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No i dont want FaceBook i wont be getting it
I am SO with you!!! I don't have one and don't want one. I have a "fan" page for a client that I monitor and use for small-business marketing for her, and that's all I can take. I have NO interest in my life being twitted/fb'd. Those who know me, know what's going on in my life and that's good with me. I did have to giggle earlier when a man I have a future date with said he'd "stalked" me and couldn't find me on fb. He was so shocked that I don't participate. And? That is one reason I don't participate. If I want him to know what my family/friends are about, he'll learn that stuff in time. I see no reason to plaster my life anywhere but here in forums. And even this? I keep most of my inner-workings out of print! JMO  | |
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Posted: 6/27/2012 10:39:11 PM | | Ha! Facebook is what you make of it. I don't request the neighbors, friends or relatives that live close by because that defeats the purpose. Remember the Movie it was made for rating dating. Ha! but it is my avenue for finding old friends, reconnecting with others that have moved away, and most of all conversing about their lives. I often post events happening at the old home place/town or the newest development of family get together. But as for personal info or seeking out dates not for me. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 7:31:38 AM | | because part of the routine for a lot of men in our age group to use pof to beef up their friends list. that, and they want to check out more pics. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2012 12:48:52 PM | | IMO it's a personality and character destroyer. FB encourages narcissism, instant gratification and who knows what else. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 11:26:05 PM | | I find excessive Facebooking to be a turn-off. I guess in moderation it would be fine, but I know some that rush to FB for approval/validation for everything. They update pictures instantly with phones and their statuses, etc. A few have told me about all the guys that they have barely met from work or a friend's get-together and start messaging them for sex. Some were 'friending' exes they hadn't heard from in years and getting propositions almost immediately. It was e-drama with a big audience. No thanks. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 12:16:11 AM | OP I just simply refuse to communicate offsite with people I've met here.
The email feature here works just fine. There is absolutely no need to go offsite for me. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 8:45:15 AM | As with anything and everyting, it is only as important as you choose for it to be.
I lived on FB at one point (4001 FB, Any State, USA, 55555) :) I got out of that stage and now have to remind myself to check it for updates from close friends/family, esp. pics. People with younger kids and dogs use it a lot, I've noticed, not so much the crowd whose kids are older but there are no grandkids yet :)
I know that younger folks see it as a way to meet new people, and I really cannot imagine using it that way, but hey, whatever works for ya.
People blame FB for breaking up marriages--uh, no, a marriage cannot be destroyed by anything but the choices of the two partners.
So, if you don't like FB, or twitter, or whatever, don't use it. If it starts to have some appeal, do. No one will care; it's your choice! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 8:59:21 AM | | They want to see your real life friends and pics and who you really are and Facebook is a better gage of that. If you want to keep your privacy, then do not use Facebook. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 6:06:24 PM | | i stay away from facebook because i seen it break up relationships,been used against people in a court of law,and i also seen people lose careers based on things they have done outside the job.i know it got really bad when i started seeing job applications asking for facebook and twitter addresses.wheni seen a documentary on facebook and someone said "it took the guy from facebook less time what the cia been trying to do for years"that alone just tells me the goverment is involved in facebook and the less they know about me the better. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 7:29:26 AM |
I don't have a TV--now that's much weirder than not having FB, eh?
Or having a tv for dvds but not having cable (that would be me) is thought to be weird as well. Many people actually think that sitting at a computer writing etc is such a waste of time but watching tv isn't.
When I was asked years ago why I'm not on FB, I replied because I have no friends. The look on the other persons face--PRICELESS. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 10:51:46 PM | sometimes people will ask for a FB account for simply to see if someone is exactly who they say they are, and not some two-bit troll trying to send somebody off on a fake date. I'm pretty sure it's alot more common on FREE sites like POF, "BECAUSE YOU CAN MESS WITH SOME LONELY,DESPERATE LOSER AND PAY NOTHING" just to put it bluntly in a troller's terms(roughly).
For that very same reason, I'm very careful about who I give my info to. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 11:39:41 PM | | Anyone whose ever had to deal w/ media rifraff can think of many good reasons NOT to have facebook (or twitter, for that matter). | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 1:31:28 AM | Swapping Facebook accounts is how some people get a sense of who you are.
It can potentially open up a multitude of new photos, and also show how you interact with your friends.
Then there is that added element of security, they can check you are who you say you are. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 2:03:11 PM | | I'm on FB every day. As a retired person it's a good and easy way to keep in touch with people I used to work with, friends who have moved away, a few family members. But I would never ever allow a person I didn't really know to be my friend there. Last summer I learned that is it also quite foolish to be a man's friend if you want to date him. I'd been warned of that and therefore didn't approve such people when they first asked. If you have a good filter on your brain, it might work. But I like to be able to say stupid things on FB at midnight (perhaps delete them in the light of day). I want to be able to say if I'm feeling sad and lonely or if I just danced with someone new and exciting at a dance. It is very bad to allow men you'd like to date to read those things. And yes, you can block individual people from being able to read what you say but that takes effort. So even if you ever change your mind and want to join FB to use with your actual friends, I'd suggest continuing to tell strangers you don't have an account. Better to have them think you are weird than to tell them, as I often do, yes I have one and no I won't be your friend! | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 4:27:36 PM | | It doesn't matter to me. I just have one for my online photography portfolio. I don't ask people if they have one either. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 5:40:25 PM | | I lived before it existed, and I will continue to after it has been replaced with the next big thing. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 6:20:26 AM |
IMO it's a personality and character destroyer. FB encourages narcissism, instant gratification and who knows what else.
Sounds a lot like the POF forums to me as well. Interesting is Facebook has over 800 million users and all the people who are not on Facebook are here. Amazing. I have Facebook to keep in touch with the very few friends I have and to play Wordscraper, but I don't post my life there or here on POF.
And remember: being popular on Facebook is like sitting at the cool table in a cafeteria at a mental hospital. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 7:02:42 AM | Lik any tool... It is how you choose to use it.
Once I learned about all of the settings and controls, I was good with it. People can only see what you choose to allow them to see. I still dont add people I have never met and cant see that changing in future. It is for me, a space to share with people I cannot physically be with due to logistics...but it is for people I know that I want to share with. No one can search for me and see anything other than my thumbnail and name. And I usually dont have my own face on my profile pic, so finding me by searching for my face wont work 99% of the time. I tend to post profile pics of my pets and what Im currently growing in one of my gardens.
I dont care if someone I meet is not on fb, nor do I care if they are on it. I dont even think of fb when Im not logged into the site. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 7:20:25 AM | | i havent got face book for simple reason it full boring innane peeps trying appear intresting, i just had coffee,omg have you read 50shades of shite yet?.plus its death knell for relationships more and more divorces lawyers saying (naming cases involving fb). peeps put two much info on there fueds erupt /peeps you dont want find you like burgulars stalkers ect. but then again im not a sheep,live in real world talk to real peeps every day.this i just use for the forums,comment on | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 8:19:52 AM | I use facebook. I have to. I have 8 sisters and 1 brother and my mother, scattered across 3 countries and 4 states. Facebook is the only way they use to stay in contact, share photos, etc.
If I don't post something there for a few days, I start to get pestered with repeat phone calls to "make sure I am ok" so it's just easier to throw up something once every couple days. I'm not exactly close to my family and I don't want them calling me 5 times a day just to make sure I am still breathing.
Facebook is what you make of it, just like any other tool. For me it's a way to occasionally express something and to keep my extended family at bay while they post their pics and funny quotes and anecdotes all day long for each other. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 4:57:32 PM | I have facebook, I use it to contact my friends and family
My gf does not, she has no interest in it
I don't think it is weird that you don't use it. Heck, if I could turn back time, I would have never signed up either, it is kinda pointless and is a big time waster. Plus they collect all of your personal info to sell to people (this site does that too) | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 7:22:58 PM | I have had a lot of trouble with bullies in my town and in the workplace, what got me was how all the victims just laid out the welcome mat, when the number of bullies was quite small compared to their victims. I always stood up for myself and others, and that only seemed to increase the size of my target.
When I got dragged on to facebook to communicate with family and promote my work, I slowly began discovering the bullies read my posts, as did victims, as did our mutual employers who spied. I began using it as a tool to solve workplace issues, and deal with bully harassment. It worked beautifully. You do have to avoid names and making illegal or sue worthy accusations, but problems that weren't resolved or exposed through normal channels are no longer problems for me and some very specific, long term, pit bull stubborn bullies who lived for the fight, are now very, very quiet. They are angrier, but their victims are no longer alone and isolated or used to victimize others. It has been a great victory.
I have also found many family members that I never knew I had, and the younger ones who never had a part in their great grandparent's schizm, are come together through me and another cousin. I have been able to apologize to some people that I have wronged, reconnect with people I lost, keep connected to those who have moved away, make new local friends in spite of my isolating work schedule, and three people who have wronged me have come forward. When my sons and daughter and former foster kids have great pictures to share, I get to share with pride, and I love it when proud parents in my list share their children's and grand children's triumph. Kids I taught in many youth programs are on my facebook and proudly share their lives with me and still come to me for advice or encouragement. When my friends travel, they post photos, and because several are professional photographers, these are can't miss photos. We come together in pain, and support, and I have seen change happen for the better just because some cause went viral on a local scale.
I am a part of several community service pages, I get local alerts though facebook, and in a town with no theager or other spoon fed entertainment, I always know what is going on. I am able to push a cause I believe in, and help those I love with small businesses gain new clients. I have connected with other artists and writers to my edification and joy and professional improvement. I have found those who would help me improve my skills on the job with information and advice. I find information and special deals on products I actually use in my very light on material goods life. And I love the animal photos. I have not gotten into any games.
The only other social website I have joined is pinterest because I have bought a fixer upper house and it has been a great tool for finding and developing my picture of what I want. I also collect tips and recipes, and share what really interests me...and it is funny to see I am not so weird after all, given the number of followers who like what I like. I love, especially, gathering pins for artistic inspiration. I just want to get to work after browsing them.
Finally, facebook is healing the separation of sisters. We are half sisters mostly, with difficulty ommunicating with each other. My whole sister is obviously alcoholic with a big heart and a lot of pain, but I could not excuse or accept her abuse anymore. Through aunts as half sisters to each other and our half sister and her half sister, silly and profound facebook posts are improving things among the aunts and the other sisters. I have not ac epted my sister's friend request, nor given her my new number, I need reason for confidence before being vulnerable to her, but through facebook relationships, she knows I love her, and she, me.
Now I have seen all kinds of crazy on facebook, but to my friends who post endless angst about men, or photos with captions, or games, it suits them at this time in their lives, and I have no quarrel, I just filter or skim, and offer advice or consoling or just sympathy or congratulations as needed. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 7:53:46 PM | | I don't have FB because I see no use for it. If you think that's bad, a good friend of mine and his wife don't own a computer, never used one and have no interest in getting a computer and learning how to use it. If they want to connect with people, they use their land line phone and have an answering machine to record messages. They have no problem connecting with people this way. They have connected with people from the past via school reunions, running into them and recognizing them when out and about, and so on. They never wonder about all of the people who were in their grade 1 class. They are functioning just fine and are very happy with their lives. If they were to get a computer, their lives would be turned upside down with all of the garbage that people would insist is necessary for life on earth like Facebook and all of the other mindless crap people are addicted to on computers. | |
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