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I wonder if the rise in STDs in the older age group is the fact they can't get pregnant and because of that they don't regularly use condoms.
From what I've read and heard, that is the theory. I suppose that this situation is probably a good argument against "slopping all over like gerbils"( I had NO IDEA that gerbils were highly promiscous-amazing what one can learn on these forums!)
But I fail to see why someone having ONE fwb, or engaging in reasonable and responsible non-relationship sex-if one chooses!- (when one doesn't happen to be in a relationship or a stated exclusive dating situation,of course) becomes" slopping all over like gerbils"
Again, from what I comprehend and percieve, it doesn't sound like the OP is talking about indiscriminate random sex with multiple men-OR gerbils. She just wanted some input on what can be, IMO, a reasonable question given the variety of ways that people date and conduct relationships these days. Anyway I hope that input/opinions were what she was looking for. If she was looking for a universal conscensus/unanimous answer, I think she's out of luck.
I would be inclined to think that the OP is a woman who enjoys sex for its' own sake, or else why would she even have the dilemma-it would be easy to make a decision for celibacy until the "potential new bf" returns and (hopefully) resumes dating her. But since she apparently enjoys sex without having to justify it or somehow "use it" to acquire desired external benefits/status, she must be seen as a huge threat to people who still believe that sex is man's pleasure and womans' bargaining chip. Is that perhaps at the root of the badmouthing? One cannot help but wonder.
Before someone accuses ME of badmouthing-let me make it clear that I don't much care what sexual standards other people set for themselves as long as no important laws are broken,no coercion(or browbeating) is involved , and any gerbils involved are consenting adults.
I don't like to see one adult-or group of them-try to ram their sexual standards down everyone else's throats. I don't care if those are highly liberal standards or very constrained ones.
I do not personally support or advocate for multiple concurrent sexual partners, or what is generally called "promiscuity"-I think that any adult person,male or female, who is promiscuous/sexually incontinent have some significant underlying emotional problems. IMO, lack of some degree of sexual restraint and circumspection is about like having no restraint or discrimination in eating habits, or an inability to "know when to say when" in consuming adult beverages.
But IMO one fwb is hardly sexual "over-indulgence". Oh-yes, let me make it clear that "one fwb" is NOT meant to be in addition to a spouse, significant other, or a mutual decision of exclusivity with someone else.
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Posted: 6/22/2012 2:00:29 PM
|^^^^^^^^^^ and yet you take exhorbitant amount of time voicing your opinion cutting down the internet bandwidth and making POF crash the way it did a while back LMAO|
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Posted: 6/22/2012 8:11:26 PM
What should I do?
The best advice I can give you is grow up.
Either that, or stick with your FWB, tell mr wonderful that screwing around is more important than a relationship, and live with it.
Good luck... sounds like you'll need it.