| | Do weddings make you jealous? Page 2 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | Weddings don't make me jealous. It's always nice to see people celebrate their beliefs and it's always nice to be invited to share in a day which holds meaning to the couple.
What I do tend to find is myself wondering about the reason for a church wedding especially for a bride and groom who are not religious. It doesn't happen often in my social circle but I have occasionally attended a big church ceremony for a couple who have no religious belief. That's always puzzling to me as the social/family expectation of that has reduced over recent decades with the availability of a non-religious ceremony being held at many different locations.
The one other thought I always have when it's a big lavish wedding costing thousands, is how much more beneficial it would have been to spend that money on reducing their outstanding mortgage amount ! But hey, I have never claimed to be a romantic. | |
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| Do weddings make you jealous?
Posted: 6/25/2012 4:32:39 AM | What I do tend to find is myself wondering about the reason for the wedding especially when it's a church wedding for a bride and groom who are not religious in any way. It doesn't happen often in my social circle but I have occasionally attended a big church ceremony for a couple who have no religious belief. That's always puzzling to me as the social/family expectation of that has reduced over recent decades.
Can't speak for the rest of the world, but in the US, churches have often been strong resources for children ( youth activities ), immigrants ( many have some type of outreach program) and the elderly ( many use it for a type of social network) While the bride and groom might not have religious beliefs themselves, logistically it's difficult to find affordable venues for the number of weddings out there if churches were not used. Churches are designed for crowds, have parking, and usually have some method behind their geographic location. The fees collected from wedding proceeds often get funneled back into keeping the church running.
I'm not a religious person myself, but I see church weddings as a win/win, even for the non religious. Churches, many, do have many functions and activities that help the community in need. The community structure of the congregation, even if you took religion out of the equation, has saved many a wayward youth since the dawn of man.
Dating is merciless. Most people are merciless. The working world is merciless. But often in many communities, churches are seen as one of the few socially acceptable venues for any type of mercy out there, even if you took religion out of the equation. I'm not religious myself, but attending church as a youth probably helped me to become a more well rounded and better person. Though everyone elses experience might vary.
Something no one seems to discuss is that any wedding, whether good or bad, usually has a positive effect on our economy. People need services and jobs are created and people can find livelihoods. I don't have a negative view of weddings myself. Marriage might be a different story, but the basis of the actual ceremony does impart some good for the entire community. | |
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| Do weddings make you jealous?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:27:10 AM |
Everybody stand, everybody sit, everybody stand, ugh. I've had more fun at funerals.
^^ Omg,too funny  and i so agree!
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| Do weddings make you jealous?
Posted: 6/25/2012 6:40:11 AM | | OP: If the love is sincere within the couple, why would I feel "jealous." I would not feel threatened of losing something I don't have. Secondly, there isn't enough love in the world; so it's encouraging to see it when it does come around, even if it doesn't involve me. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:50:52 AM | A little. The last one I went to was for a couple about my age. I was jealous that they made the leap so lovingly after each came out of bad relationships/marriages and they did not allow the past to mar the happiness they found together. They took the big chance.
They had been 'dating' for years, lived together etc. Most people I know never take the risk again in their 50's. They'd rather just co-habitate and remain separate on paper to avoid the pitfalls of a possible 2nd divorce. Hard cold reality takes all the romance out of life.
It was beautiful. It gave me hope. | |
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| Do weddings make you jealous?
Posted: 6/25/2012 7:01:25 AM | | I've never been crazy about weddings. Was married twice and other than my own, I've only been to two others. It's a bunch of crap that stems from someones fantasy while blowing money that could be better spent. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 7:23:20 AM | Weddings never have and sill do not make me jealous. I was married and we had an elaborate wedding. It was one of the best days of my life. Wish the good times would've continued longer. But I am happy for people who take the plunge. Perhaps they're better at it than we were...
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Posted: 6/25/2012 7:25:49 AM | | I was at a wedding recently where they wrote their own vows. And my reaction was that the one time I'd seriously considered marriage, I was wrong, because I couldn't have honestly said I felt that deeply about her. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:27:44 AM | | You get to wear dresses you can't usually wear anywhere else and crazy shoes- plus free food, free booze, friends, hotties in tuxes. I love them, its like grade 12 Formal all over again but with alcohol. -This is only with friends and aqaintences weddings. Close family weddings are boring- I don't like letting my hair down in front of certain family members- funny I still have to keep up some sort of facade in front of them lol. But that goes with any of my family gatherings. . . "yawn central". | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:41:32 AM | | Ive been to different types of weddings, I love them all! My first wedding was my uncle in law, I was about eight years old. It was done at a house, it was pretty cool. They dressed up, had a cake and a party, and that was neat because they did it all at home. At least I thought it was pretty decent when I was a kid. I love Church Weddings also, gives me all kinds of feel goodsies. I've never been jealous, but have been worried sometimes, and sometimes felt like I was involved in one of those fairytale happy ending scenarios. lol. okay I shut up now :/ | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 3:29:20 PM | Do wedding make me jealous?
Nope, not at all. Weddings are highly over-rated these days. All I see when I see a couple getting married is the cost......why spend thousands of dollars and start out your new life together, already in debt. It just makes no sense to me, whatsoever. And as for seeing a couple in love and saying the "I do's" doesn't make me jealous either....I am happy that someone found what they were looking for.
Story about the cost of weddings. At a function for work, I was talking to my boss's husband about weddings and the cost of them. I told him that my ex and I were married for under $500, and he was shocked! Told me that he and his wife spent over $25,000 for their wedding and that they were still paying for the wedding, four years later. Weddings are big business these days.....and an unnecessary expense, as far as I'm concerned. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 3:39:05 PM | Do weddings make you jealous?
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Nope not at all. Weddings are a lock down till death does you part and should be taken seriously but in this day and age, people are not taking marriage seriously enough these days.
Mankind traditional Wedding:
Spend a whole bunch of money for the wedding hall or where ever, decorations, money for tuxs for the groom and groomsmen and dresses for the bride and brides maids and maid of honor, a priest to put your hands together and bless your marriage ( which both of you won't take seriously bride and groom ) in front of all her and his family to see. Spend more money for a reception hall and food and booze and watch everyone have fun, get drunk and dance the night away. A year later one of you files for divorce ( because one is not happy with the marriage and does not want to work it out ) and even that will cost a crap load of money on top of that, fighting in front of family, fighting each other, fighting in front of the paralegal,lying and cheating on each other. Yeah how does weddings make me jealous? I'll keep my money in my pocket and stick to wanting to have a relationship.
After seeing how society's weddings are like, I'm a lil cynical about mankind's traditional weddings
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Posted: 6/25/2012 3:42:51 PM | | Yes I cant help feeling lonely but all my friends are married so they are just blah to me. Ive given up on finding anyone anyways so I just take myself to the gym so I forget about not finding anyone my type thats also into me. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 3:44:25 PM | Nope - not in the least.
I shake my head and think about the same couple 10yrs from now......and how much alimony and C.S. the guy could have saved if he thought with his big head instead of his little one..............
Yup.....been there done that. I actually feel sorry for them........ | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 4:01:28 PM | Nope. I do not feel jealous at all. I went to a lot of weddings, and things do tend to be stressful not only on the wedding day itself, but days or even months leading to it, especially if you are part of the wedding party, which I was plenty of times. As for the question of being "hopeful," I cannot really say because I never felt that in any of the weddings I went to. Although I feel obligated to be hopeful for my friends that got married because like what I said the days leading to the wedding was a lot of work and more work to come after the wedding itself.
On the bright side, I was able to get some booze for free and meet a lot of single women. So, there is an upside in weddings and the jealous stuff is somewhat rare. If their were some people who felt that some do not deserve to be happy even for one day, those people kinds of people are truly sad folks. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 5:51:09 PM |
I just take myself to the gym so I forget about not finding anyone my type thats also into me.
I do the same thing. I run until I forget how miserable I am. I think I'll go do that right now. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 5:58:16 PM | They don't make me jealous because when I always get the backstory to why the wedding happened. The things behind the scenes of couples is not always what you see at the ceremony.
Plus a lot of couples divorce nowadays quite quickly showing how truly devoted they were to each other. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:03:09 PM | Ah...no not really. At my age I have seen my friends get married have kids get divorced get married have a few more kids not get divorced this time but stay in the marriage out of spite...I think you get the picture.
Hey its an enjoyable moment in time with hopefully a free bar and a lot of tipsy dames that love playing grab ass with any decent guy in a suit (thats me...lol)...just enjoy the moment and be glad your not footing the bill and wish the couple lot's and lot's of luck...most people need it these days. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:11:05 PM | You know what they say...
Marriage is grand, divorce is a hundred grand"
Let them enjoy the moment while it lasts. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:24:58 PM | | No, not in the least. A longtime friend of mine recently announced she is marrying a man who she hasn't known all that long. The first thing that popped in my mind was... that poor **stard he has no idea what he's getting himself into | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:46:29 PM | | I remember going to some and feeling jealous if the bride is a real hottie. But after seeing them a few years and a few kids later, the hottie wife is now overweight and looks like a worn down mother and has rapidly aged. That's usually cures any lingering jealousy. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:47:31 PM | | Actually, two school friends of mine, met up by chance a couple of years ago. They hadn't seen each other since we all left school in 1986. They are now engaged to be married and I was very honored when they rescheduled the wedding and pushed it back a year to coincide with my next visit home. So, I'll have a wedding to attend, my sister's 25th wedding anniversary and my parent's 50th wedding anniversary, all in the same trip. Should be a great trip. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:49:26 PM | | I love wedding, I'm going to my friends wedding in October in St. Thomas I get to suit up and drink for free | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 6:49:46 PM | | Jealous, no, but when I was much younger I use to be quite jealous of anyone who had someone. Then I watched them through the years and usually found I was glad not to be them. I am impressed when couples last and neither seems to be cheating, etc., that's impressive. But bad or just boring relationships make me happy to be single. | |
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