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Women with limited resources are not desirable either.
It depends on how good-looking she is. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 2:27:52 PM | | Gwendolyn, You are right looks enter into this online dating. Are you living on a shoestring, or don't you have any prob.'s in that area? | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 7:01:59 PM | But you might be just a tad more attractive if you would ease up on the self-promotion just a wee bit?
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What, all I said is that not all men judge a woman by their income. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2012 8:27:14 PM | I actually read this entire post....thread for thread.
From the OP to my response, the entire tone and point has changed dramatically. It happens all the time so i shouldn't be surprised. But I AM surprised because the OP was so honest and real......unlike SO much of what is posted (in the forums.....I'm talking about, "He/she cheated!! WHAT should I DO??")......and yet.....this post took many a twisted turn.
OP: It IS hard to live paycheck to paycheck....spent most of my life doing that. I admire your willingness to come on a public forum to speak so honestly about something that most wouldn't have the guts to do.
I wish you much luck.......a nice guy would be lucky to have you!
I don't think money makes the match....the people involved do. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 6:44:46 AM | I think finding the match you want
is really all U need.
if ..money is key
is love the answer..?
one is necessity the other is desire.
..some ppl take their relationships to heart..
..some ppl stretch their wallet way past their heart strings
as long as time is on our side
we can | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 7:14:48 AM | I cannot understand why it is tacky to get a take-home box, regardless of who pays, instead of overeating or wasting food. The portions are huge usually and frankly, it is just too wasteful to me to throw out what has been paid for. I take it for lunch the next day.
What is tacky about not being wasteful?
I carry disability insurance, life insurance, dental insurance, and health insurance through my job. I also have home and car insurance. My monthly insurance costs are about $500 a month. I did have hopes that the U.S. would have some insurance reform to make health insurance more affordable for everyone. I am grateful that I get decent rates through my job, but I am paying close to $6000 a year overall. Health insurance should be affordable for everyone, but it is not at this time. I have a co-pay and 20% in addition on my plan. It is a necessary expense, IMO.
I live frugally, but I am not cheap. I think it is just smart to make the most of your dollar. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 7:33:05 AM | | ^^^Agree with the doggy bags! Why NOT take it home? That's being frugal.....not cheap. A restaurant meal portion size is enough for two meals (usually). If someone thought that was tacky......we wouldn't be a good match! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 12:08:02 PM | I don't think its so much about your health or wealth, but more so how you got there, and what your doing about it.
I have little compassion for those who knew better and continue to abuse their body or spend their self into poverty. Especially to those who make little effort to help themselves.
As for finance, if you can't live within your means then someday it catches up. But then again there are those who fall upon circumstances beyond their control. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 2:44:34 PM | I agree, there are different reasons for financial strife. I have worked two extra jobs for quite some time to dig myself out of medical debt. It just takes one catastrophic illness such as cancer or a long-term illness that requires hospitalization to derail a lifetime of careful choices.
Dating on a shoestring can be fun with the right person. There is a huge difference between frugal and cheap. It is all about making the most of a dollar or squeezing your pennies so tight that Abe screams. Cheap is never attractive. | |
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| Living on a shoestring budget
Posted: 6/23/2012 3:27:01 PM | If I can't eat the meal and someone else was paying, I would order something smaller. I do think it's tacky to ask for a doggy bag on someone else's dime, and I also think Its tacky to order more food than one can eat.
I would have a hard time letting someone else pay if I was taking it home. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 4:04:27 PM | Well, I do not understand that thinking, but to each his own. I do order the small meal, but there are times you go to places where you are unfamiliar with the portions. I do not like to waste, and to me, it is just foolish to feed the garbage instead of people.
Please explain, if you do not mind, what is tacky about a take-out container? My thinking is that if I paid for someone's meal and they could not eat it all, I would appreciate that they want to take it home. Where does that tacky come in? Is it that the thinking is that you are so desperate that you cannot buy your own food? I did read on another thread that one man said that if a woman asked for a doggy bag, he would not ask her out again. I consider myself a woman of good manners, but I never have heard of it being tacky until I read these forums.
Would you take it home if you paid for it? What about if you make food for someone in your home, is it considered tacky to send the leftovers home with your guest? I am just trying to understand the whole tacky thing. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 4:53:08 PM |
I don't think its so much about your health or wealth, but more so how you got there, and what your doing about it.
I have little compassion for those who knew better and continue to abuse their body or spend their self into poverty. Especially to those who make little effort to help themselves.
As for finance, if you can't live within your means then someday it catches up. But then again there are those who fall upon circumstances beyond their control.
I agree in general. My partner and I are both well off but nothing was handed to us. We made choices in life. I worked in three countries before Canada and my girlfriend in two before Canada. Last year I bought another Toyota Corolla when I could have plunked cash down for a Mercedes. When travelling, if alone, I stay in hostels instead of 5 star hotels (actually enjoy hostels more).
I have no idea how an adult can plunk down $25 for a pizza unless they have a couple years' salary in the bank. What if they lose their job? Sacrifice a bit and laty a good financial base and life then becomes a lot easier. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 9:48:51 PM | | I had doggy bags on first meets, when he paid, lol. Sometimes the portions are too big, and I was probably a little nervous. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 1:15:29 AM | If a guy is going to judge you based on how much you earn, you don't want him anyway. He's a jerk. Not all guys are like that though. I was on a shoe string budget when I met my last boyfriend a couple years ago. He didn't care. Since it makes me feel better to contribute, when I could I did, even if he hated me to. I also found other ways to contribute like cooking for him or taking him a plant from my yard, providing sodas and candy at the movies (from home, of course).
I think the key is to be honest. If you can't afford to do something just say so. My experience is that if the guy likes you he'll pay or he'll suggest doing something else you can afford. That, or you won't hear from him again. In that case, well, his loss not yours.
On the flip side, I kinda understand why guys are a bit leery. I've known women who will go out with a guy just to get a nice dinner for free. I've also known women who will purposely order the most expensive item on the menu or drink expensive****ails just because they're on a date and not picking up the tab. To be honest I'm not sure which is worse... this or the guy who won't go out with you because you make less than him.
To put a positive spin on it, the nice thing about being on a limited budget is that you're less likely to be scammed. After all, if you have no extra money to "loan", or give, a scammer isn't going to get anything from you. There's always a silver lining... | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 6:32:43 AM | | If you were in London I would love to date you. I save money when I take a lady for a meal at the Salvation army soup kitchen | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:07:07 AM |
I've also known women who will purposely order the most expensive item on the menu or drink expensive****ails just because they're on a date and not picking up the tab.
I've never met a woman like this in my life. How exactly do you know all these women and how do you know this about them? My experience, as the guy actually on a date with a woman, is that the reverse is more apt to be true.
Any woman I've been with picks something off a menu because it is what she wants to eat....and drinks what she fancies. It might be the least or most expensive item on a menu. She certainly isn't trying to take advantage of anything.
Not sure who all these women are who sell their company for a plate of food. No woman I've ever known. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:15:13 AM | | Re commnets above about taking food home. I don't have kids at home. Whenever i've dined with a woman with a child itell her that 'll never eat it but for her to take it home for her kid....a woman can take that offer up without feeling odd. Also, nice to get an extra dessert for her to take home to her kid....good moms never stop being moms. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:27:05 AM | | If someone doesn't finish what they ordered, I don't see an issue with them taking it home to finish. I hate to see good food wasted. However, when they order something on the other person's dime (maybe for dessert) and get it wrapped without so much as tasting it, I would find that to be pretty tacky. And, yes, I have seen this behavior on a date, although it is admittedly a very small minority and definitely not chronic. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 7:36:26 AM | Re commnets above about taking food home. I don't have kids at home. Whenever i've dined with a woman with a child itell her that 'll never eat it but for her to take it home for her kid....a woman can take that offer up without feeling odd. Also, nice to get an extra dessert for her to take home to her kid....good moms never stop being moms
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Aww, that's thoughtful. Lots of kids, especially from multiple kid households don't get to eat out much. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 9:18:51 AM | | Having just spent the last hour reading this entire thread, I came to a conclusion that the 'shoestring' is different for each of us, and while I agree that budget is less important than priorities. How much money is not nearly as important as how it is spent, which comes with how we each perceive our needs and wants. For some, a fancy car, vacation home, jewelry, country club membership, boat or other hobby may all seem necessary, but most of us have to make choices, and for a relationship to thrive, there had better be agreement! | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 12:13:31 PM | | I disagree with the generalization in Post #86. I for one have never considered women with limited resources undesirable. The "finer things in life" (most of which are connected either directly or indirectly to urban culture) by and large do not appeal to me, so I have never seen the women interested in those things as desirable partners or even casual dates. I'm much more impressed by common sense and money management skills than by what a woman earns or the financial assets she has. | |
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