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perfect strangers would come up to us and give us their thoughts on interracial relationships.
I hope you gave those people your opinion on rude strsngers who poke their noses in where they don't belong. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 5:46:01 AM | Little update: he's been texting and chatting every day...is really keen to see me again. He has his kids this weekend so we won't see each other before Sunday evening. It's adorable that he's so attentive but he seems to get a little jealous if I'm just chatting with someone else while chatting with him. I don't want to have the 'are we going to be exclusive' discussion just yet as we've only had one date so far.
I am a little unsure about dating anyone with young children as I don't see myself in a step parent role...so that's something I really have to think about very carefully regardless of the man's age...and why I've mostly dated men who either have no children or whose children are independent. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 6:05:41 AM | MustangGirl1965. I don't like it when someone is chatting with two people at the same time, and if i try to do it I know I can't give my attention to both, and it becomes obvious. Even if I read a forum while chatting if the person I am chatting with is perceptive, they know I am not paying real attention to them. Not something that rises to an exclusive' discussion, just annoying.
When using something like Skype, I was never too sure about how to stay offline to one person while chatting with another. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 5:45:39 PM | | I do not think age should be a deciding factor,old men marry younger women,younger than their children,I think it is all about love ,and understanding ,if she will be happy with him and he feel she is what he wants ,no one should appose ,I had relationship with older women and it was great ,I marry a younger woman and I still have head ache ,If I had to live my life all oner again ,with out a douth it will be a older good looking woman. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 9:38:50 PM | I'm at that age now where i just don't give a rat's ass what people think anymore about the woman I date.. I was 37 when I met my wife of 24. I took a little flack from friends at the time but brushed it off. We had a wonderful time together for 8 years. You have to expect that there will be some issues with the age differences and that there will be issues even if you were both the same age anyway - true??
Live for the moment and learn from your differences and times together. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 8:40:55 AM | | lmao at the kinky stuff and women wanting u badly lol dont think this forum was quite about ur animal attraction that has women begging to be with u lol.... as for the lady i question just go with the flow one of 2 things can happen u will see the age gap is an issue or not an issue.however if somone asks are u his mother then runnnnnnnnnnn lol x good luck | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 4:26:39 PM | | I have always felt this question is dependent on what age you are. My personal feelings are that mid fifties start to separate the age barrier even more. After the mid fifties there is less similar likes and dislikes. Just simple things as music, e-technology, movie preferences. Of course there is the possibility of falling in love and when that happens, all other obstacles seem minor to each other. If we look at the whole picture I would say most over mid fifties need to keep it within a 10 year time frame and those less than mid fifties can do their thing and have a better chance of it lasting more than a few dates. My thoughts... | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:13:09 AM | | I am 46, but do not look it or feel it. I have dated from 26 to 40 yr old men since my marriage split up. Men my age, in general, seem older at heart than I. Of course there are exceptions, but I haven't met a single one yet. And yes, it's easy on a bruised ego (my ex, who was my "soulmate" for 25 yrs had an affair with "the one who got away" and left) to have young men approach you. Age is a number...it's all within you. If it seems right...go for it! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 10:49:40 AM | OP, post 52:
So, your initial concern was the age difference and how that would impact your LONG TERM relationship (this is before you even met).
NOW you're wondering about dating a man with young children and have NOW realized you need to give some serious thought to THAT aspect?
All the while being concerned that he seems a bit "jealous" when you have two conversations going on at the SAME time? The way you worded what you wrote implies you think his not liking the fact you're carrying on a three way conversation is because he wants to be exclusive.
How about he just doesn't want to be with someone rude enough to carry on two conversations at once?
And REALLY? Your initial concern was about the age? And not the young kids?
Wow.
Edit: Maybe you didn't actually mean having a three way conversation........maybe it just sounded like that. I'm guessing you meant you are talking to other men while also talking to this guy..........but not at "the same time". My apologies if I took what you wrote the wrong way.
Though I still don't get not knowing whether to date a man with young kids when you already have?! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 11:04:58 AM | I find it kind of weird to be thinking "oh my, what about when we get serious" or "what about if we get married" or "what will the relatives/friends/strangers think of us having a relationship" or ANY such kind of thinking before even meeting with a person!
I think it's strange to go out to meet someone with thoughts and/or pre-talk with them about a serious relationship.
But that's just me. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 11:31:17 AM | Mustang: I've been following your posts and I'd simply say that you seem to like him and the way he communicates and that you should explore getting to know him without it being relative to age.
In fairness, I don't thinks it's fair to allow him to know that you're chatting with others. I always feels that the person you are talking to should feel like they're the focus of conversation at the time. It serves no purpose to let a guy know that we're talking to others.
I tried to message you but you're blocking messages from females. If you're open to it, simply send me a message then I can return it. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 2:45:53 PM | [...and I think my parents would like me to re-marry or at least settle on a partner.]
You're this age and your parents' opinion of your marital status is an issue for you? If you want to live with someone, do that. If you really love the guy and feel like you want to get married, do that. If you don't feel like getting married at all or ever, then don't. It's YOUR life!
If you think a 34 y/o guy is mature enough and you have enough in common (not just attraction), then date/keep dating him. Personally, I'm a year older than you and find I have a bit more in common with men closer to my age, but my search range is typically 38-51. It's all a matter of personal preference. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 2:49:17 PM | | If you don't want him, send me a link to his profile. I wouldn't mind being a step-mom, I don't think. I've never had any children. And that brings up ONE good point about women dating younger men - they may want another child that someone OUR age can't provide for them (outside of adoption or surrogacy). | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 5:17:59 PM | If it's a fit and you can make it work everyone else can go to heck.
It's stupendously hard to find people that fit... to turn one away over something as trivial as a few years is waste on a truly cosmic scale.
If you find love, don't look Universe in the face and turn it down. Cherish it and enjoy it while you can, you might not find it again any time soon. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:43:18 PM | | Having enjoyed a relationship with a man 16 years my junior, I can tell you that the ONLY con was the opinions of others. Everything else was definitely a "pro." Do what you can to enjoy each other and when people whisper behind your back, know that it is just jealousy and smile and ignore it. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:51:39 PM | | I think I need to move. New Hampshire doesn't seem to have much to offer in the way of single men ... or maybe they are viewing my profile and I'm just not making the mark (???) I have had ONE man message me since I joined. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 8:15:17 PM |
"Moderation in all things:" Not too "young" or too "old". Sound advice. Within 5 years on either side covers it for for me. My kids are both in their 20's now. I need to date someone within my decade...!? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 10:50:21 AM | I'm 25 and some of my best dates have been with women in their 40's and even a few 50's. My problem is that I really dont have much in common with women my age, after two tours of combat, a college education, and having been married. I like to hold intelligent conversations and time and time again I have chased away a woman after she asked me about politics ( which happens to be a part of my degree ).
But it also falls to that I dont care about the mundane things about life such as vanity and having a ridiculous number of friends which makes them think I unsociable, I really could careless about partying everynight which makes me boring.lol
I want to feel a connection and often times that connection is felt with an older woman. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 11:04:14 PM | I date up to 62, for some reason the 40's I've avoided. I like swing, big band, motown, disco, metal grunge, alt, r&b, some rap with great beats so also date down to 21 which is just old enough for her to drink to be comfy. Dating is easy from my perspective because I cover the costs and can control conversations well enough. My ex wife was younger than I and it worked long term because I helped her grow up and let her travel the world without me holding her hand.
Um, texting as communication... Quash that business. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 11:47:31 PM | | Well i just turned 50 this year and i have always been in a relationship with men that are older than me so i think younger would be quite refreshing(: I became a genuine cougar last year girl and it was so sweet but i knew that it wouldnt become a relationship of love but we do remain friends and 7 yrs isnt that big of a age gap but than again do you want more children?? and does he? That would be my only issue good luck girl! Its a jungle out there in the dating world! I am not real gung-ho on it just yet | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 8:40:44 AM | I'm with those who say-"where is it written that you and your date( partner/SO/ummfriend/whatever) must wear T-shirts proclaiming your ages?" If you connect and have chemistry, and are prepared to accept some of the potential practical drawbacks that come with a 1o-yr-or-more age difference, why care about what others may think.
Speaking for myself-I don't generally care to date more than (roughly) 10 yrs either side of my own age.
If you want to look at the truly BIGGEST picture;
How Young is Too Young in a Mate?
If you expect his or her parent(s) to PAY you for minding him or her-that's too young.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 4:30:38 PM | | I've had a relationship with a woman with a larger gap then that. And while it was not a problem for her or I, (which should be the focus here) it was a problem for her father. He eventually put enough pressure on her we broke up, but remain friends to this day. She now is miserable, from what other family members and friends have told me, but at this point honestly, the only people that it should matter to is you and him. My father once told me, it does not matter what he thinks or any one else, what matters is if both of you are happy, because you have to live with each other. Can it work? Depends on how much either one of you let outside influences effect you. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 4:47:26 PM | | i have just turned 50 so my age requirements just went up.... the youngest i would even consider dating would be 53 0r 54... i need a man who is older and bigger and not quiet as pretty as me!! LOL | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 5:58:58 PM |
I didn't want him to come all the way to my area only to have to go home a few hours later...there's 100 kms or so between his area and mine so it's a bit of a trip
The guy is old enough to make up his own mind about what works for him, when you can do the same I'll say "go for it" you've matured enough to date a younger man. LOL | |
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