| | Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates? Page 5 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | Mae, I have made minor changes upon request / suggestion. A woman on PoF thought i would look better with my mustache shaved off, I was inclined to agree, so I shaved.
Me too....I shaved my mustache as well...lol
While I often liked long hair, wild looking hair short hard gives a woman an interesting look, it really isn't all that significant as personalitiy is more important
Well my hair can get pretty wild looking, depending up the activity of course...hehe
A women I was dating wanted me to beef up my arms so it would be easy for me to pin her down in bed, which I though was a little over the top. She was quite athletic, very fit and wiry, like trying wrestling a python
I have visions of the wrestling match on the bed...did ya win?
Cripes, i just got back fromn the gym, poured a cup of coffee, sat down took a sip and it almost squirted out my nose when I read that. Too funny. At least I hadn't drank ther coffee yet or I may have peed myself
Yeah...that one gave me a damn good chuckle too :)
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| Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates?
Posted: 6/25/2012 9:24:51 PM | | After my ex came out as gay, I started walking 4 miles/day after work so I would have "my time" to think things through. My hair is longer because of being a mom of two busy teens at that time with no time to get to a hairdresser. My cousin's daughter taught me to use a straightener and the walking resulted in a new slimmer me, so I do have a new, younger looking wardrobe but none of it would I attribute to wanting to attract a man. That it does is just a fortunate perk. | |
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| Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates?
Posted: 6/26/2012 6:46:13 AM |
If I change it would be for me. if you do change for them you will soon go back to the way you were. Change for yourself not due to someone else.
Whats funny now, as being older with age, your success, living a better & healthy lifestyle. Finding new goals, being single again,kids grown up, you all can hone those new goals.
And without the lack of time you did not have when busy rearing a family,household, work,etc,etc.
So appearances & freedom, goes hand in hand.
And my question is, can you & my appearance at middle age, can you handle that! That is the kicker, even with so much knowledge we all have. Or is it that a middle age,our lives now are so regimented that, there is no room to accept then change? | |
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| Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates?
Posted: 6/26/2012 8:47:07 AM | I am never going to enjoy tight clothes, heels, make up, or other things that *might* make me look more attractive to some men, so I would not want to use these things simply to attract a man who is only attracted to me when I dress in particular ways (whatever those ways are).
I'm happy as I am, very happy. I smile and laugh a lot, and I know how to have fun. If, as I live this life in the comfort of my own body, I happen upon someone who finds me--as I am--attractive, great (assuming I find them attractive too, of course). If not, so be it. I'm ok either way. I'm not asexual, either; far from it! But I neither want to "bait and switch" or live uncomfortably in an appearance that is not me.
I am trying to lose weight, mostly b/c it will allow me to keep doing the things I like to do. I am aware that it will probably result in male interest, too, but that is not necessarily a benefit--speaking as someone who was quite fit and attractive for many years. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 1:06:43 PM | I think we're ALL pretty much shallow enough to date who appeals to us, lol!
But if you lose weight, you lose all the guys who *like* fluffy women. If you shave your facial hair, you lose all the women who *adore* beards and mustaches. . . ETC. Personally, I tend to like the Hair Club before pics better than the after pics.
And some *do not* care one way or another, very much.
But let me ask another: would you be willing to make a change in your *soul* to attract a mate? | |
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| Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates?
Posted: 6/26/2012 1:11:10 PM | EDIT: wooby got one in while I was writing this one.
A woman in my neighborhood, fortyish, walks everywhere she goes. When she passes by, every male is silent, and praying -- she walks like a quarter-horse. Her hair is incredible. It just does something to us. And it's nicely cut.
I don't remember when it was, but once I had a good long look at her face. Her face -- belongs in a medieval tavern. It's an Old World face, like Roger Daltrey's is.
... and I'm back quiet. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 11:17:11 AM | Mae, Me too....I shaved my mustache as well...lol
I am pretty easy going, I could probably handle a slight mustache, but IM experience, beard stubble is beyond my comfort zone. If it runs through my mind, is she or isn't she, that totally kills my mood.
I have visions of the wrestling match on the bed...did ya win? Well, I can pin her without too much trouble, but then both my hands are legs are in a holding position, no one told me to bring restraints.
I suggested an alternative, which she was eager to try.
The thread is about changing your appearance, which seemed to fit. It played out exactly as I wrote, without having to get into a longer story. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 12:05:58 PM | Any changes I have made or would make really have more to do with me feeling better about myself, not just for the sake of 'getting into a relationship.' With that said, now I'll expand on it:
Would I grow my hair longer for someone else? Probably not; my hair gets to a certain point and then turns into a hot mess that is uncontrollable (same if it's shorter and the humidity hits.) It's more about what works for me and my lifestyle. Would I cover my gray? Already do ... sort of. Actually, now I'm kind of liking the silver among the dark blond. Of course, I could change my mind next week and go dark blond because I feel frumpy.
Would I work out? Yes, both for myself and when I feel uncomfortable about my body. If someone I met actually told me I should work out for a better body, I'd move on.
Would I wear make-up? Yes, already do. Very little, actually, but I may wear more - it all depends. If I met someone who wanted me to wear make-up, I'd probably head on to greener pastures (again).
Plastic surgery? Very unlikely.
Dental work? Yes, already working on that.
Push-up bra? It all depends on if it's comfortable and it supports my back. A dress more current? Yes, if I really like it.
So, reviewing it all, I guess it really comes down to doing most things for myself. It's a half-and-half situation; society often wants us to conform to certain 'standards,' and yes, I'll conform to a certain degree. However, if I do everything that everyone 'wants' me to do, then I've lost myself. | |
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| Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates?
Posted: 6/27/2012 2:20:37 PM |
I think we're ALL pretty much shallow enough to date who appeals to us
So a person's shallow because we want someone who were attracted to or were not interested in another who's large or thin? That's not shallow it's a matter of personal preference. The word shallow is used way to much here. Especially when someone gets turned down.
Just my opinion. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:04:53 PM | Call me shallow.
I'm a male of the species. A healthy male. Millions of years of evolution have shaped my preference in what I find attractive in a woman. When I went through profiles looking for my girlfriend I could go click, next, click, next, click...as fast as you can say it. 'If' I find her attractive then I'm interested to learn more about her.
I was out to find a not just 'a friend' but also a mate and sexual partner. Why is wanting a sexual partner that turns you on considered 'shallow'? | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 2:50:07 AM | | Alfred DP, I just wanted to comment on your post. Woman wear make up for a different reason than trying to appear "fake." They wear make up to enhance their looks . Fashion is also important and clothing is really supposed to compliment and become your body. Being well groomed takes time and work. Hair style and color is also an important factor as we age. It takes time and effort to consistently look well groomed. Some woman are not willing to take the time and make the effort to make themselves more attractive. "Fake, I don't think so. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 4:20:02 AM | I always look after myself for my own benefit, not in order to catch dates. Dental work, for good teeth. Well groomed, because I've always practiced good grooming, etc.
The folly of doing something that isn't part of one's ordinary good practice, means that once the man/woman is "caught" there is a great chance that the person will revert to their sloppy ways. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 8:11:45 AM |
I always look after myself for my own benefit, not in order to catch dates
That's nice. however, I like a woman who uses her sexuality to attract a mate. She sees a male/female relationship as the very essence of her being. She wants to be alluring to a male..wants her mate to lust after her...wants to dress up classy,or as as a slut, or 'whatever' to meet her guy's fantasy. She thrives and finds fulfillment in making him happy. She oozes sexuality.
Some women get it and some women don't. If a woman wants her shair short because it's practical and 'manageble'. that's fine. She just isn't the woman for me. I want the woman who who keeps it long...it might take more effort but she wants her guy getting off when he sees it sway on her back and she wants him to crave running his hands through it. | |
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| Would U @ MiddleAge B willing 2 make a change in your appearance 2B more successful w/dates?
Posted: 6/28/2012 8:23:38 AM | | "She sees a male/female relationship as the very essence of her being???????????????""" WHAT? Does that mean she is only whole and has essence when she is in a relationship? I think most woman want to please their man with their appearance, hair, clothes, grooming etc. But... I for one do not dress for men. I have my own taste and I know what fashions are flattering to me and what fashions are not. I also know what kind of hair styles are flattering to me and what are not. In essence, I have my own style, not my mans!!! That also reflects a strong identity which I intend to maintain. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 8:42:48 AM |
She thrives and finds fulfillment in making him happy. She oozes sexuality.
Can we edit it to say she finds fulfillment in many arenas, INCLUDING her sexuality & her relationships, WHEN SHE HAS THEM??? Even when not in a relationship, I enjoy some sexy things, for ME, not for a man or to get a man, but just because I feel like a feminine woman... | |
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