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although it was rocky it worked
he didnt want the usual things such as buying a house or marriage so I accepted what he could give
I always struggled with how controlling he was
I have been getting mixed signals
Just condensing your notes for you so you can see what you shared. This isn't a soulmate. You're carrying a torch for a guy who didn't treat you well, and you have the possibility of a relationship with the guy you're with; let it go. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2012 10:27:54 PM | Soul mate is a terribly loaded term.
Avoid it at all costs.
Sorry, I don't have anything else. You will get over this guy eventually. Let yourself villainize him for a bit. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 4:20:01 AM | | This made a lot of sense, and from reading some replies I can see how it has mirrored some of what used to happen!! Thankyou | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:15:38 AM | a continual preasure on my throat
that is your throat chakra! it must need healing after your break up. you can meditate, and/or visit a healer. i firmly believe in the metaphysical realm and if he was part of your soul group you and him maybe have had a karmic relation. i am going though something similar. here is a website...
http://www.healer.ch/throatchakra.html
ps... so many of the responses are earth bound. life is a very spiritual thing, don’t let life ego get in the way of spiritual understanding. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 5:23:26 AM | | 11 years is a long time especially with children emotions involved....Chances are you will always have a place for him in your heart and defiantly in your memories....Time will help, but I could see you still being civil and friends in the long run, I mean to be with someone that long you have to share a special bond, free membership to the country club to boot,lol... | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 6:21:22 AM |
I send him a birthday card .....Did you send the card because you wanted to wish him a happy birthday or did you send the card to get some sort of reaction from him?
You broke up for a reason.....You need to relive that reason.
Why have you suddenly began talking on the phone with your ex and does your new boyfriend know?
I don't think that you DO get it's over.....I think that deep down you want this ex to appear as your knight in shining armour. He sounds like the type of guy you tell yourself it is over with, then jump in anticipation when the phone ring's...hoping it's him.
Cruise along with your new man and forget the ex.
IF the ex wanted more from you then he would pursue. You are over thinking with this ex, thus driving yourself into madness | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 11:05:32 AM | Years ago, someone gave me some tapes- it was a book on tape. Carolyn Myss, Anatomy of The Spirit. One of the things she talked about was chakras & illness. If you feel pressure on your throat, perhaps it is because you are holding back unspoken words or an unspoken scream...
Years ago, my Dad died from throat cancer. My Mom was/is a nagging, narcissitic, infantile person. He dealt w/ her by keeping his mouth shut...I feel there is a connection there...
My weak area seems to be my feet. Perhaps there is someplace they are/were meant to walk, but I did not go...or there is someplace I was going to go, but not meant to go, so my feet held me back...
Find out what it is that you have unsaid, work on yourself, perhaps try CODA, a 12 step program co-dependents anonymous, sounds like your relationship was a co-dependent one, no disrespect intended :0) | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 2:10:36 PM |
and although it was rocky it worked,
he didnt want the usual things such as buying a house or marriage so I accepted what he could give,
however I always struggled with how controlling he was,
we have no real contact,
I get its over, and feel that this is for the best,
I'm not clear on how all of the above adds up to a "soulmate".
It's certainly not MY idea of a "soulmate". | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 7:18:50 AM | ^^Amen
You feel like you are choking because you are trying to move forward with your life, have evidently found someone that treats you well and helps provide you a sense of overall well-being, even a possibility of being truly happy and here he comes back into your life.
Now you take a step back and consider whether someone that loves you would do that type of thing to you because he doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you. Your beau would probably walk away from you if he thought he was hurting you.
Which one of these men would you advise someone you care about to keep and which to rid? And here's the thing, you fell in love with someone that does not exist. The soulmate thing is crap. He does not love you in a healthy way and you're still hoping the bad boy is going to turn into prince charming. Deep down you do not want to get over him. When you do, you will find that it is fairly easy.
Happy doesn't mean you live a life of happy on crack it means you go through your day being kind to others, laughing at what's funny even when the source if somewhat tragic, and generally appreciating your blessings and enjoying yourself. You don't see much of that in roller coaster relationships and you don't see too many dramatic couples that are actually really friends and care about each other as well as themselves.
If you don't do it quickly please gently cut the good guy you are seeing loose before your breakup causes him pain. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 10:58:48 AM |
Moving on from a soul mate
I realised yesterday that I never moved on from mine.
Horrible place to be at. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2012 11:18:59 AM | | first off you need be on your own/sort your head out. but i dont think you can be on your own and are quite needy/put pressur on yourself. he wasnt your soulmate you said it was rocky/he controlling. whats meant to be will be i believe.this other guy is rebound/filling the gap in your soul/life,but he not right one ethier in long term,but he healing you/need calm help now.you prob have the other guy back, if could which be a mistake.the tightning of your throat, is physical manisfestation,fear of being alone,self esteem issue. need get oher guy out of head relax,time will heal,as mind controls the body. | |
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