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Will let you know when I get one.....lmao
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Only flirting I ever notice is when I get a pinch on the bum. Actually, come to think of it, the pinch probably just wakes me out of my slumber. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 5:06:53 AM | | Thanks Import! I just looked at three profiles........that button isn't there?! Odd......... | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 5:11:40 AM | | ^^^Maybe they have messaging restrictions which prevent you from sending a flirt. I have no restrictions so you should see it on my profile. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 6:00:16 AM | | After reading this thread... just had to send another "flirt" to Deacon.... | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 7:05:21 PM |
Thanks Import! I just looked at three profiles........that button isn't there?! Odd.........
You have to be signed in to see it - on the dating side, not just on the forums. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 8:47:18 PM | | i have received a "few". it is 3 for me. if interested, i will make the effort to craft a message based on pic perception and profile. would expect the same in return. and yes, i understand that isn't within the paradigm viewscope of many. but hey, "it is the few million that ruin it for the other eleven of us." - miller. :) | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 9:05:55 PM | | Flirts? Hell,I'm always the one thats sends them,but get none back in return,LMAO! | |
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Posted: 6/12/2012 10:03:00 PM | I don't even know what a 'flirt' looks like or where to even look for them, but seeing as I rarely get emails/contacts anyways, I highly doubt I'll be getting any flirts either.  | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 3:42:54 AM | Flirts? Hell,I'm always the one thats sends them,but get none back in return,LMAO!
I think you may be misunderstanding as on POF, this feature is only available for women to send. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 6:01:33 AM | On another dating site they have "winks", which is the same as the flirts, except both sexes can send them. I found that when I sent a wink, they'd send a wink back and then we were all stymied unless one of us signed up and paid so we could actually send an email.
As far as here, I didn't realize we could flirt, so I might look into it. I don't really play in that side of the site much, so I don't know who I'd flirt with there, and the ones in here I'd like to flirt with all live too far away to start anything with anyway :) | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 8:11:45 AM | 1. Have the number of messages you get reduced and been replaced by the Flirt notifications ?
I haven't noticed a substantial difference. My profile is hidden from searches, though.
2. Have these increased the volume of initial contacts you get ?
Yes, I got two more initial contacts in the form of "flirts" during a brief period when my profile was not hidden. They were both from the same woman.
3. Do you even pay any attention to them or simply dismiss them because you would prefer a real message ?
I have dismissed them, and will be much more likely to respond to a well worded message. I can see the logic behind the addition of this feature, being that admin is trying to increase the likelihood of women sending first contact messages and thereby increase the all-important page views. However, to put it succinctly, a "flirt" isn't a very good sign of interest, IMO. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 8:32:30 AM | 1: no
2: yes
3: Dismiss them, it is better to send a brief message; the way she writes, tells something about the personality. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 5:03:43 PM | Just got another one:
For the men :-
1. Have the number of messages you get reduced and been replaced by the Flirt notifications ?
No.
2. Have these increased the volume of initial contacts you get ?
Yes.
3. Do you even pay any attention to them or simply dismiss them because you would prefer a real message ?
Replied to this one to find out … Sometimes but would prefer a real message. I have one that I been chatting with already. It seems like “the meet me feature” in some way. Just a test if there is an interest. This can be like junk mail to me but ….
It's only available to women but when viewing someone's profile, it's shown immediately beneath the photos on a line all by itself. It states :-
To me it states they are lazy in sending out a real message? Don’t want rejection? Shy? Is this a test for a real message coming? The suspense is just too much. I guess at least they have viewed someone’s profile.
Keep it. I am glad that POF is trying to get women to actually initiate messages.
How does one respond back? Flirt back? | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 7:02:58 PM | | Well,hmm guess I'll hold my breath then and wait for one,LMAO,Riiiiight ;) | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 2:06:16 AM | | I didn't know this feature existed either, thanks for the heads up. I doubt I'll use it though. In theory it kinda seems like the female equivalent of- 'hi' to me. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:27:13 AM | | The flirt message is kind of lame, you can tell it is automated and is not very sexy at all, the thought of it is, but how POF comes across with it, not really,lol...Just message someone and say "I want to flirt with you" ,lol...POF 's message is sort of of third person,lol, this user has sent you a flirt, LMAO... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:55:20 AM | Using the flirt feature takes a mere modicum of effort... clicking on a button. The unwritten message could be interpreted to say, "Hey, you might be okay but I'm not going to waste my time/effort in actually composing a decent email to you." If he finds her attractive, this then transfers the effort to compose a suitable email to the man.
It's not unlike her saying, "I'm a little bit hungry and might like to share a nice home cooked meal with you BUT you figure out the menu & do all the cooking. If I like what you prepare, then I might show up!"
Lazy is as lazy does! | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 11:24:16 AM | | I don't use it. It seems like another lazy and impersonal way to communicate. I view it as worthless as 'meet me' and 'favorites' which are not accompanied by emails. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 12:04:40 PM | Wait...you mean there are other ways I'm being ignored and didn't realize it?
Is there a "sulking in my virtual corner button?" ha ha. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 2:02:01 PM | I have received about 3 or 4, not many. I treat it exactly the same as a short initial message, or being added as a favorite. If I think she's attractive, I will send her a real message. If not attractive, ignore.
I suspect most men will behave the same. We're men, we're easy. If we think you're attractive, all you have to do is bat your eyes and we will be all over you. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 12:12:01 AM | only received one of the flirts, and i didn't respond because the profile didn't seem like a good match.
and to me it is no different from receiving "hey what's up" from girls, which is usually what the message is comprised of if she is contacting me initially, probably 80% of the time. so flirts are no different from that, it's basically saying hey check me out, and i'm interested to talk if you like what you see/read.
and this is in keeping with the "roles" of dating. the girl can give a smile, glance, or say hi, but getting the ball rolling any further is the domain of the guy. so i don't object to the existence of the flirts, but i do prefer a message with substance. it lets me know that you are capable of being articulate. not that the "hey sup"s are necessarily inarticulate, but they just aren't putting their skills on display. to attract someone, you want to highlight your positive attributes, and use the opportunities available to stand out from the rest. if you are creating your own opportunity by initiating contact, you are indicating that you aren't shy, but actually including content in your message gives you a chance to show off your skills and features even further.
flirts are fine, but initiating actual dialogue is even better in my book. ymmv, but imo if you're being bold enough to message, it can't hurt to go beyond a simple flirt/sup. best of luck to all, myself included lol | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 11:11:52 AM | | I have reseived several Flirts. And I don't see any difference between a Flirt and Meet Me message. One of the recomendations that POF gives you is "Don't just say Hi or Hello as the opening message" All of the Flirts I have received have started with, ______ wants to say Hi. I actually like this as it gives a Lady a simple way to make first contact to see where things go. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 11:26:53 AM | ^^ The difference is the Meet Me messages are automatically generated and because many users don't realize that selecting 'Maybe' generates the exactly same auto-message as selecting 'Yes' there are often sent unintentionally. The 'Flirt' option by definition means the profile has been looked at and the Flirt message, although impersonal, was intentionally sent.
For some shyer ladies who might have been reviewing a profile for one user back lacked the confidence to initiate a conversation, it might be something they are likely to use which doesn't take them too far out of their comfort zone. | |
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