| | Would you get married and have kids in your 40's? Page 2 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | Hey Womac,
... with a bun in the oven and you wanting a family and her about to be a single mom... you know, if you showed up a bit for her during this process you might find it changes her for the better.... and you as well. I'm being sincere but obviously I don't know your exact situation with the ex. | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 6/29/2012 8:04:26 AM | | I'd like to have a family but I realise that it's probably not going to happen before I am 40. I would like it to have happened younger because I don't want to be an old father but who knows. It might not happen. | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 6/29/2012 1:30:26 PM | This is an interesting question & I am glad you posted it.
I think it all comes down to personal preference, financial situations, employment obligations, life issues, etc.
Sometimes, it's good to take a step back & do an inventory of what personal goals you have for your life, even if they are like five years from now, etc.
I am currently in a similar position but, as a woman, things seem a bit harder. This is concerning the pregnancy factor at my age now. However, I am on the see-saw of deciding whether I should just not have children, adopt or look even harder for someone who has children already to be their stepmom. I do envy I will say, my siblings in the sense they have good families & I enjoy spoiling their kids at appropriate times.
Similarly too, I am travelling to the UK in the autumn where, I am meeting with a solicitor regarding houses, meeting w/ people I'm friends w/ their to see if I can find a job & hopefully relocate too. I feel if I can make these goals (or not) then, I will see what I need to do to step-up my game, so to speak regarding meeting someone.
I have not had any "real" luck on the numerous websites I've been a member of since 2004. I've changed my image several times to meet my own personal health standards. Likewise, I've been in & out of comfort zones regarding activities & places I've travelled.
I will say this though, it all comes down personally to where you want to go, who you want to be with & what steps you need to take to make things happen for you. Good luck to everyone here! | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 6/29/2012 10:51:57 PM | At 45 I got no intend to have kids now.. Way too old for that, Not the making part but the taken care of them part.
I got no intrest to change dipers when im 50. I see many profiles of women in there 40s who post that they want kids. I got no idea what they are thinking about... | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 7/2/2012 12:42:15 PM | | I'm no doctor but isn't it dangerous or more risky for women over 40 to get pregnant ? Besides that health issue I don't see anything that would be a barrier myself to having more children or another marriage. | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 7/2/2012 4:42:47 PM |
Hey Womac,
... with a bun in the oven and you wanting a family and her about to be a single mom... you know, if you showed up a bit for her during this process you might find it changes her for the better.... and you as well. I'm being sincere but obviously I don't know your exact situation with the ex.
We divorced early in 2009 due to her having an affair, and her not being able to get past it. I've considered telling her I'd accept it if she wanted to come back, but I don't think she'd consider it. She has a tendency not to forgive in the slightest. I found that funny, considering... | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 7:22:44 AM | | Iam 28 and yes i like a kid our 2 but then i think about how old all be when the old a nuff to do any thing and all be a very old man ppl who have kids after 35 nuts why would you want to be 60 to 75 when ur kid 20 hell no not for me hell my dad and mom had use kids when the were younger my dad 48 and mom 44 and all use kids been out of house for yrs now the are able to 30 our so yrs with out kids up ther ass if i was 40 and had a baby i go nuts be to old to do that shit | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 11:57:50 AM | | I understand where you are coming from. I am a single women w/out kids & almost 40. I would love to have kids, but for what ever reason I haven't had any yet, & don't want to plan for any once I hit my 40s. However, if the LORD happens to bless me with kids at that time & will be over joyed with my blessing. So don't give up, prayfully u will find that right one for you no matter her age, who will still want to have kids. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 1:15:32 AM | Are you crazy???!!! You're a young man and can have baby w/ your choice of ladies...take it easy not like you have a friggin clock ticking like us ladies :()
We need more men like you--can we clone you??? :) | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 7/28/2012 8:27:29 AM | Spokanemike76,
Personal experience is that it is nearly impossible to find quality women these days. Yes ladies, sorry, but we guys are in a predicament. Especially those of us who work hard for an education and to put ourselves in a position to support a family.
By the time we're through school and started in a career, THE GOOD ONES ARE, largely, GONE.
I can't advocate for marrying young, but by the time a man is in his 30s... it becomes so tough for us to find anyone worth our time. Where do you ladies hide?
Those of us men who were raised in traditional homes still want traditional families... but cannot find women who share those goals and who are willing to make the necessary sacrifices. Seems like most women are in a "What's in it for me?" mode these days. I keep running into the 30-something, "I'm still into nightclubbing and drinking" type when I date. I'm not into that. I want a loving wife and a happy and stable home life for our children and don't identify with the type of ladies who want to play more than they want to be married and live the married life.
So I don't date anymore... (see one very special reason why, below.)
It is easy for us men make hasty decisions, marry the wrong person, and end up divorced. Sometimes after a child or two. Mike, I've been there and done that. Trust me... you don't want any part of that business.
Mike, my experience has been that it is possible to meet many wonderful ladies in their 40s. Some of whom are open to trying for another child. More women are having babies in their 40s these days. It isn't easy to conceive after 40, and pregnancies miscarry more frequently, but it is possible to do and good support from a good physician can help protect Mom and Baby during pregnancy. I've found a wonderful 41 year old lady who knows about what marriage should be, is open to another child, and will make a wonderful wife once she is fully recovered from the pain of ending a 14 year marriage with a husband who cheated most of that time with many different women. Women do want us good guys. My experience is that divorced women, who are recovered, tend to have many advantages over younger women who have not been married. So don't rule out the divorced ladies, even if they have children already. My lady friend has four, and working with her youngest two (athletic coaching) has been a blessing since I can't spend much time with my own two children (of similar age, living out of state.) The divorced ladies often know what marriage should have been, and are willing to work hard to make their next marriage be happy and lifelong.
Hope this provides some encouragement. I'm playing the waiting game, myself. There are no certainties and it isn't easy, but good things are worth waiting for.
Peace,
Fastrunner4life | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 7/28/2012 8:30:22 AM | Frogy27,
That's one way to look at it.
I'm a runner and rarely am beaten by any teenager. So I'm not afraid of having more kids in my 40s... which aren't far off.
I must say, though, that finding younger women who are interested in us older men seems a bit difficult. :-)
Fastrunner4life
(a child of parents who were in their late 30s/early 40s when I came along, and who did just fine....) | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 4:39:08 AM | I was partnered for 13 years. We had a son when I was 44. I am now 55. I wanted the child but not the father, in a marriage. We 3 are still a family in the loosest sense but we adults have each moved on. No hurt feelings. Our son was the best thing for both of us.
But I knew early on, he wasn't who I wanted to spend the rest of my days with.
I say marriage and kids over 40 is probably a personal choice. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2012 8:17:03 PM | Marriage?? I'd seriously surprised if any man can lasso this gal in. Yes sir and ma' am.
Kids? As much as I dearly love my own, to have any more I'd be certifiably nuts. | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 8/1/2012 1:19:02 AM | sometimes it's not a case of not wanting more kids but from 30's onwards factors can cause an inability to have more kids. from 40 onwards it then becomes a lifestyle issues, very few people want to be running around after a child in their 50's and then there's thinking of the child's life, no much life for a child with 50yr + parents.
I'm only 32 and that ship (kids) has sailed for good. | |
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| Would you get married and have kids in your 40's?
Posted: 8/1/2012 2:01:12 AM | I'm 35 and still hoping to find a good man to spend the rest of my life with.
I already have a child, so it wouldn't be imperative that he wants them. However, I don't rule it out. | |
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