdest thing ever! Im friends with alot of girls that i think are attractive but have no interest of dating. Somehow the massage transformed things. But we all experince strange things in life. Thankfully, i don't have feelings for her anymore. (Whew!)
Sorry but unless i see a woman comment on this thread saying "Looks arent everything, or i've dated average men for their personalities and self confidence is attractive" Im still gonna hold on to my strong belifs that looks is #1 in dating. And the movie "magic mike" seems to be doing very well and not alot of men are seeing it... That kinda tells you that women are just as visual as men. If im wrong, i love to see proof. I do think the problem with me can be solved by getting laser treatment for my thinning hair and get toned up physicaly as the weightloss wasnt good enough. I have to be chased by women, i will not chase
Posted: 7/7/2012 11:13:46 AM
|Maybe if you guys didn't send messages to every god damn girl in a 30 minute radius of you we wouldn't be sitting here pondering over crap like this. My friend made herself 2 fake profiles just to test it out and the same guys sent messages to all 3 accounts within a day and the fake profiles had nothing filled out but a picture. POF needs to put a limit to how many messages an idiot, sorry a male, can send to different users each day.|
Posted: 7/7/2012 11:36:58 AM
.. have you never become more attracted to someone you normally wouldn't simply because their personality dazzled you ?
Can't really say that I have as far as wanting a relationship with that person. It might make me more inclined to be friends, like workplace friends; but doesn't override the biology.
Posted: 7/7/2012 11:38:05 AM
The observation may be valid, but is she being superficial when she says they are not really good looking?
I don't think she is. If he's rude, sloppy, clearly out-of-shape, and has nothing in common with the pretty ladies he pursues, he should expect that his interest will be assumed to be based solely upon physical considerations and he needs to be prepared to be judged by the same standards.
Posted: 7/7/2012 12:00:49 PM
A couple certain posters emailed me giving the ugly insults. They were female.
I sure hope you don't mean me because I can copy and paste what I replied to you with. You have ugly on the brain.
Sorry but unless i see a woman comment on this thread saying "Looks arent everything, or i've dated average men for their personalities and self confidence is attractive" Im still gonna hold on to my strong belifs that looks is #1 in dating. And the movie "magic mike" seems to be doing very well and not alot of men are seeing it... That kinda tells you that women are just as visual as men. If im wrong, i love to see proof. I do think the problem with me can be solved by getting laser treatment for my thinning hair and get toned up physicaly as the weightloss wasnt good enough. I have to be chased by women, i will not chase.
"Looks aren't everything, or I've dated average men for their personalities and self confidence". There I've posted it. Now you can move on from THIS particular rant.
Next, why is it bad for women to like someone because they are attractive??? Or why is it so offensive to you that other people find attractive people...attractive? Have you seen Magic Mike since you are so consumed with it? Go watch it, it's a comedy. A little humor might do you some good. There was also a movie called "The Full Monty" made a few years back and it was very popular and none of them were Greek Gods. Go check that one out.
So now it's laser treatment that will help you, right? Then get it done if you think that is still your problem. After the laser surgery, what's going to happen when nobody still writes you? As far as you being chased, well how's that working for you so far?
Posted: 7/7/2012 12:09:13 PM
There was also a movie called "The Full Monty" made a few years back and it was very popular and none of them were Greek Gods.
Never heard of it.
Looks aren't everything, or I've dated average men for their personalities and self confidence". There I've posted it. Now you can move on from THIS particular rant.
Nice try but no cigar
Next, why is it bad for women to like someone because they are attractive??? Or why is it so offensive to you that other people find attractive people...attractive?
Never said that was bad, just saying the whole idea that confidence attracts women is false. If an average schmo approached you, has confidence, would u seriously be interested in him? Didnt think so
As for being chased, hasn't workd out good. I guess back to the drawing board! And no thanks, i got better things to do than see a bunch of guys dance naked. Now if they made a movie with jessica simpson,angelina jolie and other actresses featuring them as dancers, im game on seeing it!
I am not jaded, and you don't know me. I am a furusterated person being tired of being over looked. And im sure im not alone here. I notice you take offense to domo's post as well. Hey if you don't like the show, then change the channel! I dunno why people take offense to my posts. Im not saying anything bad about women
Posted: 7/7/2012 3:14:38 PM
I am not jaded, and you don't know me. I am a furusterated person being tired of being over looked. And im sure im not alone here.
You've fired off negative posts for literally weeks now, and you're NOT jaded? You are the epitome of the very word.
I can tell you right now, if there was a woman roaming the forums who found you attractive just by judging your default picture, she would surely change her mind after reading your posts.
Posted: 7/7/2012 3:38:46 PM
|I am not jaded, and you don't know me. I am a furusterated person being tired of being over looked.|
Okay, you're not jaded. You're frustrated.
Think many of us aren't either? Hello, we're on a dating site! Land of first to last resort.
Thing is, alot of us have learned to laugh it off. Can you?
Otherwise you'd find yourself on a one way street into a cuckoo's nest.
...and.... Pigofmydreams has an fantastical point many should follow.
Posted: 7/7/2012 4:47:41 PM
Alright we get it...We've all tried to help ya...I personally think you need to go to a pro...a shrink. There is something wrong if all you do is put yourself down all the flipping time. I mean we've all got those moments where we feel like crap and low self esteem. But if its every post dude you need help. I'm saying this as a upfront no sugar coating. You've hijacked this very thread with your low standards woah is me. I mean like I said there are days that we all go through this...chin up it cannot be that bad...and if you think it is then like I said you need help..
It's a known fact women and men go for what attracts them...that attraction is in the eye of the beholder. What attracts me may not attract someone else and visa versa.
What I don't get is the fact that a lot of men get called shallow for what attracts us but its never visa versa. Like we don't deserve to have what we want...All men are pigs and should be treated as such. That has been my argument with this thread.
There has been some hijacking of this thread...even by myself...but over all that's what its about the attractiveness differences in men and women PERIOD...
Posted: 7/7/2012 4:55:44 PM
|Okay... "looks aren't everything and I HAVE dated average men for their personalities and self confidence IS attractive" I tend to like intelligence, but what this thread was originally about is arrogance and double standards that occur in a certain age set. I personally really like the Jeff goldblum character in independence day and Jurassic park much more that Channing tatum. Give me Gregory house with his sharp wit... Just don't look like Larry the cable guy and expect Megan fox to fall at your feel and berate any girl that isn't her. I have had guys actually say to me.. Why can't you be more like drew Barrymore and once why can't you be like Helen hunt!?! Wtf...|
Posted: 7/7/2012 5:21:32 PM
|A combination of everything seems to be important. But very rare for someone to have all of this. (eg intelligence, looks, height, good job, gentleman, non-womaniser etc, body etc)|
What is rather annoying is how some woman ask for all this, but are not perfect themselves. Similar circumstance to woman in their thirties who are seperated who only want 'single' men etc
Posted: 7/7/2012 5:59:12 PM
Just don't look like Larry the cable guy and expect Megan fox to fall at your feel and berate any girl that isn't her
In turn, and speaking of double standards...a woman whom looks like Rosanne Barr shouldn't expect Channing Tatum to fall at her feet and berate any guy that isn't him.
But yet on here, FB and IRL I hear/see all the time how a man should accept a woman no matter what shape she is...that real mean don't judge...yada yada yada...but yet its "alright" for you to say the Larry the Cable guy with Megan Fox. Which is another of my arguments with this very thread.
Posted: 7/7/2012 6:04:50 PM
What I don't get is the fact that a lot of men get called shallow for what attracts us but its never visa versa. Like we don't deserve to have what we want...
That’s not true and it’s silly to say so.
You ‘deserve’ to have what you want? That sounds entitled. What if a 320 pound woman with four kids ‘wants’ you?? Does she deserve to have what SHE wants?
Or just you?
Nobody deserves to have anybody.
Posted: 7/7/2012 6:11:50 PM
Nobody deserves to have anybody.
Alright I get it maybe deserve wasn't the right word to use for this...but you should get what I mean with this. How many times are men called shallow and only wanting "barbie dolls" on these threads (not say YOU...but in general)..vs the other way around.
Posted: 7/7/2012 6:17:35 PM
|When I was a kid, I used to get so annoyed that people could make me smile|
when I wanted to withold my natural tendency to smile for them. To be happy
they were there.
I couldn't hide it, at all.
Posted: 7/7/2012 6:27:19 PM
This is just something I have noticed recently. Women over 30 seem to think they are less attractive than they are and men have absolutely no problem with self-esteem. I cannot get over how many guys are on forums whining about how they think they are really good looking and can't understand why the hot girls won't respond... when they realy are most of them quite average. What delusion sets in at about 30 that makes a pudgy balding rather unkempt looking guy think he is still 19 and the quarterback and able to get any woman that walks by him? I have been baffled. I know I am really just average looking, not overweight per se... but I have large teeth and sometimes wear glasses. Why is it that guys are not more realistic? Just curious.
OP i think it has to do with media and hollywood 'n sh!t.... there's alot of tv and movies where a not so attractive, perhaps average or below average guy gets a smoking hot girl. think "king of queens" or "yes dear" or "family guy" (peter griffin with louise? really?) , and pretty much all of adam sandler produced movies.... you ever see "the bench warmers" or that other craptacular movie "she's outta my league"?? friggin david spade in the benchwarmers ends up with a really hot pizza delivery girl at the end of the movie.... yeah right, his character in that movie is so fugly looking, and "odd" (as in odd personality ), like THAT would happen in real life... hehe.
and the OP is right.... there's ALOT of delusion going on in the dating world with people thinking they deserve more from a mate than what they actually bring to the table. this goes both ways (men and women)
i don't know if i posted this already, i think i did. so many forums to choose from, and i forget... hehehehe.....
Posted: 7/7/2012 6:34:17 PM
|Hey Nite...cannot forget the other way around do you think that Edward and Jacob (Twilight) would be fighting over average girl and weird personality Bella? Talking strictly about the movie and their characters not IRL....|
If anything they'd be fighting over the smoking hot chick....just sayin'
Posted: 7/7/2012 7:24:58 PM
|yeah.... Bella is pretty average, although to me... i think she is HOT! but her acting sucks some seriously hairy donkey balls. For example, i would choose "willow" over "buffy" any day of the week. but that's just me.... and i suppose there are "average" and "weird personality" women out there that wished they had a Edward and Jacob fighting over them.... HAHA! |
funny thing is, Magic Mike is doing REALLY well at the box office, but remember that one movie "Jennifer's Body"? because megan fox was super popular due to her "hotness" in the first 2 Transformers movies, this solo movie i guess was supposed to draw in a huge number of male audiences, because she's so popular right?.... yeah, well, NOBODY went to go see that sh!t. (actually people did go see it, just not alot, tee hee). it performed poorly at the box office. and i'm not about to go pay a high dollar ticket amount JUST to see a movie where the main protagonist is a "hot" chick, but her acting skills suck a$$.
if i wanted to go see a flick where i fantasized about a hot girl on screen, i would just stay at home and look at porn. hehe. ;) no sense in paying $10 for a ticket.
Posted: 7/7/2012 7:45:42 PM
|Bella isn't all that for me...I'd much rather date Alice...its the dark black hair...very hot. |
And you are right about Megan Fox...I've yet to see the "Jennifer's Body"...not my "type" of movie for one...second not going to watch a movie just for her...haha. If I''m going to scope hot chicks would much rather watch Striptease (Demi Moore).
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