| | girlfriend leaving for someone elsePage 2 of 2 (1, 2) | | You need to tell her everything you just told us....you made that girl feel like you where not into her...only dating...she did not want to get hurt and wants to find someone so she realized its time for her to move on....I know after a breakup you do feel very scared about meeting the next one...thats how I was feeling for a long time...I think i ruined some chances myself...fear is a terrible thing...but now I realize I just have to jump back in all the way because whats the point of not opening up because of the fear and then you lose the person anyway...what i mean is if I'm going to lose the person I might as welll go in all the way so in the end I can say...well i tried and put myself out there ...I will then have no regrets... :) | |
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| girlfriend leaving for someone else
Posted: 7/2/2012 4:08:22 PM | Do some of you even read beyond the subject line?
Seriously. Go back and read what the OP actually wrote in the thread before feeling all sorry for him. HE is the one that told her he just wanted to be friends so she wasn't his girlfriend and she didn't leave him. That is him lying to himself. | |
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| girlfriend leaving for someone else
Posted: 7/2/2012 5:39:48 PM | Been there (kind of). Nothing else really matters except:
now she has met someone else and left
She's still on your mind, obviously. If you can persuade her to try again, it might be a good idea - for the sake of closure if nothing else.
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| girlfriend leaving for someone else
Posted: 7/3/2012 4:38:13 PM | OP, your actions seem selfish. Kinda like "poor me...I'm lonely"
No one can set you back to "normal", whatever that is, after a divorce (which is the death of a relation) except yourself. Trying to live through others or have them function as a crutch for you is bound to end up in trouble.
I realize you stated she is in another relation but appologize to her anyway and start working on yourself. First step is to determine just how much you are really hurting from the divorce. You most likely can't do this on your own. Ask a friend or relative to tell you what THEY see as your weak points and faults as it relates to relations with women.
Good news is that you told her straight up that you couldn't continue given your internal strife so there is hope you'll make a full recovery once you blast through the pain of being alone for awhile. | |
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| girlfriend leaving for someone else
Posted: 7/3/2012 5:05:04 PM | Recovering from a lost love one or a bad mistake will take some time. You have to move on and find someone else now. Start all over, and this time when you know you love being with her , be the boyfriend she deserves to have. When you said no, she too had to go through the feeling of loosing someone. She accepted your answer and moved on! Now it's up to you to take the life lesson and learn from it so it doesn't happen again.
Yes it's going to be hard. But you have no other choice but to accept it and move on.
That's life. | |
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| girlfriend leaving for someone else
Posted: 7/3/2012 5:07:49 PM | Rachel Girl 123..it has nothing to do with did she love him or not. He didn't want to commit to anything because it was to soon. She asked him for more and he couldn't deliver, so she left. I would too. If a man can not make up his mind to make a commitment when we've been friends forever and enjoying the benefits of a girlfriend /boyfriend why should she wait till he is ready? That may have taken years .
I think he needs to learn the less and the experience and move on.
Just my thoughts. | |
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| girlfriend leaving for someone else
Posted: 7/3/2012 5:08:20 PM | If you can persuade her to try again, it might be a good idea - for the sake of closure if nothing else.
She's WITH someone else.
I think that most people should date very casually AFTER they have worked thru their issues with the divorce. | |
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