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I'm really at a loss on here. I have a post-graduate education and I'm getting rejected in favor of high school drop-outs. lol.
(Msg 19)
Yep, seems very clear you don’t get it. You are not conducting court, here, Counselor. Hear ye, hear ye . . . .
I don’t mean to be rude, Sir, but; it seems someone needs to suggest it might behoove you to lighten up! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 9:06:05 PM | OP,
I agree with all who say...you're doing nothing wrong...and those that you gave your #
to and didn't hear from them...don't deserve the time of day. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 9:24:34 PM |
tensail, WTH is it with you and the "feminists" everything boils down to that with you. God get over yourself. Let's blame women for the woes of the world. No wonder you are single and past 40.
...You forgot the low EQ (most of his posts have that and feminism as the cause of the problem)
One day tensail will tell us why...
(he has been asked before on the Aussie forums)
maybe he got beaten up by a gang of fems?
I'm really at a loss on here. I have a post-graduate education and I'm getting rejected in favor of high school drop-outs. lol.
(Msg 19)
Hey, don't be knocking high school dropouts. These days they are in demand because women won't be inheriting 60k in student loan debts by selecting someone with a post grad education. Besides, most degree holders are the unemployed because they are not willing to take jobs perceived as below them whereas a high school drop out or someone with just a high school diploma will do whatever there is a need for by adapting to the changing job market. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 9:39:35 PM | The only thing you might be doing wrong is believing that the people you have contact with are actually on the same page as you.
Unfortunately, unless you are a mindreader, it is very difficult to ascertain a person's actual level of sincerity from a few words traded back and forth on a computer screen. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2012 9:46:59 PM | | you're not doing anything wrong. people are just too damn picky on here | |
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nsblue
| | Joined: 11/23/2011
Msg: 32 | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 1:43:52 AM | | God only knows the whys. With the day n age of internet... many things can happen when chatting on-line... a person may take things wrong, form an opinion n "poof "..they're gone....with no explanation. It takes patience and much communication if someone really cares to surpass the follys of on-line chatting. Whatever happens..happens... dont take it personally... it can be hard not to at times...but perhaps consider yourself lucky...;) | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 1:47:52 AM |
men r confused about cahsing/stalking, so u got encourage em mre, v femneinsts scared most men away frm persuing women. gl.
Holy shit. Did you type this with your nose? | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 5:09:13 PM | It has nothing to do with you being needy or desperate OP...don't listen to that smack.
I am with her on this though....never quite understood why a man would chat back and forth, everything seemed to be going well enough, HE SAYS HE WANTS TO CALL...HIS IDEA NOT MINE because he wants to hear my voice or because he doesn't like all this typing or whatever the reason, I agree with him, like him enough in type, pictures, profile and say yes, he can call...give him my number then.....poooooof. He disappears. No more messaging, no phone call...nada.
I have heard of men having sex to put notches on their belts, but not phone numbers. I guess these guys are number collectors...once they get what they want they dissapear.....not the weirdest thing I ever been through but strange enough on its own.
That is one of the many reasons I stopped dating off this thing last year....just one of the many reasons. There is much more. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 7:12:33 PM |
I'm really at a loss on here. I have a post-graduate education and I'm getting rejected in favor of high school drop-outs. lol.
(Msg 19)
Hey, don't be knocking high school dropouts. These days they are in demand because women won't be inheriting 60k in student loan debts by selecting someone with a post grad education. Besides, most degree holders are the unemployed because they are not willing to take jobs perceived as below them whereas a high school drop out or someone with just a high school diploma will do whatever there is a need for by adapting to the changing job market.
That is so funny! And in a real way....true.
It sounds JUST like my ex.
Thanks for putting a humorous spin on a stupid situation.
OP: Don't sweat it. You have to have some thick skin to navigate this vast sea of fish.
Positve affirmations can help if your self-confidence needs a boost. THAT and staying busy with other activities. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 7:50:53 PM | Op just let it roll off your back like water off a duck's back.
I have met so many men that as soon as something they think is better comes along they disappear. Then want to pick up where they left off when they are duped by old pics or who they thought was so awesome turned out to be a basket case. Both guys I had met others I had only been in the message stage with.
Actually had a guy I had casually dated for a few weeks this spring show up at my work not too long ago. He had a younger girl chase him hard and fell for her bs. (She was fascinated by his Ducati motorcycle and image.) No skin off my nose.. We were just casually seeing each other. But I had to laugh... and thank him for his offer to "try again" but I had moved on awhile ago. About 10 minutes after his last phone call. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 8:20:02 PM | The only suggestion is to not read anything in to it. It'll drive you nuts otherwise.
I personally have given my phone number and gotten no call, which freaked me out thinking someone was scamming me, going to figure out where I lived and kill me with an axe. See what I mean?
But seriously folks - I have deduced there could be a thousand reasons why there's no reply. Pick one for your answer and forget it. I personally like - "he's not worth it anyway" but "he dropped his cell phone in the koi pond and it erased my info" works too.
My advise - aside from not giving out your number (which how can that work online for long...) - go meet people in real life. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2012 8:22:32 PM | text them a picture of your boobs... that aughta get their attention...
Seriously tho.. don't sweat it.. next | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 12:36:38 PM | What makes you think you're the one doing anything wrong?
Many people indiscriminately message a lot of people, or only want to stroke their ego by messaging but don't want to follow through and meet because they're shy, scared, weigh a lot more than their photo etc.
There are lots of flakes. If someone stops communicating, see it as their loss.
(By the way, I looked at your profile. Wow!!! Would have never guessed you were anywhere near 61. Good looking 40 year old is what I thought.) | |
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Posted: 6/20/2012 12:55:08 PM | Hun, it is not your fault , you did nothing wrong.
Guys do that and alot of women do that,
I even get asked my number after a bunch of mails, nothing happens, or I get stood up in the rain late at night, when she said she would pick me up to be safe, i am just wondering if she is looking from far away videoing me to place a pathetic guy in the rain waiting for his date and post it on you tube.
Or they actually call me and tell me sad stories to see if I offer them money to fix their problems or fix their cars.
I get a lot of loser moments , well in the past.
At least you only got a no communication situation , move on next batch of guys .
Women here talk as if women never ever did that only men, people all do that and in my biased opinion , women flake out and are more fickle than men or maybe only to me.... only in the past, that has all changed for me.
Move on, contact the next batch of beefcakes. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 9:52:39 AM | | its a numbers game..keep throwing ur number out there the average is 3 out of 10. and if u know anything about baseball..with those odds you'd be in the hall of fame. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 9:56:47 AM | it's a big world. let your hair down . snag a slurpee.
...and tour main street
alone | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 12:39:43 PM | | You guys are great. Great advice and thanks to everyone of you! | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 1:06:06 PM | | The census of most of the replies is right. You have done nothing wrong. Don't get discouraged, just consider it a part of the dating "pre-screen", messages, IM, emails, and after a week or two a phone number. If a man is truly interested, not married, and not being a player, then he will view your phone number as a something of value....the key to connecting with you and getting to know you better. Conversely if he get 4 phone numbers a week, or has a girlfriend on the side then you and you phone number will lack value to him.....The most basic rule in the dating book is not to keep a woman waiting if you ask for her number, any guy that doesn't know this isn't worth your time. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 1:40:55 PM | I don't think you are doing anything wrong.
For men on here the process usually goes like this:
1) Single or dateless for a while. Make a decision to go over to POF and start chatting up women.
2) Send out some friendly, flirty messages. Maybe fifteen to twenty.
3) Out of twenty the man sends out, seven or so are interested enough to respond.
4) Of these seven responses the man begins chatting with four women.
5) Sets up dates for the coming weekend with two of these women. Why these two? They were able to coordinate schedules quickly and were free this coming weekend.
6) Stops contacting they other two women because the man's date card is now full and managing four potential dates is harder than two. After all, man has job, visitation with kids, soft ball team and buddies all contending for his time.
7) In a two weeks when none of the dates pans out into a relationship the man begins the process again.
Don't fret over this. It is just the way the online thing works. | |
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Gennna
| | Joined: 5/25/2012
Msg: 48 | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 7:15:36 PM | | I think its the games men play. Some are on this site to see if they still "got it". But sadly from experience many have out dated pics. What I do I always get their number so I have the upperhand. | |
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Gennna
| | Joined: 5/25/2012
Msg: 49 | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 7:20:58 PM | | I rather talk over the phone too. I believe sooner is better.That is a sign they are not hiding anything. If not many rather be email buddies. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2012 7:28:02 PM | | Some times you have to kiss alot of frogs in order to find the right one. just have fun, you will eventually find someone right for u. Your not doing anything wrong, your doing something right, going on dates, flirting, that all good. keep your chin up you will find someone. | |
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