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and walk in front of a store and see THE single most gorgeous piece of strawberry pie you have EVER seen in your entire life. But you have no money in your pocket. Is that an excuse to break the window and absolutely eat the pie?
I don't get it Capn. Eating strawberry pie is like bothering women at the gym? ISo the pie has more calories and the bothering has less tastes. OK. I think I get it now. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 11:29:33 AM | After reading some of these threads...
It's not WW3, or a meteor that's going to cause the extinction of man... It's going to be the inability to find mates and reproduce.
Until the day that all women are walking around with signs on their back saying whether or not they're interested in being approached by a guy, guys are going to approach women out in the real world when they see them.
The conversation is over. There's no more to talk about.
This is life. If you have a problem with it, then avoid going to places where you don't want to have the risk of being approached. You can find places that are women only, but remember, lesbians DO exist.
I've never seen a group of people so detached from reality as this site. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 11:35:45 AM | wanderer1999:
Psychologically speaking, it's easier to maintain a fitness regimen when you are being continually charged for it vs a lump sum.
You look at the piece of equipment in your garage and go, "Maybe next week".
That is the complete opposite of me. I motivate myself and I don’t warehouse my workout equipment.
I know a woman with a lifetime membership or whatever it’s called to Weight Watchers….she has to actually pay them when she gains weight. No frickin way. I also don’t pay others to feed me (Jenny Craig) or help me lose weight or maintain or keep in shape.
Thanks for your perspective, I appreciate it. However…you neglected to address the icky man sweat.  | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 11:40:53 AM |
Thanks for your perspective, I appreciate it. However…you neglected to address the icky man sweat
One woman's icky man sweat is another woman's sweet perfume.
Some woman love it, some hate it, some don't care either way. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 11:59:51 AM | I've read plenty of threads where people will tell others that they can't rely on POF to find someone. They have to get out and meet people in real life.
So in the case with this thread, the OP was annoyed because someone approached her in a gym. Maybe his choice of words weren't the greatest and we don't know if he said that with the look of lust and undressing her with his eyes. It reminds me of the "You're Hot" thread that has gone on forever. He meant it as a compliment but didn't say it the right way.
So, trying to talk to some women in a gym is a not a good idea because they're concentrating on working out. Some threads have said that trying to talk to some women in a grocery store is not a good idea because they're in a hurry to get what they need and don't want to be bothered. There are threads that have said that trying to talk to someone in a bookstore is also not a good idea to some women because they're there to read and they feel if their head is buried in a book they shouldn't be approached. And even if you go to a bar to meet women, that might not be a good idea either because they are out for a "girls night out." No guys!
The point of my post is, we never know when or where we may meet someone, so it's good keep an open mind. Or what we may have to start doing is wearing something that will let people know when a good time would be to approach us. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 12:14:51 PM | The conversation is over. There's no more to talk about.
Dude, this is the second time on a thread you throw something like that around. Your words and opinions arent the only ones that matter...^
I've never seen a group of people so detached from reality as this site.
Did you actually read it before posting it? Are you really like, trying? Like, at all? 
After reading some of these threads...
It's not WW3, or a meteor that's going to cause the extinction of man... It's going to be the inability to find mates and reproduce.
I agree, but it's not reproduction that`s the problem. It's people communicating with each other. Like that dude who completely butchered my beautifull metaphore about pie. I'll have to explain it like to a 5 year old now...
I don't get it Capn. Eating strawberry pie is like bothering women at the gym? ISo the pie has more calories and the bothering has less tastes. OK. I think I get it now.
Alright.
JUST because it's cute. Just because it looks good. Just because you KNOW it tastes good (see how I associate women...and the PIE? Isnt that cool, huh?), just because you KNOW it'll be great....doesn't mean you should actually touch it. It doesn't mean your ALLOWED to touch it. It doesn't mean your GOOD enough for it, or that you deserve it in ANY way.
Better?
I can put it simpler too; if it hot, DOOOOONT touch! You get a boo-boo on your hand-hand.....
Which is something most men have failed to understand in the last oh, 4000 years. Most women as well. Well not really. They didn't have a problem, as a man simply had to threaten to slap her and she`d listen. That`s the way it worked until the 40`s. And if it would have happenned on the street...well pretty much anyone was okay with that.
But I actually, ACTUALLY let my brain do the talking, and don`t necessarily run like a madman hitting on everything with tits I think is cute JUST because I think it`s cute. If she smiles my way or winks my way, I know what she wants, as such I test my luck.
It`s not that hard. But apparently from what I see on here, for some people, it looks like it`s a freakin miracle....
There`s an association on the minds of men that anything that looks sexy has an open ticket to be shagged...well, sorry to say, that is NOT the case. Some women are just beautifull, ENJOY being beautifull, and expect not to get raped by a guy who can't control himself every street corner. It`s a continuation of this old "She deserved to be raped" subject on a lesser level, ALL over again. Getting redundant. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:03:26 PM |
If she smiles my way or winks my way, I know what she wants, as such I test my luck.
Well Capn America.......you do have a good sense of humor, I gotta give you that. But in this particular situation at the gym, an inappropriate comment was made by an ungentlemanly type male to a lady working out at the gym.
When that happened, she SMILED and walked away. So when a woman SMILES, she either thinks your an idiot or she thinks your kinda cute. My question would be.........do you really want to risk finding out what she really thinks.
Buwah ha ha haw!!! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:32:46 PM | | I dont go to the gym for some man to look at me ugggh. I go for myself. Im glad I have a gym at my apt complex and I have never seen a man in it at all funny how that works. Im there to work out not be bothered by some jackass | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:38:35 PM | roger33's first paragraph pretty much covers it.
American women are more harder to approach, but there are ways to crack their shell. It just requires a bit of ingenuity and charm. :P
Biggest mistake most guys make trying approach American women is trying to woo them with romantic, or complex lines. Keep it simple, and real. That's it.
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:53:57 PM | You guys just aren't getting it! The better looking you are, the more we DON'T want you approaching us when we're all sweaty and smelly and wearing ugly clothes! If we're meeting a guy, no matter how attractive he is, we want to be looking good, wearing make-up, hair done, clean and smelling good, wearing flattering clothes. We're freaking out more about the way we look, not that you aren't Chippendale's material. When we're having a workout, we kinda wanna just be invisible, pretend you don't really see us looking like that!
Think about what we are wearing and what we look like when we go out to a bar or a meet-up......do we look like that at the gym??? | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 2:54:27 PM | LOL, many "gyms" these days are virtual "meat markets" so why are you surprised at this ?
You have thin skin being "bothered" by this even though you stated you walked away from then gent who gave you a compliment.
Even if you were to join an exclusive gym or workout outside you'll still encounter being looked at and approached.
Dress is sweats or other cloths that don't highlight your body, keep your earbuds in, stay focused on your workout, don't maintain eye contact with "creepers" and ignore them when if they "hit" on you or...
...dont' go.
Personally, I'd take it positively and converse only when I felt like it.
Simple. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:12:00 PM | I think people today are way too sensitive. Men hit on women. Women hit on men. Get over it. If you feel sexually harassed because a man compliments your body, get some counciling or stay at home.
Most of the people I know who feel like the OP are the ones who complain about not being able to meet a decent mate.
Just saying. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:17:20 PM |
You guys just aren't getting it! The better looking you are, the more we DON'T want you approaching us when we're all sweaty and smelly and wearing ugly clothes! If we're meeting a guy, no matter how attractive he is, we want to be looking good, wearing make-up, hair done, clean and smelling good, wearing flattering clothes. We're freaking out more about the way we look, not that you aren't Chippendale's material. When we're having a workout, we kinda wanna just be invisible, pretend you don't really see us looking like that!
No Chymes. I think you're not getting it. We like you just the way you are. Why else did we approach you? The hair, make-up and nice perfumes is just a nice bonus. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:34:59 PM | | I would never bother anyone at the gym. Purely because when I am there, I do not wish to be disturbed. I am there to do what I have/want to do. I only talk after workouts but even then it is on my way to my car! Then again, I am from England. Maybe it is different here! | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:46:49 PM | Steve Harvey wrote a really stupid book entitled, "Act Like a Lady, But Think Like a Man."
Well somebody needs to write another really stupid book and call it, "Act Like a Gentleman, But Think Like a Woman."
But here's a little tip for men who want to act like gentlemen............most women enjoy a nice compliment about their bodies/physique from people that they have known for a while, especially if they trust that person's judgement and respect their opinion. In this case the compliment came from a complete stranger, which makes a woman feel uncomfortable, on guard or possibly even feeling threatened.........not knowing if the guy is a whacko, a rapist, a serial killer or just a guy with a poor choice of comments to open up the lines of communication to a woman he may be interested in as a potential date/girlfriend or lover.
Women think like this............Oh, he's giving me a nice compliment about my body, so what does he really want, probably and most likely sex. If you really want to strike up a conversation with a woman in a gym, try sticking with the theme of your surroundings like talking about your favorite exercise equipment in the gym or special diet requirements to boost energy levels. It's how a gentleman would approach the situation. I can't even tell you when the last time was that I actually met a gentleman, it's been that long. POF has it's fair share of idiots too, like the ones that ask you for sex asap and before you even meet in person for a freaking cup of coffee. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:51:53 PM | | The only guys that hit on a sweaty smelly woman working out at the gym have humps on their backs and one eye in the middle of their forehead winking at you. OTHER words the least sexy guy in the world. The guy who is there to work out doesnt have the time to chase women. Gym's stop being pick up spots in the 80's. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:52:04 PM | Go see if you can get one of those signs "Do Not Disturb" inexpensively and hang it on the piece of equipment you're working out on. No really!
I'd also talk to the gym management, I think they'd rather have a chance to address your discomfort and try to find a solution than lose your membership. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 3:59:52 PM | OP I thinkthat you are well within your rights to be bothered by the man approaching you, but you are asking why men in general think it is okay to do this. I don't think that all men, or most men, or a large minority of men ( get the idea) think it is okay. The occasional man (singular) thinks it's okay.
I also found it frustrating, and before we hear all the go elsewhere, outside at home, etc again. Why should we? I go to the gym not because I like but because I very badly broke my leg three years ago, had to have surgery on my knee 18 months later and the gym and pool are part of my rehab. And I am very focussed on the workout, hoping that some day someone will tell me I never have to go again! Sure I could go to the YWCA, but the YM has a better gym.
I also go to the gym near where I work so there are usually guys there that I know and they will talk to me, that actually makes it harder cause when the rare/occasional "jerk" approaches they have be known to be rude and point out that I talked to other guys. I just make of point of turning up my ipod in a manner that they can't miss and keep going. I must say that in over two years it has only happened a handfull of times and I certainly don't label "men" as jerks for the bahaviour of the a$$. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 4:47:49 PM |
If we're meeting a guy, no matter how attractive he is, we want to be looking good, wearing make-up, hair done, clean and smelling good, wearing flattering clothes. We're freaking out more about the way we look
Yet, some men do enjoy seeing a woman sooooo vunerable and natural. Somewhere along the lines "looking good" is starting take precedence over EVERYTHING. Not picking one ya Wind, cause you are saying exactley what people are thinking and believing. It just scares the shiat out of me that "looks" are what people believe ALL of us require. Yep, it does.
I want to see ya at your best. I want to see you at your worst. I want to see it ALL!!!!!
And keep wearing those tights girls. It leaves nothing to the imaginiation, even though I have a good one. Of course, ya "look good" when "working out". Lululemon. Why do we have that store again?????? Think about it. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 4:58:08 PM |
Gyms are rated the best place to pick up singles so why does she go?
CRAZY as this may sound but could it be I (and other women) go to the gym because that is where all the work out equipment is? I know crazy UH? | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 5:00:58 PM | Ah...get some hand weights and workout at home.
Yep the sports bra with the nips hard as diamonds and the thong leotard and they are there just to workout and not be bothered...wear a moo moo instead. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 5:02:53 PM | | There is no way in hell I would belong to a co-ed gym. Travelling and really needing exercise, I'll be in a hotel co-ed gym and its bat sh1t crazy to be sweaty, in shorts and such, in interesting body positions 3 ft from a strange man. | |
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