| | Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them? Page 6 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10) | | This is my first ever post on the forum .. and, yes, I see many guys who I wouldn't message because I think they wouldn't respond. Being over 50 doesn't help either *sobs* | |
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_roxy_
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/11/2012 12:59:39 PM | | Thanks Roxy. And Belle, I've been on POF over a year and only discovered the forums by accident a few days ago when I was trying to log out and my huge dog tried to climb on my lap, thus clicking on forum instead of log out! And oh what a relief when I discovered that there was dozens of other people who'd been on this site a lot longer than me - I was beginning to feel like I'd been left on the shelf lol | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/11/2012 1:30:23 PM | | Sure, I have thought that, but I always send a message after all what do you have to lose? Someone not replying is what makes us human, I don't know of anybody on this planet who is the right person for everybody. My advice is to always send a message, after all sometimes we are our own worst critics. Carpe Diem :) | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/11/2012 2:05:56 PM | | My friend has taken this one step further. On monday he met a girl who messaged him a week or so ago. She asked him out. When she arrived she was prettier than her photo's and I think he didn't feel he matched up. So after one drink He suggested they call it a night as they had work the next day. He sent her a text to say he had a nice time which she replied to but he wont have it that theres a chance and wont get in touch again. I think its a shame as he obviously thinks a lot of her. | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/26/2012 2:43:54 AM | Hi Lucie
At some point in our lives we all have maybe seen someone we thought was out of our league but that person maybe the one who is meant to be yours so personally nowadays I never consider anyone to be out of my league because I'm looking for that on in a million person.
Anyway if you are on honest, open, loving person they may well find you to be fabulous and hot as well.
LuckyEd | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/26/2012 5:28:04 AM | It seems to be quite common on here that people think someone is in a different league and from alot of the comments on here I would say it does hold alot of us back......
The key for me is that often, initial opinions can be based on the visual wow factor....I appreciate that people are attracted by looks but it is the person that you fall for and will have the cosy chat with.
The advice I was given years ago was that looks can change, it is the person that remains. To this end, I try to always feel the fear and say hello at least that way I wouldn't spend time wondering what if..... | |
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A881e
| | Joined: 7/11/2012
Msg: 134 | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/26/2012 9:55:01 AM | | Loads of times, it's a type of stereotyping and we all do it because it's helps us make sense of things. Everyday life never sees a rich supermodel with an overweight bloke on the dole. It's a fact of life and is more annoying to us ugly ones who have less choice lol | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/26/2012 12:30:43 PM | I wonder if this is my problem, women just naturally assume that I am out of their league and so don't even bother.
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/26/2012 2:57:19 PM | | yep,i`ve seen a few women whos profiles i`ve read and seen women when i`ve been out that i would`nt aproach just because their very attractive,which is realy stupid realy because you don`t know if you don`t ask,the worst thing that anyone can say is no :). | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/27/2012 2:18:56 AM | My problem is that I haven't dated very much and so have no idea what my league is and so by default anyone that I find attractive I think will be out of my league.
This results in either a really lame message which of course gets no response and so reinforces that belief or I just don't message ...... | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/27/2012 6:26:33 AM | Oh yes, quite often. But I think getting replies such as "Not interested in pushing a fat ass around the bedroom" or "Not looking for a Mrs trunchbull" aren't helping matters either.
Or the messages offering "pity f**ks", also very disheartening. (Why say no, it's not like you will have offers like this all that often...)
Chancers and *sshats don't do the genuine sincere guys on here any favours.
So...Single mum, and a BBW to boot...it all adds up to aimlessly perusing the profiles, wistfully eyeing up a local cute guy with an interesting profile, before logging off and playing rock videos on YouTube.
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Hx | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/27/2012 10:46:23 AM | | To be honest i do it all the time, my problem is that although i am not ugly as in Horror ugly, i am definitely no Brad Pitt either, so i look at all the beautiful ladies in their lovely photos and think "theres no way she would look at me without throwing up", i sometimes feel like a stalker though, because i come on here feeling optimistic and an hour later, and several profiles late, i log out feeling dejected :( | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/27/2012 4:57:56 PM | | Wow.... you have got to be kidding.. i couldn't help but look at your profile after you said this. You are very beautiful, hair, face, smile etc..... granted a few extra pounds but bfd...... you would be the type of gal (if much younger ha) that i would not message as my thinking would be is that you are too pretty and that you have so many messages mine would get lost in the shuffle. I don't know what your passion is, I don't know what makes you stay up late and get up early. But if you post the things that move you, the things that make your life worth living... the guys who will find you will do so out of WHO ARE not what you look like. And the best part of that is, is that they get your beauty as a bonus and they have to shake their heads and slap themselves to wonder if they are dreaming. Good luck! | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/27/2012 5:38:38 PM | | Got to say i tend to think a lot of the Women on here are to "up market" for me so don't bother messageing them,even at the first meet i went to at Beverley did speak to a really nice lady but just felt she was a bit out of my leauge so that was that .....oh well just have to stick to the Forums, less rejection and embarresment on here ..lol | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/29/2012 7:40:48 AM | | Most of us are guilty of not messaging people we like the look of from time to time. I do wonder how anyone actually ends up meeting people here? Since recently returning it would appear to be getting even harder to land even a date than it was a year ago | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/29/2012 9:08:16 AM | I fancy the pants off someone on here, but haven't got the guts to mail him.
I don't think he is out of my league, but as he has viewed me and I haven't heard from him, I guess I think he wouldn't be interested in me. So I will sit and stare and wish and hope.. :( | |
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/29/2012 9:13:21 AM | | I figure I may as well message every woman I find interesting, even if I do feel they're 'better' for whatever reason. At the end of the day, getting replies from ANYONE is damn near a miracle so why not at least increase your chances? I actually got a response from a woman just to say I'm not her type. I was pleased as punch just to know that at least some people take the time to respond, even if it is a rejection! Much better than the usual no reply whatsoever, which after putting effort into writing something original, tends to make one wonder what's the point in bothering in the first place! | |
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_roxy_
| | Joined: 3/16/2012
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| Ever think someone is out of your league and not messaged them?
Posted: 7/29/2012 9:38:53 AM | Chuzz.....saunter past seductively in your hottest outfit and hope he notices......would be the way to go if not online.
Or view him and see if he responds to that. Or just message him!! Do ittttt!
I don't think I have ever looked on the viewed me or meet me or favourites, so its always best to message someone. | |
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