| | Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?Page 3 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | You're 24 years old. The average life expectancy for a man is roughly 75 years.
So, you got approximately 51 years of approaches, rejections, first dates, bad relationships, and potential marriage/divorces ahead of you, and you're worried about 4 years in high school? Of which 2 of those 4 years you were 14/15 years old and wouldn't have dated anyway?
Seriously, it's not an issue. In 3 or 4 years you won't even be able to tell the difference.
Get out there, learn what you can, get in lots of practice and you'll be fine. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/28/2012 10:24:27 AM |
Wow, talk about over simplifying age, lol. Average male age is not 75. even it was average, thats "average."
Yes, it's a simplification to make a very simple point, that in all likelihood he'll live a lot of years and have plenty of opportunity to accrue experience. And in comparison to that, the experience he would have gained in High School is trivial.
Would you have preferrred something more specific? Like average, median, standard deviation, and confidence level factoring in ethnicity, education and geographic location?
Sometimes something doesn't have to be exactly accurate for the point to be accurate. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/28/2012 2:02:27 PM | | I went to high school (and a couple of proms), yet I can count the number of dates I had in those four years on the fingers of one hand. I'd be hard pressed to say that it affects me a quarter of a century later. As long as you're attracted to girls, you should be fine. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/29/2012 11:11:49 AM | | you didn't date as a choice, what about the few of us who had older brothers that threatened all the guys that were interested? I never really knew why until about 4 yrs ago, I asked, at a reunion. I never felt UGLY, just a little nieve, guess it wasn't me after all. It took till I was over 55 to know the truth. I hung around with everyone at school, and wasn't too bad on grades. It's never too late to have a happy childhood, date now and enjoy the experiences that come from them. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/29/2012 11:46:11 AM | | I never really understood why people say they can only have a high school/college social life OR good grades. So when you grow up, you can only handle a good job OR a family life? Because I was a valedictorian, I was in a lot of programs with other valedictorians and salutatorians, and the majority of them had boyfriends and girlfriends, so I doubt having a social life and romantic involvements is as much of an impediment as some of you are making them out to be. Actually, I've come to learn a strong social life is probably more important to your career than good grades -- in many fields, it truly is WHO you know more so than WHAT you know. Even with engineering and computer science, you're not going to get very far without connections. Not that I'm saying a boyfriend/girlfriend will get you connections (although, one former date put me in touch with one of the investors on one of my movies). There's just much evidence to the contrary that dating in high school will automatically have a negative effect on your grades and eventual career. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/30/2012 9:38:49 AM | I believe the OP did the right things in high school. Don't have regrets.
When I was in high school, it was difficult to date someone in your own school. The classmates you met in elementary school when the opposite gender was "icky", difficult to think of them as attractive. The ones you met in junior high, things played themselves out. Only a few girls were "new" to me in high school.
Meeting someone from a different school was nearly impossible. No online back then. No car. Some guys spoke of girls from Catholic schools, but I didn't encounter them, not going to church.
Went fishing at a river cabin on prom night.
Spent much of my free time writing computer programs, sounds like the productive stuff you did.
No regrets. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/30/2012 11:05:19 AM | | Dating in high school is like trying to ride a tricycle for the first time. Nothing wrong with learning at an earlier age to date. But it isn't required either, because what you learned in high school is pretty much thrown out the window when you become an adult haha. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/30/2012 11:34:00 AM | | I think it is normal. I can't seem to recall many of the guys I went to high school dating. But I also went to a school where guys outnumbered girls two to one. And it was in an area with a culture that really didn't seem to support much of a social scene. I've also wondered how much of later life success/failure with dating is due to missing HS experiences. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/30/2012 12:19:41 PM | As anyone can attest to attending high school re-unions your prowess/popularity in high school has no bearing how you turn out as an adult.
Your experiences may be shaped by what you learned, but at the end of the day most of what you learn in high school (pure shenanigans) is useless to you as an adult. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 6/30/2012 7:24:26 PM | I didn't date in high school. I wasn't terribly social either. It is what it is. I don't really regret how things worked out for me. Not dating then did not set the standard for the rest of my life. :)
What I have noticed is that I can be somewhat ignorant when it comes to understanding people in the dating world. I've wondered from time to time if I didn't learn some social skills because I didn't date then. But, I've found, even though I'm older, I'm learning those skills now. So, it really doesn't matter WHEN I experienced them, just as long as I get it. My hope is that I'm a quicker study since I am older and wiser :). | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/1/2012 12:28:30 AM | | I never dated in high school. I did have a girlfriend in grade 4 though :) I never really got into the dating scene till after I finished HS, then met a girl when I was 19 and we stayed together for 8 years. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/5/2012 11:24:25 AM | Where I went to high school the saying is by the time a girl is 18 she has 3 different kids by 3 different guys and a drug problem.
I did not want to date in high school due to the girls being like that. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/5/2012 11:51:45 AM | I would say that it's not uncommon. People bloom at different ages. Some people are shy and need to build up some confidence as they get older.
Dont worry, you are not doomed so long as you commit yourself and do what it takes to "market" yourself. Look, unless you try and really make an effort, your future queen may never approach you to make it happen. You have to take it in your own hands to make sure you don't end up being single forever.
Take baby steps. Take care of your physical appearance, make sure you are groomed well. Exercise, work with a trainer or a friend for a few times to get muscle where you need it and weight loss everywhere else.
Also, work on your confidence in speaking with women, making conversation, and just making friends with women. this will build up your confidence so that when you see your future queen, you can throw a line out there and see if it catches.
But you are definitely not doomed. Everyone on this planet can find a compatible partner, so long as they are really willing to commit and get over their shyness, lack of confidence, etc. You may have to make sure to keep yourself up - you wouldnt want to date a woman who didnt groom herself properly, brush her teeth, shower, etc, now would you? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 10:09:41 AM | I've never been on a date in highschool either, never had a boyfriend until 24, never even kissed a guy until 24...
Funny, I never even went to my Prom either! lol...didn't have a date and couldn't care a less about going..I don't regret it though..it's such a small moment in life..
So you feel you could be doomed? maybe :) Maybe our kind is doomed for life..lol..because i'm still single and find the whole dating thing very difficult and maybe it would have helped if I had more experience when i was in highschool.
I did make up for lost time though at one point ( at age 24 - 27).
But bottom line, those were the decisions that we made, so we deal with it and don't regret nothing. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/6/2012 10:17:21 AM |
I know it's pretty silly, but I actually skipped the Highschool Prom.. Hey dont feel bad about the Prom buddy. I dated all through high school (hell I dated in junior high) and I didnt go to my Prom. Just didnt sound fun to me. Instead I went with 2 girls down to Austin and camped on Lake Travis and spent the weekend skinny dippin. I never once regretted missing Prom Night. Its not all its cracked up to be.
Good Luck!
Cowboy | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/6/2012 10:20:21 AM | I missed my Prom night too.
I was so drunk, I actually don`t remember much of that weekend anyways LOL.
Except the car of one of my teachers. Poor lady was actually crying...
But HELL, she was a ***** so I dont feel guilty  | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/7/2012 2:47:13 PM | Nothing should be labeled as normal nowadays it doesnt make sense every one is different I didnt date in high school because I knew the boys were too immature for what I wanted (a MAN) I am still the same way and I am 24 years old and still want the same thing.
Yeah I made out with a guy in highschool and we werent together he was cute but then after that I didnt like him anymore because he wasnt mature enough.
Shoulda woulda coulda
That was the past move on :) | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/9/2012 5:40:49 PM |
i hate how people say it is never too late, better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all
I don't know Double Standard, the way all these folks carry on about broken hearts, broken dreams, never trusting again, seems to me this love thing makes people harden their hearts just as much as a person who never has loved. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/10/2012 7:18:15 PM | I never dated in college. Did date one guy in HS, though. And also never went to prom - and I don't regret that at all.
From 25 to 35 I didn't date, either. I was busy with my career. It was a choice. I made it, whatever personal loss I suffered I gained in education and self respect. Now, I'm settled in my career, have been dating for several years and can devote this time to whomever my S/O may end up being. I feel perhaps I have a bit more to offer than I would have back then. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/15/2012 9:33:10 PM | Arigato
That's nothing. I've never been on a date ever. Attended private schools all my life. And the only close thing I've had to a relationship was a long distance one that lasted over a year without even meeting! .....Crazy, right?! Lol Hopefully that will one day change. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/16/2012 8:51:27 AM | I didn't date through highschool either..I was one of the 'ugly homely' girls. My dating years began at University when I was 19 yrs old.
Seems it's still not easy to get a date. Not sure where the posted 10-100 messages daily for women information is derived from.
I'm not sure you missed much. You should start living now. | |
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| Is it normal to not have dated in highschool?
Posted: 7/20/2012 12:36:21 PM | | I didn't date in HS. We just hung out. "Will you go out with me"was how we got a GF & we still just hung out. Not till I got divorced did I date like in Happy Days & even still when comfortable with someone, we just hang out. Not enough of an issue to lose sleep over. | |
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