| | Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??Page 2 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | Look he has a high sex drive, thats normal
but not being responsive to you, is not!
people with high sex drives, need release,its a chore
but if he has a partner, and chooses to masturbate, over her.....that is a red flag | |
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J47_SW
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/14/2012 4:24:57 AM | I once met such a guy, and all I can tell you is that he was obsessed about sex.
Although he was hard worker and a good father, I had to decline dating him because he was in a spiral of sexual experiment, multiple partners, sex with force and some violence...
Not to make a norm of it, but I wouldn't consider it something I could live with. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/14/2012 5:14:44 AM | this isnt about sex drive. chances are hes addicted to porn
how often you wank has got nothing to do with how much of a "man" you are or how big your "sex drive" is. no one needs to wank 5 times a day. before internet porn do you think people did it that much ?.
i used to have a porn addiction but didnt reallise a lot of people are the same, i used to have sex with my girlfriend then have a wank when shed left 2 hours later. or id do it at work.
i actually craved sex very little. i dont masterbate any more and sex feels a LOT better.
porn is like drugs, u start off with lesbian / normal. then its gangbang then it just keeps getting dirtier.
porn is like a gateway drug it just keeps getting worst till eventually your not turned on by normal porn and you need rough shit. when i was 15 id pop a boner soon as a girl dropped her pants or i saw a boob. when i was watching porn to much i needed a lot of stimulation now im down to just needing to see boobs.
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/ | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/14/2012 7:05:36 AM | | He does sound likeva porn addict. Rather than a high sex drive. If that's was it was he'd be aroused with a woman like mormal. And itches was just real nervous the first time that should have improved. Ill bet he sits in front of computer for hours making his hardon last as long as he can and ill bet he weekends are more than 5 times. He does need treatment if he feels otsva problem. Unless I loved someone I.wouldn't go through treatment. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 7:34:52 AM | I can imagine his slow arousal being due to excessive masturbation, but then only two minutes of intercourse before finishing? Maybe that’s due to the hour of manual and oral stim he needed to achieve erection? This isn’t good for you.
Hopefully he'll adjust to having a willing partner in his life and change his habits. But it may not be as simple as that. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/14/2012 11:32:05 AM | Blimey, 5 times a day ? I'm only 31 and i have enough trouble trying to find time to go to the toilet, let alone 'spankin the monkey' 5 times a day... thats a good couple of hours work right there ! lol
I don't really have a sex drive as such... some days i'm horrendously horny and can't stop thinking about it and other times i'll go for days / weeks without even thinking about it.. although i have been single for 7 years now so i guess i kinda got used to it... | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/14/2012 11:41:27 AM | | Crikey! Rubbing himself 5x a day! He must really have an itch. The skin on his penis must be rubbed raw. Yes, it's too much and he really needs to start thinking about other things. And, yes, all that self pleasuring will make him unresponsive to you. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/14/2012 1:10:29 PM |
So I'm being put down because I'm not seeking out jerks who treat me badly? Or just going for a guy who is hot but a moron that I can't carry on a conversation with?
What ever floats your boat.
Look at your past choices, it seems like you're continuing on with them.
Are you learning anything from this ...
Or just making sure you get your muffin buttered?
If ALL your looking for is a roll in the hay,
and you're getting a guy who:
Can't get aroused because he's pulling on his wink 5 times a day
AND he wants YOU to pull on his wink too
On top of that is Bipolar.
You really happy with this choice? | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/14/2012 2:14:04 PM | Whether is excessive or not is relative, however, I would say, that it will have tremendous side effect.
If someone mast 5 times a day, they will eventually become desensitized and may have problems doing the real thing. Also, because masturbation is about having the orgasm, it may make the person a premature ejaculator when with a real person. In and out, done. If the person watches a lot of porn in order to achieve these number of orgasms. It may be that they also become addicted to porn. They can also become addicted to sex. This is no joke. All these emotions and chemicals in the body create a c ock tail that people can become extremely addicted to and when they don't have it, go through withdrawals.
The OP also mentioned that the person was bipolar. Bipolars are notorious for an extremely high libido. My ex could masturbate in the morning, ask me to come home from work and do it, and then do it that night. That was one of the first things that went out the window when she went into meds. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/14/2012 3:22:21 PM | OP,
We don't know if he is a frequent viewer of porn, but since it often goes hand-in-hand with him taking matters into his own hand it does seem likely. The problem may arise (okay...NOT..LOL) when he becomes desensitized by the fantasy world and in turn has a much more difficult time being stimulated by the real world, in other words..YOU. Even if he is not viewing porn, his fantasies may SEEM better than reality at this point. In my non-professional view, I think he needs to wean himself from such frequent masturbation. In time, I think it would become easier for him to become aroused when in your company. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2012 4:35:42 PM | Well it's simple if not bipolar ... He has become in love with his hand (though as funny as it sounds, I'm serious..hehe) ...If he has been cranking 5 off a day he's obviously found some major buttons that only he knows. So the only thing I can suggest is to ask him how he likes it or what he is thinking about when he's tugging the skin boat?...Either that or leave him and his hand in holy masturmony!!
Cheers! | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/15/2012 7:42:31 AM | It's a good thing for him that our hands don't drop off after we reach a life time quota
However, I've never found that masturbation makes me any more or less horny a couple hours later when with my girlfriend. 'Not' masturbating has no impact on my sexual performance with her..
I just made up this poem:
Absence may make the heart grow fonder
But abstinence does not make the penis grow longer.
bottom line...if i go two days without coming, it's no different than if I came two hours before. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/15/2012 10:40:27 PM |
OP,if it bothers you then what you should do is replace his hand with somehting else. Sounds like a win win to me.
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Two Brillo pads coated with lemon juice and salt.
Yes its too much. Send him to Dr. Drew in sex rehab. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/16/2012 8:10:19 AM | it is making him less responsive to you. what is he masturbating to? lots of porn is my guess. like anything else addictive, porn taken in moderation is no big deal, but if a guy is spending 20+ hours a week looking at porn, then yeah that is a problem. this is a sexual addiction, and if it will escalate if left untreated. if a man is looking at porn at work, or if he is spending all his time masturbating to porn instead of forming real life connections wit h a partner, then yeah, this is a problem that will impact his life. there are men that have lost their jobs, relationships, etc. because of a sexual addiction.
having a high sex drive is one thing, but this guy doesn't just have a high sex drive. if you start asking him questions about his porn consumption i guarantee you he's a porn-aholic. | |
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| Guys, is masturbating 5x a day abnormal in your 30s??
Posted: 6/16/2012 8:54:08 AM | | Combined with needing that much stimulation to get a chubby when actually having sex, something seems a bit off. If he had a high sex drive, he could punch the munchkin 5 times a day and when it came down to being with an actual woman, he *should* be aroused without all that manual labor beforehand, if it were really a condition of a high sex drive. I'm not qualified to make the sort of addiction diagnoses others have made, but something doesn't add up. | |
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