| | attractiveness differencePage 4 of 28 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28) | | sd Id never settle just cause you think everyone should settle. . Its sad you think women should just take any old guy that comes there way uggh | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 6:01:34 PM | | Settling is relative. .I definitely don't have a "list" of things that I look for in a person, as in, they have to have a college degree, or live in a certain area. If they're a kind, considerate person who treats me well, and we get along great, and the attraction is there, then that's all that matters. Yes, one should definitely not settle. True, there are some people who may look better as they age, but they're in the small minority. I think most people end up long term with someone who is closer to their age bracket, give or take a couple years in either direction, as one would have similar interests, be at similar stages in their life, and also be looking for the same things in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 6:25:46 PM | | There was a study done by a dating site about what is perceived attraction. The researchers showed a bunch of pictures of a large group of random women to men. The men rated on the 0-10 scale. The result was a normal bell curve--most women were 5's and there were equally as many above as were below. They then showed pictures of randomly selected guys to women and the shape of the curve skewed. The median shifted to '3' and around only 10% of men were seen as being above average (5). | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 6:30:13 PM | Don't know which guys the OP is meeting, but I can tell you that I don't have that kind of ego. I don't pursue younger women because I automatically assume they aren't interested in someone my age. I have no problems with it if they indicate initial interest though, and a few have.
Oh, and I think the OP is cute. I'd love to meet a woman who likes sci-fi stuff. Haven't found one yet, unfortunately. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 9:02:14 PM | I don't remember how scientific that study was. It just stuck with me that out of the group viewed, men rated as many women as being attractive as not attractive and it was a very even looking curve. But the women viewed a large majority of men being unattractive/below average and only a very small amount as being attractive. The OP opened with a statement about how all these guys that aren't attractive view themselves as being more so than she views. I don't know who she has been viewing so can't say for certain how she can really make that determination, other than they aren't to her. But it might just go along with what that study found.
OP also stated how she thinks women view themselves as less attractive than they are. My experience has been the opposite for many cases. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 10:28:36 PM | | memento its simple if men cant show a girl off to their friends he wont date her. nor if he cant see himself sleeping with her he wont either. I cant date outside what I like anymore than anyone else can despite being yelled at about it several times. People are attracted to who they are. That cant be helped | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 8:41:44 AM | | Im improving myself for me btu quite frankly and honestly I dont like the men that are attracted to me for me so thats another reason Im losing the weight and toning up. Thats straight up honest. I dont find it funny after going to the gym every day that 300 plus pound guys are interested in me or older men. neither are being realistic with themseleves. I work out it shouldnt be so much to expect that a guy takes care of himself as well. I hate to be mean but Im being honest. Men like models fine than I dont have to like obese men. Megan fox is married to an ugly bum by the way | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 8:45:08 AM |
Megan fox is married to an ugly bum by the way
Hey, love is love. Maybe the ugly bum is the coolest guy on earth.
Or...he's got her hooked on drugs and he abuses  | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 8:59:51 AM |
Megan fox is married to an ugly bum by the way
Whoever this "Ugly bum" is must be rich. Women only go after model type guys too, like you are doing. So it goes both ways | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 9:26:14 AM |
Whoever this "Ugly bum" is must be rich. Women only go after model type guys too, like you are doing. So it goes both ways
Probably, but not necessarily. ONe can assume that since she`s got the looks, the cash and the means to get pretty much any guy on the planet, she either
A) Went for one of the few guys that initially didn`t look at her twice
B)Chose someone based on his personnality rather than on things she already has.
But hey, there`s me being all POSITIVE again, darn it............... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 9:35:11 AM | Just so you know, the only difference between a 30 yr old and a 19 yr old exists within their mind. Age only exists in a persons mind. Age itself only exists, if we allow it to exist. Age is not absolute. How easy is it to lie about ones age, if one looks young? If a person looks young, whether his chronological age is 75 or 35, it doesn't matter. Age is an appearance, people perceive how youth or age by how we look and act.
Hollywood is the perfect example of this. Men like Robert downey jr. or Johnny Depp. Guys that are near 50, yet nobody ever ever says they are old. Why is that? Cause they don't look old. Its that simple. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 10:15:14 AM |
Megan fox is married to an ugly bum by the way
You're just jealous. Brian Austin Green has male model looks.
Whoever this "Ugly bum" is must be rich. Women only go after model type guys too, like you are doing
BAG's doing well as a TV star. He's not hurting for cash.
And yes, I am embarrassed that I know this.  | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 10:30:42 AM | | Lmao Im jealous of a has been actor sure sure keep believing that. Ok I was abit harsh I dont find him attractive thats all I should say she could have done way better | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 10:37:25 AM |
Ok I was abit harsh I dont find him attractive thats all I should say she could have done way better
Is that you care about? Looks,looks,looks and looks? Maybe she likes his personality, gee i know crazy right? Heck, i dated a girl that had the body of a model and look at me! And no im not rich | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 11:10:53 AM | | Omg no thats not all I care about. I had a hot boyfriend but he was an abusive ****but doesnt mean Im going to date a 300 lb guy sorry | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 11:41:10 AM | | I hear you on that, i don't plan on dating a 300lb woman myself. But whats the point of good looks if at the same time, this person is..dare me to say.....BORING! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 7:43:48 PM | Megan fox is married to an ugly bum by the way
Sour grapes much?
The "ugly bum" Megan Fox is married to is none other than Brian Austin Green, of Beverly Hills 90210 fame---and he is far from obese or ugly. She is pregnant with their first child, btw. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 8:20:01 PM | | Megan Fox used to be gorgeous, because she has lost a lot of her complexion because of surgery. I no longer find her attractive. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 8:46:46 PM | these threads are always confusing,the main reason being in half of these threads women claim that some sort of class system and average guys should stick to average women and vice versa yet the other half of the threads women say give it a shot and "we womne like a man with confidence moreso than his looks". Is it no wonder why some of us are confused?
There is a LOT more beautiful women with men who are not so much than there are beautiful (to more people than not) men with average (to more people than not) women.
There are a lot of things that women find attractive besides just looks. Confidence, intelligence, a sense of humor, a sense of self; success, the ability to truly understand and appreciate her; those are all massive turnons that are besides physical looks.
I dated many many people over the years that were physically stunning (to more people than not) and were still repulsive to me because they brought NOTHING to the table personality-wise; they were absolutely one note in love with themselves shallow people incapable of any interesting conversation except gym talk and body talk and how lucky I was to be sitting there with them talk. And have found people that most people bypassed the first time downright beautiful as I got to know them.
Online is not as easy because people FIRST see looks and everyone will be beautiful to someone; but it is still possible. Just don't assume there will be rejection; if you are a guy write as if she will read your profile; and write because you're interested in her, not because you're trying to win her. There is a distinction somehow.
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I am the same way... But some other women are different. You are different than some other men.
As long as the guy writing knows every woman is an individual; he knows that whether or not she responds he has every right to write her as long as he gives women that same right back that write to him), then write as if he expects her to be happy to hear from him; confidently, respectfully and as equals.
Some will be happy to hear from him; some won't; but it will depend on the individual. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 10:05:24 PM | Halcyon: That's my point. Megan Fox is flippin gorgeous. I'm an average guy. I know my limits as an average guy and I also find average women attractive. I wouldn't expect Megan Fox to be into me. Attraction is linked to what we each feel we can get. Some people, for whatever reason, aim a little higher than they should, and end up disappointed as a result.
I've noticed that those people that aim higher and end up disappointed are often the ones that either got lucky a couple of times---or they dated good-looking people back in the days when they themselves were better-looking.
Some are delusional and seem to think they still have what it takes to attract good-looking people---even though they now have half the amount of hair on their heads, or thirty extra pounds around the middle. This is especially true of people in the "Over 45" age group---and the women are just as guilty as the men. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 10:08:10 PM | ^^ I agree,halcyon that they forget they too have aged as time's gone on but they still think the young hotties are going to be attracted to them.
And to the Poster above,*i* think you're attractive  | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 8:15:51 AM | Abelian apparently deleted posts#112, 113, mine and another after mine--they were not offensive, just likely didn't jibe with your opinions..not unusual.
This is censorship--you should not be a moderator when you cannot be objective.
You have mental problems, seriously, to be threatened by other opinions.
This is not your personal forum for your agenda. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 8:18:01 AM | | pasmal, I think there was over a page and a half of deleted posts... I think a whole bunch ended up on the chopping block. I don't they were just censoring yours... nor were they threatened. Just didn't like the turn it took apparently. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 8:24:17 AM | So he keeps his inane comments, yet cuts anything that doesn't agree with his thoughts? He expects people to think like he does.
I don't care that my opinions aren't shared or that others differ in theirs, but the censorship is not right--I didnt break any terms of service.
It's sad you think this is fine, to have a disgusting clique.
And further, there were not a page and a half cut--thread was about the same length.
So, as long as your long winded posts are fine, it's ok to have your little clique.
Some people are pathetic in their petty tyrannies. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 8:35:36 AM |
So he keeps his inane comments, yet cuts anything that doesn't agree with his thoughts? He expects people to think like he does.
I don't care that my opinions aren't shared or that others differ in theirs, but the censorship is not right--I didnt break any terms of service. It's sad you think this is fine, to have a disgusting clique.
There`s more than one moderator on this site. If it doesn`t apply to the title of the thread, they should delete it.
They`re doing their jobs just fine.
Grow up.
This post should be deleted too, ironically. | |
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