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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/8/2012 9:11:36 PM | | I mostly recieve the messages first. I get all kinds of PM's.....but I get lots of lady's giving me all their info, and wanting to meet me right away. Its crazy sometimes. I'll be off POF for a day or two, and when I get back on, I have 2-3 pages of PM's from lots of folks!! | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/10/2012 4:03:11 PM | the only girls that message me first are ones that want to comment about how big my ears are and how goofy I look and how much of a pathetic nerd I am. (Basically really negative bullshit)
I literally average 2-3 messages a year that are genuine interests. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/10/2012 4:32:45 PM |
the only girls that message me first are ones that want to comment about how big my ears are and how goofy I look and how much of a pathetic nerd I am. (Basically really negative bullshit)
That's not cool. If they say that then you don't need someone like that anyway.
I usually get messaged first, but that's partly because I'm kind of lazy in messaging others. :P | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/10/2012 5:08:29 PM | | I get about 4-5 unsolicited messages a week. Most of those are from girls I am not interested in. I do get more messages from girls who are responding to me contacting them first. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/10/2012 6:52:41 PM | | I used to get them all the time from un attractive woman. Only about 3 or 4 messages me first and were good looking. It's very uncommon. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/11/2012 2:27:11 PM | What is OKC ? Thanks for the tip on saying you admire girls that message first. I would to see more of that also.
BB :)
Edit:
My in-box rate has been dire! I used this site a few years ago and met someone that I ended up living with for 18 months. I did message her first and on my search for a partner, did most of the sending attempting to initiate inital contact with women. I did receive messages. About a ratio of 5:1, not bad for a guy I think...?
This time around it's been terrible, about 2-3 a month, and only 1 of 3 do I have any interest in at all. I get messages from women that must know before they message me that I'm going to have no interest in them whatsoever, or middle aged women trying their luck. Worst of all, I get the dreaded, "flirt" message that women have, but men don't, how sexist. Which I translate as:
"this woman fancies you, but couldn't even take the time to send you a one line message" Incidently, I would never reply to a message like that.
I don't care if it was implemented to get women to make more initial contact. POF admin's ethics are highly questionable if they are supposed to be dealing with the sensitive nature of love and romance.
Age has caught up with me, and I'm not as physically fit, clear skinned or shiny eyed as I used to be, but I'm not that bad am I? (prefer responses from ladies mainly on that one for obvious reasons) My profile has recently had some additions made in the form of observations/rants about my experience on POF. Some may say these come across as negative, but let me tell you, it did nothing for me when they were not there. So they may at least inspire some conversation.
I could go on....and probably will on another thread :D
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 6:52:36 AM | | Crikey, i cannot believe this, are you lot sexist or what. This is 2012!!! I thought the idea of dating sites was that we are equal on the playing field!! Get your heads out of your ass mEn. I do not have my photo on here and most women who are reasonably attractive would get hassled the hell out of doing just that. I get lots of messages despite not having a photo but I actually occasionally prefer to send a message to someone. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THAT!!! At least then I know that I have a reasonable chance of talking to someone normal as I have vetted them first and it is less risky. Any man who does not find that acceptable, WTF is wrong with you??? Having said that, I would NEVER go up to a man in person EVER! | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:28:57 AM | | O.O 4 E-mails from girls...FIRST!?!? O.O I'm shocked. I'm lucky if I get one e-mail from a girl first a year! A YEAR! Either you are extreemly attractive, doing something right, or...Lying. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 8:42:00 AM |
O.O 4 E-mails from girls...FIRST!?!? O.O I'm shocked. I'm lucky if I get one e-mail from a girl first a year! A YEAR! Either you are extreemly attractive, doing something right, or...Lying.
That's because you need to give them something to make them want to message you...
In your profile you are 32 y/o with no pictures and lots of talk about video games and RPG's. You should head over to the profile review forum and possibly add some other (unisex) interests or hobbies to your profile. Very few women are even slightly interested in video games, even at the casual gaming level. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 8:50:22 AM | | Sorry champ. That's who I am. That's what I do with my time. I guess I could lie. That might work! All I have to do now is see what women look for in men! Thanks for the advice! ;P | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 9:04:44 AM | I used to get them all the time from un attractive woman. Only about 3 or 4 messages me first and were good looking. It's very uncommon.
So mostly ugly woman write first, is that your opinion, what poppycock, or are not really saying anything here then, you just want to add that you get messaged.... | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 9:28:21 AM | First of all I let a woman know I'm interested. If she's interested, she'll write. That is if she's read my profile. Some do, some don't read them, they just look at pics. But I rarely write first not because of rejection, but simply not to waste her time. Sounds a bit weird, but I was raised in an old fashion sense. Something some can not appreciate. But if she sees you have checked her out or added her as a favorite, then something sparked your interest and hopefully like wise.
As for the "only the ugly ones". is a bit extreme. Beauty is int he eye of the beholder. First of all some women are more forward then others, or in this case not your type. But irregardless I have seen many physically beautiful women on here that were just plain ugly with how they are as a person, and some women on here that got prettier as I got know them. I had a beautiful woman once told me the following quote, and I think it fits well here. A blind man once said, "I have never met an ugly person unless they chose to be." | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 9:42:43 AM | | When I actively looking for a date on POF, I rarely got emails from women first. Maybe 1-2 emails a month at the most. When I was on another dating site, women contacted me much more often. Sometimes I would get 4-5 emails / winks a week from women. I had some initial interest in about 50% of the women that contacted me first. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 10:17:32 AM | | Wow, a lot of you are getting anywhere from 4-5 messages a week? I'm lucky if I get that in a year or 2 haha! I send a lot of messages on here, and some message me first, but it's rare. I haven't gotten hate mail, I just get ignored, which is fine. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 11:05:01 AM | | One of the ladies I met from here was asking me if it was true about all the nasty messages with graphic pictures that men get on this site. I haven't received a bad one. But she said of about 20 or so guys she has met on POF, they have all talked about getting really rude/mean first contact messages/pictures. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/14/2012 1:20:07 PM | | Yeah I heard that, don't really believe it. Who the hell would do that. Men would. Most women would not. She met 20 guys, gosh she should give up now, she obviously met much more. I have had lots of guys proposing sex and not even having my photo at all WTF perverts | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/15/2012 2:00:06 AM | | No women, unless post an ugly photo has any problem getting a message photo on here or not, depends who it's from mmmm? My opinion is that there is really no need for women to put a photo. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/15/2012 3:30:37 AM | No women, unless post an ugly photo has any problem getting a message photo on here or not, depends who it's from mmmm? My opinion is that there is really no need for women to put a photo.
If that's your view, then there should be no reason for men to put photos up either... | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/16/2012 11:07:15 PM | | I just started re-using this site and only sent out 3 messages (talking to a nice girl now, so no need to send anymore as yet), so technically I'm getting as many initial messages as I am responses. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 7/17/2012 2:45:12 AM | Well, that is fantastic for you.
Just a note though... you write that you are an intellectual and well educated... Even have some books to be published?...
But you have confused 'principal' with 'principles'... Which an academic writer would not do.
Doesn't seem very congruent :\ | |
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