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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym that aren't scantily clad?
Posted: 7/13/2012 1:52:23 PM |
<div class="quote">You don't get it! Woman don't want to be approached by a guy at the gym.
Says you. I say woman don't care where they are approach as long as the man doesn't act like a pig. Think I pointed that out earlier. How the h3ll are we suppose to meet people if no one is allowed to approach anyone in a public place. I actually once dated a guy who approached me at the gym, didn't turn into long term but I had no problem, he was polite and over a number of visits to the gym, carried on a conversation until he invited me out for coffee. I have also ignored/told other to go away/leave me alone/ quit being a pig etc. You get the picture. Got called a biatch once by some guy who who rude and crude, didn't really care cause he was a pig and it didn't really matter what he thought of me.
Ladies get over yourselves and get thicker skins, gentlemen, stop acting like pigs and get thicker skins. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym that aren't scantily clad?
Posted: 7/13/2012 10:04:03 PM | Meh, when you work with the public you're used to personal attacks. Not that it makes them right. Far from it...now since all the point of fingers of whom started it first is over with how bout back to the actual thread?
For every person that think its "wrong" to approach someone in a gym there is also someone that say "why not?" Esp if the person is polite...now the OP's guy that said the wrong thing may be viewed as bad or just bad timing. I for one wouldn't mind a woman complimenting me on a "job well done" on my body from the hard work...Even if I wasn't attracted to her I'd still be polite and say thank you...I'd make it clear with my body language that I saw it as just a stranger complimenting me and I'm not interested...and if she cannot read my body language then she needs to step away from the dating world. And learn it fast.
But for me whom was pretty much ignored by the opposite sex until I reached 30 it seemed like...any type of attention is welcome. So step outside of your little box and imagine yourself as someone that doesn't get attn all the time...might see things a little differently...IMO. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym that aren't scantily clad?
Posted: 7/14/2012 12:06:06 AM |
To the OP, here are a few suggestions (work for me):
1) Use head phones at ALL times
2) Do not make eye contact (unless he is really hot)
3) If approched, pretent you do not speak English
4) There are ALL women's gyms out there...that may be your only option if you do not want to be "bothered".
Noooo!! Stop!!! You're suggesting implementing simple solutions and logic. That kind of nonsense just isn't tolerated in these parts! Get out of here with that crazy talk.
Let me guess, you would suggest carrying an umbrella to avoid getting wet instead of leaving it at home and cursing the rain, wouldn't you??
Some people, I tell ya... | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 12:50:15 AM | WOW! You are on a dating site, yet you complain about men noticing you. Let's see the reasons why a fella would talk to a lady at the gym:
1. You both go to the gym, you have something in common
2. They are heterosexual.
3. It's probably better than dating someone from work.
4. They have bad luck with online dating.
5. It's a normal part of life. Anyone could meet "the one" just about anywhere.
6. It is far less creepy and probably safer than going door to door asking women out.
You should be more flattered by this and less appalled by this. I understand there is a difference between innocent compliments and being pushy, if men didn't make these attempts, and haven't over the centuries, the world would have a lot less people. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 2:57:41 AM | "Plenty of Fish forums are a place to meet singles, and get dating advice".
I wonder myself why there are many singles here just to post, when they have no intention of dating.
It must be one of the few places they have an interaction with people, where their voice is heard.
I guess some attention is better than none. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:12:04 AM |
It must be one of the few places they have an interaction with people
Quite the opposite. I come here to get away from interacting with people. If I wanted interaction, I sure as hell wouldn't be on my computer typing on a forum to people 1,000 miles away for me.
where their voice is heard.
Now I know you're kidding. Talking on here is like talking to a wall. Once in a blue moon someone reads something you wrote, and I about fall out of my chair when they do. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:19:58 AM |
WOW! You are on a dating site, yet you complain about men noticing you. Let's see the reasons why a fella would talk to a lady at the gym:
1. You both go to the gym, you have something in common
2. They are heterosexual.
3. It's probably better than dating someone from work.
4. They have bad luck with online dating.
5. It's a normal part of life. Anyone could meet "the one" just about anywhere.
6. It is far less creepy and probably safer than going door to door asking women out.
You should be more flattered by this and less appalled by this. I understand there is a difference between innocent compliments and being pushy, if men didn't make these attempts, and haven't over the centuries, the world would have a lot less people.
Yup...pretty much what he said. If the OP is so horrified by one guy who made an inappropriate remark, she might think of it as a test run for future inappropriate remarks made by others so that she can practice an appropriate response.
You know, women sometimes make inappropriate remarks to each other, too. There are ways to deal with such remarks and actions without dragging oneself down to the other's level. And sometimes these remarks are made without a negative intent - they just come out that way. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 11:10:26 AM | The best advice I can give the OP is the same advice my father gave me, "you cannot change what other people do or say, you can only change the way you react to it".
Once the OP learns to truly apply this advice to her life, that mans "comment" will be like water off a ducks back, no big deal. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 3:22:03 PM | | I work as a personal trainer so I have seen this first hand. An attractive woman will be working out minding her own business and some meat head will come over to try and chat her up. Never ends well. Ladies, if you want to be left alone one of the best deterrents is to wear headphones. A guy will be much less likely to bother you if he has to stop you, interrupt you, and ask you to take your headphones off. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 5:07:33 PM | I know this is rude and extremely unlady like and childish, but this guy was staring at me. I could feel it and see him when I was at the gym yesterday. I burped really loud; needless to say he got off. Oops excuse me.
I take my earphones off when I take a break, I've been keeping them on lately and that works. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 5:18:33 PM | | Come on Rachel.. Guys and girls should be able to talk to each other in a gym. Like it or not a gym has becom a social place. However this guy does seem a little aggresive. I guess you look pretty good and caught his attention. Dont get all hot and bothered just smile and moe on like ya did. Your a big girl now | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 6:45:26 PM | I dont mind obnoxious/unwelcomed stares. I ask nicely once; then I dont play nice.
I find flashing a tat to give em' something to stare at works.
Especially when other women get pizzed.
I like riding my broom. What can I say its there in the corner when Im forced to visit. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 7:07:01 PM | I know this is rude and extremely unlady like and childish, but this guy was staring at me. I could feel it and see him when I was at the gym yesterday. I burped really loud; needless to say he got off. Oops excuse me.
I take my earphones off when I take a break, I've been keeping them on lately and that works.
You know what? I think you're full of shit. You sure do love to TALK about the alleged attention you receive, which only leads to what?? You guessed it.....more attention.
And you just hate it, don't you?
What a crock. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:11:17 PM | | All I can say is that I am relieved the days of men hitting on me are over. It was creepy when I went to the gym and some strange man would get on the machine next to me and start working out like a maniac while staring at my body. I know that sounds nice to a lot of men but it really is creepy. I don't think men would feel much different if the tables were turned. You have the size and strength to intimidate women you don't want bothering you. And you never have to fear sexual assault. You can't compare being messagesd by people you aren't attracted to on a dating site to getting hit on in a place you have no intention of meeting someone. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:36:34 PM | I don't think men would feel much different if the tables were turned.
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Actually I had women stare at the back of my ass while I was doing leg work outs. I saw one man's wifey at the gym look at my ass while I was lifting weights, while her husband was right there standing next to her looking at her doing this. Things go both ways with both genders. Men check out women and Women check out men. I personally don't care, I go to the gym for a purpose and that purpose is to work out, put in my work and go home. They look at me, I look back at them but not to be creepy or annoying about it. On top of that there is a tall fit woman that goes to the gym regularly that likes working out next to me biking and doing ab workouts together, we look at each other and we go our separate ways. We check each other out and we both don't care about it.
Like a job, punch in, do the job, do the job RIGHT and get out, without the drama.
And if someone is harassing you, report them, simple. Why are some of you making this sound so complicated?
If someone pissed in your corn flakes that bad. Go to the person that pissed in them and tell em off. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:38:32 PM |
You can't compare being messagesd by people you aren't attracted to on a dating site to getting hit on in a place you have no intention of meeting someone.
I agree. Men have a different perspective, because well, they see things differently.
If I was looking for attention, I would get it. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/14/2012 9:47:45 PM |
I agree. Men have a different perspective, because well, they see things differently.
But this isn't a man vs woman issue... This is a socially competent vs social reject issue.
Approaches are going to happen. The people so strongly against this idea, haven't once answered: How do you think people met each other before websites like PoF existed? | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 7/15/2012 2:48:29 PM | Approaches are going to happen. The people so strongly against this idea, haven't once answered: How do you think people met each other before websites like PoF existed?
No shit, how do they think their parents met? Having an opinion is great. Having no logic to support it is ignorant. | |
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