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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:06:04 PM | When I went to the gym, it was because if I went to that trouble I was GOING to work out. I have two exercise machines in my garage....when my daughter wanted me to buy a Total Gym, I told her okay but it's going to be a $200 coatrack. Sure 'nuff after a few days, noone was using it. It's great for those who WILL actually work out at home, for some of us, it takes the getting out of the house to do so. Plus there's much more variety of equipment at a professional gym.
I did have a similar situation, not THAT big a deal, but kinda creepy. It was the local Rec Complex, so I just talked to the guy who was in charge, there were a few guys that'd just be hanging out, standing around talking and staring......weren't even trying to pretend they were working out. I just ignored them, if they started to walk towards me, I'd turn and walk the other way. The staff kept an eye out for the "lurkers" and that was that.
I don't think anyone should have to work out at home because of a problem with being bothered by anyone else at a gym. That's just ridiculous. I guarantee if you talk to the people who run it and there IS a problem, they'll do all they can to find a way to solve it rather than lose yours and potentially other people's membership dues. | |
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largo2
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Msg: 103 | |
| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:08:30 PM | Well I look like crap when I am at the gym.
I'm not unfriendly, but not exactly chatty, and anyway, I'm not in the group someone is going to hit on there.
If someone commented on my body that would tell me he had serious boundary issues- that's never a welcome comment. It's one thing to get chatting and maybe suggest grabbing a coffee, that's different.
Women need to not worry about being polite- if someone crosses normal bounds it's their problem not yours. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:20:41 PM | | Why not try the local YMCA.With that gym you are getting your getting the average person and it isnt the meat market like the golds gym or other big name gyms out there.A women is going to get hit on no matter where she is. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:21:13 PM | It seems that for every thread started by a woman complaining about too many men approaching them, there is another one started by a woman complaining that men won't give her the time of day.
I would suggest that you consider yourself lucky to be in the category that gets noticed as opposed to the one that gets ignored. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:23:09 PM | | You can report him to the gym. The gym that I work out at does not allow men to make women feel uncomfortable. I actually told a man that he was making me feel uncomfortable and that if he didn't stop I was going to complain. He stopped and even told me he was sorry. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:36:23 PM | | "I would suggest that you consider yourself lucky to be in the category that gets noticed as opposed to the one that gets ignored." I get the gist of what you're trying to say, but you're talking extremes........lots of room in between. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:37:28 PM | Fortunately, I have my own exercise equipment at home and don't need to pay for monthly gym fees.......which can be extremely costly over 5 years. In your own home you can exercise wearing your thonged tights, lulu lemons or go completely nekked if you so desire and you can enjoy your workout without some sexual predator calculating his next move that might ruin your day.
Unfortunately those same sexual predator men raise their sons to be just like them.........so there are never a shortage of idiots to contend with. It would be a much better place on the planet if fathers would just teach their sons how to act like gentlemen, especially around women.
When I take my dog out for a walk............I dress like the local "bag lady" so me and my dog get a pretty good work out together without being bugged by the idiots in the dog park. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:38:35 PM |
Yet, some men do enjoy seeing a woman sooooo vunerable and natural. Somewhere along the lines "looking good" is starting take precedence over EVERYTHING. Not picking one ya Wind, cause you are saying exactley what people are thinking and believing. It just scares the shiat out of me that "looks" are what people believe ALL of us require. Yep, it does.
I hear ya, and agree.....but there also a difference in just running to the grocery store with no make-up on and being a sweaty, stinky mess at the gym, lol. Maybe it's all those pheromones we emit.....?
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 5:57:17 PM | I get the gist of what you're trying to say, but you're talking extremes........lots of room in between.
There are many extremes in life. Why should they be off limits for discussion?
I work out at two different facilities. In one, I work out with a bunch of cardiac patients. We talk and socialize while we're working out. It's a lot of fun and even high intensity workouts don't seem to be very strenuous. I look forward to going. I also work out at a gym owned by my employer. Everyone wears headphones, rarely does anyone speak. It seems like the workouts are drudgery and I can't wait for them to be over.
I would turn the OP's question around. Why do women think men should never say anything to them at the gym? | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 6:17:21 PM |
She goes to show off her T&A and prove men are "creeps". Whatever turns you on, babe. Gyms are rated the best place to pick up singles so why does she go? Meat markets. When sexy outfits aren't enough it's out with the moans and groans.
Ewe and yuck. I do not go dressed sexy. I don't go to get hit on, I go to get fit. I don't groan like I'm having an orgasm (weird). I avoid the "man part of the gym the weights" at all costs.
There are some machines there that put your in strange positions, I also avoid those. I've never been a fan of "open your legs as wide as you can while people stare at you".
I'm not going to go to all female gym, nor can I afford a personal trainer, and I wont workout at home.
So, some men (not all) go to the gym because it's a meat market. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:06:38 PM | I keep to myself and rarely acknowledge people at the gym, lol. There are a few people I see every time I go so we do our obligatory smiles, but that's it.
I've only been approached by one guy. I actually thought he was a trainer there. He came up to me after a workout one day and asked how my workout was. Then he said he'd always wanted to talk to me but I always looked like I didn't want to be bothered. I was like GOOD! LOL. He made some idle chit chat and it didn't really bother me because like I said I thought he worked there. Turns out he doesn't. He told my trainer he tried to hit on me and I turned him down, LOL. I was like, I thought he worked here?!?! Nope.
The thing that bothers me the most is the guys who lean over the balcony of the upper level and stare at us ladies on the ellipticals and tread mills. They literally just lean over and STARE! I am sure I give them dirty looks because I have a hard time not expressing how I feel with facial expressions. The other thing that's really gross are the guys in the pool area who are just separated by glass... they stand by the glass wall in their speedos and stare at us as well.
Whatever, I've gotten used to it. My fitness goals are very important to me so I won't let outside variables bug me. Plus like I said, I'm really good at giving off that "Leave me the f*ck alone" vibe :P | |
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tbicon
| | Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 114 | |
| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:07:07 PM | These boards are a hoot, Here we have a woman who of her own volition chooses to exercise in a gym where there are guys, and then she gets herself in a dander because some guy, although not very well, gave her a compliment Poor OP. Op you want some advice: (1) gain weight (2) dress like a slob (3) when you open your mouth, sound stupid (4) wear a hot suit so you sweat like a pig (5) pass gas while working out. I promise you the guys will leave you totally alone, but then you would be complaining about how shallow guys are because they are only interested in looks.
EVERYBODY KNOWS that gyms are full of young, hot blooded guys You don't want to meet them, stay the heck away. Nobody is putting a gun to your head making you work out in that gym. Its easy to turn a room in your home into a gym if you want, but apparently you would rather work out in the gym where you can be seen and then complain about it
I workout daily at home, not a gym because: (1) I'm married and thus there is no point in trying to meet good looking women at the gym (2) I save time avoiding commuting (3) I don't need inspiration from a group setting to work out (4) I have control of my environment (5) I have quality equipment and (6) I don't have to worry about some sweaty, smelly guy working out next to me. (7) I don't need to worry about some b**chy women taking offense at some innocent remark I might make
As somebody already mentioned, you should be happy guys stare at you. Many middle aged women become invisible to guys, and many middle aged women are subject to depression. Gee, I wonder if there might be a connection. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:13:07 PM |
I would turn the OP's question around. Why do women think men should never say anything to them at the gym?
Some of the men still don't get it...............let me see if I can explain this in the simplest terms as possible. It is not that women don't think men should ever say anything to them at the gym. It is their sexually harassing comments, stares and gestures.
For example, if another man came up to another man in the gym and said.......I like your body or I like your plump round buttocks or your curves, you would most likely want to punch his lights out if you are a heterosexual man. If another man was oggling at another man in a sexual way........you would most likely want to punch his lights out.
If you wouldn't say it to another man, what makes men think it's o.k. to say stuff like that to a woman and what makes men think women should have to put up with that kind of behavior from men at a public gym.
If yah can't get the gist of what the OP is trying to say...............give me the address of your gym and I will send my GAY male friend over to give you a little lesson in humiliation and proper etiquette. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:13:38 PM | | Ok,one question to the ladies.Where the puck are you guys working out.I have went to golds gym and to the ymca and never ever seen guys stare at the ladies.Every place i have been both men and women are to t doesnt,t busy working out.May try an all womens gym like goodlife. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:17:44 PM | | I don't think this is a major problem. Most people ( men and women ) I see at the gym are focused on their workout and their Ipod. Sure once in a while, there will be a creepy man at the gym who makes questionable to outright rude comments. But that can happen anywhere. And when it does happen, report him to management. | |
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tbicon
| | Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 118 | |
| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:23:20 PM |
Some of the men still don't get it...............let me see if I can explain this in the simplest terms as possible. It is not that women don't think men should ever say anything to them at the gym. It is their sexually harassing comments, stares and gestures
So men should not be men? Lets see, they can't compliment women, they can't look at women, they can't make gestures. I.e. They can't be human, they can't be men. They need to be eunichs.
I have a better suggestion, if you are that sensitive, stay away from places where the guys are. THIS IS A GYM, not the OFFICE.
Women are just entirely screwed up at times | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:29:36 PM |
If this is how you feel then go to a ladies only gym or work out at home or take up something solo for exercise like hiking, running, paddling, or bicycling ... problem solved.
Why should SHE have to change her routine because SOME men can't control themselves?
OP, it isn't just the gym. I teach online and sometimes, I need to leave my house. I take my laptop and go to McD's or Starbucks. Men consistently try to engage me in conversation even when I say, "I AM working."
I guess that I should go to an all women's restaurant or coffee shop.
Gyms are rated the best place to pick up singles so why does she go?
What an utterly sexist and absurd thing to say. Barnes and Noble is also touted as a great place to pick up people, so I guess we should stop reading, too. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:31:45 PM | For example, if another man came up to another man in the gym and said.......I like your body or I like your plump round buttocks or your curves, you would most likely want to punch his lights out if you are a heterosexual man. If another man was oggling at another man in a sexual way........you would most likely want to punch his lights out.
If you wouldn't say it to another man, what makes men think it's o.k. to say stuff like that to a woman and what makes men think women should have to put up with that kind of behavior from men at a public gym.
Some women don't get it, either. Sometimes, a guy is just striking up conversation. There's no need to be snotty if you don't want to talk. Every look and every attempt at conversing is not sexual harassment.
If a woman paid a compliment to a man, do you think he'd roll his eyes and stomp away mad?
When someone says something rude to you, address it with that individual. Don't turn it into a rant against half the human race.
If yah can't get the gist of what the OP is trying to say...............give me the address of your gym and I will send my GAY male friend over to give you a little lesson in humiliation and proper etiquette.
Since you like to think in terms of asinine hypothetical situations, I'm sure he'd tell you to F-off and fight your own battles.
(By the way, he'd have to be an employee and a member of the fitness center to gain entry. A deliberate attempt at being obnoxious to someone in a management position would be a bad career move.)
This is another gender bashing thread that will probably be deleted soon... | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:36:54 PM | If my boobs are hanging out and I have on skin tight pants, I'm at the weights, I'm smiling and looking your way, and my face and hair look like their ready for the club; then you may approach. Otherwise, it's not cool.
There are girls that hangout at the free weight that look like that, they want attention.
I think passing gas during my workout is a great idea. | |
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tbicon
| | Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 122 | |
| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:38:51 PM |
What an utterly sexist and absurd thing to say. Barnes and Noble is also touted as a great place to pick up people, so I guess we should stop reading, too.
This is a hard one Lets see, we can read at home where we can guarantee nobody will bother us, or we can read at a bookstore because we like being around other people. Tough decision here.
^^^^^^^^^ I have a better solution than passing gas sweetheart. JUST STAY HOME. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:50:42 PM | Barnes and Noble usually encourages people to stay there, not just to read books, but to interact with other people. Technology has forced these bookstores to evolve their business model so it IS a meeting place.
Gyms are no different, because ultimately they are competing for the attention of people as well in a technology driven world now. But I do concede that working out at a gym has become more of a private ritual while a book store leans more with interacting with others now. It is quite interesting how these two meeting places have changed dramatically. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 7:59:59 PM | | I rarely approach women at the gym. Unless I already know them from somewhere else. Having said that, when a woman is out somewhere, there is a chance that she will be approached. At a bar, bookstore, a local park, gym etc. If a woman doesn't want to talk to a man at a gym, politely say "I want to get back to my workout" or if a woman is at the end of her workout she could say "I need to get going". If a man keeps bothering a woman after that, then report him to the gym staff. | |
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| Why do men think it is okay to bother ladies at the gym?
Posted: 6/27/2012 8:08:08 PM | | Yeah at that point that is pretty much near sexual harassment territory or clearly there. But it seems younger women are unable to communicate their thoughts to another man even in a very public place. Many younger women don't have the skills to communicate with strangers out in public which makes them very unapproachable. This in turn causes younger men not having the skills to interact with women out in public, so the vicious cycle continues so it seems! | |
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