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the opening mail i send most these days are 'you look awfully familiar, have we spoken before?'. It usually gets a response of some kind
You've just given me an idea ! - think I might try the tongue-in cheek "Do you come here often?" | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 3:23:47 AM | Nah, go for it. People have different idea of beauty, being rejected on your physical aspect isn't dramatic, some people have an idea of beauty and if you don't represent it there is not much you can do about it. When you are rejected cause you are a horrible person, that hurts.
I am not really photogenic and I was here for meet people in real life before so my pics weren't great, you can see me but I wasn't posing in my prom dress or anything. A guy that lives in my area rejected me saying something like 'you are not my type', I through 'shallow bloke' and I moved on. Few weeks later I met him in a club, he recognise me and start saying things like 'you are gorgeous, I can't believe I passed on you, you look so much better then your pics' and start chasing me really bad. I totally ignored him.
People have different idea of what it is out of your league or not. I was at a party once and there was a guy that looked a lot like my ex that I had just split up with it, he also had a similar tattoo. We were in the same queue and I told him 'nice tattoo', he looked at me like I was a bug and looked away, I laugh in his face.
The league is an invention that shallow people invented to cover their insecurities, be happy of the person that you are, close your eyes and go for it.
Good luck :) | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 4:09:40 AM | | That's pretty much what I do now terry.. If I see someone I think I might get on with I just message them " hey, I liked your profile, fancy a chat? If not no worries nd best of luck, Lucie x". And like you say half the time I hear back :) | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:12:33 AM | I'm in a league of my own!
Or is that not what you mean?
Seriously, if I see a profile that catches my interest, for whatever reason, then I send a message. If they reply, all well and good. If they don't, at least then you'll know.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained really. Better than sitting there wondering 'what if?' | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:38:35 AM |
This is a interesting post because most people would have backed off someone at least once in there life that they considered themselfs "not in there league
I very nearly did this once... I had a date and had text my daughter that I was on my way to meet a gorgeous guy and was in two minds not to go as I thought he was 'out of my league', she text back not to be so silly, that I was gorgeous and to go and have a good time, which I did.
I was round his last night and we were musing over the fact we had now been friends for 8 years! | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:38:47 AM | | I never send the initial message,I treat dating sites like real life,the guy makes the first move - as in real life though I might give him a hint , unlike real life you can't rely on body language,but checking out his profile is the equivalent. No such thing as out of your league. | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:52:17 AM | | Hmm but if there is no such thing as "out of your league" then nobody would ever reject someone purely based on looks (assuming that's what we are referring to here). It's not a very nice term I agree but I'm afraid that the reality of life seems to be that people of a similar "standard" lookswise tend to get together. Let's be honest who hasn't thought at some point "How has he got her?" or vice versa? | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:00:11 AM | | Exactly my point kags, "how did he get her" or for that matter "how did she get him" Reality is that loads of couples exist that are "supposedly" a mis match lookswise, and it's not always the case of pretty young gold digger on the arm of a rich old ugly guy | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 10:57:09 AM |
Hmm but if there is no such thing as "out of your league" then nobody would ever reject someone purely based on looks (assuming that's what we are referring to here).
Imo the two aren't linked... just because someone doesn't find another person attractive and rejects them doesn't mean that they are not necessarily in the same league. I have had guys tell me I 'look' too classy for them which I would be more inclined to think was referred to as a league issue. There are some very gorgeous looking guys on here ~honest, there are~ but it doesn't mean I particularly fancy them, so, if I reject them am I subconsciously saying they are out of my league? | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 11:08:45 AM |
Well Caroline, After visiting your profile ( the first girls profile I have ever gone on haha ) I actually think you are gorgeous.. You have a beautiful smile and your profile is great!!!
Awww, Lucie, thats so lovely of you to say, thank you very much!! I perved your profile too and think we would be mates! We have a ton in common (btw if you love OTH & like Boyce Avenue, listen to Tyler Hilton - Love me some Chris Keller!!)
I think I'm gonna find the hottie and message him, you're right, if I don't get a reply, I'm no worse off than I am now.... | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 12:06:36 PM | | I have the same thing... I've not messaged anyone on here at all, ever!... I'm a big girl and often think who i message won't reply because of this. So i just sit back and wait for people to come to me (not the best way must admit)... that way i know i won't be rejected... Seeing this has made me think though, might aswell give it a shot, not gonna loose anything if no reply... Well that's my opinion anyway :-) x | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 12:17:02 PM |
Exactly my point kags, "how did he get her" or for that matter "how did she get him" Reality is that loads of couples exist that are "supposedly" a mis match lookswise, and it's not always the case of pretty young gold digger on the arm of a rich old ugly guy
Oh I agree, I just think they are the exception to the rule. It's not how life should be but on the whole we are a bunch of shallow creatures. It's nice to see people do look beyond the "skin deep". I'm a bit the opposite myself; tend to avoid good looking blokes (not that that takes much doing lol) because I would feel insecure that they would want someone of the same standard of looks as themselves. Never mind that I might have lots of nice traits, there is such a massive emphasis on looks in this society of ours that I'd struggle to get past the inequality. I'm a complete hypocrite there though because I can totally fancy a man's personality pretty much irrespective of what he looks like! Sigh... this whole dating thing is a minefield.... | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 12:34:12 PM | I wouldn't message the really stunning women, not because I'd think them out of my league, but just because I know they will be snowed under with messages and the odds of me getting to know them are really slim. Maybe that's just me though, at the age group I'm searching in find it rare to find a woman I don't in some ways find attractive anyhow.
For the OP and the other women on this thread though I'd say it's a different story. Such is the imbalance of males to females on this and pretty much any site, that even the guys you think are the most desirable will almost certainly be getting next to no mails. You've really got nothing to lose, most men here would be pleased just to get a mail once in a while! | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 12:38:02 PM | | Kags ... I have no idea why you are worried about messaging fellas cos you look great ... you have a gorgeous smile, beautiful skin and don't look anywhere near your age! Guys in your area must be a little short sighted to say the least! | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 12:40:37 PM | Wow thank you Jaqi that's really kind of you, hope no-one thinks i was fishing for compliments.
Edit vv
Larger ladies do get a rough time in the forums sometimes so it can make you think that noone in the world would touch one of us! And in life in general too... especially now we know that anyone with a waist size over 2.3 inches is going to die of all sorts of diseases at the age of 40 anyway... we are all doomed ... so no point dieting really is there? ;-) | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 2:26:22 PM | Yeah I think that guys are out of my league all of the time....be it on the net, in real life or what ever, I cant bring myself to talk to guys in bars etc as I know i'll get the once over and more then likely blanked. It does come down to how you see yourself, that Gemma in TOWIE is a pretty big lass, but she struts her stuff in bikinis and the like, and I'm guessing here as I don't actually watch it, but i doubt she'd think someone was out of her league ever, she is actually very pretty.
It's quite sad that you feel how you do, but I can empathise with you 100% | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 3:26:23 PM | "how did he get her" or for that matter "how did she get him" Reality is that loads of couples exist that are "supposedly" a mis match lookswise, and it's not always the case of pretty young gold digger on the arm of a rich old ugly guy
Agreed. I see this all the time, including someone i work with.. He's not ugly but in my opinion his GF is very attractive.
Some women like a "bit of rough" (yes I hate that term too) but maybe we're all missing the point on this thread?
Sometimes in real life you can meet someone and simply miss the opportunity to try to take things a bit further, then never see them again and regret not making a move. But realistically this website is like shooting fish in a barrel... If you keep shooting you'll hit something probably sooner rather than later. But if you keep your powder dry and dont squeeze the trigger the result is guarranteed.. No fish for supper!
I tend to avoid women who's profiles say they're into motorbikes and Led Zeplin etc..
But if you say you like Skrillex and Damian Marley i'd think... hmmmm Interesting.
Truth is i rarely message women because I look for things that tell me we have a lot in common... and there aren't many women in MY league. That doesnt mean my league is any higher or lower than anyone elses though
Moral of the story?
Shoot first, ask questions (of yourself) later | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 6/27/2012 4:07:17 PM | Depends what you mean by "out of their league". Unfortunately there seems to be an increasing "league table" mentality, especially from women, where the less number of "requirements" (Tall, dark, rich, handsome etc) you have, the further down the league table/ladder you lie.
With that being the case sending messages can actually be seen as in some kind of sporting contest, so the closer to or higher than the 'opposition' you are, the better your chances of 'victory'.
However with myself being akin to a Sunday league team (according to the league table of 'requirements' anyway) I am seen as being ruled out of most others league. I do send the occasional message in the hope that I might be able to "pull off a shock victory", or at least "get them back to my place" (footy reference for those in the know) but unfortunately it seems I can't even get a game. | |
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