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| Dating--- Seems like in the end somebody is bound to end up hurt
Posted: 6/30/2012 1:00:28 PM | | What's so hard? You tell them that you've decided that nice as they are, they're not the ideal match you've hoped for. You don't have to tell them anything more, and it's certainly not necessary to say you've met someone you like better. All that matters is that they are not your choice. | |
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| Dating--- Seems like in the end somebody is bound to end up hurt
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:19:55 AM | | Thanks for all of the advice. I told him that I don't think he and I are a match. I decided not to tell him about the person I have decided to be with. It feels good to have finally told him, but I also felt bad because I could tell that he was alittle hurt by it. I'm sure he will be just fine though. | |
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| Dating--- Seems like in the end somebody is bound to end up hurt
Posted: 7/5/2012 12:31:45 PM | i assume we are all adults - so hopefully the other person will understand. In that case, I am sure they would appreciate you being up front with them.
I guess initial dating shouldn't be seen as a commitment (like, just because I go on one or two dates with you, doesnt mean we are going to have kids). It really is a trial to see if it's worth exploring. Sounds like for the other person, they deserve your honesty. | |
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| Dating--- Seems like in the end somebody is bound to end up hurt
Posted: 7/6/2012 8:48:53 PM | Well, that goes with the territory if you are a serial dater. In the future though you should be upfront with men before you date them if you are playing the field. Many of us see serial dating as disrespectful, downright nasty. Here is the thing, if you are keeping your options open you aren't going to spend any serious effort at getting to know someone much less open up to them. Dating is like peeling an onion, you aren't going to like your layers being peeled back and opening up unless the other person is focusing on you alone.
That is "dating", meaning spending time and money, developing intimacy (not necessarily sex), getting to know each other and seeing if lives and families will mesh. If all you are doing is your version of speed dating then you need to adjust your picker and date quality not quanity. That shows self respect and a person that has self respect will respect others. | |
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| Dating--- Seems like in the end somebody is bound to end up hurt
Posted: 7/6/2012 10:01:52 PM | Amazed at some of the responses. What's wrong with dating more than one person at a time?
If there was, there'd never be any need for 'the talk' about exclusivity. I thought committing to exclusivity actually meant something.. But how can that be if the assumption is you're "exclusive" with someone from the time you first meet for coffee. In my mind , the opposite assumption is true: you are NOT exclusive until there has been a specific discussion to the contrary. | |
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| Dating--- Seems like in the end somebody is bound to end up hurt
Posted: 7/6/2012 11:12:05 PM | | I seriously think people don't know what dating is really meant to be. People are more about their emotions and about "how they feel" compared to as how the other person does. Many find it as an oppurtunity to get some nookie. Really, dating is meant to get to know a person and to see it there might be potential for something to happen. Dating isn't bad, people are. | |
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