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What I do tend to find is myself wondering about the reason for a church wedding especially for a bride and groom who are not religious. It doesn't happen often in my social circle but I have occasionally attended a big church ceremony for a couple who have no religious belief. That's always puzzling to me as the social/family expectation of that has reduced over recent decades with the availability of a non-religious ceremony being held at many different locations.
I agree with that statement 100%. People who have weddings should do it like the last one I was at in September 2010: Have a sports themed (or whatever theme the couple agrees on) wedding that takes place at a local park. Everyone brings food and drinks and throws wiffle balls instead of rice when the couple walks back down the aisle.
That and have those who are set to stand do a dance type entrance like the one that can be seen in the "JK Wedding Dance Entrance" video on Youtube. That is how you should start a wedding off.
I mean after all the couple should get to have at least one more thing to enjoy before marriage, right?
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:39:26 PM | | I don't get jealous of teh cost if the wedding hehe lol..but yes it's natural for ppl to envy and be jealous of something you/they yearn for :) | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:55:28 PM | I don't know if jealous is the right word, but they definitely give me some mixed emotions. I went to a wedding recently and my thoughts were around how much it cost (why spend so much money on one day?) and how self indulgent the tradition is (the whole bridal party and 6000 photographs). The love part is a bit trickier. I would love to have that kind of love again one day, and seeing that it exists (even if it doesn't work out in the long run) helps to give me hope.
BUT there is also a small part of me that thinks I am an awesome person and that the universe is cruel because it hasn't sent me anyone to share my life with in the past few years. I wouldn't label this feeling as jealousy, I would say it is more along the lines of abject self pity. Oh well. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 10:02:23 PM | | Every time I see a couple holding hands, kissing, etc., I feel a degree of jealousy. I seriously feel a pain in my chest, like my heart is breaking literally. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 10:20:27 PM | | They're great fun and I love a good love story, so weddings are inspiring and I'm happy for the couple! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 9:30:03 AM | Jealous of a wedding? Pffft, I'd be more jealous of a funeral. Which in some ways is the same thing.
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Posted: 6/26/2012 10:12:18 AM |
I treat weddings the same way I do funerals. I offer my condolences.
I tell them thaty then take a picture to post on facebook. It`s usually priceless  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 10:23:37 AM |
Jealous of a wedding? Pffft, I'd be more jealous of a funeral. Which in some ways is the same thing.
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Posted: 6/26/2012 4:15:21 PM | I know so few people who are still married (to the same person) and have not been married previously to someone else. I know *lots* of people who are divorced. Jealous at weddings? No, not at all. I think I'd probably say what I feel during such occasions runs between hope and sorrow. "Hope," in that I really hope they make it. "Sorrow," in that I'm sure I'm probably looking at the beginning of a future divorce. I always look at things in a long-term sense. So, at a wedding, I'm not just physically witnessing the union of two people in holy matrimony... I'm "seeing" 10, 15, 20, 25, 30 years ahead (if they even make it THAT far), with all the arguing, lying, screaming, treachery, adultery, drinking, and of course, the downward-spiraling finances.
Wedding:
Him: I love you.
Her: I love you.
Sometime down the road, years later, in the middle of the night:
Him: You STUPID ______ ______. What the ______ is WRONG with you?!
Her: I hate your __________ guts!!! I wish you were DEAD!!! I'm taking the kids! I want a DIVORCE!!!
Him (throwing the ______ and smashing it into the wall): You're not taking MY kids, you _______ ______. I'll _______ kill you, you worthless ____!!!
Her: YOU STAY AWAY FROM THE KIDS!!! YOU NEVER WANTED THEM ANYWAY!!! AND IF YOU EVEN LAY A HAND ON ME, I'LL HAVE THE POLICE ______ ARREST YOUR HAIRY ___!!!
And on and on and on. The drama. My God. Fortunately, I had one of the most pleasant divorces in the history of divorces. However, I know of so many other couples whose marriages ended in pain and hatred. So... jealous? At weddings? No, no way. It's more like watching two people who both have family histories of cancer and hoping neither one of them get it.
I believe in love. I believe in marriage. Unfortunately, I also believe in harsh realities. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 10:34:26 PM | | my parents have been married for 34 years. there's is not a blissful marriage but they love each other. my grandparents were married for 60 years before my grandmother passed away, again not perfect but they were eachother's rock. This wedding was the both the bride and groom's 2nd marriage. It was just so beautiful. I'm 32, never been married, just been in long relationships that go nowhere. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 11:04:30 PM | | Jealous? NO WAY!! Getting married is something I'm interested in, but "a wedding" is not. When I get married, there isn't gonna be a "wedding", it will be us filling out papers at the court house then going somewhere nice, using all the money that would have otherwise been totally WASTED on a wedding cerimony. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2012 11:09:25 PM | | i love going to weddings..... i think it's great that people still have that level of hope and commitment. it has no bearing on me or my relationship status at all. i can be genuinely happy for others without feeling jealous or sad... it's not about me. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 1:21:00 PM | I love weddings.
I love going to them.
I never really think about the money being spent
because it's not my business.
There are a lot of people involved in the wedding
business, lots of jobs and employment. One of the
companies I work for is a catering company. They
do a lot of weddings, some inexpensive, others over
the top.
I'd never go to a wedding and think negative thoughts.
I'd only think the best and wish the best for the couple.
Of course the last wedding I went to was in May and it
was my daughter's. It was awesome, the food was awesome,
the dancing was awesome, and my daughter and her husband
are awesome.
I'm sort of awesome myself, but I digress.
I would never rain on anyone else's parade.
And I'm only jealous of Cindy Crawford. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 10:48:51 PM | | *Forever Alone!* sigh.... No, weddings do not make me jealous. They make me think "God, that's way too much money to be spending." | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 6:41:07 AM | Heck no. Jealousy is a futile and potentially destructive emotion.
And at my age (62) weddings are welcome change from funerals!
You get to dress up and party - yeay.
I am curious, though. If weddings bring on a pang and a longing to find love, why does your profile read "..... isn't seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment." Do you not think that seeking friends only might be sending a message of intent contrary to one which you appear to long for?
DB. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 12:43:34 PM | | I love weddings, always have such a good time, celebrating love between people that I care about.... no never once have I been jealous.... | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 12:50:52 PM | Nope not jealous, I get annoyed at the questions at the weddings but I have just been to 3 weddings in the last 2 months and all of them were great times.
When its my time I wouldnt want people to be jealous I would want people to be happy and have some fun. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 5:32:47 PM | | Nope, they will be divorced soon enough. Stuck with wedding bills and nasty break up. Their kids will be emotionally damaged for life and both will look at the single person who didn't make the same mistake with envy. Marriage is as risky as it gets. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 7:30:42 PM | Being perfectly honest with myself, yes I do feel some envy. I think about my own wedding, the mistakes I made in my marriage and how I would do things differently.
I miss having a special someone just to enjoy every day with, and to me that stability is what marriage is all about. I still believe it happens and I pray it is for the couple whose day I have been privileged to be invited to.
In fact, I have been invited to one in July and responded that I will be going solo... this is a test for me to see how strong I can be and feel comfortable being alone at such an event.
I also think that I could never spend a small fortune on a wedding and would prefer to have something personal and intimate as I would rather have a great honeymoon for two. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 7:35:55 PM |
Do weddings make you jealous that someone else has found love and you are alone? I just came from a beautiful wedding. I saw two people in love. I was jealous, because I don't have that. Or do that make you hopeful that there's someone out there for you?
Well I am not alone... I am currently dating an awesome guy. But weddings do not make me jealous... They are expensive affairs that people focus too much upon image.
I am never getting married again. I can be totally committed to one man forever without that damn piece of paper. I would rather take that money and buy a dream vacation solo with my guy. Or a house or car.. | |
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