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| | Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?Page 2 of 21 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21) | | How about replying: "thank you, my husband who was a navy seal & bench presses 300 lbs. likes the way I look too!" | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:10:54 AM | If a woman is at the gym in full make-up and hair, color-coordinated trendy workout clothes, sitting down doing bicep curls with her pink 1/2 lb. weights, she can be approached.
The ones actually working out with no make-up, sweaty dishevelled hair, wearing a baggy t-shirt and sweats aren't there to meet guys. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:16:37 AM |
I go to the gym to escape. I go alone for a reason. I run to forget my troubles, but I can't stand it when creeps stare
Here's a thought. If you need to go "escape" go somewhere where there are no people. Instant success. I fish to forget my troubles,and get away. To do that, I don't go to a pond with stocked fish located in the middle of the city. Really,,,,,, I don't.
Gyms????? Never been to one. At 51 I still haven't found the need. Of course I stay in shape without paying someone, and to "escape",well, again,see above. What's the problem with "running" outside????? Ya know, instead of running a revolving black belt inside 4 walls????? | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:24:18 AM |
"In fact, it’s widely agreed among well-traveled playboys that the US has among the most unapproachable and anti-social women in the world."
Well-traveled playboys... LOL Perhaps American women are cold to them due to the fact that they're.... PLAYBOYS? Just a wild guess really. By the way, kudos on turning a legitimate question from a woman into an advertisement for mail order brides. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:26:05 AM |
Msg. 4 --- Ironic that you didn't notice it's a woman from another country (not from the US) who is not wanting to be approached by strangers and didn't appreciate his creepy comments about her body
San Antonio, Texas isn't in the US? | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:28:15 AM | | Unfortunately, he's one of the many men that isn't clairvoyant. Some women are okay with being approached at the gym, some are not. Or rather, they're okay if a guy they think is cute/hot/etc approaches them at the gym. Just like any other public place, in line at the bank, at the grocery store, at the mall, whatever. His clairvoyance most likely failed him, so he had to use the old fall back of going up and asking. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:56:11 AM | Try an Ipod and a magazine - that way you won't see or hear them talking to you. Sure, some will try to interrupt anyway - feel free to educate them on music and reading.
If I'm on my way out, or at the counter grabbing a shake, or headed to or from the locker room - fine. Otherwise the point of the gym is to get a work out in. My motto is, if I can breathe enough to have a conversation with you - I'm obviously not doing what I went there to do and I need to step it up.
So at the gym, (and in life, really) socializing is for when everything else is done. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:00:06 AM | This is exactly why I dont go to the gym anymore.
I was not going there to expand my social network, I was going to work out. I still miss a few of the classes I was involved in, but the headaches of people using the gym for social reasons versus working out just gets to me more than I miss the classes.
I then tried a female only gym, and there was a whole other set of issues. Women wearing full makeup, strong perfumes etc...and then sweating. Talk about stench...and for what? To look good for other women? Seemed odd, catty and fake to me. Id get sideways glances for wearing my workout attire because it wasnt bought in some fancy super expensive shop....and I was not there to partake in the gossip that was always flying around. (usually about the pretty women who everyone was jealous of)
My home gym rocks and so does my azz! lol
To the folks saying she should just accept a compliment? You are not wrong, but context is everything. There is a time and place, and there should be some fore-thought being put into the where and when. When a person is working up a sweat, focussed on a task, leave them alone. Just because you find someone attractive doesnt mean they are obligated to stop what they are doing and fall all over you because you noticed them. There is a lot more to life than being told you are pretty. When it would happen to me, Id nod politely, say thanks and keep on truckin...only to be told the next time I went by someone in admin that I had hurt 'so & so's' feelings. What a load of bunk! What if I was married, or otherwise spoken for for chrissakes...it is the gym not a singles club!
I dont consider a gym 'a public place'...they are 'members only' for the most art, and if Im paying money to work out, destress etc... Im not gonna want to waste time chit chatting. Memberships are not cheap and people should respect the fact that not every member is there to meet new people. Some of us actually want to dedicate an hour of our time to working out, and then leave to go back to normal life and that is all.
On the other hand? I saw with my own eyes ladies that would complain about the attention, but arrived everyday in full makeup, hair styled, sexy attrire that was very fashionable and spend all thier time hanging around talking and visiting. They only minded the attention when it was coming from someone they didnt find 'hot'. So I can see why many men are confused at the gym.
I think a good rule of thumb is...if sweat is literally rolling off someone, leave them alone until you see them in cool down mode. No one wants to play the 'meet new people' game when sweat is rolling off thier skin profusely. Its fun to end up that way with someone...but not fun to meet new people in that state. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 6:12:43 AM | | I understand the responses that say do something else or workout at home. Thats BS. You shouldnt have to change your behavior because of some clowns. I would think ignoring them would work. I am at the gym 4 or 5 times a week. I have my routine. I do what I go there to do, talk to no one. Make eye contact with no one. I have been going to the same gym for over three years and see the same people. Eventhough I see them 4 or 5 times a week I do not even say hello. I am not there to socialize. I am there to workout and get the hell out of there. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:13:48 AM | I would try saying, "Thank You, but I'm here to work out and I'm not here to make new friends or find a new lover."
I have found that when speaking to men, you have to be extremely clear about what you expect and what you don't expect............even then, some of them just don't get it or choose to persist with their very rude and obnoxious behavior.
If he persists, speak to management about any further harassing behavior from one of their patrons and if it continues..................there are anti-stalking laws to deal with those obsessive, compulsive types. You have just as much right to make use of a gym facility and the gymnasium management may have to make a choice as to whose membership will be cancelled. If he is bothering you, then for certain............he is probably bothering other women who choose to work out at that facility. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 6:24:23 AM | Sounds like a dirtbag. There's plenty of them.. have you watched the news lately?
You should ignore him and walk away, or notify the gym staff that he's harassing you. Posting on POF certainly isn't going to resolve the situation.
When I go to the gym, obviously I'm not a lady, but people do still try to socialize with me sometimes. I consider it up there with the person next to me on the airplane talking to me. It's annoying, and unwelcome. That's why I always pick a machine with nobody else near it, and I always have my headphones on. I don't go to the gym for fun, I don't go because I enjoy running in place like a hamster. I already hate being there, and having some oddball try and converse with me while I'm there just makes it more uncomfortable.
Truth be told, I largely do most of my working out at home these days. The only time I really go to the gym is to use the treadmill or bike on rainy/snowy days. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:56:23 AM |
but I can't stand it when creeps stare
So what are you saying here? You don't like it when creeps stare, but it's OK if someone you might be interested in notices?
Reminds me of this time I went to a social and this woman approached me and soon began complaining about this man who was staring at her breasts. Her top was so low cut I wondered if her breasts were going to just fall out at any moment. The only way I could not see her breasts was to look up at the ceiling.
My response to her was "evidently, you're looking for attention, just not from that particular guy". I can't help but wonder if this analogy would apply to your situation too. If a guy that you were attracted to approached you at the gym and say he liked the way your body looked would you not welcome the compliment? Or would you think he was a creep too?
OP- The gym is just another place in the world that people go to. You almost have to expect some intereaction with other people. . It should never be inappropriate. So if someone is rude either ignore them or call them out on it. Just tell them their staring or comment makes you uncomfortable. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:59:19 AM |
This man told me today "I see you come here a lot, I like the way you workout, I like the way your body looks". I smiled and walked away.
Isn't there proper gym etiquette?
Yes, there is proper gym etiquette for men and the rule is........if you wouldn't say it to another man that you don't really know, then you shouldn't say it to a woman that you don't really know.
If a man said the above quote to another man.........he would be "creeped out" and might be tempted to punch his lights out. The OP choose to smile and walk away, which was very lady like of her or she could have kicked him in the groin, just to kick-start the brain in his head.
Some men just don't know which brain should do his thinking for him, LOL. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:23:39 AM | OK - I guarantee this will stop them from talking to you (though you'll get more stares):
1) Take one men's tube sock
2) roll up
3) insert in panties
4) proceed to work out with no conversation
Voilà!
Edit: Oops. I just realized this approach could compromise your ability to use the ladies' locker room. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:30:47 AM | I've heard some of my female clients and friends say the same thing.
My advise is to wear headphones and look really focused on what your doing. My female clients have mentioned that it really deters guys from starting a conversation with them.
A lot of guys won't bother you if they notice your really in the zone and if you know they are trying to approach you, just walk away and move to another piece of equipment, thats a pretty blunt single, that says "Leave Me Alone!" | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:36:05 AM |
Isn't there proper gym etiquette? I hate to be bothered there, now I feel uncomfortable going
Oh dear, come on, kid.
If you don't like it, there ARE women only gyms...
Fact of the matter if you'll meet jerks everywhere, even at the gym. Hell no, a LOT more at the gym. I was hit on by women too, back at the time when I worked out and physically looked like Chris Jericho lol. I usually replied with a grunt (I wouldnt interrupt my sets for them) that would get rid of them. I'm not there to shop around for meat, even though I'd been single for quite a while and could have humped a hole in the wall, I'm there to train. But some people view gym as a fad, a get together place, a social club. I used to get VERY mad when I
Go to an only girls gym club. And watch out for creepy lesbians, they're more subtle. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:51:19 AM | The women only gyms are far from where I live. Curves is lame...I like to run, not socialize. I dress like crap when I go, don't comb my hair, and if I have any makeup on its because I was too lazy to take it off from work.
I think I'll just grunt at anyone who speaks to me.
You cannot run outside in San Antonio, it's like 100+ degrees here, don't feel like having a heatstroke for the sake of fitness.
No, good looking guys can be creeps too. Im not interested in anyone. Period.
I like the tube sock idea, but it might fall out.
I thought I was good at acting like a b* wherever I go.
Seriously ..." I notice you come here alot " that's so weird. I don't notice anyone when I'm in the zone. I'm focused on calories and muscle.
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Posted: 6/27/2012 8:35:21 AM | | This is why I love my gym. The women are squatting, flipping tires, dragging sleds, climbing ropes, olympic lifting, power lifting while covered in chalk and bruises and working out along side the guys. There's none of that flirting BS going on -everyone goes there to work out hard and then they leave. There's no time for sitting around being a voyeuristic douchenozzle. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 8:43:13 AM | | OP, you're going to run into lecherous guys everywhere. My gym, the good old YMCA, has a sexual harassment policy and if someone was saying inappropriate things to me, I wouldn't hesitate to report them if they continued to harass me when I politely told them not to. No one should be commenting on the state of your body except your personal trainer if you have one. Generally if you have a magazine and earbuds, (even fake ones work) and don't make eye contact unless you ARE feeling sociable, other people leave you alone. Just ignore the creeps and get on with your business. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 8:49:43 AM | I went to Google Maps and typed in "women's gym san antonio tx" and got a lot of results. I hope that there is one close to you.
I also apologize for the lack of tact from my fellow men, but there are a lot of Neanderthals that go to gyms 8-). | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 8:50:40 AM |
Seriously ..." I notice you come here alot " that's so weird. I don't notice anyone when I'm in the zone. I'm focused on calories and muscle.
Some people do NOTHING but kiddo lol. I guess their social lives are empty enough that they feel the need to expand their shopping spots to the gym. I hardly think it's appropriate, but whatever. I don't make the rules.
I did make some friends there, but not by using some lame crap like "I like your body". Well DUH, I hardly think you'd have taken the time to come and talk to me if you thought I was an ugly lil gimp LOL. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 9:08:34 AM | | I think it's annoying when men come up to me at the gym.. I feel all ugly and sweaty anyway so I don't really feel like flirting.. usually they come up to me under the guise of wanting to give me "tips" on weight lifting, like they think they're professional weight lifters or something. They can't believe a girl would actually know how to lift weights (well) on her own. | |
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