| | 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.Page 3 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | Its just I'm a completely honest person and I can't understand why people would lie about how they look
OP you lie about how you look. You're not athletic.
Also, get rid of the dead animal picture. That will be a turn off to most women.
Agreed. I wouldn't be proud that I killed a helpless creature for sport.
I recently came up with a framework for messaging women that has been getting me about a 1 in 2 or 1 in 3 response rate over the last couple weeks so that's better.
Msg. 29 What is your framework? Care to share? Being handsome probably has a lot to do with it. :P | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/4/2012 7:53:14 AM | | got 3 options 1) have sex change(you get a rammed inbox wink wink lol . or 2) tell them you got loads money flash car looking for someone to treat(you get loads replys) but from wrong women!.3) get inked up roided up,treat women like crap/they expect lmao.women seem to like nice guys older they get, sometimes to late!!! | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/4/2012 11:06:08 AM | | Fall-blossom.. I'm not on here to talk s*** but when you can still dunk a basketball at 32 and only 6 foot tall I'd say I have some bit of athleticism left in this old body. That and the fact I'm a H.S. PE teacher would leave most to believe I do a fair share of running around. Also, I would rather a woman get turned off on here as opposed to me getting their pants half off in the car, then lose them when they get to my living as the deer is on the wall.. along with a fox, pheasant and 3 fish. All were eaten as well. I hunt for food and if I happen to kill something worth hanging on my wall, that's where it goes. Other wise it will only see my grill. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/4/2012 1:16:14 PM | I will tell you right now that the photo with you and your daughter, though precious, do not belong in a profile on a dating site that is frequented by sex offenders. People don't like seeing this, in general, because it demonstrates your ignorance about the danger you invite to your family when post such photos. The photo in which you shot a defenseless animals makes you appear an animal - so dump that, too.
You also need to add substance to your profile - make it interesting. I don't want to hear what a super hero you think you are. I want to know that you care, that you have depth, and that you are intelligent.
OTOH, your preferences will limit who contacts you, but it also demonstrates that you're serious about a relationship. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/4/2012 1:24:03 PM |
Also, I would rather a woman get turned off on here as opposed to me getting their pants half off in the car, then lose them when they get to my living as the deer is on the wall
I guess with that prospect, I'm also grateful to those women for passing you by.
And, as far as this crap that you shoot for food, lest you're somewhere that doesn't have grocers or butcher shops with kill already ready for or this isn't your living, your shooting is because you enjoy the thrill of chasing and murdering of defenseless animals. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/4/2012 2:28:42 PM | | Girls like you make me laugh. If I were a super hero I wouldn't be on here. I just made my profile (and pics) the way I did so someone would know what they are getting. It does weed out some. That's the point. Hence I'm clearly not trying to get the attention of tree hugging, liberal women. The profile is geared towards the type of girls I am attracted to. Makes sense to me. The pants off in the car thing was a joke. No surprise you didn't get it. "sense of humor" is on some peoples profiles, but not all. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/5/2012 8:11:30 AM |
Fall-blossom.. I'm not on here to talk s*** but when you can still dunk a basketball at 32 and only 6 foot tall I'd say I have some bit of athleticism left in this old body.
We're talking 'body type' not 'body capabilities'. There is a difference and from what I can see you're carrying a few extra pounds which a lot of people these days deem as 'average body type'. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/5/2012 9:54:29 AM | I will be 100% honest with you. I will read a persons profile before I read the message that they sent me. I will even read it before I pay close attention to their picture. A woman might have quite a few things in common with you and might even think that you are good looking. But if your profile isn't worded right and you come off to**** or that you seem like there is attitude there then 95% of the time your looks and what you might have in common doesnt mean a thing.
You can take the most beautiful woman or good looking guy and all they have to do is open their mouth and they become the ugliest person you could ever meet. So try to keep your head up and try wording your profile info so that it becomes more appealing but still sticks to your personality. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/7/2012 7:12:48 AM | Ive read this thread, Im only 29 But it looks to me your getting alot of good advice on what to do differently, But You are just defending what you are saying in your profile, Nowhere in any of your replies have you said "hey thats a good idea, Maybe Ill give that a try" You seem dead set in your ways and not willing to change Because you think Your in the right, Well women pick up on this very well, and it leads them back to thinking of you as a father figure. Think they want to date a father figure? I think not!
Relationships are a 2 way street, they require lot of give and take, and not always doing what YOU want. I think You need to seriously think about is the way your rubbing off on people really what you want people to think of you?
I didnt look at your profile as I dont have any care to do so, But based on your responces, you seem to be a all your way and think your always right! Relationships arnt always about whos right. But then thats probably why your single and having troubles even getting a reply! Maybe listen to the nice people giving you all this advice, and not bash them for it!
Im an alright looking guy with decent goals and a career, and I dont have any problem getting replys or even dates , SO I think your just doin it wrong! lol... take the advice people are sending you, or just accept that you may just stay single... Your choice. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/9/2012 12:33:52 PM | Hahaha....
The comments on here are SOOOOO funny... So many mean people too, damn!! Giving opinions and no solid answers...
Man...., I meet quite a few women on this site and I ask EVERY single one of them their opinion on the guys they've met from the site before and what happened and what turned them off.... EVERY single one of them gave a different answer(so what does that tell you?) Most women, emphasis on "most", don't REALLY know what they want, atleast this is what I find.... Many "think" they know what they want.... Unfortunately with online dating it's your pic that get's a look at first and you can't really demonstrate too much personality on pics, so we need to make the best with what we got...
So what do we have? Pics and a few lines, with such a little and you STILL wanna be honest? You need to be selling yourself and the best salesmen in the world are definitely NOT honest.... Twisting the truth a bit(to an extent that you won't get caught) will not hurt anyone on this profile(you don't even know these people yet). When you do develop feelings AFTER meeting them, then you can come clean ;) This site is a means to an end... I hardly exchange 4 emails(in one maybe two days) on this site without arranging a date or eliminating time wasters.....
Now for advice on your profile and what I did to improve my profile after not getting any responses because it looked like yours :)
Laid back = Lazy
Don't brag about what you have, every other guy's doing this, don't be predictable(like every other guy) , sounds too desperate.....Use some tact to convey the same message.
Not overly picky.....Again desperate and you'll take anything you can get, be assertive or at least pretend that you know what you want and BE picky, no woman wants to be second best....
Don't message me if.... Here you went from desperate to arrogant, not a good combo...
Hobbies, this is good but be more descriptive, women love stories and the more personal the story the more emotion behind it and women love emotion :) Oh please take hunting out, you can tell her that on the 3rd date :)
Write this profile without any spelling and grammatical errors, most women that I've met on here pointed this out and were very certain about this....
With 2 jobs and a daughter, how do you make time??? REMOVE THIS!!!!!
Again, don't give away ALL your power, they DO NOT need to know this, remember these are strangers and you don't owe them anything....save this personal stuff... This is as bad as telling a woman you love her into the first 30mins of a date and crying while telling her....This WILL make you look weak....
"Use what works, throw away what doesn't"
"If you always do, what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always gotten, yet there's always more...."
My profile IS NOT my words, I stole the whole thing and made it my own but it's on my profile, so now it's mine because nobody knows that until now :) Feel free to steal mine too, as a test, we are on opposite sides of the world anyway so you can't steal my chicks haha.....
Your pics, just the one with you and your girl and then one with you at the game, your main one is too "in your face" the next one is just weird, only insecure chicks take pics of themselves like that LOL... The lobster, OH HELL NO!!! The dead animal, guys would think it's cool but I don't think you're trying to pic a guy up :D
Good Luck! | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/9/2012 4:07:18 PM | | I did not read your profile but your tone on page 1 would discourage many from dealing with you. People don't want to be around someone with bad vibes or telling them how it is about honesty. You seem a little bitter. I suggest you take some time away from the site,, engage in hobbies, and don't even think about dating for a solid month. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/10/2012 10:56:33 PM | I just put up a few newer and better pictures (finally had someone handy to take some of me as I am usually the guy behind the camera). And dammed if I haven't received a whole pile of messages since adding them this morning.
That emphasizes the fact that this is a marketing exercise. Your pictures will initially get some interest and are important. Then what you write in your profile is also important, much more so for ladies. Several of the messages I received today said how they noticed my pictures and then really liked what I had written in my profile.
So take that as you will but I think it shows that what you have in your profile makes a big difference as to whether you have success at meeting people here or only hear the chirping of crickets. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/12/2012 10:15:39 AM | MSG #66:
Now for advice on your profile and what I did to improve my profile after not getting any responses because it looked like yours :)
Laid back = Lazy
I looked at your profile and found the following that includes you're looking for a woman who is "laid back". Above you state that "laid back = lazy":
If you're a "typical" time waster, don't waste your time, I'm far too good for you. As for the type of girl? Looks wise slim/athletic, attractive, smart, laid back, funny, goofy ambitious | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/15/2012 8:32:12 PM | You may be too blunt brother man. Women don't dig getting a resume handed to them no matter how honest it is. I have that all honesty deal for me too but what I found was about what you did.
When I read a bio and the woman is talking about cutting the tickle me Elmo's off her ex or how her kids are number one and any man that blah blah blah... I'm done. See, it's UNDERSTOOD that the kids come first. Anyone that has to say it has probably had a bad experience and is trying to run off bad men but it backfires.
Maybe you have too much upfront and it ends up being negative like the above? | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/15/2012 11:33:05 PM | | OP, your experience is par for the course for 99% of men. Dating sites consist of 60% men and 40% woman. The odds arent stacked in your favor. Any descent looking lady will get more messages than she can handle. I have found that only unattractive or overweight woman will ever reply or message me. Most guys(not all, but most) will agree that the average to attractive ladies usually will not respond . Unless you are extremely good looking, like top 10% , internet dating in America is mostly a waste of time for men. Too much competition. Just peruse POF forum posts. Posts by guys complaining about no luck on here are dime a dozen. You will have far better luck if you are willing to expand your herizons to try to date foreign ladies. While Ive had zero luck with "plenty of fat" over the years, Ive had pretty good luck with latin american dating sites and other foreign oriented sites that have foreign lady profils of women who are now in the US. Less competition from other dudes, and the quality of women (emotionally and psychologically speaking) is far better anyways as these ladies are foreign born and raised. Certainly much more ladies who are ht/wt proportionate and good looking girls who haven't yet developed a big ego over their good looks. Guys need to think smart. Go where the supply /demand is more in your favor. FOr guys who are looking for marriage, you definitely need to consider meeting girls abroad (latin america, Europe, Asia etc) You will be the one doing the choosing instead of vice versa. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/16/2012 1:55:41 PM | | So why are you whining about being on this site for over a year with no luck? your pics suck especially the one posing with a dead animal and if you think most women like that youre fking nuts, maybe you should try a redneck dating site, most women on here wont take a animal killer seriously , I definitely dont. | |
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| 32 yr old male. Been on site over a year with no luck. Need a little help.
Posted: 7/18/2012 9:29:22 AM | You shouldn't have to change your profile to impress anyone, The fact that you are honest is a good thing. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Don't be disheartened, you will find that person that is right for you. I would much rather have a guy be honest then to hide his information from me. Although sometimes when people say they have no drama, you can get a drunken whining phone call in the middle of the night where they complain about their child's mother or the like.
Basically what I am trying to say is that you should always be yourself and be honest.
Good Luck on here.
Jenna | |
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Oh well, at least I am ending up with a few interesting penpals around the world!
But basically I have a funny opening line (or a different funny one that I use if I saw that they checked out my profile) and then have a couple lines that make observations about some of the typical messages people send and receive here. I then have a fun sort of make believe/role playing exercise I ask her to engage in to find out a little about each other.
