I thought I was good at acting like a b* wherever I go.
Seriously ..." I notice you come here alot " that's so weird. I don't notice anyone when I'm in the zone. I'm focused on calories and muscle.

Seriously ..." I notice you come here alot " that's so weird. I don't notice anyone when I'm in the zone. I'm focused on calories and muscle.

I do believe you just implied she was asking for it, Petunia.

They are probably stuck in a 1980's mind set where for awhile, the gym was being touted as the new singles bar.

can see your point, Capn, but still, some people just don't want to be bugged at the gym, they just come on here to brag about their physical condition, hence the must get off the couch, be willing to sky dive and bench press 400 along with them.

Good to exercise well and eat low-cal high nutrition foods. Try adopting an indifferent but I'm OK - You're OK attitude instead of tryin to act like a b* wherever you go...

Like it or not there is a certain amount of attention seeking going on by women at the gym and when they are not getting the kind of attention they want then they complain - sometimes you have to take the good with the bad. Yes it is wrong for guys to make unwelcome advances but dressing sexy at the gym is going to attract some of that.

How about replying: "thank you, my husband who was a navy seal & bench presses 300 lbs. likes the way I look too!"

Trying to meet and approach young women in the US often feels awkward and rude, as if you are violating some type of boundary. They prefer not to acknowledge your existence if you’re not in their clique. They are among the most cliquish, closed, and anti-stranger women in the world, and emanate an “unapproachable force field” around them. This anti-stranger force field/bubble says to men, "Don't mess with me. I'm unapproachable. I don't talk to strangers. If I don't know you, you have no business talking to me unless you are lost and need directions.” (Unless of course, you are or look like Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt.). You can sense some kind of shield as if you are violating some type of boundary. If they find out that you are speaking to them for purposes other than asking directions, they suddenly get defensive, upset, and act as though you’ve violated their boundaries. Attempting to penetrate their bubble elicits a negative response which causes an energy drain on men that discourages them from trying again. That’s why most guys in the US don’t have the guts to approach women. It’s unnatural, creepish, anxiety-provoking, discouraging and usually leads to no real result. What many guys, especially the ones involved in the PUA (Pick Up Artist) movement don't understand about the fear of approaching women is that the reason they are afraid is not because they lack guts. It's because they can sense that the girls they want to meet do NOT want to be approached, so that to do so would be rude and violating. Not to say that there are no friendly women in America, but there is definitely something peculiar that makes them and Americans in general unnaturally closed and paranoid. So the main problem is that they won’t meet you if they don’t know you, but yet you can’t get to know them cause they won’t meet you, thus creating a CLOSED LOOP against someone who wants to meet them. And that just plain sucks, to put it simply.

In fact, it’s widely agreed among well-traveled playboys that the US has among the most unapproachable and anti-social women in the world.

What sucks about America, despite its many ideal qualities, is that the only truly friendly open women are the large ones, while the non-overweight ones are generally stuck-up and unapproachable (though in many areas, such as LA, even ugly girls are rude and uppity).

On the other hand, in the rest of the world, women feel flattered and react warm and sweetly when you approach them, whether they are interested or not, whether they are available or not. They don’t get offended or see it as creepish. Many often giggle or blush in the process (how many American women nowadays blush or giggle?). In fact, the difference in approachability is greater than the average American who’s never left their country can imagine. Even if you approach a female movie star, model, or married woman in Russia, she never gets offended or defensive at your initiation like American women do, so you never feel like you are a creep for the attempt. It’s a total refreshing contrast. That’s how “real women” are, and it’s truly feminine. Basically, a guy is allowed to be himself abroad, rather than suppress who he is. But most guys reading this wouldn’t know this difference until you’ve left the Puritanical “Matrix” of the US, otherwise you have nothing to compare to.

To try to put it into words, an approachable girl looks at ease, relaxed, open and friendly. It's in her face, body language and aura too. She makes eye contact with others, smiles back at people, and has an open body posture. An unapproachable girl, on the other hand, has a closed narrow vibe and look on her face. She is uptight, serious, focused, does not make eye contact with others, and has a "don't bother me" look on her face. When you try to muster the courage to talk to her, you will feel a cold chill and an alarm will go off in you that says, "DO NOT! NOT ALLOWED! INAPPROPRIATE!" It has nothing to do with guts or bravery at all.”

I quit going to gyms a long time ago. The traveling, other people’s sweat all over the equipment, ogling goons, germ infested showers….what’s good about it? I used the money I would have wasted on a gym membership for home equipment. Faster, easier, closer to my own shower, no creepy peepers. Wahlah!

OP maybe you should try wearing headphones? Most women who don't want to be bothered wear headphones(you don't even have to play music through them lol).

This man told me today "I see you come here a lot, I like the way you workout, I like the way your body looks

Women want it both ways.

They want to be in a void without human interaction at times, but at other times, they come onto places like POF to get attention and weed through the dozens of e-mails in search of Mr. Perfect and welcome bids by any potential Mr. Right. Two blocks away, at the local gym or store, they put up walls to keep the human race away.

When the hell are you men going to GET IT??..............a sexual predator is a SEXUAL PREDATOR and there is nothing gentlemanly about a sexual predator. Give me a break, please...........don't you blokes have mothers, sisters and young daughters that have to listen to your clap-trap crap!!!

However, if he approaches her again with more of the inappropriate comments.........I would highly recommend she knee punch him in the groin..............now that's being a biatch and it certainly would be some real biatching pain for him to contend with. I'm not sure that those type of men ever learn how to act gentlemanly towards women in a public place.