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Posted: 7/15/2012 11:41:52 AM | | Everybody is trying too hard and usually move at a pace too quick to establish any kind of trust. Communicate this to your new partner and follow it yourself and you will weed out a lot of crabgrass. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 11:54:02 AM | | agreed with shoopashoes took the words from my fingertips | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 6:46:44 PM | I think its bad to judge all the guys on here based on a single date you've been on. Unfortunately there are a lot of men on here who are just looking for sex. But there are also men on here, who actually want to get to know a woman, in the possibility that there might be a romantic spark between them.
You just chose the wrong guy to go on date with. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 7:08:38 PM | | I've only had one date off of here and thought the woman was pretty awesome. Unfortunately she was looking for FB's and I'm not. Also a few un-replied mails from women only wanting that or to tell me how sexy I look. Guess outside of that I've only had a few decent conversations. It will happen. Just don't leave your dating life to just here. Wherever you met people before POF is still a great idea. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 7:54:55 PM | I had a gf of 3 years from here.
Had a heart break that turned into a good friend (she moved off to Florida & family).
I've met and been lied to.
I've had about a handful of bad dates and I have also met about a dozen psychos!
My best friend met a woman from here and they are married now!
This site is as real as any but one must fish and find the right one. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 7:39:51 AM | Well I told myself I wouldn't post on this kind of forum again but here goes my opinion once more.
Personally I think a lot of people treat internet dating like a lottery. Hoping they'll win the attraction or compassion of someone beautiful or out of reach. Every woman seems to want a buff Dan Fogelberg and every man wants a Merilyn Monroe. I've heard my opinion retorted many times but I never was convinced that those disagreeing with me were telling the truth.
In our hearts we are all hopeless. I find no lesser or greater amount of liars dating through the internet then I have from bars, churches or bowling alleys. The only thing more powerful on the internet is our level of anonymity which to some (or perhaps many) is a credit card for fantasy.
There's a line from an October Project song that I've always liked: "Never knowing who or what you are until you're living with the unfamiliar." Give character before vanity a chance and you may just find happiness. I have found that I have known women I found attractive after learning who they were. It was quite remarkable really: Finding someone beautiful whom at first you never considered for a pageant. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2012 12:22:51 PM | I'm loving the mental association I get when I see the OP's pictures in her profile.
Most of the pictures are taken in the bathroom, some with a visible toilet. Why would you think it's a good idea to associate yourself with a bathroom/toilet? Maybe that's one reason you're getting bottom of the barrel? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 11:50:36 AM | I only ever have men looking for sex, or FWB not relationships, I don't know why these men don't just put themselves under "intimate encounters"??
The few I have met met differ a lot from their pictures also one was a heroin addict with no teeth, on here he was an absailer with a fit ass and nice maintenance orange suit and hat :) In reallife he had no teeth and was drawn in and thin and men also lie a lot about their height!!
There is one though, he has left here now and is on my facebook page but I am unsure if I am attracted him to be honest, now he is not on here I forgot what he looks like. Seems like a nice guy though (maybe too any outisde issues like his EX) we shall see.... | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 1:05:19 PM |
Personally I think a lot of people treat internet dating like a lottery. Hoping they'll win the attraction or compassion of someone beautiful or out of reach. Every woman seems to want a buff Dan Fogelberg and every man wants a Merilyn Monroe. I've heard my opinion retorted many times but I never was convinced that those disagreeing with me were telling the truth.
I agree with this, that is why 20 percent of the women get 500 plus messages a week.
Create a fake account with a 'hot' girl as a picture, write as close as nothing as possible
you will get 500 plus messages in a week depending on the location (the most responses would be near large cities) | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 1:11:12 PM | | Yeah I created an account with no pic and saying I was looking for "some fun in the holidays" wham 35 messages right away!! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 9:21:00 AM | | I've met nice people, one girl whom I've dated for over nine months, another for hmm 6 months. True story :p | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 2:18:01 PM | It's as real as you make it OP. Personally, seeing the humor and silliness in dating as a whole is the most fun. Be who you are though, I hate when people are still lying or in denial by the time they're in their 30's.
Being clear as to your intentions and personality goes a long way. I've had positive experiences meeting fish off the site and only one real psycho lol. I mean you Jess!
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Posted: 8/4/2012 12:23:50 PM | I've actually had some pretty decent and fun dates from people I have met off of here. Two guys I dated for quite a while, we just realized it wasn't something that would move into more long-term. I'm okay with that. I actually just put a new profile up after a break for a while.
I have had worse dates from people I have met IRL than the ones I have met off of here truthfully. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 6:34:23 PM | | As other have already told you, yes you can meet nice people on here. You need to delete ALL of your pictures, they are horrible!! Get someone to take several pictures of you with a REAL camera and get out of the bathroom!! | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 1:51:23 AM | yep, it's real and I am livin the dream with my man, who I met here in March (in separate houses!).
I had no pictures showing, but I wrote a thoughtful page about me and about my ideal partner. I met 3 men...all lovely and chose one. Had my share of offers for sex, dates, etc. and just people fishing. It works. But like anything else you have to put effort into it.
Others have given you good advice. I would also suggest you write a lot more. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 7:52:29 AM |
have had one date on here and that was a joke, was curious if anyone has dated real people
It`s all fake. Everyone behind all the nicknames is actually 90 y old men and women. I`m the only one legit on this site 
What a question.
Well, I`m sure there are some people who found love for real. I`m sure they account for about 0.001% of POF population. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 5:59:04 PM | | I met someone off POF in 2008 and we dated for almost 3 years. Im back again since the split but Ive realized it seriously depends on your area. I had much better luck meeting men in Chicago than I have in the backwater hillbilly lands of TN. =( | |
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Posted: 8/13/2012 8:36:37 PM | | Pretty harsh slam on TN but the idea is correct. POF is very geographic specific. What works in one area many times will not work in other areas. Ditto for age groups by the way. I have a similar problem to CCsMom, I moved back to the midwest after many years and am finding that > 90% of the women in my age group here are overweight. All the guys are competing for the small number that aren't; which makes it nearly impossible to even get recognized. Turns the ones who get all the attention into royal biotches too. As others have said, say "Hi" and get blocked. Not fun ! | |
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Posted: 8/23/2012 9:47:35 AM | | I met my ex and ex ex from this site, so it does work! | |
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Posted: 8/23/2012 10:52:56 AM | I've dated two lovely women from here, not dating anyone at present.
Since then though I suppose my messages got lost in the pile of garbage emails so many women complain about. Never did I send one liners or novels. I read the profile, dissected it, composed my message, sent it and from there forgot about it because the response rate was zero. The two meets that resulted in dates were from them initiating contact. There were two others, one was a scammer and the other certifiable. I've taken a hiatus from sending anyone anything, perhaps later I'll give it a go again but I just don't see enough results to make it worthwhile right now.
I look exactly like my pics, I am the age stated, I have all my teeth and my weight isn't fudged. If I could have actually gotten some replies and meets they would have realized this. In the meantime I just hang here in the forums and enjoy reading. It's all good and it is teaching me patience. | |
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